Iimpawu zokukhulelwa emadodeni

Umxholo

• Utshintsho oluphambili kumadoda ngexesha lokukhulelwa
• 1. Ukuba neempawu zokukhulelwa ezifanayo njengowasetyhini
• 2. Ukufuna unxibelelwano olusenyongweni
• 3. Ukukhathazeka
• Iingcebiso zokuphucula ukusondelelana ngexesha lokukhulelwa

Amanye amadoda akhulelwa ngokwengqondo, ebonisa iimpawu ezifanayo nokukhulelwa kwabafazi babo. Oku kwenzeka xa bebandakanyeka ngokweemvakalelo, ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwaye igama lale meko yiCouvade Syndrome.

Kule meko, indoda inokuziva igula, inomdla wokuchama, izive unesiyezi okanye ihlala ilambile. Kodwa ukongeza koku bahlala benenkxalabo malunga nempilo yomfazi kunye nomntwana kwaye nangona bengabonisi ngendlela efanayo banokubonisa uxinzelelo, uloyiko kunye nokungazithembi ngekamva kunye nendlela ubudlelwane babo nomfazi kunye umntana uzobe esiza.

Utshintsho oluphambili kumadoda ngexesha lokukhulelwa

Ngexesha lokukhulelwa kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba isivunguvungu seemvakalelo sichaphazele isibini esitshatileyo, ngakumbi owasetyhini kuba malunga neentsuku ezingama-280 umzimba wakhe uyakutshintsha kakhulu obandakanya utshintsho oluninzi lwehomoni, kodwa nendoda ngenxa yoxanduva olufunwa luluntu.

Olona tshintsho luphambili lunokuchaphazela amadoda ngexesha lokukhulelwa zezi:

1. Ukuba neempawu zokukhulelwa ezifanayo njengowasetyhini

Oku kunokuchazwa njengesifo se-couver, isifo se-couvade, okanye ngokuthandwa kakhulu, ukukhulelwa ngovelwano. Kwezi meko, amadoda atyeba, afumane ukugula kwasekuseni, kwaye anokuba namava ebuhlungu ngexesha lokubeleka komfazi.

Olu tshintsho alubonisi nayiphi na ingxaki yezempilo, ebonisa kuphela ukuba indoda ibandakanyeke ngokupheleleyo ekukhulelweni. Ngokwesiqhelo, indoda ayizibonakalisi zonke iimpawu, kodwa kuqhelekile ukugula nanini na umfazi wayo enolu phawu.

• Kwenziwe ntoni: Akukho sidingo sokukhathazeka kuba ibonisa nje ukuba ubandakanyeke kangakanani ngokwasemoyeni nokukhulelwa.

2. Ukufuna unxibelelwano olusenyongweni

Indoda inokuba nomtsalane ngakumbi emfazini xa ikhulelwe kuba ngokwanda kokuhamba kwegazi kummandla welungu lobufazi umfazi uye athambise ngakumbi kwaye abe novakalelo ngakumbi, ukongeza ekuziva enomtsalane ngakumbi kuba akusekho mfuneko yokuba akhathazeke malunga 'isisu', esinokuthi ngoku sibe yindawo yokuzingca.

• Kwenziwe ntoni: Lonwabele ixesha kunye, kuba ngokufika kosana umfazi angangabinayo inkanuko yesini, okanye azive enomtsalane kuthintela unxibelelwano olusenyongweni kwiinyanga zokuqala zomntwana.

3. Ukukhathazeka

Ngokukhawuleza xa le ndoda ifumana iindaba zokuba uya kuba ngutata, udlakazeliswa yimfumba yeemvakalelo. Xa esi sibini sasizama ukukhulelwa indoda ingashukunyiswa kwaye ibonakalise lonke uthando aluva ngeqabane lakhe. Nangona kunjalo, xa ukukhulelwa kusenzeka ngaphandle kokulinda, unokukhathazeka kakhulu ngekamva, ngenxa yoxanduva lokuba ngumzali kunye nokukhulisa umntwana. Kwezinye iintsapho iindaba zisenokungamkelwa kakuhle, kodwa ngokubanzi xa usana luzalwa yonke into isonjululwa.

• Kwenziwe ntoni: Cwangcisa ikamva ngenkathalo ukuze uzive uxolile kwaye ukhuselekile. Ukuthetha nokwenza izicwangciso neqabane lakho kubalulekile ekwakheni usapho olutsha.

Iingcebiso zokuphucula ukusondelelana ngexesha lokukhulelwa

Ezinye iingcebiso ezilungileyo zokuphucula ubudlelwane kunye nokuqina phakathi kwesibini ngexesha lokukhulelwa zezi:

• Soloko nihamba kunye kwiimviwo zaphambi kokubeleka;
• Ukuthenga yonke into eyimfuneko kumfazi kunye nomntwana kunye
• Thetha yonke imihla malunga nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo abantu abatshatileyo malunga notshintsho olwenzekayo.

Yiyo loo nto indoda inokuziva isondele emfazini nasenganeni, ekwangumzuzu okhethekileyo kuye. Ukongeza, ukuthatha imifanekiso kunye kubonisa ukukhula kwesisu kunokunceda ukugcina inkumbulo yokuba lo ibingumzuzu okhethekileyo kwaye unqweneleka bobabini.