Ngaba kuqhelekile ukuba neCrush kuMqeqeshi wakho wobuqu?

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Impendulo emfutshane: Ewe, kinda. Ngapha koko, xa ndabuza uRachel Sussman, ugqirha wengqondo onelayisenisi kunye nobudlelwane kunye nombhali IBhayibhile Yokuqhekeka, malunga noku, wahleka. "Ewe, udade wethu uneminyaka ethandana nomqeqeshi wakhe buqu," utshilo. "Ngoko ewe, iyenzeka ngokwenene!"

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubudlelwane bakho nomqeqeshi wobuqu bobuchwephesha. Kodwa sisondele kakhulu, utshilo uSussman. "Nobabini ninxibe iimpahla zokuzilolonga, uyanichukumisa, mhlawumbi ukwimo entle ... Kwaye niyasebenza, ke ii-endorphins zenu ziyampompoza," adwelise. "Kuyaqondakala kakhulu ukuphuhlisa i-crush encinci." (Nasi isizathu sokuba wena kunye ne-SO yakho nifanele ukusebenza kunye.)

Ayisiyonto nje yokusondelelana enokubangela iimvakalelo. "Abaqeqeshi bahlala bekubona ubuthathaka, kwaye ngumsebenzi wabo ukukuqinisekisa kwaye bakukhuthaze. Oko kungaziva kulungile," utshilo uGloria Petruzzelli, ugqirha wezengqondo onelayisensi kwezemidlalo eSacramento, CA.

Ukuncitshiswa okuncinci kunokuba yingozi kwaye kunokukukhuthaza ukuba ugcine iiseshoni zakho zokuzilolonga. Kodwa uSussman noPetruzzelli bayavuma ukuba kufanele kubekho imida esempilweni kulwalamano lomqeqeshi. Ubuncinci, utshilo uSussman, ukuba umtsalane ubonakala ngathi uyahambelana, kuyakufuneka uthethe malunga nokuba kuthetha ntoni oko, nifuna ntoni nobabini, kwaye ubudlelwane bakho bobuchwephesha bunokufuna ukutshintsha njani. (Landela aba baqeqeshi be-celeb kwi-Instagram.)

UPetruzzelli uthi ngokokubona kwakhe, umqeqeshi othandana nomthengi akalunganga. "Kukho umahluko wamandla kolo lwalamano-umqeqeshi unamandla angaphezulu," utshilo. Umqeqeshi owenza intshukumo engakhange axoxe kuqala, okanye ukucebisa ukuba ufumane umqeqeshi omtsha, kufuneka aphakamise iflegi ebomvu.

Kodwa ukuba unesiqhelo nje sokuwela wonke umyaleli odibana naye, ungathatha lula. Kwenzeka, kwaye kulungile. Ukuba kuphela iipakethi ezintandathu kwakulula ukuzibamba.

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