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Umntu ophembelelayo usanda kuthumela iinkcukacha zendlela yakhe yasekuseni, ebandakanya ukwenza ikofu, ukucamngca, ukubhala kwijenali yokubulela, ukumamela ipodcast okanye iaudiobook, kunye nokuzolula, phakathi kwezinye izinto. Kuyabonakala ukuba, yonke le nkqubo ithatha iiyure ezimbini ezingaqhelekanga.

Jonga, akunakuphikwa ukuba kubonakala ngathi kuyathandeka, kwaye kuyathoba ukuqala usuku lwakho kunyawo lwasekunene. Kodwa, kubantu abaninzi, kubonakala kungenakwenzeka.

Iziva njani xa umntu oqhelekileyo, othwele ixesha ebabona abachaphazeli, abantu abadumileyo, okanye abantu abathembekileyo ababaziyo abanendlela yokuphila eyahlukileyo, ephindaphinda kubalulekile Uhlobo lwenkqubo yesiqhelo yakusasa-enye ebandakanya ii-latte ezenziwe kumatshini obiza kakhulu we-Starbucks-grade kunye ne-battalion yeemveliso ezinonophelo lolusu, konke kwenziwa ngokuchasene nomqolo wekhaya eligadiweyo ngokugqibeleleyo? Yothusa! Ayilunganga.

Ngapha koko, isiphumo sokuphinda ujonge ezi zinto "zigqibeleleyo" zingayonakalisa impilo yakho yengqondo, ngokukaTerri Bacow, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo kwikliniki kwisiXeko saseNew York. (Eyeleleneyo: Indlela iMedia yeNtlalo edumileyo eyichaphazela ngayo impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nomfanekiso womzimba)

"Abantu banelungelo, ndingaphikisana, babe nexesha elininzi, banemali eninzi, bane-bandwidth engaphezulu, uthi uBacow. "Ukuba unemisebenzi emibini, ukuba unzima ukufumana imali, awuyi kucinga. ye [ukudala olu hlobo lwesiqhelo ekuseni] njengeqhinga lokumelana. Uninzi lweengqondo lubilisa ukuzithemba. Ukubona lo mxholo akuncedi, ngakumbi xa sele uziva ngathi awuzithembanga "

Kwaye abantu abaninzi zi Ndiziva ndingakhuselekanga ngoku. Mhlawumbi ungumzali uzama ukulawula ukusebenza ekhaya ngaphandle kokhathalelo lomntwana.Mhlawumbi ungomnye wabantu abaninzi abaphulukene nomsebenzi ngexesha lobhubhane. Mhlawumbi ulwela ukuxhoma kubuhlobo bakho. Nokuba imeko ithini na, ukuba sele unexhala lokuba awuhlangabezani nezinto ezilindelweyo kwindawo enye yobomi, le miyalezo malunga “nendlela yokuphila ubomi bakho obungcono rhoqo kusasa” inokwenza loo mvakalelo ibe mandundu, kuchaza uBacow. Kwaye nokuba awuziva ngathi uyasilela, ibali ekufuneka ulibeke phambili ekuzinyamekeleni ngaphambi kokuba uqale usuku lwakho lingahle libeyinto encinci. Njengokuba bekungekho xi ngokwaneleyo ukuba uyeke ukubetha iqhosha lokusnuza (okt ukwenza njalo kungakwenza ube groggy), ngoku uxelelwa ukuba kufuneka uvuke kwangoko kwangoko ukuze ube nexesha elaneleyo lokwenza i-litany izinto ukuba ufuna impilo entle. (Idibeneyo: Abasebenzi aba-10 abaNtsundu abaBalulekileyo abaBelana ngoKwenza kwabo ukuziKhathalela ngexesha loBhubhane)

“Ukuze ndicace, ndicinga ukuba ukuzikhathalela kubaluleke kakhulu,” utshilo uBacow. "Kodwa ndicinga ukuba ithathelwe kancinci kwaye mhlawumbi iya kwicala elincinci ... elongezelelweyo. Kufana nento enetyhefu ye-positivity. Yinto eninzi kakhulu. [Ndifunde inqaku apho umbhali] wathi ukuzikhathalela kusebenza ngcono xa uthabathe ukongeza. abantu bacinga 'mandongeze ukucamngca. mandidibanise iyoga.' Kodwa ngubani onexesha?Uphikisa ngelithi ukuzikhathalela ngokwenene kusebenza ngcono xa uthatha izinto icimile isitya sakho. Oko kuye kwavakala kum njengomzali. "

Kubazali, ngakumbi, ukubona okusiqhelo ngesiqulatho sakusasa kungangqinelani (kunye nokuzithemba), utsho uBacow noAmanda Schuster, bobabini ngoomama babini. USchuster, umphathi ongumongikazi oneminyaka engama-29 ubudala eToronto, ukhumbula efika kwividiyo ka-Instagram yomntu obenempembelelo ebonisa inkqubo yakhe yasekuseni nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa. Ividiyo ibandakanya ukufaka iimveliso zokhathalelo lolusu (ezibonakala ziyinxalenye yesithuba esixhaswe) kunye nokugoba usana lwakhe ebhedini eyenziwe ngobugcisa. USchuster, okholelwa ukuba olu hlobo lomxholo lunokwenza abanye oomama bazive ngathi bayasilela, waziva enyanzelekile ukuba ahlomle kwaye abonise ukuba ividiyo ayisiyiyo indlela intsasa ejongeka ngayo kuninzi lwabazali abatsha.

“Ukuqala kwam ukubona [ividiyo] yandicaphukisa,” utshilo uSchuster. "Ukubona umntu exoka ngokungafihlisiyo kwintengiso yokwazisa bekuyinto encinci kum, ngakumbi njengomama, ndisazi ukuba kuyityhefu kangakanani ukubona olo hlobo lokuphila kwimidiya yoluntu. Sonke siyazi ukuba ayiyonyani, kodwa kulutsha Umama ongenayo inkqubo yenkxaso okanye ojonga kumajelo asekuhlaleni ngale nkqubo yenkxaso kwaye ebona oko kungenakwenzeka, kunokuba yingozi kakhulu.

Ugqirha uKiaundra Jackson, L.M.F.T, uyavuma ukuba abazali ngabona basesichengeni kakhulu kule miyalezo. Uthi: "Uninzi loomama alunakuhlamba okanye lusebenzise igumbi langasese ngoxolo, kungasathethwa ke ngokuba nentsingiselo yeeyure ezimbini zasekuseni," utshilo. "Imithombo yeendaba zentlalo ilungile kodwa ikwindawo ethile, i-facade. Ndibona abantu abonwabileyo kuba becinga ukuba kufanelekile ukuba baphile le ndlela yokuphila igqibeleleyo. Ubomi babo bujongeka bohluke kakhulu kuleyo, kwaye baziva ngathi ikhona into ayilunganga. "

Ngale miqolomba engqondweni, uJackson noBacow bayavuma ukuba iinkqubo zentsasa zi iseyinto elungileyo-akufuneki babandakanyeke njengabo uhlala ubona kwi-Intanethi.

Ukwazi into onokuyilindela kunye nokwenza imikhwa yenza ukuba kube nocwangco kunye nolawulo, utshilo uBacow. Ukuba nolwakhiwo kunciphisa uxinzelelo noxinzelelo. "Kodwa indlela yesiqhelo ayidingi ukuba yeyesithambiso seeyure ezimbini ... okanye intle. Ifuna nje ukuba ilawulwe kwaye ibandakanye ukuphindwaphindwa." Ukuphindaphinda kubalulekile ekudaleni isiqhelo kuba kubandakanya " ukuqhelana kukhokelela ekuthuthuzelekeni nasekuthuthuzelekeni, kwakhona, kukhuthaza imvakalelo yokulawula kunye nokuphila kakuhle. "

"Zininzi izinto ezingaphaya kwamandla ethu, kwaye siyakhula ngokungaguquguquki," utshilo uJackson. "Yiloo nto ngokwenene iinkqubo zasekuseni kunye neendlela zasebusuku - oko kuhambelana kusenza sizive sisekelwe. Kuzisa inqanaba lozinzo oluthuthuzela abantu. "

Ukwafuna ukugcina izinto zilula xa kuziwa ekudaleni indlela esebenzayo yakusasa. "Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubhetyebhetye kwaye wenze ukuba ikusebenzele," utshilo iBascow. "Ukuba inkqubo ayiyonyani okanye ayifezeki, kunokwenzeka ukuba iqhekeke, nto leyo engalunganga kukuzithemba." (Idibeneyo: Kutheni le nto kufuneka siyeke ukubiza abantu "Superwomxn")

UJackson uthi: “Zinike ixesha leyona nto uyixabisa ngokwenene. Ukuba uxabisa umthandazo kusasa okanye ulolonga umzimba, unokufumana indlela yokwenza. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kuba lula okanye i-IG-ifanele. "Inokuba kuvula ividiyo yokuzilolonga kwaye unomntwana omnye engalweni yakho ngelixa uzama ukwenza i-squats," utshilo. Kwaye ukuba wena ngekhe ufumane indlela yokwenza okanye unamathele kwisiqhelo? Musa ukuzibetha. "Ubomi buyenzeka," ugxininisa. "Ukuxakeka kuyenzeka, iishedyuli zomsebenzi ziyatshintsha, abantwana bavuka ezinzulwini zobusuku. Zininzi izinto ezahlukeneyo ezinokwenzeka." Kwaye rhoqo (ngakumbi okoko kwaqala ubhubhane), "kuya kufuneka unxibe iminqwazi yonke," uyongeza.

Bobabini uBacow kunye noJackson baqaphela ukuba ilungelo liye langena kwingcamango yoluntu malunga neendlela zokusa kunye nokuzinyamekela ngokubanzi. Kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo, ezo ngcamango zichazwe ngeendlela ezibeka ubunewunewu ngaphambili nakwiziko. Ngenxa yoko, unokuziva ufana nawe isidingo iipijama zesilika, amakhandlela amahle, ijusi eluhlaza eluhlaza, into yokuthambisa ebiza kakhulu, igajethi yomgangatho ophezulu yokomelela komzimba - kwaye iindlela zakho zemihla ngemihla kufuneka zakhiwe zijikeleze ezo zinto.

Kodwa inyani kukuba, awusileli ukuba awunalo ixesha kunye / okanye nezixhobo zokwenza iinkqubo zakusasa ezihambelana nezo zinefuthe lakho okanye umhlobo osisityebi onomntwana. Nokuba indlela yakho yesiqhelo ibandakanya ukuba nekomityi yekofu, ukumamela umculo ngelixa unxibile, okanye ukunika umntwana wakho ukugona ngaphambi kokuba usuku lwakho luqale .... isakukhonza.

Kwaye ukuba loo nto uyenza rhoqo kusasa-okt uskrola imithombo yeendaba yoluntu- akunjalo ukukhonza kakuhle? Ewe, mhlawumbi indlela yakho yesiqhelo ingaba ngcono ngaphandle kwayo. "Ukuba uvuka kwaye into yokuqala oyenzayo kukungena kwimidiya yoluntu kwaye ukhathazekile ngenxa yokuba omnye umntu utshatile kwaye awukho okanye omnye umntu usisityebi kwaye awukho, kwaye uthwala loo msindo kuyo yonke enye. yosuku, ayilunganga, ”utshilo uJackson. "Kodwa xa uqala ngento [entle], iguqula amandla akho ikubeke phezulu usuku lonke."

"Gxila kwizinto onokuzilawula," uyongeza. "Ukuba ufumana into enye okanye ezimbini onokuthi ubambelele kuzo, oko kuya kunceda impilo yakho yengqondo kwinqanaba eliphezulu kakhulu."

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