Ndizamile umngeni ka-Oprah kunye noDeepak weentsuku ezingama-21 zokucamngca kwaye nantsi into endiyifundileyo

Umxholo

• Abayibizi ngokuba "kukuziqhelanisa" ilize.
• Kulungile ukuhamba nokuhamba.
• IiMantras zinokuba namandla amakhulu.
• Kukho amandla kumanani.
• Ukukhathazeka kukuchitha ixesha.
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Ngowuphi umntu ophilayo okhanyiselwe ukodlula uOprah? I-Dalai Lama, utsho. Kulungile, kodwa enkulu O iqhuba umzuzwana osondeleyo. Unguthixokazi wethu wobulumko wale mihla (hamba ngapha, Athena), kwaye ebesenza izifundo ezitshintsha ubomi (kunye neemoto zasimahla) amashumi eminyaka. Kwaye, u-Deepak Chopra, i-guru yokomoya, yenye yee-besties zakhe. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba bengabantu ababalaseleyo, badibana ukuze benze uthotho lwemiceli mngeni yokucamngca yasimahla yeentsuku ezingama-21 ukusinceda thina bantu baqhelekileyo sandise ukuzazi kwethu. (Izinto endizifundileyo ngokutya njengo-Oprah kangangeveki)

Ezi sele zikhona iminyaka kwaye entsha iphuma rhoqo kwiinyanga ezimbalwa. Kodwa ndithe ndakuva ngomceli mngeni omtsha, "Amandla oMtsalane: Ukubonakalisa uBomi baKho oBalaseleyo," ndawuthatha njenge uphawu oluvela kwindalo yonke (yabona, ndivakala njengo-Oprah sele) kwaye ndikhuphele insiza ngamaphupha okufumana uxolo lwangaphakathi olufana noWinfrey. Ndiyathetha, ngubani ayenzi ufuna ukufumanisa iimfihlo zokutsala uthando, impumelelo kunye nolonwabo? Kuba ngoku ndikwisiphambuka kwikhondo lam lomsebenzi-indlela engaphambili iyoyikisa kwaye ayaziwa-lo mxholo uthethe nam ngokukodwa, undinika ithemba ngekamva.

Nantsi indlela esebenza ngayo. Ndiyenzile ngazo zonke iintsuku ezingama-21 (ubuchwepheshe obungama-22 kuba kukho ukucamngca ngebhonasi) kwaye into endiyifundileyo yandothusa. Funda ukuze uphefumlelwe nguThixo.

Abayibizi ngokuba "kukuziqhelanisa" ilize.

Xa sizinkcinkca kwiNetflix okanye siskrola kwi-Instagram, ixesha liyabaleka. Isiqendu esinye se Ukukhanya kunye neevidiyo ezimbini zekati ezinomsindo kamva kwaye, poof, idlule iyure. Ke kutheni imizuzu engama-20 yaziva ingunaphakade ngexesha lokucamngca? Ukuhlala uhleli izandi zilula ngokwaneleyo. (Into ekufuneka ndiyenzile kuku akhonto? Ndiyifumene le nto!) Kodwa kamsinya nje ukuba uzixelele ukuba uhlale phantsi, umnqweno wokuhamba awunangqondo. Iinyani: Konke ukurhawuzelela kuyakhulisa, zonke izihlunu ezincinci kwizikram zonyawo lwakho, yonke ingcinga iyakudla. Kwiveki yokuqala, bendihleli nje ndonwabile, kwaye ukukhathazeka kwam kwajika kwaba ngumgxeki wangaphakathi. Uyanya kule nto. Awunokwazi nokuhlala ulungile! Emva koko ndeva ilizwi lika-Oprah elizinzileyo nelisesibhakabhakeni lindiqinisekisa: Qhubeka uhamba. Kuthatha ukuziqhelanisa.

Kwaye ndaba no-Oprah "aha" umzuzu: Yiyo loo nto babiza ukucamngca ukuziqhelanisa. Kwaye ngethamsanqa, ngokutsho kukaNks Winfrey osisilumko, "yonke imihla izisa ithuba lokuqalisa kwakhona." Yiloo nto ke endayenzayo. Ndihleli nje kuyo. Kwenye indawo ejikeleze usuku lwe-10, umzimba wam kunye nengqondo yaqala ukuphola. Ingqondo yam isazulazula iinyawo zam bezisacinekile, kodwa ndiyamkele. Kwakungadingeki ukuba ndibenguthixokazi ogqibeleleyo wokucamngca. Andizukuzama ukuzama kwam okokuqala (ndiyaqhula, kodwa ufumana ukuqhuma kwam) kwaye kulungile ukuba nje ndibonakalisile. (Idibeneyo: Ndicamngca yonke imihla ngeNyanga kwaye ndinguSobbed kube kanye)

Kulungile ukuhamba nokuhamba.

Buza nabani na ondaziyo. Andilohlobo lokuhamba-nokuhamba. Ndingumkhweli, nditsibela ngesantya esiphezulu, yiyo loo nto ukucamngca kukhaba iesile lam. Yonke imihla, ndihlala ndisiba nesidingo sokwenza, ukwenza, ukwenza umzamo omkhulu. Kwaye ngawo onke amanyathelo, ndincamathisela iseti ethile yokulindela. Ukuba ndizilolonga ngamandla, ndingaloyisa elona xesha lam lilungileyo. Ukuba ndiyeka i-cyber-ogling uNico Tortorella, ndiza kuba neeyure ezininzi zokubhala. Faka nayiphi na indibaniselwano yamathuba apha. Kodwa ekucamngeni, njengakubomi, into oyilindeleyo ayisoloko iyinto oyifumanayo. Ukuqala kwam umceli mngeni, bendilindele ukulawula ingqondo yam, kwaye ndaphoxeka xa ingqondo yam ingavumelani. I just need to try more, ndazixelela. Gxila ngakumbi. Gxila. Wena. Kufuneka. Uphumelele. Kodwa okukhona ndifunayo kum, izinto ezingahambanga kakuhle zahamba. Andikwazi umsebenzi indlela yam yokuphuma kule. (Idibeneyo: Ukuyila isiCwangciso soQeqesho sokuSebenza kundincedile ukuba ndibuyele kuhlobo lwam-Ubuntu)

Mhlawumbi ngenxa yokudinwa engqondweni, ndiye ndafikelela kwinqanaba lokuqhekeka. Andinawo amandla okuqhubeka ndilwa, ndayeka. Ndavumela iingcinga, iimvakalelo, kunye neemvakalelo ukuba zivele ngaphandle kokuzigxeka ngenxa yokuphambuka kwengqondo. Ndivele ndababona nje, molo, ndiyabona apho, kwaye bakhukuliseka ngokumangalisayo, ukuze ndibuyele kwishishini lokucaca ngokucacileyo. U-Oprah uthi, "ukunikezela kukuhamba, ukuhlala ubhetyebhetye ecaleni kwendlela yakho, kuya kukukhokelela kwezona ndawo zityebileyo." Ukuguqulelwa kwesithixokazi: Yiyeke into oyilindeleyo kwaye uvuleleke kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo. Zikhuphe kwisiphumo. Vumela amava kunye nokucamngca okanye kungenjalo-kukumangalise. Ukuphela komceli mngeni, bendikulungele ukubhexa iphenyane kwaye bendiqale ukudada ngoku.

IiMantras zinokuba namandla amakhulu.

I-TBH, bendihlala ndicinga ukuba ii-mantras ziyikhooky encinci. Basenokuba zii-GIFs ezingapheliyo okanye babe ngumboniso wesilayidi kumhlobo wakho we-post-breaking media rant, ahem, i-Instagram feed. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ekuqaleni komceli mngeni ndandinamathandabuzo am malunga nokucula i-mantra yosuku ngalunye, ndithe cwaka kum. Kodwa, kuba ndizinikele, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndingene. Into endiyiqapheleyo kwangoko kukuba ukuphindaphinda imantra kwandinceda ukubuyisela ingqalelo yam xa ndiphazanyiswa ziingcinga okanye yingxolo; Ukuhamba elwandle kwengqondo yam ebhadlileyo, bendiya kuyikhumbula imantra yemihla ngemihla, kwaye iyakundibuyisela emva endleleni. Isenzo esilula sokuthetha i-mantra siyakubambelela kulo mzuzu wangoku. Yintoni ebendingayilindelanga? Ndiqale njani ukusebenzisa ii-mantras ezenziweyo ngaphandle kokucamngca, ngakumbi ngexesha lokuzilolonga. Ukuya kwam kwimantra ye-HIIT yile usisilo. Kwaye, kholwa okanye ungakholelwa, ngalo lonke ixesha ndiqala ukuphulukana nomphunga, imantra iyandimpompoza, indifaka kum ngamandla endiwadingayo ukuze nditshise. Ngoko, ukuziphatha kwe-mantra? Akudingeki ukuba zithandeke okanye zinzulu, ngamagama akhuthazayo, akhuthazayo, kwaye ajolise kuwe. (I-FYI, ukuba unengxaki yokufumana i-zen, ubuhlalu be-mala kunye ne-mantras kunokuba sisitshixo sokuthanda ukuthanda ukucamngca.)

Kukho amandla kumanani.

Ukucamngca wedwa, ngakumbi njengomntu oqalayo, kunokuba nesithukuthezi esincinci kwaye kube nzima. Uyazibuza: Ngaba ndiyenza kakuhle le nto? Ngaba ukho omnye umntu oziva elahlekile? Ngamaxesha athile, ukhukhula wedwa kulwandle olukhulu lobumnyama ungenamhlaba okanye ukukhanya emehlweni, kwaye kunzima ukufumana indlela eya ekhaya. Ebudeni bala mava eeveki ezintathu, u-Oprah no-Deepak bebezikhephe zam zobomi kunye nekhampasi-amazwi abo athambileyo napholileyo kwii-earbuds zam ahlala endikhokela kwaye endiphakamisa. Kwaye nakwizilumko, bekukho intuthuzelo ngokwazi ukuba amawaka (mhlawumbi nezigidi) zabantu abacingisisa nam kolu hambo. Ndiqale ukuziva ngathi ndiyinxalenye yento enkulu kunam-uluntu lwehlabathi luzama ukuzazi ngakumbi. Ngapha koko, u-Deepak uthi ukunceda ukuqonda ngokubambisana ukuba kwandiswe yeyona ndima yethu iphezulu ebomini. Khawufane ucinge: Ukuba wonke umntu umazi ethambekele kwiingqondo zakhe kwaye ebengezela imimoya elungileyo, umhlaba uya kuba yindawo ezolileyo, indawo enothando ngakumbi. Singayitshintsha iplanethi yokuphefumla okunzulu ngexesha elinye, bantu! (Eyeleleneyo: Ukujoyina iQela leNkxaso kwi-Intanethi kunokukunceda ukuba ufikelele kwiinjongo zakho ekugqibeleni)

Ukukhathazeka kukuchitha ixesha.

Esi inokuba sesona sifundo sibalulekileyo endisifundileyo ngexesha lomceli mngeni. Ndiyazazi kakuhle-ndingumntu onexhala, bendisoloko ndinjalo. Into endandingayazi yayingakanani ixesha endilichitha ndikhathazeka de ndide ndicinge. Kwisithuba semizuzwana engama-30, ingqondo yam ihlala ixhuma-xhuma ukusuka kolunye uloyiko ukuya kolulandelayo: Ngaba ndikhuphe i-ayini ngaphambi kokuba ndihambe ngale ntsasa? Ngaba ndiza kufika emva kwexesha kwidinga lam? Ngaba umhlobo wam osenyongweni ukhathazekile kuba ndixakeke kakhulu ukuba ndingamfowunela? Ndiza kuwufumana umsebenzi wam wephupha? Ndiyakuze ndilinganise? Ngoqikelelo lwam, ndinikela ubuncinci i-90 yepesenti yendawo yam yentloko ekukhathazekeni, umlambo wokucinga okungapheliyo kunye nokunyanzeliswa. Kuyadinisa. Kodwa ilizwi elicaphukisayo entlokweni yam alidinwa kukundondla ngeengcinga ezixhalabisayo. Iyathetha, iyakhala, kwaye iyakhalaza, 24/7.

Ekubeni ndingakwazi ukufaka umbhobho kuyo, ndingenza ntoni? Ngokuhlala ngokuzolileyo, ndafunda ukuzikhwebula kuyo, ukubuyela umva ndiyibukele. Kwaye, ekuzifihleni kwam, ndaqonda ukuba lo mprofeti wentshabalalo nobumnyama ayinguye kanye kanye-ilizwi liloloyiko kunye namathandabuzo. Ewe, kulungile ukoyika-singabantu, emva koko-kodwa ixhala alidingeki lichaze mna okanye wena. Cinga lo mbuzo: Ngaba ukuxhalaba ngento ethile kuyakutshintsha iziphumo? Ukuba ndixhalabile ngenqwelomoya endiza kuyilibazisa, ndingakhawuleza ndifike apho ndiya khona? Hayi! Ke masingamoshi amandla ethu. (Eyeleleneyo: Iindlela ezi-6 zokuGqibela Ukuyeka ukukhalazela okulungileyo)

Awuqinisekanga? U-Oprah uthi, "awunakuva ilizwi elincinci nelincinci le-instinct yakho, intuition yakho, into abanye abantu abayibiza ngokuba nguThixo, ukuba uvumela ingxolo yehlabathi ukuba iyirhole." Ingqondo. Iyahamba. Boom. Ke yeka ukukhathazeka kwaye uzikhuphe kwisincoko entlokweni yakho kuba udibanisa zonke izinto ezilungileyo ngaphakathi kwakho. Cinga ngeeapile!

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