Ukunceda Abanye Kunceda Njani Ndinyamezele

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• Ukuphuma ngaphandle kwesiqu sakho
• Amathuba amancinci okwenza ubomi abe ngumnikelo

Inika umbono wokudibana kunye nenjongo andiziva ukuba yeyam kuphela.

Umakhulu wam ebesoloko eyincwadi kwaye engenisa uhlobo, ngenxa yoko njengomntwana omncinci asikhange sidibanise. Wayehlala nakwimeko eyahluke mpela, ngoko kwakungelula ukuhlala unxibelelana.

Nangona kunjalo, ekuqaleni kwendawo yokuhlala, ndaye ndazifumana ndibhukisha inqwelomoya eya ekhayeni lakhe eWashington.

Njengomama ongatshatanga onomntwana ngesiquphe ephuma esikolweni, ndandisazi ukuba ndiza kuyidinga inkxaso yosapho lwam ukuze ndiqhubeke nokusebenza.

Ndisikelelekile ukuba ndikwazi ukusebenza ndisekhaya ngeli xesha, kodwa ukukhathalela unyana wam onobuthathaka ngomthwalo oqhelekileyo womsebenzi waziva kunzima.

Emva kohambo lweenqwelomoya olothusayo ngenqwelomoya engenanto, mna nonyana wam sazifumana sele silikhaya lethu sineesutikheyisi ezimbini ezinkulu kunye nosuku lokuhamba olungenammiselo.

Wamkelekile kwisiqhelo esitsha.

Iiveki zokuqala zazineengxaki. Njengabazali abaninzi, ndandibaleka ndisiya phakathi naphakathi kwikhompyuter yam kunye nephepha lonyana wam eliprintiweyo "lasekhaya", ndizama ukuqinisekisa ukuba ufumana ubuncinci bokufana kokufaka okufanelekileyo ukulungelelanisa isixa esigqithisileyo sexesha lescreen.

Ngokungafaniyo nabazali abaninzi, ndinethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo ukuba nabazali bam bangenele ukudlala imidlalo yebhodi, ukukhwela iibhayisikile, okanye ukwenza iprojekthi yegadi. Ndiyabulela iinkwenkwezi zam ezinethamsanqa kusapho lwam ngoku.

Xa iveki yayijikeleza, sonke sasinethuba lokuphefumla.

Ndaye ndacinga ngomakhulu wam, esasihlala kuye ngequbuliso. Ukwisigaba sokuqala se-Alzheimer's, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba uhlengahlengiso alukhange lube lula kuye, nokuba.

Ndamjoyina kwigumbi lakhe lokulala apho ahlala khona ixesha elininzi ebukele iindaba kwaye ephulula inja yakhe, uRoxy. Ndazinza phantsi ecaleni kwesitulo sakhe ndaza ndaqala ngentetho encinci, eyajika yaba yimibuzo malunga nexesha lakhe elidlulileyo, ubomi bakhe, nendlela azibona ngayo izinto ngoku.

Ekugqibeleni, incoko yethu yazulazula kwishelufa yakhe yeencwadi.

Ndimbuzile ukuba ebekhe wenza ufundo mva nje, ndisazi ukuba yenye yeendlela azithandayo. Uphendule ngohayi, ukuba ebengakwazi ukufunda kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo.

Intliziyo yam yatshona kuye.

Emva koko ndabuza, “Ngaba ungathanda ukuba ndifunde ukuya wena? ”

Ukhanyise ngendlela endingazange ndayibona ngaphambili. Kwaye yaqala ke indlela yethu entsha yesahluko esinye ngobusuku ngaphambi kokulala.

Sijonge kwiincwadi zakhe saza savumelana ngoNcedo. Kudala ndifuna ukuyifunda, kodwa khange ndifumane xesha laneleyo lokufunda ngokuzonwabisa kubomi bangaphambi kokuvalelwa bodwa. Ndimfundele isishwankathelo ngasemva kwaye ebekhwele.

Ngosuku olulandelayo, ndangena kwigogo yakhe kwigumbi lakhe lokulala kwakhona. Ndambuza ukuba ucinga ntoni ngentsholongwane kwaye zonke iivenkile ezingabalulekanga zivaliwe.

"Intsholongwane? Iyintoni intsholongwane? ”

Bendisazi ngokwenyani ukuba ebebukele iindaba ezingapheliyo ukusukela oko safika. Qho xa ndigqitha emnyango wakhe, bendibona amagama athi "coronavirus" okanye "COVID-19" atyhutyha kuwo.

Ndizamile ukuyicacisa, kodwa zange ihlale thuba lide. Kwakucacile akanazinto azikhumbulayo.

Kwelinye icala, khange ayilibale into esiyifundileyo kubusuku obungaphambili.

Ndikhangele phambili kuyo yonke imini, utshilo. "Kuhle kakhulu kuwe."

Ndachukumiseka. Kubonakala ngathi, nangona wayehlala egcwele ulwazi, akukho nto yayixineneyo. Ngokukhawuleza xa wayenento yobuqu, yomntu, kwaye yokwenyani ajonge kuyo, wakhumbula.

Emva kokumfundela ngobo busuku, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ibikokokuqala okoko ndifikileyo ukuba ndingaziva ndinoxinzelelo okanye ixhala. Ndaziva ndinoxolo, intliziyo yam igcwele.

Ukumnceda kwakundinceda.

Ukuphuma ngaphandle kwesiqu sakho

Ndikhe ndayibona le nto nangezinye iindlela. Njengomqeqeshi weyoga kunye nokucamngca, ndihlala ndibona ukuba ukufundisa iindlela zokuthomalalisa abafundi bam kuyandinceda ukuba ndonwabise uxinzelelo kanye nabo, kwanaxa ukuzenzela ngokwam akunjalo.

Kukho into malunga nokwabelana nabanye endinika umbono wokudibana kunye nenjongo endingenakufumana kuyo ngokuzenzela ngokwam.

Ndiyifumene iyinyani le xa ndifundisa isikolo sabantwana abasaqalayo kwaye kufuneka ndigxile ebantwaneni iiyure ngexesha, ngamanye amaxesha kwanezikhewu zangaphambi kwegumbi lokuhlambela ukuze kugcinwe ulingano lweklasi yethu.

Ngelixa ndingakuxhasiyo ukuyigcina ixesha elide, ndiye ndafunda indlela, kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuyeka ukuthanda kwam kwandinceda ukuba ndiphilise.

Emva kokuhleka nokudlala nabantwana kangangeeyure- ngokusisiseko ukuba ngumntwana ngokwam- ndafumanisa ukuba andichazanga naliphi na ixesha ndicinga ngeengxaki zam. Khange ndibenalo ixesha lokuzigxeka okanye ndivumele ingqondo yam ibhadule.

Ukuba ndenzile, abantwana bandibuyisa kwangoko ngokuqaba ipeyinti phantsi, ukunkqonkqoza isitulo, okanye ukugcwalisa enye ilweyile. Yayiyindlela yokucamngca ebalaseleyo endakha ndafumana kuyo.

Ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba ndiziva ixhala elihlangeneyo le-COVID-19, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndiqale ukubonelela ngokuzonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa simahla kuye nabani na ofuna ukuzithatha.

Khange ndiyenze kuba ndinguMama uTheresa. Ndiyenzile kuba iyandinceda kakhulu, ukuba ayingaphezulu, kunokuba inceda abo ndifundisa bona. Ngelixa ndingenguye ongcwele, ndiyathemba ukuba ngolu tshintshiselwano ndinika uxolo oluncinci kwabo bandidibanayo.

Ubomi bundifundise kaninzi-ninzi ukuba xa ndizimisele ukukhonza abanye kuyo nantoni na endiyenzayo, ndifumana uvuyo olukhulu, ulwaneliseko nolwaneliseko.

Xa ndilibale ukuba umzuzu ngamnye unokuba yindlela yokukhonza, ndibanjwa kwizikhalazo zam malunga nendlela endicinga ukuba izinto mazibe ngayo.

Ukunyaniseka, ezam izimvo, iingcinga, kunye nokugxeka kwehlabathi ayisiyiyo yonke into enomdla okanye emnandi ukuba ndijolise kuyo. Ukujolisa kwizinto ezingaphandle kwam, ngakumbi ukugxila ekukhonzeni abanye, ndiziva ndibhetele.

Amathuba amancinci okwenza ubomi abe ngumnikelo

La mava ngokudibeneyo abe ngumbonakaliso omkhulu kum ukuba khange ndijolise kwinkonzo ebomini bam njengoko ndingathanda ukuba njalo.

Kulula kwaye umntu ukuba aphazanyiswe yimihla ngemihla kwaye ajonge iimfuno zam, ndifuna, kunye neminqweno yokukhutshelwa ngaphandle koluntu lwam ngokubanzi kunye nosapho lwabantu.

Mna ngokwam bendifuna umnxeba wokuvuka ngoku. Ukuqhawulwa komntu ophakamileyo kubambe isibuko kum. Xa ndabona ukubonakaliswa kwam, ndabona ukuba kukho indawo yokuphinda ndibuyele kwiimpawu zam.

Anditsho ukuba ndicinga ukuba kufuneka ndilahle yonke into kwaye ndiqale ukwenza ukuthanda wonke umntu. Kuya kufuneka ndihlangabezane neemfuno zam kwaye ndihloniphe eyam imida ukuze ndinyaniseke ngokwenkonzo.

Kodwa ngakumbi nangakumbi, ndikhumbula ukuzibuza imini yonke, "singenza njani esi senzo sincinci ukuba sisenzo senkonzo?"

Nokuba kuphekelwa usapho, ukuhlamba izitya, ukunceda utata egadini yakhe, okanye ukufundela umakhulu, nganye lithuba lokunika.

Xa ndinikela ngesiqu sam, ndiquka loo mntu ndifuna ukuba lulo.

UCrystal Hoshaw ngumama, umbhali, kunye nengcali yeyoga yexesha elide. Ufundise kwizitudiyo zabucala, kwiindawo zokuzilolonga, nakuseto lomntu ngamnye eLos Angeles, Thailand naseSan Francisco Bay. Wabelana ngeendlela zokukhathazeka ngoxinzelelo ngezifundo ezikwi-Intanethi. Ungamfumana kwi-Instagram.