Izinto ezi-7 obungazaziyo malunga namandla akho

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Amandla okuzimisela, okanye ukungabikho kwawo, kubekek’ ityala ngokusilela ekutyeni, ekuphosweni kosukelo lokufaneleka, ukuba netyala lekhadi lokuthenga ngetyala, nolunye uhlobo lokuziphatha olulusizi ukususela ngenkulungwane yesithathu Ngaphambi kweXesha Eliqhelekileyo, xa amaGrike amandulo aqalisa ukufunda ukuzeyisa njengendlela yokoyisa ihambo eyingozi. Okwangoku, iipesenti ezingama-27 zabantu baxela ukungabikho kwamandla njengeyona nto ingumqobo ekutshintsheni, ngokwe-American Psychological Association.

Kumashumi eminyaka, uninzi lwee-psychologists zazikholelwa ukuba amandla okuba nemida. Njengamafutha kwitanki yegesi, amandla ayatshiswa xa ubonakalisa ukuzeyisa. Xa unikezelo luphelile, unikezela kwisilingo.

Kutshanje, izazinzulu ngemithambo-luvo kunye neengcali zengqondo bezixoxa ngethiyori yokuba amandla sisixhobo esinesiphelo. Ukuzithiba kunokusebenza njengemvakalelo ephumayo kwaye igeleze ngokusekwe kwindlela oziva ngayo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Ezinye iingcali zithi ukukholelwa kumandla okuqhuba kukuziphatha kwethu. Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba abantu abacinga ukuba namandla azinamkhawulo bathambekele ekubuyiseleni bhetele kwimisebenzi efuna ukuzilawula kunabo bacinga ukuba amandla aphelile.

Ke, ungafunda ntoni kuyo yonke le ncoko kwilebhu yengqondo? Nazi iinyani ezisixhenxe ezimangalisayo malunga namandla anokukunceda ukuphucula ukuzithiba kwakho kunye nokufikelela kwiinjongo zakho.

#1. Ukukholelwa ukuba amandla akho angenasiphelo kuya kukwenza wonwabe ngakumbi.

Abaphandi kwiDyunivesithi yaseZurich bafumanise ukuba abantu ababona amandla abo okuzimisela njengokungenamda bonwabe ngakumbi kubomi ngokubanzi kwaye bayakwazi ukumelana naxa ubomi buba nzima ngakumbi. Abaphandi baphonononge amakhulukhulu abafundi baseyunivesithi malunga neenkolelo zabo zamandla kunye nolwaneliseko lobomi ekuqaleni konyaka wesikolo kwaye kwakhona ngaphambi kwexesha leemviwo kwiinyanga ezintandathu kamva. Iinkolelo kumandla angenamda zinxulunyaniswa nolwaneliseko lobomi kunye neemood ezingcono ekuqaleni konyaka, kwaye kananjalo ngentlalo-ntle ethe xhaxhe xa kusondela ixesha loviwo.

# 2. Amandla okusebenza ayisiyonto ilungileyo.

Ngenxa yokuba amandla ahlala enxulunyaniswa nokuziphatha okungalunganga, kunxulunyaniswa ngokungafanelekanga nokuziphatha okanye ukuthembeka. Kwi I-Willpower Instinct: Indlela okusebenza ngayo ukuzithiba, kutheni kubalulekile, kunye nento onokuyenza ukuze ufumane okuninzi kuko., umbhali uKelly McGonigal uthi amandla okuzimisela yimpendulo yomzimba, kungekhona isidima. I-Willpower yi-neurological function: Ingqondo ixelela umzimba ukuba wenze ntoni ukukunceda ufezekise iinjongo zakho. Ukuziphatha kakuhle ifilosofi, hayi ngokwasemzimbeni. Iindaba ezimnandi: Ukutya loo donut AKUKWENZI ukuba ube "mbi."

# 3. Awunakuthembela kumandla okwenza utshintsho lwexesha elide.

Ingqondo yakho ineenkqubo ezimbini ezahlukileyo eziqhuba indlela yokuziphatha: inkqubo ye "go" kunye ne "stop", ngokwe Art Markman, Ph.D., umbhali Utshintsho oluSmart: Imikhwa emi-5 yokudala imikhwa emitsha negcinekayo kuwe nakwabanye, kunye noprofesa wezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseTexas eAustin. Inxalenye yengqondo ethi "hamba" ikuqhubela ekubeni wenze kwaye ufunde indlela yokuziphatha. Inkqubo "yokumisa" inqanda isenzo inkqubo yakho "yokuhamba" efuna ukuba uyenze. I-Willpower yinxalenye ye "stop" inxalenye yengqondo, ebuthathaka kwiinkqubo ezimbini. Oku kuthetha ukuba, ngelixa ungazinqanda ekuziphatheni okunqwenelekayo kangangexesha elithile, umnqweno wengqondo yakho wokusebenza uza kugqitha amandla akho. Ke, ukuba uthembele kuphela kumandla wokufuna ukuyeka u-3 p.m. I-Starbucks iyabaleka, uzibeka kwimeko yokusilela.

UMarkman uthi isisombululo sexesha elide sokulawula indlela yokuziphatha kukucwangcisa kwakhona inkqubo yakho "yokuhamba" ukuqhuba iindlela zokuziphatha ezinqwenelekayo.

Inkqubo yakho 'yokuhamba' ayinakufunda hayi ukwenza into, utshilo uMarkman. "Kufuneka uzenzele iinjongo ezintle, hayi iinjongo zezinto ofuna ukuyeka ukuzenza." Endaweni yokugxila ekuyekeni i-snack yakho yasemva kwemini, beka ixesha kwikhalenda yakho ngo-3 emva kwemini ufunde kumajelo eendaba. onokuthi uwuncede kwikhondo lomsebenzi wakho okanye udibane nomlingane wakho nixoxe ngezimvo ezintsha musa kwi- yenza?

#4. Ukuzimisela kuba namandla ngokuziqhelanisa.

Ukucwangcisa ngokutsha ukuziphatha kwakho kubalulekile ekufezekiseni utshintsho, kodwa kuthekani xa ufuna ukuphepha ukuthumela i-ex yakho ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa? Usafuna amandla okunceda ukuxhathisa ukwenza izigqibo ezimbi zemihla ngemihla zobomi. "Enye yezona zinto zixhaphakileyo malunga nokuzimisela kukuba unakho, okanye awunayo," utshilo uChloe Carmichael Peet, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo waseNew York ojolise kulawulo loxinzelelo, imiba yobudlelwane, isiqu sakhe. -imbeko, kunye noqeqesho.

Abanye abantu bazalwa benovakalelo kwiimvakalelo kunye nezilingo kunabanye. Kodwa, kanye njengokuba ukhupha izihlunu ukuze womelele, unokuwandisa amandla akho okuzibamba ngokusebenzisa amandla okuzimisela.

“Ukuzimisela sisakhono,” utshilo uCarmichael Peet. "Ukuba ulwe namandla ngexesha elidlulileyo kwaye uthi, 'andinamandla okuzikhethela, akuyiyo inxalenye yokuba ndingubani,' oko kuba sisiprofeto esizalisekisayo. Kodwa ukuba uyayitshintsha loo nto ithi, 'Ndibe Uchithe ixesha elaneleyo uphuhlisa amandla,' uya kuzenzela indawo yokufunda ezinye izakhono."

NgokukaCarmichael Peet, amandla anokukhuliswa ngendlela efanayo xa ufunda ukufaka ibhola ekhawulezayo: ukuphindaphinda. Uthi: "Okukhona usityhala amandla akho, kokukhona kuya komelela," utshilo. "Njengoko uqhelisela ukuzibamba, kuya kuba lula kuwe."

# 5. Inkuthazo kunye namandla ahlukile.

UMichael Inzlicht, Ph.D., unjingalwazi wezengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseToronto Scarborough, uthi ukholelwa ekubeni ukunqongophala kokungakhuthazi amandla-sisizathu sokuba abantu baziphathe kakubi. Uluvo lokuphela kwamandla okusebenza kuhlobo oluthile lwepetroli aluchanekanga, ngokoluvo lwam, utshilo u-Inzlicht. "Ewe, asinamathuba okuba sinamathele kwizidlo zethu xa sidiniwe, kodwa andiqondi ukuba oku kubangelwa kukuzeyisa kuphelile. Endaweni yoko, asikhuthazeki kakhulu ukuba sizibambe xa sidiniwe. Umbuzo ongaphantsi kokungakwazi ukulawula, ngakumbi umbuzo wokungafuni ukulawula. Xa intando ikhona, abantu bayakwazi ukuzilawula naxa bediniwe. "

#6. Abantu abanzima bancanca amandla akho.

Ngaba ukhe waluchitha usuku uluma ulwimi lwakho ngomntu ophantsi ozithobayo, emva koko wagoduka wayotya umkhono weChips Ahoy kwaye wehla ngebhotile yesiqingatha seMalbec? Ukusebenzisana nabanye kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane kunokudinwa kakhulu ngokwengqondo, kukushiya ungaphantsi kokukhuthaza ukuziphatha okubi kodwa okwanelisayo, ngokutsho kwe-American Psychological Association.

# 7. Amandla okuphazamiseka anokuba kuphela kwamandla owadingayo.

"Amandla anokunyanzelwa," utshilo u-Inzlicht. "Kusenokuba kubaluleke kakhulu kunokuba ucinga ukukunceda ufikelele usukelo lwethu." Intoni ngu kubalulekile? Ukususa isilingo. U-Inzlicht kunye nabasebenzisana nabo bajonge kubantu abakwaziyo ukuzilawula ababesetyenziselwa ukugqibezela umdlalo wegama. Abaphandi bacele abantu ukuba babeke iinjongo kwaye bagcine iijenali malunga nenkqubela phambili yabo kwiinyanga ezintathu.

U-Inzlicht wafumanisa ukuba ukuzeyisa okwangoku akuzange kuqikelele ngokuthe ngqo ukuba abantu bahlangabezana neenjongo zabo kwiinyanga ezintathu kamva. Intoni uyenzile Qikelela impumelelo yeenjongo kukuba ingaba aba bantu bajongane nesilingo na. Abo bakwisifundo abalungiselela ubomi babo ngokwasemzimbeni okanye ngokwasengqondweni-ke badibana nokulingwa okumbalwa ngabo babekade benakho ukufikelela kwiinjongo zabo.

Ukuza nesicwangciso-qhinga sokuphepha isilingo kubaluleke njengokukhulisa amandla akho okuxhathisa. Cinga ngale ndlela: Ukuba awuzange ubeke unyawo kwigumbi lakho lokuhlala, awunakufane uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ulapho, uzimisele okanye ungavumi.

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