Ndayeka Ukusela Kangangenyanga—Kwaye Kwenzekile Ezi Zinto Zili-12

Umxholo

• Unokufuna ukuzama ukungachithi ngokupheleleyo kwi-NYE.
• Iiveki ezimbini zokuqala ziya kuba nzima ngokwenene.
• Uya kuqonda ukuba phantse bonke ubomi bentlalontle bugxile ekutyeni nasekuseleni.
• Uninzi lwabantu, kubandakanya abahlobo bakho abasenyongweni, bayakukruqula kwaye bangakuxhasi malunga nesigqibo sakho.
• Uphengululo lwe

Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndenze u-Dry Januwari. Oko kuthetha ukuba akukho tywala konke konke, nangasiphi na isizathu (ewe, nakwitheko lokuzalwa / kumtshato / emva kosuku olubi / nantoni na) inyanga yonke. Abanye abantu, oko kungavakali ngathi yinto enkulu, kodwa kum kuvakala njengokuzibophelela okukhulu. Phambi kokuba ndizame, bendingenguye nomseli omkhulu okanye umntu othatha inxaxheba-bendiya kwenza iwayini ngobusuku beveki, kwaye mhlawumbi ezinye ii-cocktails ngeempelaveki nabahlobo. Ke, uDry Januwari wam wayengekho malunga ne "detoxing" okanye ukujika umkhwa ombi. Kakhulu, bendifuna ukubona ukuba ukuba nenyanga engacacanga yinto endinokuyenza. Ndifuna nokubona ukuba ingandenza ndizive njani (ngcono? Kugxilwe ngakumbi? Ngokufanayo?).

Ukungena, ndiye ndacinga ukuba ngekhe ndiphoswe kukusela nabahlobo bam ngeempelaveki, kodwa kwathi kanti, iziphumo zazifikelela kude kunaleyo. U-Januwari wam wokuqala owomileyo akazange atshintshe kuphela ubudlelwane bam notywala; itshintshe nobunye ubuhlobo bam, kwaye ndingade ndiphikise utshintshe ubomi bam. Enyanisweni, uJanuwari 2016 uya kuba nguJanuwari wam wesixhenxe owomileyo.

Ngaba unomdla? Ukuba ucwangcisa ukuzama iJanuwari kaJanuwari, kukho izinto ezithile ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzazile ngaphambi kokuba uqale kolu celomngeni, ukhanyisele, kwaye ekugqibeleni unomvuzo wohambo olungena tywala. Naku sisiya.

Unokufuna ukuzama ukungachithi ngokupheleleyo kwi-NYE.

Ndifumana isilingo sokwenza itheko elinzima ku-Eva woNyaka oMtsha, ukungena kwisiphelo sokugqibela ngaphambi kwenyanga yakho yobungangamsha, kodwa ukuba ne-hangover enkulu kuya kusenza buthathaka isigqibo sakho ukuqala ngoMhla woku-1 (emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kunzima ukumelana neenwele wenja). Ewe, anditsho ukuba "ungaseli kwaphela kwi-NYE," kodwa ndincoma kakhulu ukuxhathisa umnqweno-kunye noxinzelelo loontanga-ukuze baphulwe. Ndithembe, uyakudinga sonke isigqibo sakho kunye nokuziphatha, kuba…

Iiveki ezimbini zokuqala ziya kuba nzima ngokwenene.

Ewe, i-14 yokuqala okanye iintsuku ze-Dry January yakho iya kuba nzima kakhulu. Ndicela uxolo ngokuba ngumphathi weendaba ezingamangalisiyo, kodwa ukuba uyazi ukuba uzokulwa idabi eliqengqelekayo, ndicinga ukuba uyakuba nethuba elingcono lempumelelo. Njengoko benditshilo ngaphambili, bendingengomntu oselayo xa ndizama oku okokuqala (ngaphandle kweminyaka emibini "kakhulu" kwiminyaka yam yama-20s, kwaye nalapho, ndiye ndamnyama kanye-kwaye umbhoxo-ndibambe eyona nto ingcono katata. umhlobo emhlabeni. Zero remember). Kodwa nangona kunjalo, eso siqingatha sokuqala senyanga sithathe isigqibo esikhulu, sigxininise, kwaye phantse rhoqo ukuzibophelela kwakhona kum. Kwaneglasi enye okanye ezimbini zewayini, okanye iibhiya ezimbalwa ngokuhlwa, zaphoswa kakhulu, kuba...

Uya kuqonda ukuba phantse bonke ubomi bentlalontle bugxile ekutyeni nasekuseleni.

Ukuzingca kuya kukwenza ukuqonde oku. Ngokwenene uhlobo luyamangalisa, kwaye ayisiyiyo into oyibona ngokupheleleyo ngelixa uthatha inxaxheba kuyo. (Ingcebiso: Ukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kwandinceda kakhulu, ngakumbi kuba yandinika enye into yokwenza kwaye yayiyenye indlela yokunxibelelana.) Kwaba nzima kum ukuba ndibe nesidlo sangokuhlwa nabahlobo, nangona kunjalo, kuba...

Uninzi lwabantu, kubandakanya abahlobo bakho abasenyongweni, bayakukruqula kwaye bangakuxhasi malunga nesigqibo sakho.

Le yayiyeyona nto imangalisayo kuyo yonke malunga nokuma inyanga: abanye abantu. Phantse wonke umntu, kubandakanya nabahlobo bam, babenokufumana into engaqhelekanga kunye nohlobo lwepissy malunga nayo. Abantu bebendibiza "boring" baqhale amehlo xa ndisithi andiseli inyanga yonke, bandifakela ipressure ethi "ndisele nje ibenye." Abanye abantu bade bayeka nokunditsalela umnxeba okanye bandimemele kwimbutho okanye emathekweni. [Inqaku elipheleleyo lebali kwiRefinery29!]

Ngakumbi kwiRefinery29:

Ngothando olude lobomi bePitsa, kunye nokulahlekelwa nguTata wam

Iimpawu ezi-10 ukuPati yoNyaka oMtsha yoNyaka kaNyaka

Yintoni omawuyitye xa uHungover njengesihogo: Isikhokelo esigqibeleleyo

Uphengululo lwe