Uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba abantu basetyhini bakhetha i-Dadbod kwiPakethi emithandathu

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Oko eli gama laqulunqwa kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, i "dadbod" iye yaba yinto yenkcubeko. I-ICYMI, udadbod ubhekisa kumfana ongatyebanga kakhulu kodwa ongenalo ithoni yezihlunu. Ngokusisiseko, utata kufuneka abizwe ngokuba "ngumntu oqhelekileyo." Njengoko sabonisa xa yayiqala ukuba *into*, iyoyikeka into yokuba amadoda ngoku akhuthazwe ukuba azive ekhululekile ngomzimba osempilweni kodwa ongekho ncam.

Kodwa kuthekani ngeemombods? Okulusizi kukuba, nakwiminyaka kamva, sisalinde ukulingana kwabasetyhini ukuba bangene.

Abadlali abafana noLeonardo DiCaprio, uJason Segel, kunye noJon Hamm banconywa ngokukwazi kwabo ukukhululeka ngenkangeleko ethambileyo, engenazihlunu, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo abanangxaki yokufumana umsebenzi eHollywood. I-DiCaprio iyakwazi nokuzingqonga ngobonelelo oluncinci olungenasiphelo lweemodeli ezishushu ezishushu ngaphandle kwemeko katata wakhe. Nangona kunjalo xa uRihanna eqala ukubonakala egobile, wayenentloni. (Ngethamsanqa, i-Twitter yathatha isini esine-hole esinoxanduva.)

Kwaye kuvavanyo olwenziweyo kodwa olunomtsalane olwenziwe ngembeko yoSuku lukaTata yiPlanethi yokuQiniseka, indawo yokuzivocavoca eyenza ukuba ifikeleleke kwaye ingoyiki abantu bazo zonke iintlobo zomzimba (oko kukuthi, umsebenzi oyoyikekayo), abaphandi bafumanise ukuba abafazi intle kakhulu entle ngenkangeleko dadbod. Ngapha koko, iziphumo zabo zibonisa ukuba abasetyhini banokuba khetha ibe kumzimba onezihlunu ngakumbi. Uphando lubandakanya malunga ne-2,000 yabantu bebonke, kwaye i-69 yepesenti yabasetyhini abathathe inxaxheba bathi bafumene ii-dadbods ezithandekayo. Kwaye iipesenti ezingama-47 zabasetyhini ekuhlolisiswe nabo bathi bacinga ukuba i-dadbod "yipakethi entsha ezintandathu." Ezinye zezinto ezifunyanisiweyo zacebisa ukuba abafazi bacinga ukuba amadoda ane-dadbods enza ngcono "izinto zomtshato." (Kuya kufuneka uyithathe ithiyori yokugqibela ngokhozo lwetyuwa.)

Nanku umkhabi: Abathathu kwabahlanu (malunga neepesenti ezingama-60) zamadoda azichonga njengabanodadodi abavakalelwa ngathi bagwetywa ngokungafaneleki ngakumbi. Ngaba unokucinga ukuba elo nani liphezulu kubasetyhini abangacingelwa ukuba banomzimba "ofanelekileyo"?

Ngaba sinokufumana nje i-WTF? Ewe kunjalo kakhulu ukuba amadoda angaziva ekhululekile ukuba ngubani ngaphandle koloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngamaqabane anokubakho-yinkqubela phambili ngokuqinisekileyo. Kwaye kuyamangalisa ukuba inani elibalulekileyo labasetyhini baqaphela ukuba i-rock-hard abs ayifumaneki kumntu wonke. Kodwa ngaba unokucinga ukuba inani elifanayo labafana likhetha umfazi onesisu esingacaba? Okanye besithi bangathanda ukutshata nomntu othambileyo kancinci emacaleni kunomfazi ojongeka njenge-supermodel? Kuyoyikeka emadodeni ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini bafumanisa ukuba isisu esithambileyo esinxulumene ne-dadbod sinomtsalane (ngoko le survey kunjalo), kodwa eyona nto iphambili yile, ayihambi zimbini iindlela. Njengomzekelo we-plus-size, umama, kunye nommeli womzimba, uTess Holliday, kutshanje uye wabonisa, "Abafazi abatyebileyo njengoomama baphangwa ubulili bethu."

Kwaye nangaphezulu koko, ngaba thina ngokwenene kufuneka sibhiyozele indlela izinto ezimangalisayo ngayo kwimifanekiso yomzimba yamadoda ngoku, ngexesha apho ukufikelela kulawulo lokuzalwa kuyancipha, abasetyhini abaninzi abanakukwazi ukuthatha ikhefu lokubeleka, kwaye kubonakala kungenakwenzeka ukuya kwi-app yokuthandana. ngaphandle kokufumana iintloni ezityebileyo?

Nangona le meko ikhankanywe ngasentla kaLeonardo DiCaprio vs. Rihanna ngumzekelo omhle wendlela le migangatho ephindwe kabini edlala ngayo, olona setyenziso luqaqambileyo lusehlabathini lokwenyani. Abasetyhini abatyebe ngokugqithiseleyo basenethuba elincinci lokufumana umsebenzi kunabafazi ababhityileyo. Kodwa xa kuziwa kumadoda ekuzingeleni umsebenzi, ukutyeba kakhulu akuwabuyiseli umva phantse kangangoko, ngokophononongo olupapashwe ngo-2016. Imida kwiPsychology. Kubuza lo mbuzo: Kutheni iMelika ibathiyile kangaka abafazi abatyebileyo? Kukho into ekufuneka itshintshile, kwaye kufuneka iqale ngokuvuma ukuba imizimba yabasetyhini abatyebileyo mihle, nayo. Siyavuya ngawe ukuba ukulungele ukwamkela imizimba yakho, madoda, kodwa lixesha lokuba ucinge ngokwamkela eyethu, nayo-nokuba yeyiphi na imilo okanye ubungakanani.

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