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• Ukwenza Izizathu Kulula
• Umzuzu wam we-A-Ha
• Into Eyayibambayo Ekugqibeleni
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Intombazana ibhalisela isiqingatha semarathoni. Intombazana yenza isicwangciso soqeqesho. Intombazana ibeka usukelo. Intombazana ayizange iqeqeshe .... kwaye, mhlawumbi uyiqikelele, intombazana ayizange ilubaleke ugqatso.

ICYMI, ndiyile ntombazana. Okanye ubuncinci mnawayenjalo Le ntombazana kwezi zintathu iintlanga ndizibhalisile (ndaza ndazihlawulela), kodwa ndasilela ukuzibophelela, ndiziqinisekisa ngezizathu ezingapheliyo zokuyeka endleleni - ukulala, ukusebenza, ukwenzakala okunokubakho, enye nje enye iglasi yewayini.

Ndandizibophelela ngokupheleleyo-phobe xa kusiziwa kumdyarho wokubaleka.

Ukwenza Izizathu Kulula

Bendihlala ndingumntu oqhutywa kakhulu, kodwa xa ndifudukela kwisiXeko saseNew York ndisuka eGeorgia kwiminyaka emibini eyadlulayo olo hambo lwaphazanyiswa luxinzelelo oluziswe luhlengahlengiso oluninzi lwaseNew York-olunokuthi lube ngamava: ukudakumba kwamaxesha onyaka, umlinganiselo ogqithisileyo ikhonkrithi ukuya (kancinci kakhulu) indalo, kunye nokuvuswa krwada ukuba i-$ 15 (kanye $ 5) iglasi yewayini. Lonke olu tshintsho lwaba lukhulu kakhulu - kangangokuba kungekudala inkuthazo yam yokufezekisa imisebenzi ebendikade ndijonge phambili ukuba inyamalale. Ngamafutshane: Bendinexhala, ndingenamdla, kwaye ndiziva ndincipha njengam.

Ngelixa ndiqondayo ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, ndasokola ukufumana indlela yokubuyisa umnqweno wam, ekugqibeleni ndafika kwingcinga yokuba ukuba ndinokuhambisa nje yonke ingqalelo yam kunye nomzamo wokuzibophelela ngakumbi - isiqingatha seemarathoni, utshintsho kwindlela yokutya, iyoga- ndingaba ndiyakwazi ukuziphazamisa kule nkxalabo entsha kwaye ke, ndibuyise i-mojo yam.

Phinda into uyiphindaphinde kwaye uqiniseke ngokwaneleyo, uyakuqala ukuyikholelwa- ubuncinci ukuba kunjalo kum njengoko ndizithembisile ukuba ezona njongo ndizibekela zona kunye noxinzelelo endizibekayo kum, kokukhona ndiya kuba ndikwazi ukuzikhusela kwiimvakalelo zam kwaye ndiphinde ndiyifumane inkuthazo yam. Kwaye ke, ndibhalisele isiqingatha semarathon… kwaye enye… nenye. Ngaphambi kokufudukela kwi-NYC, ndandikuthanda ukubaleka. Kodwa kanye njengebhongo lam, uthando lwam lokubethelela indlela yendlela luyemka njengoko ixhala lam lalikhula. Ke, bendinethemba lokuba uqeqesho luya kundigcina ndixakekile kwaye, engqondweni yam, kancinci ukuba nexhala. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni i-Half Marathons iyona ndawo ehamba phambili kuyo yonke indawo)

Nangona kunjalo, bendiyingcali yokufumana izizathu kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ndibhalisela ezi ziqingatha kwaye kwafika ixesha lokuqalisa uqeqesho. Yabona, bendisahambisana neyoga eshushu kunye neeseshini eBarry's Bootcamp, ke, ukutsiba uqeqesho kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ugqatso ngalunye lwaba nesizathu esivakalayo entlokweni yam. Olunye uhlanga bekufanele ukuba ndilubaleke nomhlobo wam emva koko wafudukela eColorado, kutheni ndizenzela? Enye kwakufuneka ndibaleke entwasahlobo, kodwa kwakubanda kakhulu ukuqeqesha ebusika. Kwaye olunye ugqatso bekufanele ukuba ndilubaleke ekwindla, kodwa nditshintshe imisebenzi ndayiyeka ngokulula ukuba iwele kwi-radar yam. Kwakungekho sizathu andinakukwazi ukusisebenzisa. Elona candelo libi? Ngokwenene ndibhalisele ugqatso ngalunye ngeenjongo ezintle: Ndandifuna ngokwenene ukuzityhala, ndiwele ugqatso, nokuziva ngathi ndiphumeze okuthile. Ngamafutshane, ndaye ndaqiqa ndaza ndalungisa de ndathatha isigqibo sam hayi ukuzibophelela kuvakala kufanelekile kwaye kukhuselekile. (Idibeneyo: Uyenza njani * Ngokwenene

Umzuzu wam we-A-Ha

Xa ndijonga ngasemva, ayothusi ngokumangalisayo into yokuba ezi zinto ndizenzileyo zandoyikisa kwaye kungekudala zajika zangxaki endandiziphosa ngokulula. Ukuphepha iimvakalelo zakho akufane kusebenze ekuhambeni kwexesha (okt. positivity eyityhefu). Kwaye uzityhalele kuluhlu lwezinto eziza kwenziwa xa sele uziva kancinci, kulungile, ubambekile? Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kubuya umva.

Kodwa ukujonga ngasemva yi-20/20, kwaye, ngeli xesha, bendingekafiki koku kuqonda - oko kukuthi, nangona kunjalo, kude kube ngobusuku obunye ngoNovemeber ngelixa ndisebenza. Ubume's amabhaso sneaker. Ndandihlela ngodliwanondlebe neengcali kunye neeakhawunti ezivela kubavavanyi bemveliso bencoma izibini ezithile ngokubanceda bafikelele kwi-PR entsha okanye amandla ngokusebenzisa ii-marathons zangaphambili, kwaye ndaziva ngathi ndingumhanahanisi. Ndabhala malunga neenjongo ezityumkileyo xa ndingakhange ndibonakale ngathi ndizibophelele kwelinye.

Kwaye ngenene, eyiqonda ngokwenyani loo nto, kodwa yayikwaluhlobo lokukhulula. Njengoko ndandihleli apho, ndinentloni kwaye ndinxunguphele, ndagqibela (ngokuqinisekileyo okokuqala ukusukela oko ndashukuma) ndaye ndacothisa kwaye ndabona inyani: Bendingavimbi ukuqeqeshwa kuphela, kodwa bendikuphepha noxinzelelo lwam. Ngokuzama ukuziphazamisa noluhlu olukhulayo lweentlanga kunye noxanduva, bendiphulukene nolawulo olukhulu kwiindawo zobomi bam ngokunjalo.

Kuyafana nomhla ombi ongenakubonakala ngathi akazibopheleli nokuba ungachitha ubusuku phi, bendisilela ukuzibophelela kule nto ibizwa ngokuba "kukubaleka" nangona ndinembali entle ngayo. (Ndithetha ukuba, bekutheni ukuze ndibhalise onke la maxesha? Kutheni enye into ndize ndizise iimpahla zokubaleka emsebenzini yonke imihla?) Ngoko, ndahlala phantsi ndazama ukukhumbula ukuba kutheni ndifuna ukuqeqesha nokubaleka isiqingatha semarathon indawo yokuqala.  (Eyeleleneyo: Ulifumana njani ixesha loQeqesho lweMarathon xa ucinga ukuba ayinakwenzeka)

Into Eyayibambayo Ekugqibeleni

Xa ndandisayinela enye Isiqingatha semidyarho ngoSeptemba ngalo mbono mtsha kwindlela endiziphethe ngayo, bendinethemba lokuba olu luya kuba lugqatso apho ndiza kuwuwela umgca wokugqibela kwaye ndiphinde ndithembeke. Ngoku bendiqonda ukuba ukongeza nje enye injongo kuluhlu lwam lokulufeza bekungazukuwuqalisa umnqweno wam kwaye ndikhuphe amaxhala am. Endaweni yoko, yayisisenzo sokusebenzela loo njongo ngethemba lokuba sinokundinceda ndibuyele emgceni.

Khange ndikwazi ukulawula ubusika obumnyama besi sixeko okanye ukunqongophala kwendalo okubangelwe kukuxhalaba kwam, kwaye andinakukwazi ukulawula utshintsho olungalindelekanga kwizicwangciso, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuhlala emva kwexesha emsebenzini okanye ukuphulukana nomhlobo wam obalekayo esixekweni esitsha. Kodwa ndingathembela kwishedyuli ethile yoqeqesho kwaye lonto inokundinceda ndizive ndingenaxhala kancinci kwaye ndifuze mna.

Emva kokuba ezi zinto zibekiwe, ndiyeke inkuthazo yam entsha ukuba ibangele ilangatye: bendikulungele ukuqeqesha * kwaye ngoku bendifuna icebo lokundinceda ndibambelele kulo. Ke, ndajika ndaya kumhlobo wam osenyongweni uTori, ugqatso lweembaleki ezihlandlo ezine, ukuze andincede ndenze ishedyuli. Ukwazi ngcono kwam kuninzi, uTori uthathe into yokuba ngekhe ndikwazi ukwenza ibaleki zam ekuseni (ndinguye hayi umntu wasekuseni), ukuba ndikhetha ukugcina ezo mpelaveki zinde zemigqibelo endaweni yeeCawe, kwaye ndingadinga utyhalelo olongezelelweyo ukuze ndiqhubele phambili noqeqesho olunqamlezileyo. Isiphumo? Isicwangciso soqeqesho esimalunga nesiqingatha somdyarho othabathe zonke ezo zinto kuthathelwa ingqalelo, zisenza ukuba kungabikho sizathu. (Into endiyifundileyo ekuncedeni uMhlobo wam ukuba aqhubele phambili kwiMarathon)

Ke, ndiye ndangena kwaye ndaqalisa ukusebenza ngokuseta kukaTori. Kwaye kungekudala, ngoncedo lwewatchwatch yam ngokunjalo, ndiye ndabona ukuba, okoko nje ndigcinile umfutho, andizukubaleka kuphela ubude obuchongiweyo kwisicwangciso sam kodwa ndibabaleke ngokukhawuleza kunokuba bendikhe ndacinga. Ngokuloba iimayile zam kunye nesantya ngasinye kwisixhobo sam, ndiye ndaba nomkhwa wokukhuphisana nam. Njengoko ndandizityhala ukuze ndikwazi ukoyisa isantya sam ukususela kusuku olungaphambili, ngokuthe ngcembe ndakhuthazeka ngakumbi ndaza ndaqalisa ukufumana inyathelo lam kungekhona nje ngokubaleka kodwa ebomini.

Ngequbuliso, uqeqesho endakha ndaluthintela kuzo zonke iindleko lwaba luvuyo suku ngalunye lokunika ithuba lokuzenza ndizingce ngakumbi kunelokugqibela - ngomzuzwana ngamnye ndiwushiyile okanye kwimayile nganye ndayibaleka. Ndandinayokumnandi. Bendisemlilweni. Kwaye kungekudala ndandibaleka imayile eyi-8:20 - iPR entsha. Ngaphambi kokuba ndazi, ndandisithi hayi kude kube sebusuku kwaye ndilala kwangethuba kuba andinakulinda ukubetha ixesha lam ngentsasa yangoMgqibelo. Kodwa eyona nxalenye imangalisayo yayikukuba ixhala elininzi laqala ukuncipha ngokuthe ngcembe njengoko lalithatyathelw’ indawo zii-endorphins, ukukholelwa kum, kwaye, ngenxa yoko, imvakalelo yokuphinda ibangwe. (Jonga kwakhona: Kutheni kufuneka ucofe umoya wakho wokhuphiswano)

Ulungele uSuku loMdyarho... naNgaphaya

Xa usuku lomdyarho lwaqengqeleka ngeyoMnga, malunga neeveki ezintandathu ndiqalisile icebo likaTori loqeqesho, ndavuka ebhedini.

Ndibaleke amathanga ajikeleze iCentral Park, ndidlula kwizikhululo zokuhambisa amanzi kunye nekhefu lokuhlambela endikhe ndalisebenzisa ngokulula njengezizathu zokuyeka. Kodwa izinto zazahlukile ngoku: Ndizikhumbuze ukuba bendinalo (kwaye ndinalo) ulawulo wam ukhetho, lokuba ukuba bendifuna i-H2O ngenene, ndingathatha ikhefu ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ibingazukundinqanda ekulandeleni 'de ekugqibeleni. Lo mgama uli-13.1 wawusisiganeko sotshintsho, kwaye ndazimisela ekugqibeleni ekwenzeni oko. Izinto ezincinci ezakha zandibamba zaba yile: zincinci. Ndilugqibe ugqatso ngexesha eliphantse libe yimizuzu engama-30 ngokukhawuleza kunokuba bekulindelwe, ndingena iiyure ezi-2, umzuzu omnye, kunye nemizuzwana engama-32 okanye imayile engama-9.13.

Ukusukela kwesi siqingatha semarathon, ndiyitshintshile indlela endibona ukuzibophelela ngayo. Ndizibophelela kwizinto kuba ndizifuna ngokwenene, hayi ngenxa yokuba ziya kundiphazamisa okanye zinike indlela yokubaleka kwiingxaki zam. Ndityale imiceli mngeni ebomini bam kuba ndiyazi ukuba ndinako-kwaye ndiya, ngenxa yobukhulu becala kukuqhuba kwam-ukuyoyisa. Ngokubaleka? Ndiyenza ngaphambi komsebenzi, emva komsebenzi, nanini na ndiziva ngathi injalo. Umahluko ngoku, nangona kunjalo, kukuba ndibaleka rhoqo ukuze ndizive ndinamandla, ndomelele, kwaye ndilawula, nokuba ubomi beedolophu bunokuba nzima kangakanani na kum.

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