Iindlela ezili-11 zokuKhuphela umsindo

Umxholo

• Thatha umoya
• Cengceleza amazwi athuthuzelayo
• Zama ukubona
• Ngenisa ngengqondo umzimba wakho
• Jonga umbono wakho
• Veza indlela okhathazeke ngayo
• Nciphisa umsindo ngokuhlekisa
• Guqula indawo okuyo
• Qaphela izinto ezinokubangela kwaye ufumane ezinye iindlela
• Gxila kwinto oyithandayo
• Funa uncedo

Ukulinda kwimigca emide, ukujongana namazwi e-snide avela kubantu osebenza nabo, ukuqhuba ukugcwala okungapheliyo-konke kunokuba yinto encinci. Ngelixa ukuziva unomsindo zezi zinto zicaphukisayo zemihla ngemihla kuyindlela eqhelekileyo yokuphendula kuxinzelelo, ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho unomsindo kunokuba yingozi.

Ayisiyomfihlo ukuba ukuvumela umsindo udubuleke okanye ukuba nomsindo kulimaza ubudlelwane bakho bobuqu kunye nobungcali. Kodwa ikwachaphazela nentlalontle yakho. Ukuhlala sifaka iibhotile ekukhathazekeni kunokukhokelela ekuphenduleni ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, kubandakanya noxinzelelo lwegazi kunye noxinzelelo.

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba ungafunda ukulawula nokuhambisa umsindo wakho ngendlela eyakhayo. Ngomnye u-2010 wafumanisa ukuba ukukwazi ukuveza umsindo wakho ngendlela esempilweni kunokukwenza ukuba ungabinakho ukuba nesifo sentliziyo.

Thatha umoya

Ngobushushu bomzuzwana, kulula ukungahoyi ukuphefumla kwakho. Kodwa olo hlobo lokuphefumla nzulu okwenzayo xa unomsindo kukugcina kwimowudi yokulwa okanye yokubhabha.

Ukulwa nale nto, zama ukuthatha umoya ophefumlayo, olawulwayo ophefumlela ngaphakathi esiswini kunesifuba sakho. Oku kuvumela umzimba wakho ukuba uzolile ngokukhawuleza.

Unako ukugcina lo msebenzi wokuphefumla epokothweni yakho yangasemva:

• Fumana isitulo okanye indawo onokuhlala kuyo kakuhle, uvumele intamo kunye namagxa ukuba aphumle ngokupheleleyo.
• Phefumla nzulu ngeempumlo, kwaye unike ingqalelo ukukhuphuka kwesisu.
• Khupha ngomlomo wakho.
• Zama ukwenza lo msebenzi kathathu ngemini imizuzu emi-5 ukuya kweli-10 okanye njengoko kufuneka.

Cengceleza amazwi athuthuzelayo

Ukuphindaphinda ibinzana elizolileyo kunokwenza kube lula ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezinzima, kubandakanya umsindo kunye nokudana.

Zama ukuphindaphinda kancinci kancinci, "Yithathe," okanye "Yonke into izakulunga," kwixesha elizayo xa uziva ukoyiswa yimeko. Unokwenza oku ngokuvakalayo ukuba uyafuna, kodwa ungatsho phantsi komphefumlo wakho okanye entlokweni yakho.

Unokugcina uluhlu lwamabinzana kwifowuni yakho ukukhumbuza ngokukhawuleza ngaphambi kwengxelo yomsebenzi oxinzelelweyo okanye umhlangano onzima.

Zama ukubona

Ukufumana indawo yakho eyonwabileyo phakathi kokulibaziseka kwendiza okanye ukubuyela umva emsebenzini kunokukunceda uzive ukhululekile ngalo mzuzu.

Xa ulwa noxinzelelo olubilayo, zama ukupeyinta umfanekiso wengqondo ukuthomalalisa umzimba kunye nengqondo yakho:

• Cinga ngendawo yokwenyani okanye ecingelwayo ekwenza uzive wonwabile, uxolile, kwaye ukhuselekile. Oku kunokuba lolo hambo lwekampu kwiintaba ozithathileyo kunyaka ophelileyo okanye ulwandle olungaqhelekanga onokuthanda ukulutyelela ngenye imini.
• Gxila kwiinkcukacha zemvakalelo ngokuzibona ulapho. Yintoni amavumba, izinto esizibonayo kunye nezandi zazo?
• Qaphela ukuphefumla kwakho kwaye ugcine lo mfanekiso engqondweni yakho de ube uziva uxinzelelo lwakho luqala ukuphakama.

Ngenisa ngengqondo umzimba wakho

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuhlala uzolile kunokukwenza uzive uxhalabile nangakumbi. Ukuhambisa ngengqondo umzimba wakho ngeyoga kunye nokunye ukuzilolonga kunokukhulula uxinzelelo kwimisipha yakho.

Ngexesha elizayo xa ujongene nemeko yoxinzelelo, zama ukuthatha uhambo okanye wenze umdaniso omncinci ukugcina ingqondo yakho ilixinzelelekile.

Jonga umbono wakho

Amaxesha oxinzelelo oluphezulu anokuyiphazamisa imbono yakho yokwenyani, ikwenze uzive ngathi ilizwe liphume ukukufumana. Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva unomsindo, zama ukujonga umbono wakho.

Wonke umntu uneentsuku ezimbi amaxesha ngamaxesha, kwaye ngomso uya kuba sisiqalo esitsha.

Veza indlela okhathazeke ngayo

Ukugqajukelwa ngumsindo akuyi kukwenza nto, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awunako ukukhupha uxinzelelo lwakho kumhlobo othembekileyo okanye kwilungu losapho emva kosuku olubi kakhulu. Kwaye kunye nokuzivumela ukuba ubonakalise umsindo wakho kuthintela ukuba ungangxameli ngaphakathi.

Nciphisa umsindo ngokuhlekisa

Ukufumana uburharha ngomzuzu oshushu kunokukunceda ugcine umbono olungeleleneyo. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uhleke iingxaki zakho, kodwa ukuzijonga ngendlela elula kunokukunceda.

Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva umsindo wakho uphuphuma, cinga ukuba le meko inokujongeka njani kumntu wangaphandle? Inokubahlekisa njani le nto kubo?

Ngokungazithathi nzulu kakhulu, uya kuba namathuba angakumbi okubona ukuba ukungabaluleki okungabalulekanga okuncinci kwisikimu esikhulu sezinto.

Guqula indawo okuyo

Zinike ikhefu ngokuthatha ixesha lakho kwindawo ekufutshane nawe.

Ukuba ikhaya lakho lixinekile kwaye likukhathaza, umzekelo, thatha idrive okanye uhambe uhambo olude. Uya kufumanisa ukuba uxhotyiswe ngcono ukuhlela ukungcola xa ubuya.

Qaphela izinto ezinokubangela kwaye ufumane ezinye iindlela

Ukuba uhambo lwakho lwemihla ngemihla lukuguqula ube ngumdlalo womsindo kunye nokukhathazeka, zama ukufumana enye indlela okanye ushiye kwangoko uye emsebenzini. Ngaba unomntu osebenza kunye naye ohlala ecofa iinyawo zakhe? Jonga kwii-headphone zokucima ingxolo.

Umbono kukukhomba kunye nokuqonda izinto ezibangela umsindo wakho. Nje ukuba wazi ngakumbi ukuba ziyintoni, ungathatha amanyathelo okuthintela ukuba lixhoba kubo.

Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uvela phi umsindo wakho, zama ukuzikhumbuza ukuba uthathe umzuzwana kwixesha elizayo xa uziva unomsindo. Sebenzisa eli xesha ukuthatha into eyenzekileyo kwimizuzu ekhokelela kwiimvakalelo zakho zomsindo. Ngaba ubunomntu othile? Ubusenza ntoni? Ngaba uziva njani ngaphambi komzuzu?

Gxila kwinto oyithandayo

Ngelixa ukuhlala kumashwa akho wosuku kunokubonakala ngathi yinto yokwemvelo yokwenza, ayizukukunceda kwixesha elifutshane okanye elide.

Endaweni yoko, zama ukuphinda ujonge kwizinto ezihambe kakuhle. Ukuba awufumani lining yesilivere ngemini, unokuzama ukucinga ngendlela izinto ezinokuba zihambe kakubi ngayo.

Funa uncedo

Yinto eqhelekileyo kwaye isempilweni ukuziva ukhathazekile ngumsindo amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kodwa ukuba awukwazi ukugungqisa imo embi okanye uhlala uziva ukoyiswa ngumsindo, isenokuba lixesha lokucela uncedo.

Ukuba umsindo wakho unefuthe kubudlelwane bakho kunye nentlalontle, ukuthetha nonyango olufanelekileyo kunokukunceda usebenze ngemithombo yomsindo wakho kwaye kukuncede uphucule izixhobo ezingcono.

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