Uxinzelelo kubudlelwane: Nini Ukuthetha okuhle

Umxholo

• Amanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathe ngaphambi kokuba uyibize iyeke
• Jonga i-ego yakho emnyango
• Fumana uncedo lwangaphandle
• Musa ukwenza naziphi na izigqibo ngokungxama
• Beka umhla wokugqibela
• Qwalasela iimpembelelo ezibonakalayo
• Kuthekani ukuba iqabane lam lisongela ngokuzibulala ngexesha lokwahlukana?
• Funa iingcebiso ngesibini
• Uthintelo lokuzibulala
• Ukuthatha

Ushwankathelo

Ukuqhawula umtshato akusoloko kulula. Ukuqhawuka xa iqabane lakho lisokola nesifo sengqondo kunokuba buhlungu kakhulu. Kodwa kuye kufike ixesha kubudlelwane bonke apho kungafuneka kuvavanye ukhetho lwakho kwaye wenze ukhetho olunzima.

Akukho mntu ufuna ukutyholwa ngokushiya umntu amthandayo ngexesha elifanelekileyo. Kodwa kananjalo akufuneki uhlale kubudlelwane obuzimeleyo ningenalo ikamva eliqikelelweyo ngenxa yokuziva unyanzelekile okanye unetyala. Ngamanye amaxesha akukho nto unokuyenza ngaphandle kokuvalelisa-ngenxa yempilo yakho yengqondo.

Phambi kokuba ifike kuloo nto, ngenxa yakho kunye neqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba wenze konke okusemandleni ukusindisa ubudlelwane. Ngaphandle koko unokuchithwa kukuziva unetyala okanye ungazithembi, uzibuze ukuba ingaba wenze konke onokukwenza kwiqabane lakho- kunye nolwalamano lwakho.

Amanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathe ngaphambi kokuba uyibize iyeke

Jonga i-ego yakho emnyango

Awunguye unobangela woxinzelelo lweqabane lakho. Abantu abadandathekileyo banokuthetha okanye benze izinto ngesiqhelo abangazukuzenza. Ukugula kwabo kunokubangela ukuba babangxolise abanye. Njengomntu osondeleyo kwisigulana, ujolise lula. Zama ukuba ungayithathi ngokobuqu.

Fumana uncedo lwangaphandle

Yabelana ngeenkxalabo zakho nabahlobo abathembekileyo kunye namalungu osapho. Cela ingcebiso nenkxaso. Thatha ixesha lokuphefumla. Qaphela ukuba iimfuno zakho zibalulekile, nazo.

Musa ukwenza naziphi na izigqibo ngokungxama

Ekugqibeleni, unokufumanisa ukuba awukwazi ukuqhubeka nokuhlala / ukujongana nomntu oxinezelekileyo. Ukuba uziva ukuba bayarhuqa nawe phantsi, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uqwalasele ukuzihlukanisa. Oku kunokuthetha nantoni na ukuthatha ikhefu elifutshane, ukuya ekwahlukaneni kweendlela ngokusisigxina.

Kwimeko nayiphi na into, thatha ixesha lokujonga ngononophelo ukhetho lwakho ngaphambi kokwenza naziphi na izigqibo ekuya kufuneka uphile nazo ngokusisigxina. Ngelixa isigqibo sokushiya okanye sokungayi ngokungathandabuzekiyo siya kuba semvakalelo, gcinani engqondweni ukuba izigqibo ezenziwe ngomsindo azifane zibe zezilumkileyo.

Beka umhla wokugqibela

Ukuba izinto zibonakala ngathi azinyamezeleki, cinga ukuseta isicwangciso samaxesha sotshintsho. Umzekelo, unokugqiba ekubeni uyinike ezinye iinyanga ezintathu. Ukuba umhlobo wakho ebengakhange afune okanye aqale unyango ngelo xesha, okanye akakaphucuki ngaphandle konyango, okanye uyala ukulandela iingcebiso zonyango njengoko kuyalelwe, kuphela emva koko uya kuzivumela uhambe.

Qwalasela iimpembelelo ezibonakalayo

Ukuzama ukugcina ubudlelwane nomntu oxinezelekileyo kunokwenza iqabane elisempilweni lizive lingenakuzinceda kwaye lingaphezulu kokungabi nathemba ngamanye amaxesha. Ukuba uziva ungenako ukuqhubeka, isenokuba lixesha lokuqhawula ubudlelwane. Kodwa ukuhamba kunokuba lula kunokuba kuvakala, ngakumbi ukuba utshatile. Uyaphi? Uza kuphila ngantoni? Liza kuphila ngantoni iqabane lakho? Ngaba abantwana bayabandakanyeka?

Ngamanye amaxesha abantu abadandathekileyo banokusebenzisa iziyobisi okanye utywala. Ukuba kunjalo, ukuhamba kunokuba lukhetho lwakho kuphela. Impilo-ntle yabantwana bakho kunye nokukhuseleka emzimbeni kufuneka kube yeyona nto iphambili. Kunganyanzeleka ukuba ujonge nzulu kwezi zinto kunye nezinye izinto ezifanelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba uthi ndlela-ntle uhambe.

Kuthekani ukuba iqabane lam lisongela ngokuzibulala ngexesha lokwahlukana?

Ngamanye amaxesha, iqabane lakho linokusongela ngokuzibulala xa ubashiya. Le yimeko enzulu, efuna ukuhoywa kwangoko, kodwa uhlobo olulungileyo lokuqwalaselwa. Isoyikiso sokuzibulala ngexesha lokwahlukana akufuneki sikunyanzele ukuba uhlale kubudlelwane.

Awunakuba nguwe owenza iqabane lakho lithathe isigqibo sokuba lifune ukuphila okanye ukufa. Kuxhomekeke kubo. Ukuzama "ukugcina" iqabane lakho ngokuhlala nabo kunokwenza kuphela ubudlelwane ukuba bube nokungasebenzi kwaye ekugqibeleni kunokubangela ukuba ubathiye.

Funa iingcebiso ngesibini

Ukuba iqabane lakho lanele ngokwaneleyo ukuba lithathe inxaxheba, cinga ngokufumana iingcebiso kwisibini ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nemicimbi yakho yobudlelwane ngaphambi kokulahla itawuli. Ingcali inokukwazi ukubonelela ngombono ongenakho ukuzilawula ngokwakho.

Unokufumanisa ukuba, ngaphandle koxinzelelo, ubudlelwane kufanelekile ukuba bugcinwe. Iingcebiso zinokunika izixhobo ozifunayo zokuphilisa kunye nokuqhubela phambili njengesibini. Ukuba ingcebiso iyasilela, ubuncinci ungahamba usazi ukuba uyifumene kakuhle.

Okokugqibela, ukuba uzame yonke into kwaye ubudlelwane bakho bubonakala bungenathemba, okanye okubi kakhulu - ityhefu- isenokuba lixesha lokuba uhambe. Zama ukwenza iqabane lakho liqonde ukuba usakhathala. Banqwenelele okona kulungileyo, kodwa yithi kufuneka wenze ikhefu elicocekileyo ngenxa yakho.

Yithi ndlela-ntle kwaye uhambe ngaphandle kokuzisola, okanye umdlalo ogqithileyo. Khumbuza iqabane lakho ukuba liqhubeke nonyango lwalo. Ukuba wenze umzamo wokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho, kwaye ubone impilo yeqabane lakho, kodwa izinto azikasebenzi, ungahamba ungenatyala. Ufanelwe lithuba lokonwaba, nawe.

Uthintelo lokuzibulala

Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu usemngciphekweni wokuzenzakalisa okanye wenzakalise omnye umntu:

• Tsalela u-911 okanye inombolo yakho yongxamiseko yasekuhlaleni.
• Hlala naloo mntu de kufike uncedo.
• Susa nayiphi na imipu, iimela, amayeza, okanye ezinye izinto ezinokubangela ingozi.
• Mamela, kodwa musa ukugweba, ukuphikisa, ukugrogrisa, okanye ukukhwaza.

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Ukuthatha

Ukuqhawulwa kobudlelwane, okanye umtshato, kunokuba sisiganeko esibuhlungu. Kude kukhankanywe njengesinye seziganeko ezihlala zibangela ukudakumba kwasekuqaleni. Ngelixa kunokuba kubuhlungu ukuthi kuthi ndlela-ntle, gcinani engqondweni ukuba ukwahlukana kunokuba neziphumo ezilungileyo.

Uphando lubonisa ukuba ukugcina iphepha, apho uveza khona iimvakalelo zakho malunga noqhawulo-mtshato, kunokunceda ukuguqula amava amabi abe lilungile.