Ndandiqinisekile ukuba usana lwam lwaluza kufa. Ibingokuxhalaba Kwam Nje Ukuthetha.

Umxholo

• Yintoni uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka?
• Oomama abanePPA bathetha malunga noloyiko lwabo rhoqo
• Ndingenza ntoni ngeempawu zam zoxinzelelo?

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

Xa ndazala unyana wam omdala, ndandisandula ukufudukela kwidolophu entsha, ekude iiyure ezintathu ukusuka kusapho lwam.

Umyeni wam wayesebenza iiyure ezili-12 ngosuku kwaye ndandindedwa nosana lwam olusandul 'ukuzalwa - imini yonke, yonke imihla.

Njengaye nawuphi na umama omtsha, bendinovalo kwaye ndingaqinisekanga. Ndandinethoni yemibuzo kwaye ndingazi ukuba ndilindele ntoni ukuba ubomi bube njani nosana olutsha kraca.

Imbali yam kaGoogle ukusukela ngeloxesha yayizaliswe yimibuzo enje "Malungene kangaphi usana lwam?" “Umntwana wam kufuneka alale ixesha elingakanani?” Kwaye “mangaphi amatyeli okuba umntwana wam ancancise?” Ukukhathazeka komama oqhelekileyo.

Kodwa emva kweeveki zokuqala, ndiye ndaqala ukukhathazeka kancinci.

Ndaqala ukuphanda ngesiquphe ukusweleka kweentsana (SIDS). Umbono wokuba usana olusempilweni ngokugqibeleleyo unokufa ngaphandle kwesilumkiso undithumele kuqhwithela loxinzelelo.

Ndingene egumbini lakhe qho emva kwemizuzu emi-5 elele ukuze aqiniseke ukuba ulungile. Ndimbukele elele. Andizange ndimshiye emehlweni am.

Emva koko, ukuxhalaba kwam kwaqala ukuhamba ngeqhwa.

Ndaziqinisekisa ukuba umntu uza kubiza iinkonzo zentlalo-ntle ukuba amthathe kum nomyeni wam kuba wayelele kakubi kwaye elila kakhulu. Ndinexhala lokuba uzakufa. Ndinexhala lokuba ikhona into engalunganga kuye endingayiboniyo kuba ndingumama ombi. Ndinexhala lokuba umntu uza kunyuka efestileni aze ambambe ezinzulwini zobusuku. Ndinexhala lokuba wayenomhlaza.

Bendingakwazi ukulala ebusuku kuba bendisoyika ukuba uzakungena kwi-SIDS ngelixa ndileleyo.

Ndandinexhala layo yonke into. Kwaye lonke eli xesha, unyaka wakhe wokuqala, bendicinga ukuba oku kuqhelekile.

Ndacinga ukuba bonke oomama abatsha bakhathazekile njengam. Ndacinga ukuba wonke umntu uziva ngendlela efanayo kwaye wayenenkxalabo efanayo, ke ayizange ithi qatha engqondweni yam ukuba mandithethe nomnye umntu ngayo.

Bendingazi ukuba bendingenangqondo. Andizange ndiyazi ukuba zeziphi iingcinga ezingenayo.

Bendingazi ukuba ndinexhala lasemva kokubeleka.

Yintoni uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka?

Wonke umntu uvile malunga nokudakumba emva kokubeleka (PPD), kodwa ababaninzi abantu abakhe beva nangexhala lasemva kokubeleka (PPA). Ngokwezinye izifundo, iimpawu zoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka zixeliwe ukuya kuthi ga kwabafazi.

Ugqirha waseMinnesota uCrystal Clancy, uMFT uthi inani lingaphezulu kakhulu, kuba izixhobo zokuqonda isifo kunye nemfundo zihlala zigxininisa ngakumbi kwi-PPD kunePPA. "Ngokuqinisekileyo kunokwenzeka ukuba ube ne-PPA ngaphandle kwe-PPD," utshilo uClancy kwiHealthline. Wongeza ukuba ngenxa yeso sizathu, ihlala ingangqiniswanga.

“Abasetyhini banokujongwa ngumnikezeli wabo, kodwa ezo zihluzo ngokubanzi zibuza imibuzo ngakumbi malunga neemvakalelo kunye nokudakumba, okuphosa isikhephe xa kuthethwa ngoxinzelelo. Abanye banayo iPPD ekuqaleni, kodwa ke njengoko oko kuphucuka, ityhila uxinzelelo olusisiseko olunokuthi lube negalelo kuxinzelelo kwasekuqaleni, ”ucacisa watsho uClancy.

Uxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka lunokuchaphazela uninzi lweepesenti ezili-18 zabasetyhini. Kodwa eli nani linokuphakama nangakumbi, kuba uninzi lwabasetyhini alufumaneki.

Oomama abanePPA bathetha malunga noloyiko lwabo rhoqo

Iimpawu eziqhelekileyo ezinxulumene nePPA zezi:

• uburhabaxa nokungakhathali
• ukukhathazeka rhoqo
• iingcinga ezingenayo
• ukuphuthelwa
• iimvakalelo zoloyiko

Olunye unxunguphalo yinto nje yokuzibuza imibuzo yomzali omtsha. Kodwa ukuba iqala ukuphazamisa ukukwazi komzali ukuzikhathalela yena okanye usana lwakhe, isenokuba sisifo soxinzelelo.

I-SIDS yinto ebangela ukuba oomama abaninzi babe noxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.

Umbono woyikisa ngokwaneleyo koomama abaqhelekileyo, kodwa kumzali wePPA, egxile kwi-SIDS ibatyhalela kummandla woxinzelelo.

Ukulala kwangaphambili ukuchitha ubusuku bonke ujonge usana olulele ngoxolo, ubala ixesha elidlula phakathi kokuphefumla - ngokubeka uvalo ukuba kungakho ukulibaziseka okuncinci - luphawu loxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka.

U-Erin, umama oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala wabantwana abathathu ovela eSouth Carolina, unePPA kabini. Ngexesha lokuqala, wachaza iimvakalelo zoloyiko kunye noxinzelelo olukhulu malunga nexabiso lakhe njengomama kunye nokukwazi kwakhe ukukhulisa intombi yakhe.

Wayexhalabile ngokungonzakalisi intombi yakhe ngelixa yayiqhuba. "Ndamthwala ngeminyango ehlala emi nkqo, kuba ndandisoyika ndiyokumophula intloko kwisango ndize ndimbulale," uyavuma.

U-Erin, njengabanye oomama, ukhathazekile nge-SIDS. "Ndivuke ndiphakuzela rhoqo ebusuku, uqiniseke nje ukuba uzakufa elele."

Abanye-njengoMama wasePennsylvania uLauren-boyike xa umntwana wabo ekunye nabani na ngaphandle kwabo. ULauren uthi: "Ndaziva ngathi umntwana wam akakhuselekanga nomnye umntu ngaphandle kwam." “Bendingakwazi ukuphumla xa omnye umntu embambile. Xa wayelila, uxinzelelo lwegazi lwam lwaluya kuba lilokethi. Ndandiqala ukubila kwaye ndaziva ndifuna ngamandla ukumthoba umsindo. ”

Uchaza imvakalelo eyoyikekayo ebangelwe sisikhalo somntwana wakhe: "Kwakufana nokuba andinakumthulisa, siza kufa sonke."

Uxinzelelo kunye noloyiko lunokukwenza ulahlekelwe yimvakalelo yokwenyani. ULauren uchaza enye yezi meko. “Ngenye imini xa sasisekhaya [sisuka esibhedlele] ndaye ndalala esofeni ngelixa umama wam (ekhuselekileyo kakhulu kwaye ekwaziyo) abukele usana. Ndivukile ndajonga kubo kwaye [intombi yam] ibigcwele ligazi. ”

Uqhubeka esithi, “Ibiphuma ngomlomo, kuyo yonke ingubo awayeyisongele, kwaye wayengaphefumli. Ewe, ayisiyiyo le yenzekileyo. Wayesongelwe ngengubo engwevu nebomvu kwaye nengqondo yam yasuka yaqaqamba xa ndiqala ukuvuka. ”

Unyango lwasemva kokubeleka luyanyangeka.

Ndingenza ntoni ngeempawu zam zoxinzelelo?

Njengodandatheko lwasemva kokubeleka, ukuba luyekwe lunganyangwa, ixhala lasemva kokubeleka linokudibana nosana lwalo. Ukuba woyika kakhulu ukukhathalela umntwana okanye uziva ngathi akalunganga emntwaneni, kunokubakho iimpembelelo ezimbi zophuhliso.

Kwangokunjalo, kunokubakho unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantwana oomama babo ababenexhala eliqhubekayo ngexesha lasemva kokubeleka.

Oomama abafumana naziphi na kwezi mpawu, okanye iimpawu ezinxulumene ne-PPD, kufuneka bafune uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.

Ziyanyangeka ke ezi meko. Kodwa ukuba azinyangwa, zinokuba mandundu okanye zihlale ixesha elidlulileyo kwithuba lasemva kokubeleka, ziguquke zibe luxinzelelo lweklinikhi okanye ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo ngokubanzi.

UClancy uthi unyango lunokuba luncedo kwaye luhlala lufutshane. I-PPA iphendula kwiimodeli zonyango ezahlukeneyo, ikakhulu unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo (CBT) kunye nolwamkelo kunye nonyango lokuzinikela (UMTHETHO).

Kwaye ngokukaClancy, “Unyango lunokukhetha, ngakumbi ukuba iimpawu ziba nzima ngokwaneleyo ukuba zingonakalisa ukusebenza. Maninzi amayeza akhuselekileyo xa uwakhulelwe naxa uncancisa. ”

Wongeza ukuba ezinye iindlela zibandakanya:

• ukucamngca
• izakhono zokucinga
• iyoga
• ukutshiza
• izongezo

Ukuba ucinga ukuba ubonakalisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, fikelela kugqirha wakho okanye kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.

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