Indlela Yokonwaba: IiMfihlo ezi-7 eziphezulu zabantu abakhoyo

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Ngalo naliphi na ixesha lonyaka, malunga nesiqingatha sethu sifuna indlela yokonwaba, ngokukaMaryAnn Troiani, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye nombhali NgokuzenzekelayoIthemba: Izicwangciso eziqinisekisiweyo zezeMpilo,Ukuchuma & Ulonwabo. Kwaye elo nani liphezulu ngoNovemba nangoDisemba. UTroiani uthi: “Uxinezeleko namaxhala ayasongamela ngexesha leholide. "Nditsho nabantu abanesiqulatho ngokubanzi banokuba luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka." Esinye sezizathu eziphambili: Imifanekiso ehambelana nexesha lonyaka likhanyisa ukukhanya kwinto enokuba ilahlekile ebomini bakho. U-Adam K.Anderson, Ph.D., unjingalwazi onxulumene nesayikholoji kwiYunivesithi yaseToronto. "Oku kunokubenza bazive benesizungu kwaye bangoneliseki." Zama la manyathelo alula ukonwaba-namhlanje kwaye unyaka wonke.

Indlela yokonwaba Inyathelo # 1: Jonga umfanekiso omkhulu

URobert J. Wicks, umbhali wencwadi ethi, uRobert J. Wicks uthi: Bounce: UkuphilaUbomi Obunamandla. "Kufuneka utshintshe indlela ocinga ngayo ukhumbule ukuba zikho nezinye izinto ezisebenzayo." kuthetha nje ukuba akufuneki uhlale kwinto ekukhathazayo xa isicwangciso sakho esigqibeleleyo singasebenzi. "Xa kukho okungahambi kakuhle, thatha inyathelo umva, vuma ukuvumela nantoni na ukuba yenzeke, kwaye uzame ukufumana into elungileyo malunga nokujika kweziganeko; izokukunceda uphumle kwaye ugcine yonke into ngendlela eyiyo," utshilo uWicks. Enye into ekufuneka uyikhumbule: Awunakukulawula okwenzekayo, kodwa uthatha isigqibo sokuba usabela njani kwaye uluhlobo luni lomntu. Le mbono ikunceda ukuba uphephe "kutheni mna" kwaye "ubomi abulunganga" iingcinga ezinokukuthoba.

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Unokonwaba njani Inyathelo # 2: Yenza isithethe soxolo

Kwimemo ethengiswa kakhulu Yitya, Thandaza, Thanda, U-Elizabeth Gilbert waphilisa kuqhawulo mtshato olubi ngokuchitha inyanga ecamngca kwi-ashram yase-Indiya. Ngokucacileyo ayonyani kuninzi lwethu, kodwa sonke sinokusebenzisa uxolo-kude kwi-Intanethi, iTV, ii-smartphones, kunye ne-Twitter (fumana ulonwabo ngaphandle kokushiya ikhaya-Nika okwakho ukutya, Thandaza, Thanda uzame)! Kwaye kukho ubungqina bokuba ikhefu elincinci lanele. Ekuphela kwento ekufuneka uyenzile kukuthatha imizuzu embalwa suku ngalunye ukuze ugxile ekuphefumleni kwakho.” Lumkela isandi esisenzayo xa uphefumla, indlela esiziva ngayo xa ingena emiphungeni yakho, indlela umzimba wakho ophulukana ngayo nokuxinezeleka xa uphefumla, "Utsho uAnderson. "Kulungile ukuba uyakruquka ekuqaleni. Yamkele loo ngcinga emva koko uyiyeke ihambe." Oku kunceda ukukhula kwengqondo, okanye ukuba kulo mzuzu. "Ukuhlakulela olu mgangatho kukuvumela ukuba ubhetyebhetye xa ujongene neemeko ezinzima, uvuleleke kumava ngaphandle kokubiza ngokuba kulungile okanye kubi," utshilo u-Anderson. Kwaye izibonelelo azipheleli apho. Isifundo kwi Inzululwazi yezeengqondo ibonakalise ukuba abo bacamngca rhoqo iinyanga ezintathu babenexesha elide beqwalasele kwaye besenza ngcono kwimisebenzi ejolise kwiinkcukacha, ngelixa abaphandi baseStanford befumanisa ukuba le nkqubo yemihla ngemihla ikunceda ukuba ujongane noxinzelelo.

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Indlela yokonwaba Inyathelo #3: Zinike iTune-up

Kukho isizathu sokuba umculo uyinxalenye ephambili phantse kuzo zonke iinkonzo zehlabathi. UDonald Hodges, Ph.D., unjingalwazi kwezomculo kwiYunivesithi yaseNorth Carolina, eGreensboro uthi: Inxalenye yesizathu sokuba ibangele ukungxama ziingoma ze-physiological-zibangela ukukhutshwa kwee-endorphins, ezo hormones zokonwaba zisinika ukuphakama kwendalo. Elinye icandelo liemvakalelo: “Ukuva iingoma ezithile kusikhumbuza ngeziganeko ezidlulileyo kunye novuyo esasinalo ngoko,’ Utsho uHodges. Izifundo ezivela kwiYunivesithi yaseWake Forest kunye neYunivesithi yaseSeattle zifumanise ukuba ukumamela umculo kwenza yonke into ukuthoba uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lwegazi ukukunceda ujongane nentlungu. Yisebenzise ngendlela eyiyo: UHodges uqaphele ukuba izifundo ezininzi ziye zafumanisa ukuba xa umculo uhlala ungasemva, unokuphulukana namandla awo okuthetha nawe ngokweemvakalelo. Ngoko zama ukuyenza eyona nto iphambili. Endaweni yokuvula umabonwakude xa ufika ekhaya, phumla kwenye yeeCD zakho ozithandayo.

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Indlela yokonwaba Inyathelo #4: Yongeza ixesha loBuso kunye nabahlobo

Ubhalele usisi wakho, u-G-uncokole nomfana omthandayo, kwaye wathumela uhlaziyo lwenqanaba kubahlobo bakho abangama-300 kuFacebook, kodwa ndagqibela nini ukudibana nabani nesidlo sasemini? Akukho nto iphosakeleyo kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo (enyanisweni, ziyindlela elungileyo yokunxibelelana), kodwa ukuba uziva uwedwa, isisombululo asifumaneki kwi-intanethi kuphela. Ukubona umntu kwimonitha ayinalo inqanaba lobudlelwane obufanayo njengokunxibelelana ubuso ngobuso, kwaye kunokubangela ukuba uzive unqanyuliwe ngakumbi kunangaphambili. UJohn Cacioppo, Ph.D., umlawuli weZiko leCognitive and Social Neuroscience kwiYunivesithi yaseChicago uthi: "Kukho imfuneko enzulu yokuziva ungowabanye oza kuba nonxibelelwano lobuqu nabahlobo." Sukuvumela ubudlelwane bakho bokwenyani bube buthathaka-benze umhla ubuncinci kube kanye ngeveki.

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Unokonwaba njani inyathelo # 5: Yenza into elungileyo, uzive umhle

"Nanini na xa uchitha ixesha okanye amandla komnye umntu-ingaba kukuthabatha isidlo sasemini somntu osebenza naye okanye otyhola imoto yabamelwane bakho ngaphandle kwekhephu-omnye umntu ufumana uncedo kwaye uhamba unomoya olula kwaye ulungile ukuziva ngawe,” utshilo uWicks. Isizathu soko kuphezulu: Ngokuba nemfesane kunye nokunceda umntu ngaphandle, uye wazi ngakumbi ngayo yonke into onayo kwaye wonwabe ngakumbi ngobomi bakho.. Chitha intsasa yangoMgqibelo kwikhitshi lesuphu okanye ushiye inani lezinto oziToys for Tots drive kule nyanga.

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Indlela yokonwaba Inyathelo #6: Zijikeleze ngeNdalo

Uphononongo olupapashwe kwi Ijenali yeNzululwazi yezeNdalo ufumanise ukuba ukuchitha kangangemizuzu engama-20 kwindawo yendalo kukwenza uzive ukhululekile, ubalulekile kwaye unamandla. Nangona isifundo singakhange sijongane ngoba indalo iyavuselela, uRichard Louv, umbhali we OkokugqibelaUmntwana Ehlathini kunye nencwadi ezayo malunga namandla okubuyisela kwilizwe lendalo, inethiyori: "Ukomoya kuqala ngengqondo yento emangazayo-into enokwenzeka ukuba yenzeke xa ungaphandle kunangexesha lekhompyuter yakho." Ukuyibeka ngenye indlela: Xa ubona ixhama okanye usiva isinqandi somthi sikukrwaqula, uyothuka. Ngoko qhawula unxibelelwano kwaye uphume ngaphandle ukuze uhambe kunye nosapho lwakho okanye ukubaleka kwemizuzu engama-30.

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Unokonwaba njani inyathelo # 7: xolela uze ulibale

Nalu olona qhinga lulula ehlabathini lokujongana neemeko apho umntu ekucaphukisa: Zama ukucinga ngento ebakhuthazayo. Umfo okunqumle ngaphakathi kwezithuthi unokubaleka umfazi wakhe okhulelweyo esibhedlele, okanye umphathi wakho usenokuba uye wakubamba kuba ejongene nemicimbi yohlahlo-lwabiwo mali. Ngubani owaziyo? Ayisoloko imalunga nawe. "Ukuqonda ukuba awukho embindini wayo yonke into kufanele ukuba kube sisiqabu," utshilo u-Anderson. "Iyakukhulula ukuba uxolele kwaye uqonde." Ngendlela efanayo yokuba uzama ukuba ngumntu ongcono, cinga nabanye ukuba kunjalo. Ukuzama ukwamkela ukungafezeki-kunye nokwakho-yinto yokomoya leyo.

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