Isikhokelo somsebenzisi: Makhe sithethe malunga nokulahlwa kobuntununtunu

Umxholo

• Ukwala ntoni ??
• Akusoloko kufuneka kube ngolu hlobo!

Ixesha lemibuzo! Masithi ekugqibeleni ugcine i-chutzpah eyaneleyo yokucima loo DM isengozini ngokweemvakalelo ubusoloko uyibeka.

Umamkeli uyayibona ngoko nangoko. Uyangqina impendulo ye-lil 'ellipse ilifu ivela njengoko kuchwetheza impendulo. Kodwa ngequbuliso…

Iyama kwaye iyagodola.

Awukayifumani impendulo emva kweeyure. Uya:

• A. Ngomonde linda impendulo yabo ecingayo.
• B. Ukubetha nge-GIF yokulandela kamnandi emva kosuku okanye nantoni na (mhlawumbi bayenzile loo nto apho baphendule khona kuphela kwi-DM entlokweni yabo kwaye balibale ukuphendula).
• C. Yazi ukuba bayakucaphukela, bahlala bekucaphukela-baya kukucaphukela de kube sekufeni kobushushu bendalo iphela-kwaye baqale inkqubo ebuhlungu yokuyila i-DM etshisayo ebhulorho. Obu budlelwane buphelile, Sara !?

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uphendule "A" okanye "B," ubonakala ulungelelaniswe kakuhle kwaye unokuqhubeka nokufunda ukuba uyafuna, kodwa yazi nje ukuba ndinomona kwaye ndiyacaphuka.

Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ingqondo yakho ikhathazekile njengam kwaye ubukade ungumdlali "C" ngapha nangapha, unokuba nakho ukufumana uphawu lwe-ADHD oluncinci olwaziwa njenge-rejection dysphoria (RSD).

Ukwala ntoni ??

Konke ukuhlekisa ecaleni, ukuhlangabezana noku kuyacaphukisa ngamanye amaxesha. Kwaye ukuyivumela ukuba ihambe ingakhange ibonwe kunokuba neziphumo ezibi ebomini bomntu.

Ngokuka-a, i-RSD inokushwankathelwa “njengotyekelo lokulindela ngexhala, ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza, kunye nokusabela ngamandla xa ungamkelwa.”

Kum, kufana nokubuyela umva kumandla amakhulu: Akukho ego-based molehill andinakukwazi ukuyiguqula ngomlingo ibe yintaba. Kwaye intaba iyandithiya kwaye ilungile kum kuba iyandisizela!

Kubonakalisa ukuba ndingumntu onzima-onwabisayo xa ndingakhuselekanga, okanye umvundla oxhalabileyo ukulungele ukubopha kuyo nantoni na endoyikisayo xa imida yam isongelwa kwaphela. Ezi ziimpawu uGqirha William Dodson azigubungela ngakumbi kwinqaku lephephancwadi i-ADDitude.

Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ayisiyonto intle kum nabantu abamele ukujongana nam.

Ugqirha wezengqondo u-Andrea Bonior, kwisiqwenga sango-2019, wenza ingcaciso ukuba oku akukathathwa njengesiphazamiso (kwaye asidweliswanga kwiDiagnostic and Statistical Manual of Disorders, iDSM-5) kodwa endaweni yoko “ Ukuqokelelana kweempawu ezisoloko zinxulunyaniswa nezinye iimeko ”njenge-ADHD, i-neuroticism, kunye nokuzithemba okuphantsi.

Ngaba uchonga naziphi na iimpawu ezinxulumene ne-RSD?

• ingcinga yokwaliwa izisa 'kwiipuke'
• ukuqonda kwakho konke ukuzixabisa kuxhomekeke kwinto abanye abantu abayicingayo ngawe
• uzibekela imigangatho eyi, uhhh, inyuke
• uhlala ulungiselela impembelelo kwiimeko apho unokwaliwa-okanye ubaleke kubo
• ukuzama nokusilela ukungena naphi na kukungonwabi rhoqo, ngokwasemzimbeni
• uyangxola xa ubona ukwaliwa okanye ukungahlonitshwa

`` Hayi, '' usenokuthi, "ukwaliwa yinto endiyithandayo, ayindonwabisi ukuyifumana! Ndinayo le nto? ” Mhlawumbi-mhlawumbi akunjalo!

Iingcali ezinje ngeBonior zenza umahluko phakathi kwe-RSD kunye nezinye iimeko zoxinzelelo, ezinje ngengxaki yoxinzelelo lwentlalo (SAD), ene nini kwaye ngubani enye ibangelwa.

Umntu one-SAD kunokwenzeka ukuba azive engonwabanga kwaye enexhala ekukhokeleleni kwinto enokubakho ukwaliwa nabantu abangabazi kakuhle. Umntu ofumana i-RSD, nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba azive ekoyikeka ukwaliwa ngumntu abasondele kuye, onempendulo kufanele Bazokwazi ukuqikelela, kwaye baya kuziva ukuphelelwa lithemba kunye nomsindo emva isiganeko senzeka.

Kuncinci malunga noloyiko lwezinto ezingaziwayo kunye nokudakumba okugcwele iintloni kuwe ngokuqinisekileyo kufanelekile!

Konke okuthethileyo, oku kuyalungiswa kwaye uyafuna ukuthetha nohlobo lwezonyango ukuze ufike emazantsi alo.

Akusoloko kufuneka kube ngolu hlobo!

Masithi wenza kanye loo nto kunye noku-ding-ding-ding! Yi-RSD! Yintoni ekucetyiswa ukuyinyanga?

• Unyango, sithandwa. Nokuba unyango lokuziphatha ngokwengqondo, unyango lokuziphatha okuchaseneyo, okanye naliphi na elinye amava okuhambelana nonyango lwengqondo, kufuneka sikuthethe malunga neemvakalelo zakho zokwaliwa. Ndazise ukuba nawe unamava ngempendulo ehlekisayo: “Ndizichaza njani iimvakalelo zam ngokungamkelwa kunyango lwam lundinyanga nge-RSD ngaphandle kokundigweba?!”
• Amayeza. Kulabo kuthi abanamava obume bomzimba, ngakumbi kuthi kuthi abanezinye iingxaki ezibangelwa kukuxhalaba, amayeza anokulunga. Kwimeko yam, ndenza kakuhle kakhulu irejimeni ebandakanya iWellbutrin. Ndizamile ngononophelo ezinye iimeds kwaye ndangxola kwaye ndanyanzelisa xa bengasebenzi. Ufanelwe kukuphonononga oku ngaphandle kwesigwebo okanye ibala nokuba loluphi uhlobo.
• Ukuya ngaphandle kweintanethi. Ndiyazi ukuba oku kuyabheda: cinga malunga nexesha elingakanani otyala ngalo kwimidiya yoluntu. Bangakwazi ukuguqula amandla abo babaziyo kunye nabo babathandayo ngokufanayo, kwaye obu budlelwane bunokubothusa abantu abane-RSD.

Okokugqibela, phendula kuwe. Vuma xa usazi ukuba awulunganga. Sukuyicinezela iimvakalelo zakho uzama ukuyekelela ‘em umntu ongasoze abuyise ubabalo.

SUSA INOMBOLO YAKHE YOMNXEBA.

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