Ndizamile umngeni we-Sex weentsuku ezingama-30 ukuvuselela ubomi besondo obudikayo kumtshato wam

Umxholo

• Qaphela ungenelelo lwezesondo.
• Kodwa kungekudala, sagqiba kwelokuba sanele kwaye sabeka imigaqo.
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Ndandidla ngokulala ngesondo.

Hayi ngesondo, kodwa okuninzi zesini. Isondo esimdaka. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokungekho mthethweni. Ukwabelana ngesondo kwiindawo zikawonkewonke. (Ndiza kukugcinela iinkcukacha.) Emva koko ndatshata-kodwa sasisaqhubeka silalana. Emva koko ndakhulelwa-kwaye sayeka ukulala ngesondo. Emva koko ndaba ngumama-zama ukulala nam, kwaye ndiya kuthi ukusika wena. Emva koko ndaba ngumama osebenzayo-kwaye ingathi yonke le nto yam iqhekeziwe.

Engqondweni yam, isini akufuneki sithethathethane. Kubaluleke njengokuzilolonga, ukutya ngokufanelekileyo, okanye ukulala. Kodwa kutheni ihlala iyinto yokuqala ukuya kubudlelwane xa kukho into ekufuneka inikezele? (Nali icebiso: Yeka ukuskrola kwimidiya yoluntu kwaye endaweni yoko uyokwenza i-orgasm! Iyakwenza uzive ngcono kakhulu ngobomi bakho kunefoto yentombazana ekwibhikini kwiyacht-ndiyathembisa.)

Ndiyazi uninzi loomama abasebenza ngesondo. Kodwa andazi omama abasebenzayo abanabantwana abancinci abanabo rhoqo ngesondo-kwaye kukho umahluko ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba ufunda oku kwaye uthi, "Ndiyayenza!" kulungile kuwe, kodwa andikuthandi kakhulu. Le yeyabafazi abazifumana bothukile xa umntu othe wazibamba. Kubafazi abangathanda ukusonga ngeglasi enkulu yewayini kunye neNetflix kunokuba beze ze babe nomntu bangene.

Mhlawumbi yayikukhulelwa okwandenza ndahamba ixesha elide ngaphandle kwesondo. (Ukuba ubungomnye wabafazi abakhulelweyo abathi nje ethandwayo Ukwabelana ngesondo, andikuthandi kakhulu.) Mhlawumbi yayikukuba nentombazana yam engumongikazi iminyaka emithathu eyenzileyo. (Ingono ye-PTSD yinto yokwenyani, yeall.) Mhlawumbi ichitha iiyure ngasemva kweefowuni kunye neelaptops ezinciphisa ii-libidos zethu. Okanye into yokuba sixakekile ukwenza ukuba silibale ukwenzelana. (Eyeleleneyo: Izinto ezi-6 zabantu abaMnogamous abanokufunda kuBudlelwane obuVulekileyo)

Njengoko bendisandula ukutyibilika kwikhalenda yam, ndaye ndafika kwindawo eyoyikisayo yokuba ayingomyeni wam kuphela esingazange sabelana ngesondo ngaphezulu kwenyanga-kodwa besingakhange uchukumisekile omnye komnye ngaphaya kwentsingiselo yokulunga ekuseni okanye ubusuku obuhle.

Qaphela ungenelelo lwezesondo.

Ndeza nombono oqinileyo emva kokumamela iaudiobook kaRachel Hollis 'Ntombazana, Hlamba Ubuso Bakho. Ndazalisa umyeni wam ngewhiskey ndathi: “Siza kuba neentlobano zesini yonke imihla kangangeentsuku ezingama-30. Kwaye wam i-orgasm iya kuba yinjongo. "

Ndabona ukuqaqamba kweliso lakhe. Ukundinika ii-orgasms ezazidla ngokuba yeyona nto ayithandayo. Yatshintsha nini loo nto-kwaye okona kubalulekileyo, ngoba? Ke, bekusemthethweni ivuliwe.

Usuku 1: Sabelana ngesondo esishushu. Sinayo le!

Usuku 2: Mntu, IIsidanga ilayitile. Kwaye sinesizini yesibini yonke Ozark ukubukela! Ugh, kusemva kwexesha kakhulu. Mhlawumbi sinokuqala ngokusemthethweni umfuniselo ngomso?

Usuku 3: Uhambo lweshishini

Usuku 4: Ithuba lechocolate + = suka kum

Usuku 5: Enkosi, siyayixabisa loo nto. Kutheni singalali?!?

Ndiye ndaqaphela ukuba andiqhubi kakuhle nomyeni wam ngenxa yepressure. Sasisazi ukuba sasingenazo iitoni zesini, kodwa ukubiza loo nto rhoqo kwimizuzwana emihlanu kwakungabonakali kunceda. Ndayiphonononga ingqondo yam ngenxa yekinky yam eyadlulayo, ndikhangela uhlobo oluthile lwekhadi lokudlala. Ndikhe ndaya kwiiklasi zesini, apho abasetyhini banika i-pink dildos blowjobs ngohlobo lwentshisakalo ebekelwe iklasi yokuhamba ngebhayisikile. Ndalala nomfazi. Ndineesithathu. Ndabelana ngesondo kuhlobo lweendawo zikawonke-wonke ezinokwenza uninzi lwabantu lube neentloni.

Khona bekutheni zendingakwazi ukuba ndenze isex ekamereni yethu ebekulandlu yethu besihlala kuyo? Ngokucacileyo, into ibingadibanisi.

Kudliwanondlebe lwakutshanje lwepodcast kwincwadi yam, ndibuze ababuki zindwendwe abatshatileyo ukuba balinganisa njani ukusebenza, ukuba ngumzali kunye nobudlelwane kwezothando. Umfazi wahleka wathi: "Ndinxibe isinxibo esikrwada emva koko siphume kwindawo yethu." Umyeni uqhubeke wathi: "Xa ndimjonga ekhayeni lethu, andiboni isondo. Ndibona umama."

Thetha ngomzuzu webhalbhu. Bendingamboni umyeni wam njengowesondo-bendimbona njengotata kwintombi yethu. Njengefolda yokuhlamba. Njengompheki.

Ukuba sifuna ukulala ngesondo, kufuneka siphume kwindawo yethu. Ukuxhathisa kwangoko kwagoba intloko. Kodwa sinomntwana oneminyaka emi-6! Asinakuphuma siye kusela nje ngoLwesibini ebusuku! Bekungafuneka ndiphume kwii pyjama zam, ndingene emotweni, ndiye ndaweni ithile! Uloyiko!

Kodwa kungekudala, sagqiba kwelokuba sanele kwaye sabeka imigaqo.

1. Beka okwahlukileyo komtyholi okwaziwa ngokuba yifowuni yakho. Izifundo zibonise ukuba ii-smartphones zinobuhlobo obuhle kakhulu kubudlelwane bethu, ngakumbi kwezothando. Ukuba uzifumana ujonge kwifowuni yakho kunokuba ujonge emehlweni eqabane lakho, tshixa loo nto imbi kwibhokisi kwaye ubeke ingqalelo kumntu okuthandayo. Khetha ukuba namava-ungachithi ixesha kwifowuni yakho. (Funda: Izinto ezi-5 endizifundileyo xa ndiyekile ukuzisa ifowuni yam ebhedini)
2. Chonga ixesha othanda ngokwenene ukwabelana ngalo ngesondo. Ndingumntu wakusasa ngesondo. Xa kungu-11 emva kwemini, ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba andifuni ukulala ngesondo, ndicaphuka xa ndicinga ngento esiza kuyenza emva silalana. Ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka sisete ialam emva kwemizuzu eli-15 (ngubani endihlekisa ngaye-njengemizuzu emihlanu), yile nto sizakuyenza.
3. Vala ibhedi yakho. Phakamisa isandla sakho ukuba unayo yonke into oyenzayo ngokwesondo ezantsi kwisayensi kwaye uninzi lwazo lwenzeka kwigumbi lokulala? Kutshanje, mna nomyeni wam siye saba neentlobano zesini kwinqwelo-mafutha kwindlela yethu yokungena, siphulaphule ingoma eyoyikekayo. Indenze ndaziva ndiphila ngendlela endingenaxesha elide. Yiba nesibindi.
4. Yenza yonke imihla ibe yinto esondeleyo. Simele: Uninzi lwethu aluzulala ngesondo yonke imihla, kodwa siyakwazi ukusondelana. Thatha imizuzu emihlanu ukujongana neqabane lakho nithethe ngento eniyithandayo ngabo. Yenza njengolutsha olukhanyayo. Bamba izandla. Yangana ixesha elide. Fumana nje ixesha lokudibanisa.
5. Chonga into ejikayo kuni nobabini. Ugqibele nini ukubuza wena okanye iqabane lakho ukuba lithini ithuba lakho? Ngaba nawe uyazi? Ndabuza umyeni wam ukuba kwaye wayefana, "Um ...." Ndiyathetha, ngenene? Akukho nto? Faka intloko yakho emseleni, mfondini! Ndiyazi eyam.
6. Yiba ne-orgasm yonke imihla. Kulungile, ukuba ingcinga yokuba neentlobano zesini yonke imihla ikwenza ukoyike, ayifanele. Yiba ne-orgasm. Ngokwakho. Ngoncedo. Noba yintoni. Umyeni wam undithengele esona vibrator simangalisayo, kwaye ndiyigcina ngokwenyani kwindawo yam yokulala ebusuku. Kuthatha imizuzu emithathu ukundinika ukukhululwa kwemihla ngemihla, nokuba kunjalo thina awuxakekanga, Mna am. (Ezi ngcebiso ze-13 zokuphulula amalungu esini ziya kunceda kakhulu.)
7. Yeka ukuthetha kwaye uqale ukwenza ... omnye nomnye. Ngaba uyazi ukuba lingakanani ixesha esilichithile ngokwenene sithetha ngokuba singabelani ngesondo elingakanani? Xa besinokulala nje ngesondo? Ukwabelana ngesondo sisenzo. Ihlala ikudibanisa kwaye ikwenza uzive ungcono. Vele uyenze.

Nokuba udiniwe okanye abantwana bakho bayinto encinci yokuphazamisa, yenza isondo libe mnandi kwakhona. Sukuyithatha ngokungathí sina konke. Yiba nobubele kuwe. Kwaye qaphela ukuba uza kuseta umzekelo wokuba singakanani isondo esaneleyo ngokwesini kubudlelwane bakho-ayisiyiyo le inqaku lithethayo kwaye ayisiyiyo le njakazi ilala iintsuku zisixhenxe ngeveki. Yeka ukumamela wonke umntu kwaye ungene kwindoda, emfazini, okanye kwiqabane elimi phambi kwakho: Yanele kangakanani? Yimalini ayinayo?

Nantoni na ogqiba kuyo, yonwabele le nxalenye yobudlelwane bakho. Zama izinto ezintsha. Zimangaze ... kunye neqabane lakho.

Awuyi kuzisola.

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