Patti Stanger: "Into endiyifundileyo ngothando"

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Ukuba nabani na uyazi ukuba kuthatha ntoni ukufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo, ngumlingisi we-extraordinaire UPatti Stanger. Umboniso weBravo ophumelele kakhulu kwaye ushushu ingxoxo kaBravo Usozimali Umlingisi, Ngokusekwe kwishishini lakhe lokufanisa ubomi bokwenyani iClub yeMillionaire kwaye ngoku ikwisizini yayo yesihlanu, ingasifundisa izifundo ezimbalwa ngobomi nothando. Ukubukela uStanger esebenza kunye nesisa sakhe soosozigidi abangamakhwenkwe ababi kufana nokubukela umatshini othanjiswe kakuhle. Isimbo sakhe esinenkalipho, esingenanjongo sinqumle i-shtick njengoko ekhonza ukuthatha oko kuthetha ukufumana uthando namhlanje. Kodwa phantsi kobuntu bakhe bokuzithemba, ukusika ekugxothweni kukho umntu onentliziyo entle, okomoya, nothando okholelwa ngokunzulu kumandla kunye nothando lothando lwenene.

eHarmony (eH): Ucinga ukuba yintoni efunwa ngumntu kwiqabane ukuze ubudlelwane buphumelele?

UPatti Stanger (PS): Ezi C zintathu: unxibelelwano, chemistry kunye nokuhambelana. Ngaphandle kwalonto, ubudlelwane buyaphela.

eH: Yintoni esifanele siyamkele ngathi ngaphambi kokuba singene kulwalamano?

PS: Inyaniso yokuba akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, inkanuko ihlala iphela kwaye ukungavisisani kwezezimali kungaphula ubudlelwane.

eH: Zeziphi ezona mpazamo zixhaphakileyo esizenzayo ukuzama ukufumana uthando lobomi bethu?

PS: Siya kwimihla sicinga ukuba lo mntu yindoda okanye umfazi wethu wexesha elizayo, ngaphandle kokubazi, njengoko siphila kwifantasy kunye nokukhohlisa kothando.

eH: Ngaba kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuthanda okanye ukuthandwa?

PS: Enye ayinakubakho ngaphandle komnye, ke zombini. Ukuba unika uthando kwaye ungalwamkeli, awukho kubudlelwane obuchanekileyo. Ukuba uyayifumana kwaye ungayiniki kunokuba usebenzise omnye umntu.

eH: Ngaba uyakholelwa eluthandweni ekuqaleni?

PS: Ewe, ndiyakholelwa kubomi obudlulileyo ekuqaleni kokubona, oko kuthetha ukuba ubazi kobunye ubomi kwaye unomzuzu wohlobo lwe-déjà vu apho ubaqaphela khona.

eH: Ungathi wawuqala nini ukufumana uthando?

PS: Kutshanje. Ndingu-51.

eH: Yintoni oyithandayo ngobomi bakho ngoku?

PS: Ukuba ndikhululekile kulusu lwam, ukuba ndinyaniseke ngokumangalisayo, phantse kwimpazamo, kwaye ndiyakwazi ukufowunela ukudubula ebomini bam ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka kwabanye. Ngaphezu koko, ndiziva eyona sexiest ndakha ndaziva.

eH: Luthetha ntoni uthando kuwe ngoku xa uthelekisa ne-10 leminyaka eyadlulayo?

PS: Lunxibelelwano olunzulu ngoku kunanini na ngaphambili, njengoko ndiyazi ukuba sobabini siyamkelana ngazo zonke iziphene zethu kwaye ndiyazi ukuba le iyakuhlala ihleli.

eH: Yintoni eyona nto inzima ngothando?

PS: Ukuyifumana.

eH: Ungabacebisa uthini abo basokola ukuzithanda- kunye nabo basajonge uthando?

PS: Yazi ukuba yonke into eyenzekayo inye, kwaye iresiphi eyimfihlo kukuzithanda, yiba nomonde kwaye uyazi, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, isendleleni eza kuwe.

eH: Ukulo msebenzi kunye nesikhundla esisodwa sokunceda abantu bafumane omnye kwaye ngethemba lokufumana uthando. Zeziphi ezona zinto zonelisayo nezophula intliziyo kule nto uyenzayo?

PS: Elona candelo lililo ngokuba ngumlingisi uyafumana iikhredithi ezulwini, njengoko ndikholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba ndisebenzela uThixo. Eyona nto imbi yeyokuba abadlali bematshisi bahlala belungisa wonke umntu, ukuya esibingelelweni, kodwa abafumani thando ngokwabo, ke bukrakra.

Ngakumbi kwiPatti, ndwendwela uPattiKnows.com.

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