Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesandla kunokuba shushu-ke nantsi indlela yokuMnweba umntu oneVulva

Umxholo

• Izinto zokuqala kuqala
• ILabia iyahluka ngombala, imilo, kunye nobukhulu
• Zenjenjalo ke neenwele ze-pubic
• Kusenokubakho nephunga
• Kwaye ukuba uqhubeka nezinto… yazi ukuba kukho incasa, nayo
• Khumbula: Ukulala ngesondo kusesengozini (kwaye kunjalo nangomlomo)
• Imibuzo eqhelekileyo
• Ukuba ndineminwe emide?
• Ndifanele ukuhlala ngaphandle?
• Kuthekani ukuba andifumani clit?
• Ndenza ntoni ukuba isandla sam siyakhathala?
• Kutheni iqabane lam lithule kangaka? Ngaba ndenza kakuhle?
• Liziva njani ilungu lobufazi?
• Ndima nini?
• Emva kokuba ufumene iziseko phantsi, ulungele ukwenza ukuhamba kwakho
• Ndizenza njani izinto zihambe?
• Ngaba imeko ibalulekile?
• Impahla okanye akunampahla?
• Ndisebenzisa iminwe emingaphi?
• Kulungile, ndizongena ngoku.
• Hlamba izandla zakho
• Misela isantya
• Nika ingqalelo kulwimi lwabo lomzimba
• Tshixa amehlo
• Yongeza i-lube
• Nika ingqalelo kwi-clit
• Kodwa musa ~ jolisa nje apho
• Tshintshela izinto phezulu
• Musa ukuyithatha ngokungathí sina!
• Mhlawumbi yongeza kwinto yokudlala
• Ndimele ndiyeke apha? Ndenza ntoni ngokulandelayo?
• Ndazi njani ukuba kufuneka ndiqhubeke?
• Kuthekani ukuba ndifuna ukukhuthazwa?
• Kuthekani xa konke kugqityiwe?
• Umgca wezantsi

Eyona nto ibalaseleyo kuyo, ukubamba iminwe kushushu ngendlela emangalisayo. Njengo, ngokwenene kushushu.

Kodwa eyona nto imbi kakhulu, kunokuba buhlungu / kuyacaphukisa / kukucaphukisa kunokuba iqabane lakho (ngoku langaphambili) liphakame kakhulu kwaye likunyanzele ukuba uhlale iiyure ezi-2 zeekhathuni ngobusuku bomhla…

Kulapho esi sikhokelo siluncedo sokulala ngesondo singena khona. Sifunde ngoku, kwaye iqabane lakho liyakubulela (funda: ufumana ulonwabo) kamva.

Izinto zokuqala kuqala

"Ukuba umntu uziva eneentloni malunga nendlela ivumba lakhe lobufazi, incasa, okanye inkangeleko yakhe, ngekhe abonwabele," utshilo uSarah Melancon, PhD, ugqirha wezentlalo kunye noochwephesha kwezokwabelana ngesondo kwi-The Sex Toy Collective.

Ke, ngaphambi kokuba ubeke izimvo kwiibhithi zeqabane lakho, gcina ezi zinto zilandelayo engqondweni.

ILabia iyahluka ngombala, imilo, kunye nobukhulu

"ULabia ufana namahlwantsi ekhephu," utshilo uMelancon. (Isikhumbuzi: Ilebia yimisonto efana nemilebe yolusu ejikeleze indawo evulekileyo yelungu lobufazi.) Kuvakala ngathi kuyitshisi, kodwa kuyinyani.

Ezinye zimfutshane, ezinye zinde, ezinye zimfutshane kwelinye icala kwaye zinde kwelinye. Ezinye zishwabene, ezinye zigudile. Abanye banekratshi kwaye banentaba-mlilo, abanye babhityile okanye bathambile.

Ngengqondo yendlela ezahlukileyo ngayo iilabia ezinokubonakala kumntu ukuya emntwini, jonga i-Great Wall yeVaginas okanye iLabia Library.

Zenjenjalo ke neenwele ze-pubic

Njengentloko, umzimba, kunye neenwele zobuso, iinwele ze-pubic zingahluka ngombala, ubukhulu kunye noxinano.

Kwaye wonke umntu ukhetha ukwenza isitayile kwii-pubes ngokwahlukileyo. Akukho namnye umntu oshaya i-pube-do ongcono, nangayiphi na into "ococekileyo", okanye onobuhle ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye. Ndiyifumene?

Kusenokubakho nephunga

"Wonke umntu unevumba lakhe elahlukileyo eliwela ngaphakathi kuluhlu oluthile," utshilo uMelancon.

Kwaye elo vumba likhoyo hayi iintyatyambo ze-freakin ’! Endaweni yoko, uninzi lwevolvv ivumba musky, umhlaba, musty, umuncu, okanye ubhedu.

"Ngokude nje ukuba ingavumi njengenyama ebolileyo okanye intlanzi ebolayo - ezimbini zivumba ezingabonisa ukusuleleka - amathuba okuba i-vulva iphilile ngokupheleleyo," kusho uMelancon.

Kwaye ukuba uqhubeka nezinto… yazi ukuba kukho incasa, nayo

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesandla kunokuba yinto emnandi ngokwakho. Kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho liyavuma, ukudibanisa nenkanyamba yolwimi? Ulonwabo olucocekileyo!

Yazi nje: iiVulvas zinjalo hayi incasa-incinci! I-vulva esempilweni inokungcamla:

• ityuwa
• umuncu
• isinyithi-y
• Ikrakra
• ubukhali
• tangy

Kwakhona, inkxalabo yakho kuphela kufuneka ibe kukungcamla ukungcola okanye intlanzi.

"Ngelo xesha lixesha lokuba umntu aye kugqirha, kuba kunokubakho usulelo," utshilo uMelancon.

Khumbula: Ukulala ngesondo kusesengozini (kwaye kunjalo nangomlomo)

"Ngokwe-STIs, ukulala ngesondo yinto enobungozi obuncinci," utshilo uMelancon. “Nangona kunjalo, ukosulela nge-STI ngu kunokwenzeka. ”

Ukuba, umzekelo, umntu unesifo esosulela ngokwabelana ngesondo (STI) esisasazeka kulwelo lomzimba- njenge-gonorrhea okanye i-chlamydia- kwaye bayazichukumisa emva koko bakuchukumise, usulelo lunokwenzeka.

Uphando lukwabonisa ukuba ukuba bane-HPV kwaye bakuchukumisa emva kokuzichukumisa, i-HPV inokudluliselwa kuwe.

Nciphisa umngcipheko wokosulela ngokunxiba ikhuko lomnwe, okanye iitrile okanye iiglavu zelatex, ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho une-STI okanye anisazi isimo senu.

Khumbula: ii-STIs zinokudluliselwa ukuba ngaba kukho naziphi na i-pantie-free humping kunye ne-grinding ezithatha ngaphambi okanye emva kokudlala ngesandla, okanye ngesondo lomlomo.

Imibuzo eqhelekileyo

Ngaphambi kokuba sifike kwinyama yokudlala ngesandla, masiphendule ii-FAQ ezithile zeminwe.

Ukuba ndineminwe emide?

Izikhonkwane ezinde ezibukhali zinokwenzakalisa ulusu olubuthathaka okanye izicwili zelungu lobufazi, yiyo loo nto uMelancon esithi, “Kukuziqhelanisa nokuqinisekisa ukuba iinzipho zakho zimfutshane kwaye zenziwe zalungiswa ngaphambi kokuba ucofe umntu.”

Ukuba uyazithanda iinzipho zakho ezinde, jikelezisa imiphetho. Emva koko beka iibhola zomqhaphu phantsi kwesikhonkwane kwaye unxibe isikhuseli.

Ndifanele ukuhlala ngaphandle?

Xa kuziwa kumdlalo wokudlala, ngaphandle-ngaphakathi kufanele ukuba ibe sisiqubulo sakho.

Intsingiselo, qala kumathanga angaphakathi, ilabia, indunduma ye-pubic, kunye ne-clitoris ngaphambili (ngemvume yeqabane lakho elinomdla) usiya kumjelo wobufazi.

"Okukhona livusa iqabane lakho ngaphambi kokungena, kuya kuba ngcono ukuba uzive," utshilo uMelancon.

Kuthekani ukuba andifumani clit?

"I-clitoris yiNkwenkwezi yaseNyakatho ye-vulva," kusho uMelancon. "Ibekwe kwindawo ekudibana kuyo iilabia zangaphakathi."

Ezinye ii-clits zibalasele ngokwenene, ngelixa ezinye zingcwatywa phantsi kwe-hood.

"Ukuba awukwazi ukubona nantoni na, vele udlale kwaye ubone ukuba iqabane lakho lisabela njani," utshilo. Uninzi lwabantu luya kuba nempendulo engakumbi ekuchukunyisweni kuloo ndawo ngokuchaseneyo nezinye iindawo zobufazi babo.

Enye indlela: Cela iqabane lakho ukuba likubonise.

Ndenza ntoni ukuba isandla sam siyakhathala?

Nokuba unika okanye uyamkela, ukudlala ngesandla kufanele ukuba kube mnandi kuni nobabini! Ke, ukuba isandla sakho siyakhathala okanye siyatyhafa, kulungile ukuthatha ikhefu.

Usenokuthi:

• “Ndiyakuthanda ukukucofa umnwe, kodwa ndine-cramp. Ndingathanda ukukubukela uzichukumisa kwaye ujoyine kwakhona. "
• Ungaziva njani ngokusebenzisa isidlidliza? ”
• “Babe, isandla sam siyadinwa kancinci, kodwa ndingathanda ukuqhubeka nokudlala. Ungaziva njani xa ndinokuhla ndize kuwe? ”

Kutheni iqabane lam lithule kangaka? Ngaba ndenza kakuhle?

I-Porn inokukunika inkohliso yokuba ulonwabo luhlala luhamba kunye neengxolo zezilwanyana, kodwa akunjalo!

Abanye abantu bayangxola kwaye bayagquma, abanye bayakhwaza, bakhefuzele, okanye bagqume, kwaye abanye abenzi ngxolo kwaphela.

Kodwa ngaphandle kokungxola okanye ukuthula kweqabane lakho, eyona ndlela yokufumanisa ukuba baqhuba njani kukubuza!

Liziva njani ilungu lobufazi?

Kuxhomekeka ekubeni leliphi na ilungu lobufazi, nokuba uyayinxiba iglavu, nokuba bakuphi ekuhambeni kwabo, indlela abavuswe ngayo, nokunye okuninzi.

Musa ukumangaliswa ukuba umsele uziva:

• kushushu okanye kushushu
• ibumpy okanye ithunyelwe
• iqine okanye imxinwa, ikhululekile okanye ibanzi

Ndima nini?

Nanini na xa wena okanye iqabane lakho nifuna ukuyeka - okanye tshintshela kwenye into eyahlukileyo.

Ukucaca gca: I-orgasm ayisiyiyo "injongo yokuphela" komnwe. Uyolo!

Kwaye i-orgasm ayithethi ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna uyeke. Ii-orgasms ezininzi, nabani na?

Emva kokuba ufumene iziseko phantsi, ulungele ukwenza ukuhamba kwakho

Ukuba usibetha ngamehlo esi sikhokelo, amathuba okuba ubona iminwe kwikamva lakho. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda ukusuka ekuqaleni ukuya esiphelweni.

Ndizenza njani izinto zihambe?

Ukuba ukhumbula into inye kweli nqaku, yenze le nto: Ngaphandle kwemvume, livuseleleke kangakanani iqabane lakho ngaphambi kokuba ucofe eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekubambeni umnwe. (Ayisiyiyo indlela.)

Ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ngokuqhuba usiya ezantsi, yenza iqabane lakho ligxothwe kunye:

• ukuncamisa
• ukuncamisa intamo
• udlala ingono
• ukwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo okanye iimpundu
• ukugezelwa kweendlebe

Ngaba imeko ibalulekile?

"Xa sicinga ngomnwe, sihlala sinomfanekiso ngqondweni weqabane elamkelayo emqolo kwaye imilenze yabo ivulekile," utshilo uMelancon.

Oku, okwaziwa ngokuba ngumnwe wobuvangeli, sisikhundla esihle sokuqala kuba ungabona amaqabane akho ejongene kwaye usebenzise imbonakalo yobuso njengempendulo.

Oko kwathethi, izikhundla ezahlukeneyo zinokunika imvakalelo kunye nee-engile ezahlukeneyo.

"Ukuba iqabane lakho liyithanda kakhulu, unokuzama isitayile senja, esiya kubavula," utshilo uMelancon. Isitayile se-Doggy lukhetho olufanelekileyo ukuba iqabane lakho liyakonwabela ngaxeshanye kunye nokukhuthaza ubufazi.

"Ukuba iqabane lakho linandipha ukungena okungacacanga okanye ukuvuselela kwangaphandle kuphela, indawo yokufaka i-spooning inkulu," uyongeza.

Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakonwabela ukuziva ungongamile, unokuguqa ngelixa bemi.

Nokuba sikhundla sini, "qiniseka ukuba nobabini niyakhululeka," utshilo uCainlin V, MPH, ugqirha wezesondo kwezonyango waseRoyal, ikhondomu enobuchule bevegan kunye nenkampani yokuthambisa.

Impahla okanye akunampahla?

Qala ngaphezulu kweempahla ukonyusa ulindelo.

"Ukuqhawula i-vulva phezu kweengubo kunye nokwenza izijikelezo ezikhanyayo okanye ukukhupha izinto ezinokubangela ukuba abantu abaninzi baqalise," kusho uSearah Deysach, ofundisa ixesha elide ngesondo kunye nomnini we-Early to Bed, inkampani yemveliso yolonwabo e-Chicago.

Ukuba iqabane lakho libonakala lithanda uxinzelelo oluninzi, ungasebenzisa amaqhina akho.

Emva koko, susa iibhotile zabo kwaye uchithe ixesha elithile ubagculela ngelaphu leepanty zabo. Okokugqibela, babuze ukuba ungazisusa na iimpahla zabo zangaphantsi, okanye ukuba bangathanda na ukususa ezabo iimpahla zangaphantsi.

Ndisebenzisa iminwe emingaphi?

Qala ngeyodwa.

"Ukuba usebenzisa ezininzi ngokukhawuleza, kunokubulala i-vibe kwaye kubuhlungu," utshilo uMelancon.

Yongeza enye ukuba iqabane lakho liyayicela.

Kulungile, ndizongena ngoku.

Wonke umnini we-vulva unokhetho olwahlukileyo, ke ngelixa ezi ngcebiso zinokukukhokelela kwicala elifanelekileyo elifanelekileyo, i-boo yakho iya kuba nakho ukukukhokela ngcono.

Hlamba izandla zakho

Ndiyathemba ukuba uyenzile le nto ngoku, kodwa ukuba akunjalo, xelela iqabane lakho ukuba kufuneka usebenzise igumbi lokuhlambela ngokukhawuleza kwaye uhlambe izandla ngamanzi ashushu.

Misela isantya

"Yolula ngeqhuqa elinye ngexesha, emva koko ucofe ukuqala ukuhambisa umnwe wakho ngaphakathi nangaphandle ngokuthe chu," utshilo uDeysach.

"Abantu abaninzi bazama ukuphinda bahambe ngokuhamba kwelungu lobudoda ngexesha lokudibana kwe-P-in-V ngeminwe yabo, kwaye bakhawuleze ngenene," utshilo. "Nangona kunjalo, le ayisiyondlela iqhelekileyo yokukhuthaza indawo etshisa iqabane lakho ngaphakathi."

Ingcebiso yakhe: Slayida iminwe yakho kwii-intshi ezi-1 okanye ezi-2, emva koko wenze intshukumo yokuza apha ukukhuthaza isiponji sabo se-urethral (aka indawo ye-G).

Okanye ukuba iqabane lakho likhetha ukuvuselelwa okunzulu, yenza oku iisentimitha ezimbalwa ukubuyela umva ukukhuthaza indawo yabo ye-A okanye umlomo wesibeleko.

Nika ingqalelo kulwimi lwabo lomzimba

"Iimpawu ezingathethiyo zinokukuxelela kakhulu," utshilo uDeysach. Nika ingqalelo ekubeni iqabane lakho liguqula isinqe sisezandleni zakho, indlela ophefumla ngayo, kunye nezinto ezenziwa zizandla zabo.

Tshixa amehlo

Igama elinye: ukusondelelana.

Okusondele ngakumbi, utsho uCainlin V, kukugcina unxibelelwano ngamehlo ngelixa uphefumla ngokuvumelanisa.

Yongeza i-lube

"ILube lulongezo olumangalisayo phantse kuwo nawuphi na umsebenzi, kubandakanya nokudlala ngesandla," utshilo uDeysach. “Iya kukuvumela ukuba uhlahle iminwe yakho ngaphandle kokutsala okanye urhuqe ngendlela engathandekiyo. Umtyibilizi uziva kamnandi! ”

Nika ingqalelo kwi-clit

UCaitlin V uthi: "I-clitoris yeyona ndawo izonwabisa ngayo kubanini bayo."

Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabanini be-vulva badinga ukuvuselelwa kwinqanaba lokufikelela kuvuthondaba.

Kodwa musa ~ jolisa nje apho

… Ngaphandle kokuba iqabane lakho libonisa ukuba bafuna ulikhokele konke ingqalelo yakho uthando lwabo nub!

Ngaphandle koko, uCaitlin V uthi, "Qinisekisa ukuba unike ingqwalaselo eyaneleyo kwindawo ye-G, i-perineum (ebekwe phakathi kokuvulwa kwelungu lobufazi kunye ne-anus), kunye nokuvula ezimpundu okanye umsele wamva."

Khumbula nje: Awungekhe ubuyele kwilungu lobufazi emva kokuntywila umnwe kumngxunya ongasemva. Hlamba kuqala.

Tshintshela izinto phezulu

Ukwenza into efanayo ngalo lonke ixesha akulunganga ngaphandle kokuba yile nto ifunwa liqabane lakho.

Zama:

• ukuphulula i-clitoris (hayi ngqo kuyo)
• Ngokucofa kwi-clitoral hood
• ukufaka uxinzelelo kwindunduma ye-pubic
• ukuphulula kwizangqa ezinkulu ezijikeleze wonke umntu obhinqileyo
• Ukutshintshela ngapha nangapha ecaleni kweperineum

Musa ukuyithatha ngokungathí sina!

UCaitlin V uthi: “Abantu abaninzi bajolise ekufumaneni isifo esifanelekileyo kunye noxinzelelo kangangokuba balibale ukonwabela le nkqubo. Ncuma! Hleka! Zonwabele."

Mhlawumbi yongeza kwinto yokudlala

UCainlin V. uthi:

"Ukuba usebenzisa i-vibrator, zama ukuqhula iqabane lakho ngokuyiqhuba kuyo yonke indawo yangasese, kwaye mhlawumbi namathanga abo angaphakathi kunye neengono," utshilo.

Ndimele ndiyeke apha? Ndenza ntoni ngokulandelayo?

Kuxhomekeke kwiqabane lakho.

"Kubantu abaninzi, iseshoni elungileyo yesondo ngumsebenzi ofanelekileyo uwedwa, kodwa kwabanye yikhosi enye kwisidlo esihlanu," utshilo uDeysach.

Ndazi njani ukuba kufuneka ndiqhubeke?

Nxibelelana! "Jonga kunye neqabane lakho nibone ukuba baziva njani," utshilo uDeysach.

Usenokubuza:

• "Uziva njani? Ngaba unqwenela enye into? ”
• "Uyafuna ukuphefumla emva koko ubuye uzokulala?"
• "Ndicinga ukuba kushushu ku [X], uziva njani ngalonto?"

Kuthekani ukuba ndifuna ukukhuthazwa?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuguqula iqabane lakho kunokukhuthaza ngokwalo! Okwangoku, unokuba unqwenela ukhuthazo ngakumbi. Unga:

• Cela iqabane lakho ukuba lisebenzise i-stroker okanye i-vibrator kuwe.
• Nxiba iplagi ye-butt okanye i-pantie vibrator.
• Sila umatrasi.
• Ukuphulula amaphambili.

Kuthekani xa konke kugqityiwe?

Baxelele ukuba ubathanda kangakanani ukubabamba ngomnwe okanye indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kamnandi xa besonge iminwe yakho.

Kushushu kwakhona (ukuba ii-STIs ayingomngcipheko): Yenga iminwe yakho icocekile, okanye uyeke iqabane lakho liyenze.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukwabelana ngesondo ngesandla kungathathelwa phantsi, kodwa xa kwenziwe ngokufanelekileyo kunokuba shushu kakhulu. Qhubeka, sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso kwaye uye kuzibonela.

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