Ubomi obungenayo i-Orgasm: Abasetyhini aba-3 babelana ngamabali abo

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Ukuchaza intswelo, kufuneka uqale ngokuchonga into ekufuneka uyigcwalise; Ukuthetha nge-anorgasmia yabasetyhini, okokuqala kuya kufuneka uthethe nge-orgasm. Sidla ngokuthetha sijikeleze, sikunika iziqhulo ezimnandi: "Omkhulu O," "isiphelo esikhulu." Mhlawumbi ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ayinangcaciso enye, eyamkelweyo jikelele. Idla ngokuba sisiphumo sovuselelo ngokwesondo, kodwa hayi rhoqo. Iingcali zonyango zijolise ekuphenduleni komzimba ekuphumeni kwegazi ukuya kwizitho zangasese, ukuqina kwemisipha kunye nokunciphisa-njengesiseko se-orgasm, ngelixa iingcali zeengqondo zijonge kwiinguqu zengqondo kunye nokuqonda okuhamba nayo, njengokukhawuleza kwekhemikhali yomvuzo, i-dopamine, ukuya ingqondo. Noko ke, xa kufikwa kuyo, ekuphela kwendlela yokuqiniseka ukuba umntu wasetyhini uye wafumana i-orgasm kukuba uzixelele ngokwakhe.

"Uya kuyazi xa isenzeka," abafazi abaye bafumana i-orgasm bacebisa abo bangenayo, ngendlela esiye sacetyiswa ngayo ukuba silinde ixesha lethu lokuqala-ngokungathi i-orgasms yethu yokuqala ziziganeko eziza kwenzeka kuthi, wayeza kufumana, njengesipho esithile esivela kuThixo. Kodwa, kuthekani ukuba i-orgasm ayifuni xa sifuna-okanye konke?

UKayla, oneminyaka engama-25 ubudala, ulwalamano olude kunye nolwabelana ngesondo alubiza ngokuba "uyabacingela kwaye uyabaxhasa." Akazange afike kuvuthondaba-eyedwa okanye kunye neqabane. Uthi: “Engqondweni, bendisoloko ndivuleleke kakhulu engqondweni yam ngesini. "Ndihlala ndinomdla malunga nayo kwaye ndinomdla wokuzama, kwaye ndenza i-masturbated ukususela kumncinci, ngoko akukho nto ingcinezelo apho ... Andifuni ukukholelwa ukuba kukho into ephosakeleyo ngam ngokwengqondo okanye ngokwenyama-ndikhetha ukukholelwa ukuba kukuphumelela ukudityaniswa kwazo zombini.

U-Kayla uqikelelwa kwi-10 ukuya kwi-15 leepesenti yabasetyhini abane-anorgasmia, okanye ukungakwazi ukufikelela kwi-orgasm emva kokuvuselelwa "okwaneleyo" ngokwesini-hayi ukuba sinenkcazo enye "eyaneleyo," nokuba, okanye ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni ebangela i-anorgasmia. (Asiqinisekanga nakunqanaba lokuchaneka kwelo nani likhankanyiweyo kangange-10 ukuya kwi-15 leepesenti.) "Asazi nyani ukuba zikhona na izizathu ze-anorgasmia," utshilo uVanessa Marin waseSan-Francisco. . "Ndingathi mhlawumbi ngama-90 ukuya kuma-95 eepesenti yabasetyhini abanale ngxaki, kungenxa yokuba banolwazi olungelulo okanye ukungabikho kolwazi, iintloni zesini, khange bazame kangako, okanye kukho uxinzelelo-lukhulu." [Ukufumana ibali elipheleleyo, yiya kuRefinery29!]

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