Ukubaleka ngengqondo kunokukunceda njani ukuba ufumane iZithintelo zendlela edlulileyo

Umxholo

• Ngabaleka njani ngokuSebenza
• Oko kubaleka okuQinisekisayo okwesihlandlo sokuqala ~ Ngokwenene ~ Kunje
• Indlela Ukubaleka Ngobulumko Kundifundise Ngayo Ukuba Ndomelele kunokuba Ndicinga
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Bendikumsitho mva nje wokukhululwa kwe Vumela Ingqondo Yakho ibaleke, Incwadi entsha evela kwi-Olimpiki yomdyarho we-Olimpiki uDeena Kastor, xa wakhankanya ukuba eyona ndawo ayithandayo yokubaleka i-26.2 iza mzuzu eqala ukusokola. Xa ndifika apho, eyona nto ndiyicingayo kuqala kukuba, 'Hayi,' utshilo. "Kodwa ke ndiyakhumbula, kulapho ndifumana khona ukwenza umsebenzi wam ongcono kakhulu. Kulapho ndifumana khona ukukhanya kwaye ndibe ngcono kunomntu endinguye kulo mzuzu. Ndifumana ukutyhala imida yam yomzimba kunye nemida yam yengqondo, ngoko ke Ndonwabile kakhulu ngala mathuba. "

Ngokuqinisekileyo ayinguye wonke umntu ocinga ngengqondo. Ndingahamba nditsho ukuba ababaninzi abantu Yonwabele Inxalenye yexesha elide xa uqaphela ukuba kunzima kangakanani kwaye uqale ukubuza ukuba kutheni uyenza. Kodwa xa ujonga uluhlu lukaKastor lwempumelelo yemarathon kunye nokuqhekeka ngokukhawuleza okungathethekiyo (umyinge wesantya semizuzu emi-6), kufanele kubekho into kulo mxholo wonke wokuzisa ingqondo kunye nokucinga okuhle kunye nawe xa usendleleni, akunjalo?

Ngokwam, bendihleli ndiyimeko eyintloko ngelixa ndibaleka. Ndigqibile umdyarho omnye, kwaye uloyiko lwam olukhulu kulo lonke uqeqesho kwaye ngexesha lomdyarho yayikukuba ndibethe indlela yengqondo kwaye ndoyike yonke imayile elandelayo. (Ngombulelo, lonto khange yenzeke ngemini yomdyarho.) Ndaye ndomelela ngezo nyanga ndakhokelela kuzo-ndafunda ukuyeka ukubala iimayile kwaye ndonwabele nje ixesha lam endleleni.

Kodwa ukusukela oko kugqatso luka-2016, ndiye ndabuya ndaphinda ndangena kwisinyathelo ngasinye kumzamo wokufumana nje i-mileage. Emva koko ndeva ngabantu abazama ukucamngca ngelixa bebaleka-okanye bebaleka ngengqondo, ukuba uyathanda. Ngaba oko kusebenza ngokwenene? Ngaba kunokwenzeka? Akukho ndlela yokwazi ungakhange uzame ngokwakho, ndiye ndathatha umceli mngeni. *Yenza uvalo.*

Into kukuba, andisoloko ndithanda ukubakhona ngengqondo xa ndibaleka. Ngapha koko, umbono wokuba ungowomzuzu uhlobo loloyiko kum. Ndacinga ukuba oko kuya kuthetha ukuba zininzi iingcamango malunga nokuba imilenze yam ibuhlungu kangakanani okanye kunzima kangakanani ukuphefumla okanye kufuneka ndisebenze kwifomu yam. Ngaphambili, kwakubonakala ngathi eyona ndlela yam ibalekayo yayiziintsuku endizininzi ngaphandle kweeteki zam: uluhlu olude lwengqondo lwezinto ekufuneka zenziwe, amabali okubhala, abahlobo ukuba bafowune, amatyala okuhlawula. Ezo yayiziingcinga ezandifumana kumgama onamanani amabini-hayi eyona nto yayisenzeka emzimbeni wam okanye kwindawo endingqongileyo. Kodwa ngoku yayiyinjongo yam entsha kanye leyo: ukugxila kwinto kanye eyenzekayo ~ ngalomzuzu ~.

Ngabaleka njani ngokuSebenza

UKastor ushumayela amandla okutshintsha ukucinga okungalunganga ekubalekeni (nakubomi, ngokwenene) kwiingcinga ezilungileyo. Yindlela yokugcina ukutyhalela phambili kunye nokufumana intsingiselo entsha kwinyathelo ngalinye. UAndy Puddicombe, isiseko se-Headspace, esisandula ukudibana ne-Nike + Running ukukhupha ii-runful mindful, ikwaxhasa ukukhathalelwa njengendlela yokuvumela iingcinga ezingakhiyo ukuba zidade entlokweni yakho, emva koko zihambe ngaphandle-ngaphandle kokukuhlisa. (Funda ngakumbi malunga nendlela uDeena Kastor aqeqesha ngayo umdlalo wakhe wengqondo.)

"Le ngcamango yokukwazi ukujonga iingcinga, uyiqwalasele, kodwa ungazibandakanyi nebali labo ibaluleke kakhulu," utshilo uPuddicombe. Umzekelo, "inokuthi gqi ngengcinga yokuba ungacothisa isantya. Ungathenga kuloo ngcinga okanye ungayibona njengengcinga nje kwaye uqhubeke ubaleka ngokukhawuleza. Okanye xa kuphakama ingcinga ngathi, 'Andiziva ndifuna ukubaleka namhlanje, uyayiqonda njengengcinga kwaye uphume. "

I-Puddicombe ikwakhankanya ukubaluleka kokuqalisa ukubaleka kancinci kwaye uvumele umzimba wakho ukhululeke kuwo, endaweni yokutyhala isantya sakho kwasekuqaleni kwaye uzame ukuyenza. Ukwenza oko kufuna ukugxila kwindlela umzimba oziva ngayo ngokubaleka (kwakhona, icandelo endiloyikayo). "Abantu bahlala bezama ukuphuma kule nto ikhoyo, kodwa ukuba unokubakho ngokwenyathelo ngalinye, uya kuqala ukulibala malunga nokuba kukude kangakanani ukubaleka," utshilo. "Kwabaninzi abagijimi, loo nto imvakalelo yokukhulula ngenxa yokuba ufumanisa loo nto ihamba."

Ngoncedo lokucamngca i-Buddhify kunye ne-Headspace / Nike ebalekayo, yile nto kanye endizimisele ukuyenza-ukufumana ukuhamba kwam. Kwaye, ndiyathemba, eyona ikhawulezayo.

Oko kubaleka okuQinisekisayo okwesihlandlo sokuqala ~ Ngokwenene ~ Kunje

Ukuqala kwam ukuzama ukucamngca okukhokelwayo ngelixa ndibaleka kwakunomoya ovuthuzayo, kubanda kakhulu ngoAprili e-NYC. (Kwayiloo mini endafunda ngayo ukuba andikuthandi kangakanani ukubaleka emoyeni.) Ngenxa yokuba ndandilusizi, kodwa ndandifuna ngokwenene ukungena kuqeqesho lweemayile ezili-10 phambi kwesiqingatha semarathoni, ndagqiba ekubeni ndicinezele ukudlala kugqatso olusibhozo. -ukucamngca ngomzuzu wokuhamba kunye nokucamngca kwemizuzu eyi-12 ukusuka eBuddhify.

Izikhokelo zazibonakala ziluncedo ekuqaleni. Ndikonwabele ukucinga ngeenyawo zam zibetha emhlabeni kunye nendlela endinokuyenza ngayo intshukumo engcono emzimbeni wam kwaye isebenze ngakumbi kwisantya sam. Ndaye ke ndaqala ukubukela izinto (iFreedom Tower; i-Hudson River) kunye nevumba (lamanzi anetyuwa; inkunkuma). Kodwa ekugqibeleni, ndandingonwabanga kakhulu ukuba ndingagxila kwintetho yolonwabo, ngoko kwafuneka ndiyicime. Uyazi xa uzama ukulala, kodwa une-antsy ephezulu kwaye ucinga ukuba ukucamngca kuya kukusa kwi-REM, kodwa ngokwenene kuyakucaphukisa kuba kukuxelela ukuba uphumle kwaye wena ngokwasemzimbeni awukwazi? Oko kushwankathela amava am ngaloo mini.

Okwangoku, andizange ndinikezele kumaphupha am anengqondo asebenzayo. Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva koko, ndazilungiselela ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo ye-Nike / Headspace, apho uPuddicombe kunye no-Nike babaleka umqeqeshi uChris Bennett (kunye nokubonakala kuka-Olympian Colleen Quigley) bathetha nawe ngeemayile, bekuxelela into omele uyenze kwi umzimba kunye nokukukhuthaza ukuba ugcine ingqondo yakho kwimayile nganye. Bakwaxoxa ngamava abo ngokubaleka kunye nendlela ukucinga ngalo mzuzu kubancede njani ukuba baphumelele ekubalekeni. (Idibeneyo: Iimbaleki ezi-6 zeBoston Marathon zabelana ngeeNgcebiso zazo zokwenza iiMbaleki ezinde ukuba zonwabe)

Ewe, ezinye iingcamango zezabelo kunye nemisebenzi engakhange iqwalaselwe zisangena engqondweni yam. Kodwa olu vavanyo lwalundikhumbuza ukuba ukubaleka akusoloko kufuna usukelo olubekiweyo. Inokubonelela nje umzuzwana kum, indlela yokusebenza kwimpilo yam (ngokwengqondo kunye nomzimba) ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngazo zonke izinto ekufuneka ndizifezekise. Ndiyakwazi ukuqala ngokukhawuleza kwaye ndilibale ngesantya sam, ndivele nje ngombono wokubeka inyawo elinye phambi kwelinye.

Eyona nto incede nangakumbi yayikukuthetha noPuddicombe malunga namandla okunikela ingqalelo kumzimba wakho kunye nokuba inyathelo ngalinye lizisa ntoni. Ukusuka kuye, ndifunde ukuba kunceda kangakanani ukuqonda ukungahambi kakuhle kwexesha elide, elinzima, kodwa ungakuvumeli oko kutshabalalise konke ukuzilolonga. Oko kubandakanya ukuvumela ingcinga yemilenze ediniweyo okanye amagxa aqinileyo agqithe kwingqondo yam-kwaye aphume kwelinye icala, ukuze ndikwazi ukugcina ukujonga kwamehlo kwentaka kuzo zonke izinto ezilungileyo malunga nokubaleka.

Indlela Ukubaleka Ngobulumko Kundifundise Ngayo Ukuba Ndomelele kunokuba Ndicinga

Ndibeke ngokwenene lo vavanyo lokujonga izinto ndingalunganga xa ndiqala ukufikelela kwi-5K PR kwiveki ephelileyo. (Injongo yam ye-2018 kukuphula iirekhodi zam ezimbalwa kwiintlanga.) Ndaya kumgca wokuqala kunye nesantya esingaphantsi kweemitha ezili-9 engqondweni. Ndigqibele ngomndilili we-7: 59 ndigqibe ngo-24: 46. Eyona nto intle kakhulu, kukuba ndikhumbula umzuzu othile ngeyure ezintathu, apho nditshitshise ingcinga "ngekhe uyenze le". "Ndiva ngathi ndiza kufa, kwaye ndicinga ukuba ndifuna ukuthoba isantya," ndatsho ngaphakathi kum, kodwa ndaphendula kwangoko, "kodwa andiyiyo, kuba ndibaleka nzima kwaye ndomelele." Oku kundenze ndancuma phakathi kugqatso kuba, ngaphambili, ngendivumele laa ngcinga imbi ukuba ibe "kutheni ugqibe ukwenza oku?" okanye "mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka uthathe ikhefu ekubalekeni emva kokugqitywa koku."

Le nkqubo yokucinga intsha indenze ndafuna ukubuyela endleleni ingekuko kuphela kugqatso (nangamaxesha akhawulezayo) kodwa nakwiimayile ezingaqhelekanga apho ndinokuthi ndijolise khona kum nakumzimba wam. Bendingatsho ukuba ndijonge phambili kuhlobo lomzabalazo ophakathi ebaleka uKastor uthetha ngawo, kodwa ndichulumancile kukubona indlela endinokuqhubeka ngayo ukomeleza ingqondo yam kanye ecaleni kwemilenze yam.

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