IiNzuzo zeMpilo zokuba ngumntu onethemba elichasene nePessimist

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Uninzi lwabantu luwela kwenye yeenkampu ezimbini: i-Pollyannas engapheliyo, okanye i-Nancys engalunganga ehlala ilindele okubi kakhulu. Kuya kuvela, lo mbono unokuchaphazela ngaphezulu kokuba abanye abantu banxibelelana njani nawe-inokuba nefuthe kwimpilo yakho: Abona bantu banethemba banamathuba aphindwe kabini okuba babe nempilo entle yentliziyo xa kuthelekiswa noogxa babo abangenathemba, ngokutsho isifundo esitsha Ijenali Ukuziphatha kakuhle kunye noPhononongo loMgaqo-nkqubo. Uphononongo lujonge abantu abadala be-5,000 kwaye bafumanisa ukuba abanethemba lokutya ukutya okunempilo, babe ne-index mass body mass, bangatshayi, kwaye bazilolonge rhoqo kunabalingane babo abangenathemba. Babenayo noxinzelelo lwegazi olusempilweni, iswekile yegazi, kunye namanqanaba e-cholesterol iyonke.

Izifundo zangaphambili zikwabonisa ukuba abaguli abanomhlaza abanezimo zengqondo ezintle banomdla wokufumana iziphumo ezingcono, abanethemba lokufumana ubudlelwane banokwanelisa, kwaye abo bajonge kwicala eliqaqambileyo kunqabile ukuba bagule yingqele okanye umkhuhlane kunoDebbie Downers.

Ngoko ngaba aliniki themba kubantu abangenathemba? Hayi-apho zi izibonelelo zempilo ezivela kwimbonakalo engaphantsi kunerosy. Nantsi indlela isimo sakho sengqondo esinokuyichaphazela ngayo impilo yakho, kunye nento onokuyenza ukwandisa umbono wakho.

IiPros of Pessimism

Kukho into enokuthethwa ukuba awunayo imbono yePollyannaish yehlabathi. Uphando olwenziwa ziingcali zengqondo kwiKholeji yaseWellesley lucebisa ukuba ukungabi nathemba kunokusixhobisa ngcono ukujongana noxinzelelo. Ukusebenzisa into abayibiza ngokuthi "i-defensive pessimism"-ukubeka ulindelo oluphantsi kwisiganeko esixhokonxa ixhala, esifana nokunika inkcazo-kunokukunceda uzive uncinci. Isizathu? Uzivumela ukuba ucinge ngayo yonke imigibe enokubakho ukuze ulungiselele ngcono ukuze uyiphephe xa uthelekiswa nokubanjwa ungalindelanga ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle.

Yaye abantu abangenathemba banokuba malunga ne-10 ekhulwini amathuba okuba babe nempilo engcono kwikamva elingekude kunabantu abanethemba, ngokutsho kohlolisiso lwaseJamani. Abaphandi bathi abantu abanethemba lokungazithembi banokubakho amathuba okuba bacinge malunga nento enokuthi ihambe gwenxa kwikamva labo kwaye bazilungiselele ngcono okanye bathathe amanyathelo othintelo, ngelixa abo banethemba lokungazithembi banokungawaniki ngqalelo loo mathuba. (Kwaye kwakhona: Amandla okuCinga okuNgekho mthethweni: Izizathu ezi-5 zokuba i-Postivity ifumana into engalunganga.)

Inkulumbuso yeNkulumbuso

Ngoko ngubani ekugqibeleni onomphetho? Abo banokwazi ukubona ulungelelwaniso lwesilivere ngokuqinisekileyo banomlenze, utshilo uRosalba Hernandez, Ph.D., unontlalontle kwiYunivesithi yaseIllinois kunye nombhali wophando lwamva nje oludibanisa ithemba kunye nempilo yentliziyo. "Abantu abonwabileyo ngobomi babo kunokwenzeka ukuba benze izinto eziluncedo kwimpilo yabo njengokutya kakuhle, ukwenza umthambo, kunye nokugcina ubunzima obusempilweni, kuba kunokwenzeka ukuba bakholelwe ukuba izinto ezintle ziya kuphuma kwezo zenzo," uthi. Abantu abangenathemba, nangona kunjalo, abanakuyibona inyani ukuba bakholelwa ukuba izinto ziya kuphelela kakubi.

Kwaye, ngelixa kukho into enokuthiwa malunga nokuzikhusela, oko akuthethi ukuba abanethemba bahamba ngokumfamekileyo kwiimeko ezinzima. "Ukuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle, abanethemba banezakhono ezingcono zokumelana neemeko zoxinzelelo ebomini," utshilo uHernandez. "Bathanda ukukholelwa ukuba xa ucango olunye luvala olunye ucango luyavuleka, nto leyo eyisithintelo ngokuchasene noxinzelelo. Nangona kunjalo, i-pessimists inokuba yingozi kakhulu, ngoko ke ukuba kwenzeka into embi ingabakhokelela ezantsi kwi-spiral of negativity." Oku ke, kunokuchaphazela impilo yabo yonke, kuba uxinzelelo kunye nokungabi nathemba kuhambelana nokudakumba.

Hlakulela Umbono Owonwabileyo

Ngethamsanqa, uHernandez uthi kunokwenzeka ukuba nabani na aqaqambe. (Kutheni uyibona iglasi njengesiqingatha esigcweleyo? Impendulo inokuba seziGameni zakho.) Ngapha koko, abaphandi bathi malunga neepesenti ezingama-40 zempilo yethu zivela kwindlela esiziphatha ngayo-kwaye ke sinokuyilawula, uyongeza. Ezi ndlela zintathu zinokukunceda ukhuthaze umbono owonwabileyo kunye nokuba sempilweni. (Kwaye zama ezi ndlela zingama-20 zokonwaba (Phantse) kwangoko!)

1. Bhala amanqaku enkosi (okanye i-imeyile). Ukubhala iileta zombulelo kukunceda ujonge kwizinto ezintle kunye neentsikelelo onazo ebomini bakho, utshilo uHernandez. "Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bajolisa kwizinto abanye abanazo kwaye abanazo, nto leyo edala uxinzelelo kunye nokungonwabi. Umbulelo unceda ukuba ubone izinto ezintle nakwezona meko zoxinzelelo."

Chitha ixesha elininzi usenza izinto ozithandayo. "Xa usenza into oyithandayo, ungena kwimeko yokuhamba apho ixesha lidlula ngokukhawuleza kwaye yonke enye into iyanyibilika," utshilo uHernandez.Oku, kunceda ukuba uzive wonwabile ngokubanzi, okwenza ukuba ubenakho ukubona okuhle kuwe nakwihlabathi.

3. Yabelana nabanye ngeendaba ezilungileyo. Ngaba uye wafumana ingxelo entle kumphathi wakho? Inqaku le latte yasimahla? Sukuyigcina kuwe. Nanini na xa wabelana ngento entle nomnye umntu iyayenza ikhulise kwaye ikwenze ucinge ngayo,” utshilo uHernandez. Ke xa kusenzeka izinto ezimbi, ukwabelana ngezinto ezintle nabanye kwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba ubize ezo ziganeko engqondweni ukuze ungabinamathuba okuwela emngxunyeni womvundla wokungakhathali.

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