U-Mindy Kaling Wabelana ngokuSebenza kwakhe okuthandayo kunye neNdlela yakhe yokuLahla ubunzima bomntwana

Umxholo

• "Ndiye ndafunda ukuxabisa ixesha elincinci."
• "Ndifumene indlela elula yokususa ubunzima bomntwana."
• "Ngoku ndenza iintlobo ezintathu ezahlukeneyo zokuzilolonga."
• "Kum, ukutya bubomi."
• "Njengabafazi, sinomqolo omnye nomnye."
• "Amandla kunye nokuzithemba zezona zinto zibalulekileyo-ixesha."
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UMindy Kaling akangomntu wokuma ngxi. Nokuba ngumsebenzi wakhe, ukusebenza kwakhe, okanye ubomi bakhe basekhaya, "Ndihlala ndifuna ukwenza into entsha neyahlukileyo," utshilo umdlali weqonga, umbhali kunye nomvelisi. "Ndiyathanda iindidi."

Kulo nyaka uphelileyo uye walugqitha olo sukelo. U-Mindy udlala kwii-megamovies ezimbini-abasetyhini ekulindeleke ngokushushu Ulwandle lwesi-8, evula i-8 kaJuni, ukongeza kwi Ukushwabana Ngexesha; Wenza i-cocreated, ubhalela, kunye neenkwenkwezi Iintshatsheli, Inkqubo entsha yeTV kwi-NBC; wathenga indlu; kwaye, ewe, wayenomntwana, uKatherine (Kit elifutshane) uKaling, phakathi kuDisemba. “Kuyaphambana,” utsho uMindy ngobomi bakhe obuzele yimfeketho. Kwangaxeshanye, nangona kunjalo, ubonakala engothuswa kwaphela yiyo. Kuba ukuba ngumama, ngendlela engaqhelekanga, inike uMindy ibhalansi entsha. (Idibeneyo: Ingqondo iyathetha ngokujongana 'noMama oTyala' njengoMzali ongatshatanga)

Ubomi ngaphambi kweKit babufana nomsebenzi. UMindy, oneminyaka engama-38, uyayithanda into ayenzayo, kwaye wayesemsebenzini de wabeleka waza wabuyela kuwo emva kweentsuku ezimbini ezelwe, ehlela kwaye efowunela inkomfa. Kodwa ukuba ngumama kuye kwenza uMindy ukuba axabise ezinye iinkalo zobomi bakhe ngakumbi. “Kuyandikhathaza ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba ndinomntu ekhaya ongafuni nje ukundibona kodwa kufuneka andibone,” utshilo uMindy. "Kuyavuza ngendlela emangalisayo. Xa umntu ekudinga ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye nabo bafana nawe, yimvakalelo emnandi kakhulu."

Njengoko exoxa ngesidlo sakusasa sejusi eluhlaza, i-omelet yemifuno, iifriji zasekhaya, kunye necala lesausage (isicwangciso sakhe sokutya: Cwangcisa into oyifunayo kwaye uyidle isiqingatha sayo), iMindy intsha isuka kuqeqesho kunye nomqeqeshi omtsha. "BendikwiVersaClimber," utshilo. "Ngaba ukhe wayenza loo nto? Kunzima kakhulu!" Kodwa kufanelekile, kwincwadi kaMindy. "Ndiyakuthanda ukusebenza," watsho, amehlo akhe ekhanya. "Andiyi kunyango, kwaye ndicinga ukuba kungenxa yokuba ndifumana ii-endorphins kwimithambo. Esi sisixhobo esinamandla kum engqondweni. Ndiyazi ukuba ukusebenza ayisiyondlela yokuba ndibhityile. Kuhlobo lomzimba wam, oko Oku kubandakanya ukutya kakuhle nokwenza ukhetho olusempilweni. Ukusebenza ngaphandle yindlela yokuba ndibe namandla engqondo, kwaye ngoku, ndinomntwana, ikwalixesha lokuba ndizenzele kwaye ndijolise emzimbeni wam. (ICYDK, uMindy uhlala eyigcina eyinyani xa kuziwa ekubeni sempilweni.)

Ulufikelela njani olo manyano lugqibeleleyo lwempilo, onwabile, kwaye exakeke ngendlela afuna ukuba yiyo? Kuthatha ubuchule obuthile, uMindy uyavuma. Apha, usizalisa ngento emsebenzelayo.

"Ndiye ndafunda ukuxabisa ixesha elincinci."

"Andizange ndiyiqonde indlela endiya kuba ngumama omtsha ngayo endlwini yam. Ndandicinga ukuba ndingazisa umntwana kunye nam kuyo yonke indawo. Andizange ndikholelwe ukuba rhoqo kwiiyure ezintathu kufuneka ndibe sekhaya. Ndimtyise.Ndandihambe ndihamba ngala majonjana aphuma endlini,azive ngathi ziihambo zasemfihlakalweni nezingekho mthethweni.Kwakumnandi ke oko,kwakwenza ubomi bam bubengathi buyamangalisa.Into eyandincedayo kukuba ndivele ndihlale. ndangena emzini wam, kwakumnandi ukuwuqhekeza.Ndandicinga ukuba mandiyondle intombi yam kwigumbi lethu lokuphumla elitsha lodidi, kwaye apho ndahlala nayo, kwakungathi, oh, yinyani le. intle." (Inxulumene: OoMama bokwenyani baKwabelana ngokuBenza njani abantwana ukuba baFlowhe iZimvo zabo malunga nokuLunga)

"Ndifumene indlela elula yokususa ubunzima bomntwana."

"Ngenxa yokuba ndiyakuthanda ukutya, kwaye andikabikho ekuqaleni, ndandisazi ukuba xa ndifumana ubunzima obuninzi ngexesha lokukhulelwa kwam, izinto zinokusuka nje zibhabhe ngendlela embi kakhulu. Leyo yinto endandiyidinga ngokuqinisekileyo. Ugqirha wam wathi abafazi abafumana nje i-25 ukuya kwi-30 yeepawundi bahlala benengxaki yokuphulukana nayo emva kokuba umntwana ezelwe. ndikhulelwe, ndenza i-yoga eninzi kwaye ndihamba-hamba kakhulu, kwaye ndandibaleka de ndingasakwazi ukubaleka, ndenza umthambo kwada kwasa ndibeleka, kananjalo, malunga neveki emva kokuba ndinomntwana, ndaqala ukuhamba zeemayile ngosuku. Andikucebisi ukuba wonke umntu, ngokucacileyo, kodwa andizange ndibe naloo nto inzima yokuhambisa. Zonke ezo zinto zaziluncedo ngokwenene xa zifika ekunciphiseni ubunzima. (Zama ukuzivocavoca emva kokukhulelwa ukuze wakhe kwakhona isiseko esomeleleyo.)

"Ngoku ndenza iintlobo ezintathu ezahlukeneyo zokuzilolonga."

"Ndisebenza izihlandlo ezine ukuya kwezihlanu ngeveki xa ndingadubuliyo. Ndiyathanda ukudibanisa ukusebenza kwam: ndiza kwenza iklasi ye-SoulCycle, iklasi yokuqeqesha amandla kunye nomqeqeshi wam, kunye neyoga kanye ngeveki. Kumntu othile nobuntu bam, obuthandabuzekayo okanye obungenangqondo, kulungile kum ukuba ndenze i-yoga kwaye ndiyithathe ngokwexabiso. Yindlela yam yokuzama ukubuyela ezingcanjini zam. "

"Kum, ukutya bubomi."

"Ndiyakuthanda konke ukutya: i-sushi, i-Ethiopia, i-French, i-spicy, iilekese. Kwaye ndikhuliswe ndacoca ipleyiti yam, kwaye kuye kwafuneka ndivumelane nenyani yokuba akukho mfuneko yokuba nditye yonke into ekhoyo. Ngoko ke ngeentsuku ezithile, ndiyigcina isempilweni entle, kusasa ndizama ukuba namaqanda kuba kulula ukuwapheka nokuba unengxaki yokupheka njengam. Iba nesinye kwisithathu seavokhado kunye neqhekeza lika Ezekiel elithosiwe ngebhotolo.Loo nto indizalisa ixesha elide kakhulu.Ndiza kuba nesaladi enkulu yesidlo sasemini kunye nenkukhu okanye intlanzi ngaphezulu.Isidlo sangokuhlwa, ukuba ndisekhaya, Ndiza kupheka into esempilweni efana neqatha le salmon kunye nesipinatshi.Kodwa ukuba ndiyaphuma, ndiza kuyala nantoni na endiyifunayo ndize ndiyitye isiqingatha sayo, ngaloo ndlela ndiya kungcamla yonke into. . Mhlawumbi ndineebini okanye ezintathu kuzo ngeveki, nokuyinto evuyisayo. ENew York, amamenyu e-cocktail kwezinye zezi ndawo zokutyela ayamangalisa. Oko kuphucula amava am okutya.

"Njengabafazi, sinomqolo omnye nomnye."

"Ndiva ngathi ndenze kuphela nabasetyhini kule minyaka mibini idlulileyo, nto leyo iyamangalisa. Phakathi Ukushwabana Ngexesha kwaye Ulwandle lwesi-8, Ndicinga ukuba ndisebenze naye wonke umdlali odumileyo eHollywood. Kuyahlekisa, kuba nini Ocean's Eleven Ukufota, ubuya kufunda malunga nokuba yayiyintoni na imeko enjalo kwaye uGeorge Clooney wayezodlala umdlalo kubo bonke abantu. Yandenza ndaqonda ukuba xa amadoda esiya kubukela imuvi kangangeenyanga ezimbini okanye ezintathu, ashiya iintsapho zawo ekhaya. Kodwa abafazi bahamba neentsapho zabo. Ke bendingaboni nje iinkwenkwezi ezinkulu njengoSandra Bullock noCate Blanchett ngaphandle kobomi babo bonke. Bonke ubomi babo babenabo, kwaye ndadibana namaqabane nabantwana. Oko kwakumnandi. UCate noSandy bobabini banabantwana abancinci abaziphethe kakuhle kwaye bonwabile, kwaye kufuneka ndifunde okuninzi malunga nendlela ababa ngayo abazali kwaye ndibabuze itoni yemibuzo. Iqela lethu laloo movie lisaqinile. Sithumela umyalezo ngalo lonke ixesha. "

"Amandla kunye nokuzithemba zezona zinto zibalulekileyo-ixesha."

"Ndonwabile ukuba intombi yam indibone ndisebenza kwaye ndiyazi ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo ebomini bam. Andikhuliswanga ngale ndlela, kwaye ndicinga ukuba xa ungayiboni loo nto njengomntwana, kunzima nyani ukuyichola bendingathanda ukuba afunde esemncinane ukuba umthambo ngumkhwa omkhulu ukuba nawo, zange ndifunde lonto de ndibena 24. Nam ndifuna azithembe. Ngolo hlobo ndingumntwana, kwaye ndifuna ukuba intombi yam izithembe ngalo lonke ixesha.Ndiza kuyenza loo nto ngokuthi ndihlale ndimenza azive ngathi ulungile kwaye angonqeni ukuphawula. kancinci kuba ndingumntu othanda ukugxeka, wezinto endisebenza kuzo-kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu kum ukuqinisekisa ukuba ndibethelela ukuzithemba kwintombi yam. "

Ukufumana okungakumbi kwi-Mindy, chola umba kaJuni Ubume, Kwivenkile yeendaba ngoMeyi 16.

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