Indlela yokwazi xa ilixesha lokukhupha uMhlobo ongenampilo

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Abahlobo banokuba yinkqubo yenkxaso exabisekileyo xa ujika kutshintsho okanye usebenza usukelo. Xa kuziwa kwimpilo kunye nokomelela, umhlobo we-gym okanye iqabane loxanduva linokukunceda uhlale unomdla kwaye usendleleni. Ukujikelezwa ngabantu abakuxhasayo kuyanceda ukuba uphumelele, kodwa uthini xa umhlobo wakho eyonakele kwimpilo yakho?

Ukutya yinxalenye kuphela ye-equation yokuphila ngokubanzi. Ke njengesondlo, ndithetha kakhulu malunga nokutya kunye nabaxumi bam-oku kuhlala kubandakanya ubudlelwane babo. Iimeko ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo ziyagqama: Xa umhlobo wakho ekhuphisana okanye enomona aze azame ukukurhuqa endaweni yokuxhasa usukelo lwakho. Okanye xa uqala ukuzikhethela bhetele indlela ophila ngayo, kwaye uqala ukuqonda ukuba abantu abathile abalingani kule mpilo, impilo eyonwabisayo njengangaphambili. Kule meko, ngamanye amaxesha ukuhamba kude nomhlobo onetyhefu okanye ongekho sempilweni kuphela kwesisombululo. Ndiyayazi kuba yenzekile nakum.

Ukuqala kwam ukufundisisa isondlo, ndandichitha ixesha elininzi nomntu obhinqileyo owayenemicimbi ethile malunga nokutya. Ngalo lonke ixesha sidibana, wayedla ngokubalisa ngento ayityileyo ngala mini, kwaye incoko yayihlala inxibelelene nobungakanani bemilinganiselo yakhe okanye ubungakanani beebhulukhwe azinxibileyo. Ukuba besisiya kwivenkile yokutyela, bendiya kumbukela ekhetha ukutya kwakhe kwaye ndiziva ndingonwabanga ngokutya okwam. (Eyeleleneyo: Kutheni kufuneka uyeke ukuthelekisa indlela otya ngayo kubahlobo bakho)

Kwelinye icala, kwakumnandi ukuphonononga iivenkile zokutyela zeNew York kunye naye (kwenzeka ukuba wayevegan). Isoka lam elithanda imifuno, nelalinethemba lokuba ndingaguquka, lalithanda ukuba ndinomhlobo otya uhlaza. (Isilumkiso seSpoiler: Ukuya kwimifuno yesithandwa sam akuphelanga kakuhle.) Kananjalo, bekungafani nokutya kuphela into esasithetha ngayo-yayikhona isikolo, ukuthandana, nezinye izinto zobomi. Ndicinga ukuba yiyo loo nto kuthathe ixesha elide ukuba ndiqaphele into engekho.

Kwakungekho nanye into ngaphandle kokukhuphisana ngokuziphatha kwakhe, kodwa oko kwabangela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kum. Ngokusengqiqweni, bendisazi ukuba andifanele ndivumele ukuba ifike kum. Kodwa kwakunzima, nokuba kukutyiwa ukutya-kuqeqesho-okanye mhlawumbi ngakumbi kwi-dietitian-in-training.

Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba sasihlala sidibana sidla, kodwa yaqala ukuziva ngathi ubuhlobo bethu bujolise kukutya. Umzimba kunye nengqondo yam nayo yayiqala ukubonisa iimpawu zokonakala kunye neenyembezi. Nditya kakhulu i-vegan ngenxa yokuba ndichitha ixesha lam nabani, kwaye kuba bendingekafundi malunga nezinye izakhamzimba ezibalulekileyo ukuhlala ngaphezulu kweeprotein, khange yenzeke kum le yokuba ukucinga kwam okunamafu, ukudinwa, kunye namahlaba zazinxulumene nokunqongophala kwesondlo okusemthethweni.

Ndandifunda iklasi yehlobo malunga nokuphazamiseka kokutya xa izinto endandizifunda zaqalisa ukuchukumisa. Obu buhlobo babungenampilo kum. Okukhona ndifunda malunga neempawu kunye neenqobo zokuziphatha kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo zokuphazamiseka kwindlela otya ngayo, kwaqala kwasa kum ukuba umhlobo wam angaba usendleleni eya kwimicimbi yezempilo. Kwaye bendisoyika ukwazi ukuba umntu angarhola ngokulula kangakanani kwindawo engakhuselekanga engazi.

Ndandisoyika nangakumbi xa ndonzakele kwithambo elibuhlungu kwiingalo zombini. Ugqirha wam wayibiza ngokuba "kukusabela koxinzelelo" (ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo olusondeleyo, ngokwesiseko). Kwakubuhlungu kangangokuba ndandingakwazi ukubamba ipeni, ngakumbi ukwenza i-yoga, indlela endiyithandayo yokuphelisa uxinzelelo. Kwakukuli xesha ndaye ndafunyaniswa ndine-vitamin B12 kunye ne-vitamin D yokusilela. Ndandingenakuyibetha ngoyaba into yokuba kwakufuneka ndenze utshintsho kwindlela enditya ngayo. Ingxaki yayikukuba, andizange ndive ngathi kukhuselekile ngokwasemphefumlweni ukutya inyama kumhlobo wam (ungaze ukhathalele isoka lasekhaya elalithanda kakhulu ukuba ndingazisi amaqanda endlwini). Umntu okwi-headpace ecacileyo unokuvuma ukuba wayenayo yena imikhwa kwaye ndinayo yam, kodwa bendinexhala lokuba andizukuphepha ukucinga ngokugqithileyo.

Ekugqibeleni ndaye ndafikelela kugqirha ukuze andincede ndibone indlela yokucoca inkungu ngaphambi kokuba ibe yingxaki epheleleyo. Ingcali yandinceda ndachaza into endiyaziyo ezantsi: kuye kwafuneka ndiyeke ukuchitha ixesha kunye nalo mhlobo kuba ebangela iingcinga ezingekho mpilweni. Yayingenguye umhlobo wam ngenjongo yokwenza nantoni na ukundisusa-ibikukuba bendifuna ukugxila kuyo wam ubudlelwane kunye nokutya kunye wam body, kwaye bekunzima ukuyenza loo nto umntu exhome omnye umntu kumxube.

Ekugqibeleni, ndandingaziva ndikulungele ukunqumla lo mhlobo ngokupheleleyo, ke saqala ukwenza izinto ezingabandakanyi ukutya. Yandinceda kakhulu, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe ndaqalisa ukumbona encipha njengoko ndandiqalisa ukuziva njengam. Ekugqibeleni, sahlukana ngokwendalo.

Ukuba uqaphela ukufana phakathi kwebali lam kunye nento ohlangabezana nayo, nantsi eminye imibuzo enzima kodwa ebuza ukuba ucinge ngayo eya kukunceda uthathe isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukubuphelisa ubuhlobo obungenampilo, nawe.

1. Ngaba uziva kakubi ngesiqu sakho xa uhlala kunye nalo mntu? Ngaba uziva unovalo ngokwabelana ngempumelelo yakho kunye nabo? Ngaba uqala ukukhathazeka ngokutya / ubunzima / umzimba emva kokuba nabo?

2. Ukuba nomhlobo ocinga ngempilo kubaluleke kakhulu xa usabelana ngeeklasi zokuzilolonga, uluntu lwenkxaso ye-intanethi ye-fitness, okanye nokhuphiswano lwe-fitness tracker, kodwa jonga nje xa olo khuphiswano luhamba kakhulu. Ngaba umhlobo wakho uthelekisa izibalo, amaxesha ogqatso, imilinganiselo, okanye ukunciphisa umzimba? Ngaba bayayivuyela impumelelo yabo okanye baziphathe njengophulukene nesifo kunokuba bakunike eziphakamileyo ezintlanu zezakho?

3. Ukuhlazisa ngokutya ikwayinto yokwenene nenokuba yingozi enokwenzeka nakwabona bahlobo bamsulwa. Ukuba umhlobo wakho ukunika usizi malunga nokuba yintoni kwipleyiti yakho okanye uzifumana uziva ngathi kufuneka ufihle iindlela zakho zokutya zokwenyani ezikujikelezile, yiflegi ebomvu leyo.

4. Ngaba lo mhlobo wakho ukukunika ixesha elinzima malunga nokungafuni ukuhlala kude kube sebusuku okanye ukukwenza uzive usisiyatha ngokulahla utywala ngenxa yokuba uneklasi yokomelela kusasa? Yinto enye ukuba yenzeka kube kanye xa uphume umsitho okhethekileyo. Kodwa ukuba uhlala ekuwe malunga nokhetho lwakho olusempilweni, lelo lixesha elingenakuxhaswa ngumhlobo.

Ngamanye amaxesha, unokukwazi ukuthetha nomhlobo wakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho kwaye ubone ukuba ungazilungisa na. Kwakhona khumbula ukuba abanye abahlobo bahle ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Indlela onokuthi awukwazi ukuthetha ngayo ngomsebenzi wakho okanye ngobomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo kunye nabahlobo abathile, kuyafana nokutya kunye nokomelela. Ukuba unomhlobo onemiba yokutya ekukubekeni ecaleni, mhlawumbi ngumntu wakho oya kuye xa ufuna ukuya kubona intshontsho elitsha.

Khumbula, uyingcali emzimbeni wakho, kwaye kulungile ukuhlonipha oko kukulungeleyo.

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