Ezona 7 ziQhelekileyo zokuCinga ngeSondo kunye nento ekufuneka uyenze ngazo

Umxholo

• Iimbono ziqheleke ngokupheleleyo
• Nangona amathuba anokuphela, kukho iindidi ezi-7 eziphambili
• Ukwabelana ngesondo kumaqabane amaninzi
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• Amandla, ulawulo, okanye isondo elirhabaxa
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• Inoveli, ukonwaba, kunye nokwahluka
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• Ukungatshatanga nomntu omnye
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• I-Taboo kunye nesondo esalelweyo
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• Ukuthanda nokuthandana
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• Ukuguquguquka kwe-erotic
• Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo
• Ke ithini ingongoma?
• Ngaba iyahluka ngokwesini?
• Ungayizisa njani iminqweno yakho kwiqabane lakho?
• Umgca wezantsi

Iimbono ziqheleke ngokupheleleyo

Masiqale ngokuthi wonke umntu uneengcinga zesondo. Ewe, lonke uhlanga lwabantu lunengqondo ebalekela kumjelo ubuncinci ngamanye amaxesha.

Uninzi lwabantu luneentloni malunga nokujika kwazo kunye neengcinga zangaphakathi ezingathandekiyo, kodwa "nokuba ithini na le fantasy, kuyinto eqhelekileyo!" Ngokutsho komqeqeshi oqinisekisiweyo wezesondo uGigi Engle, umbhali "Zonke iimpazamo: isikhokelo sezesondo, uthando kunye nobomi."

Uthi: "Ngokukhona sithetha iminqweno yesini kwaye siqhele incoko, kokukhona siya kuzibetha ngenxa yeengcinga ezijijekileyo, ezesondo, ezinobushushu," utshilo. Kungenxa yoko le nto sidibanisa eli phepha lesikhumba.

Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde ukuba sonke siphupha ngezinto ezingcolileyo- kunye nendlela yokwenza i-IRL, ukuba uyafuna.

Nangona amathuba anokuphela, kukho iindidi ezi-7 eziphambili

Ukujika into oyithandayo ngokwesondo ayifani kwaphela kunokuba ubucinga.

Emva kokwenza umntu we-4,000 +, uphando lwemibuzo engama-350 ngo-2018, utitshala owaziwayo kwilizwe jikelele uJustin Lehmiller, PhD, wagqiba kwelokuba kukho imixholo ephambili yeengcinga ezi-7.

Ngelixa amathuba anokuphela, amathuba okuba uyakufumana umnqweno wakho we-steamy uhlolwe ngezantsi. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo-ke masithi wena uyila ngakumbi kunoninzi. Wink.

Ukwabelana ngesondo kumaqabane amaninzi

Amehlo athe njo kwiscreen ngexesha lonto Umdlalo weMidlalo yeTrone (ewe, apho u-Theon Greyjoy uhamba ze kunye noo-queens ababini abafileyo)? Ukuhamba ngesandla phakathi kwemilenze yakho xa ucinga ngabantu abaninzi?

AWUKHO wedwa. Ukwabelana ngesondo kweqela yeyona nto ixhaphakileyo kubantu baseMelika.

Kutheni isondo leqela lishushu kangaka? U-Engle uyacacisa: “Kwinkoliso yeengcinga zabantu besini esahlukileyo, uyinkwenkwezi kulo mboniso. Uluvo lwabantu abaninzi abafuna ukulala nawe luyinxalenye yokuvula. ”

Ama-Threesomes, amatheko, kunye nezinto ezinje nazo zenza umthwalo ongaphaya kwemvakalelo. Cinga ngako: Kukho nje ama-bits, amavumba, iincasa, imingxunya, iipali, kunye nezandi kuneseshoni ezimbini okanye ezinye.

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Yonke into emnandi iwela kwi-1 kwiindidi ze-3, ngokuka-Engle. "Abo sizigcina kuthi, abo sabelana nabo kunye namaqabane ethu ukunyusa ubushushu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kwaye abo singathanda ukubazama ebomini bokwenyani."

Ukuba oku kuyingcinga nje kuwe, sukuyicinga.

Ukuba ufuna ukwabelana neqabane lakho-kodwa hayi ukuba wenze le fantasy -qala ngokucela imvume yokubandakanya olu hlobo lokuthetha ebhedini.

Umzekelo, "bendicinga ukuba kushushu ukuthetha ngephupha lomnye umfazi esihla phezu kwakho ebhedini. Ucinga ntoni?"

Ngaba ufuna i-IRL yeqela lesini? Iindaba ezimnandi. "Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokwamaqela kukwayinto entle efikelelekayo- usenokungabinakho ukulala nomntu owuthandayo, kodwa ungamfumana umntu olele ezantsi kathathu," utshilo uCassandra Corrado onesikolo i-O.

Ukuba ukwi sibini, thetha malunga nokuba ufuna ukuba ibe lixesha elinye okanye ukudibana okuqhubekayo, nokuba ukhetha umntu ongamaziyo okanye umhlobo. Misela imida kolo nxibelelwano.

Amandla, ulawulo, okanye isondo elirhabaxa

Cue S & M nguRihanna kuba iimvubu kunye neetyathanga ziyonwabisa izigidi zabantu baseMelika.

I-Sadism kunye ne-masochism (S & M) kunye nobukhoboka, uqeqesho, ukongamela kunye nokungeniswa (i-BDSM) yeyona nto ibalulekileyo.

I-BDSM ngokusisiseko ingokutshintshiselana ngokuvumelana kwamandla kwimeko yezesondo okanye yezesini.

Engle uthi: "Umbono wokuzithoba ngesondo unokuvuselela abantu abasoloko belawula ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala." "Kwaye umbono wokulawula ungatshisa ngenxa yendlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini kunye nokuziva unegunya."

Utata / intombi-yenyani, unjingalwazi / umfundi, umphathi / indima yabadlali iwela kolu luhlu. Ngokunjalo "nokwabelana ngesondo ngokunyanzelwa" (oko uGqirha Lehmiller akubiza ngokuba "kukudlwengula okuhlekisayo").

I-S & M imalunga nokunika okanye ukufumana iintlungu ngezinto ezinjengokubetha, ukubetha, ukuhlazisa nokunye.

UCorrado uthi, "Ngokwenene, olu hlobo lomdlalo lumalunga nokuthembela okukhulu kuba luhlobo lokudlala olusesichengeni. Kwaye ukuba sesichengeni kunokubakho. ”

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Ukusuka kwispanking kunye nokusonga okungaboniyo, ukuya kumdlalo we-electroplay okanye kwinaliti, i-BDSM iqulethe uluhlu olubanzi lwemisebenzi yesondo.

Ke inyathelo lokuqala lokumisela le IRL yefantasy kukuqinisekisa ukuba ikhuselekile, isengqondweni, kwaye iyavumelana (i-SSC), emva koko uqaphela ukuba yintoni le nto imnandi, ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye emva koko uthethe neqabane lakho ngayo.

UDaniel Sayant, umsunguli we-NSFW, iklabhu ebamba imisitho enokwabelana ngesondo kunye noomasifundisane uthi: "Nokuba yeyiphi imfesane.

"Ngale ndlela unokuphelisa umngcipheko wezenzo ezingafunekiyo, okanye ezingavisisaniyo, nokuba ujongene nolawulo lokudlala," uyongeza.

Indlela yokuchaza imeko:

• Vumelanani ngegama elikhuselekileyo.
• Thetha ngokuba zeziphi iindima.
• Misela imida.
• Thatha kancinci.
• Jonga ngokuqhubekayo.

Inoveli, ukonwaba, kunye nokwahluka

Ukwabelana ngesondo elunxwemeni okanye entabeni. Ukubonga kwigumbi lokuhlambela kwinqwelomoya okanye xa unxibe iplagi yempundu. Ukuyifumana epakini.

Iimbono ezijolise kwinto entsha (kubandakanya umsebenzi wesondo omtsha njenge-anal okanye umlomo) okanye i-adventure (ukulala ngesondo kwindawo entsha) kuqhelekile.

"Imvakalelo yokujongana nokungaziwa [kunye] nokuzama into okokuqala inokunika ukukhaba okumnandi kwe-adrenaline, kwaye kwabanye abantu, ukuvuswa kunxulunyaniswa nolo luvo lwe-adrenaline," utshilo uCorrado.

Kubudlelwane bexesha elide ngokukodwa, ukugcina ubutsha buhleli kubaluleke kakhulu ekulweni isithukuthezi kwigumbi lokulala kunye nokugcina ubomi besondo obusebenzayo, utshilo u-Engle. "Ukuzama into entsha kuvuselele uthando owawunalo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane."

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Yintoni inoveli okanye entsha kumntu omnye isenokungabi yeyomnye umntu. Ke i Intoni kwaye phi phakathi kweengcinga zabantu ziya kwahluka.

Nokuba ufuna ukuphonononga ukudlala ezimpundwini, ukulala ngesondo okungangeniyo, i-69-ing, okanye ukuzisa ukutya kwigumbi lokulala, inyathelo lokuqala kukuthetha ngokongezwa kwesenzo.

Kunqande ukwenza iqabane lakho lizive lingonelanga ngokwakha le convo malunga nento onokuthi uyongeze kumdlalo wakho wesondo.

Zama "Ndiyathanda xa ungaphakathi kum, ungaziva njani malunga nokujonga isitayile senja ngokuzayo xa sisabelana ngesondo?" okanye "Ndiyayithanda indlela ojongeka ngayo phakathi kwemilenze yam, ungafuna ukungcamla kwixesha elizayo xa sisabelana ngesondo?"

Ungathini xa ufuna ukwenza into enye ngendlela efanayo kodwa ngaphandle kwegumbi lokulala? Kwakhona, buza iqabane lakho ukuba yinto abanokuyihla.

Gcina ukhumbula: eUnited States, ukwabelana ngesondo esidlangalaleni akukho semthethweni. Ukuhlawuliswa ngamanyala esidlangalaleni, ukuvezwa okungamanyala, amanyala, kunye nokubonisa amanyala yonke ingozi enokubakho.

Ukungatshatanga nomntu omnye

Ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo, i-polyamory, kunye ne-swinging ziya zisanda ukwamkelwa njenge- (esempilweni kwaye sonwabile!) Ulwakhiwo lobudlelwane- kwaye yinto eqhelekileyo yokutya amalungu esini kubantu abakwimeko yobudlelwane obubodwa.

Okona kuninzi, iingcinga zomntu zimalunga Ukuvumelana ukungatshatanga. Intsingiselo, elinye iqabane libonelele ngentsikelelo yabo kwabanye abadlala ngaphandle komtshato. Abanye bacinga ngento yabo engatshatanga nomntu omnye.

Abanye bacinga ngeqabane labo ukulala nabanye. I-Cuckolding yeyona fantasy ikhethekileyo yokuvumela iqabane lakho ukuba lilalane nomnye umntu, kodwa kuphela ukuba uza kubukela okanye uve ngalo (ngokweenkcukacha) emva kwenyani.

Ngaphantsi kweepesenti ezi-0,5 zabantu abathi ukukopela, ukungathembeki, okanye ukukrexeza kwakuvusa kubo.

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Kuqala, khangela ukuba le yinto oyifunayo kwi-IRL, utshilo u-Engle, "kuba eso sisilwanyana esahlukileyo kunokusuka ube nephupha."

Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha ulwalamano lwakho, "qala ngokukhangela ukuba kuthetha ntoni na kuwe oko," utshilo uCorrado.

Abanye abantu bayazi ngokucacileyo ukuba bafuna iqabane elinye lothando kodwa bafuna ukuphonononga ngokwesondo kunye nabanye abantu. Abanye abantu bafuna ubudlelwane obunzulu, obunothando nabantu abangaphezulu komnye ngexesha.

Nje ukuba uchaze le minqweno, thetha neqabane lakho.

"Asinguye wonke umntu oya kukhululeka ngokutshintsha ulwakhiwo lobudlelwane, kodwa ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuqhubela phambili kunye, kuya kufuneka usebenzise olu hlobo lonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo, utshilo.

Ukuba wenza amaphupha okukhohlisa, uCorrado unika eli cebiso lilandelayo: “Chonga ukuba kutheni usenza le fantasy. Ngaba awonelisekanga kubudlelwane bakho? Ngaba unqwenela ukukhawuleza kwe-adrenaline? Ngaba ukhona omnye ungquzulwano lwangaphakathi oluqhubekayo? ”

Zithini iimvakalelo zakho kwifantasy? Ukuphonononga iimvakalelo zakho kunokukunika imikhondo kwiimfuno zakho ezingafezekiswanga.

Emva koko, sombulula i-WYY yakho. Yiya kunyango lwezibini okanye wohlukane neqabane lakho ukuba kulungile kuwe. Yiya esibhakabhakeni okanye ujongane nengxaki esisiseko.

Okanye, phila ngaphandle kwefantasy yakho. Kodwa qonda ukuba ukungahambelani nomntu ongatshatanga naye kukwaphula imigaqo okanye imida yobudlelwane bakho kwaye kunokubakho iziphumo ezinje ngeemvakalelo zokuziva unetyala, okanye iqabane lakho likushiye xa lifumanisa.

I-Taboo kunye nesondo esalelweyo

“Ngaphandle nangaphandle kwegumbi lokulala, sifuna into esingenakuba nayo. Yindlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo yethu, utshilo u-Engle. Nawuphi na umba wokwabelana ngesondo okanye isenzo esinokusifaka engxakini okanye sibonwe njengothusayo okanye esalelweyo okanye esibi kubomi bokwenyani, sinokujika. ”

Iitabo eziqhelekileyo zibandakanya ukukhotha iinyawo okanye amakhwapha kunye nokunqula isikhumba okanye i-lycra.

I-Voyeurism (ukubukela abantu bezibandakanya ngokwabelana ngesondo ngaphandle kolwazi lwabo okanye imvume yabo) kunye nokubonisa (ukuveza amalungu esini ngelixa abanye bejongile - ngamanye amaxesha kunye, ngamanye amaxesha ngaphandle kwemvume yabo) zezona ziqhelekileyo ukuphindwaphindwa kwesini esalelweyo.

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Umboniso we-nonconsensual kunye ne-voyeurism akukho semthethweni, kuba abantu abatyhilwa kwilungu lakho langasese okanye ukujongwa ayingabo abathathi-nxaxheba. Ngelixa oku kunokuba kushushu ukuqikelela, oku akufuneki kwenziwe kubomi bokwenyani.

Ukubeka isipili phambi kwebhedi yakho ukuze uzibukele, uye kwiklabhu yesondo okanye iqela, okanye udlale indima evakalayo kwi-Voyeur okanye kwi-Exhibitionist neqabane lakho (ama) kunokukunceda uphonononge imvakalelo efanayo.

Eminye iminqweno yesondo inokunxulunyaniswa ne (ne) qabane lakho- kwaye kuxhomekeke kokuthandayo okanye ukungathandi, ukwenziwa.

Ukuthanda nokuthandana

Ukujika, ukuhamba okude elunxwemeni, ukutya kwamakhandlela, kunye nokudibana kwamehlo ngexesha lokwenza uthando ayisiyiyo nje ihaba. Zonke ziyinxalenye yefantasy yokufunwa, ukusondelelana, kunye nothando.

UCorrado uthi: “Abantu abaninzi bafuna ukuphathwa njengasebukhosini. Izimbo zomzimba zibonisa uthando ixesha elininzi, umgudu, kwaye mhlawumbi kufakwa nemali, kwaye kunokusenza sizive sibalulekile kuloo mntu. ”

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Ukuba uzibona usephupheni ngale nto, isenokuba kungenxa yokuba ungaziva uxabisekile kubomi benene.

Ukuba usebudlelwaneni, wena neqabane lakho nisenokufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye, nifunde iilwimi zothando zomnye nomnye, okanye nibe neentlobano zesini kwizikhundla ezikuvumela ukuba ugcine ukudibana kwamehlo.

Ukuba awutshatanga, uSayant uthi unokuphanda ngokwenza ikhonkco lokuthambisa kunye nomhlobo, uzikhuphele kwisidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi, okanye uzenzele uthando ekukhanyeni kwekhandlela.

Ukuguquguquka kwe-erotic

Kukho iindidi ezimbini eziphambili apha:

1. Iminqweno yokuguqa kwesini -Ukuba umntu ujonge eyakhe inkcazo yesini kunye nesinxibo, okanye abe neqabane lakhe
2. Ubumnandi bokuziphatha ngokwesondo - apho izinto ezenziwayo okanye abalinganiswa babonakala bengahambelani nendlela umntu achonga ngayo ngokwesondo

Yintoni ebangela ukuba oku kubangele umdla? "Ukujonga kunye nokudlala iindima ezahlukeneyo kunye ne-personas kunokuba yinto eyonwabisayo, yoyilo kunye nenkululeko," utshilo uCorrado. "Isivumela ukuba singene kwindawo yethu engaphumiyo rhoqo."

NgokukaGqirha Lehmiller, ukugoba iindima zesini kunye nokuziqhelanisa nakho kuvumela abantu ukuba bafake into entsha, eyahlukileyo, nenomdla kubomi bakho bezesondo, ngelixa kwangaxeshanye bechitha ulindelo lwenkcubeko lwento "ekufanele ukuba uyenza okanye uyenza.

Kwaye njengoko uCorrado esitsho, "ukukwazi ukwenza okanye ukuba yintoni kwaye awufanelanga ukuba uyenze okanye ukuba neqabane lakho kudala ungqimba lokhuseleko kunye nokuba sesichengeni okusidibanisa ngakumbi neqabane lethu."

Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo

Ngamanye amaxesha, ezi ngcinga zinokubangelwa ngumnqweno wokujonga isini sakho okanye isazisi sakho kunye nenkcazo-ntetho. Nangona kunjalo, iingcali zithi kwiimeko ezininzi kubangelwa ngumnqweno wokuhlala kamnandi kulusu lwakho kunye neqabane.

Unxibelelwano, njengamaxesha onke, lusisitshixo ekufundeni ukuba ngaba isini sakho esigobayo okanye ubumnandi bokulalana ngokwesini kunye nezinto ezithandwa liqabane lakho.

Ke ithini ingongoma?

Ngelixa wena unamandla funda into okanye ezimbini malunga nento oyifunayo ebomini bokwenyani kwiingcinga zakho ezimdaka, zininzi ezinye izizathu zokuba abantu babe neminqweno yesini.

Kutheni le nto sicinga, ukusuka kwezona zizathu ukuya kwezona zixhaphakileyo izizathu:

• ukufumana inkanuko
• kuba sinomdla malunga neemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo zesondo
• ukuhlangabezana neemfuno ezingazalisekiswanga
• ukubaleka inyani
• Ukuphonononga umnqweno wesondo
• ukucwangcisa ukudibana ngokwesondo kwixa elizayo
• ukuphumla okanye ukunciphisa ixhala
• Ukuziva uzithembile ngokwesondo
• kuba siyadika

Ngaba iyahluka ngokwesini?

Kuzo zonke izazisi zesini, kuninzi ukuqheleka kwinto abantu abacinga ngayo. Umahluko ophambili kukuhamba rhoqo kwabo abanamaphupha athile.

Umzekelo, amadoda kunokwenzeka ngakumbi kunabanye abesilisa ukuba babe namaqabane amaninzi okanye iingcinga ezingafunekiyo. Abasetyhini kunokwenzeka ukuba babe ne-BDSM okanye iingcinga zothando, kwaye babe nazo rhoqo kunabanye abantu besini esahlukileyo.

Ungayizisa njani iminqweno yakho kwiqabane lakho?

Nokuba uyayinyusa okanye awuyibilisi ukuba uyayifuna okanye awuyifuni (kwaye isemthethweni ukuyenza) yenze ifantasy yokwenyani.

Iziphumo zoPhononongo zityhila ukuba ngelixa iipesenti ezingama-77 zabantu baseMelika befuna ukufaka iminqweno yabo kubomi babo besini, bangaphantsi kweepesenti ezingama-20 abaye bathetha ngesihloko neqabane.

Ukuba kuyacaca ukuba umsebenzi uyavumelana, usemthethweni, kwaye ukhuselekile, kwaye ukulungele ukuzisa amaqabane akho kwifantasy, la manyathelo alandelayo anokunceda:

1. Nxibelelana ngokweenkcukacha phambi kwesandla. Emva koko, nxibelelana ngexesha nasemva.
2. Misela igama elikhuselekileyo (nokuba ungazama ntoni na!)
3. Yenza uphando ngeendlela ezifanelekileyo zokukhusela kunye nokwaneliseka.
4. Qhubeka nokwenza iinkqubo ezikhuselekileyo zesini.
5. Yiya kancinci. Akukho kungxama!
6. Nxibelelana kwaye uhlale uzolile ukuba izinto azihambi ngokwesicwangciso.

Umgca wezantsi

Iingcinga zesini ziyinto eqhelekileyo ebomini. Ezinye zinokuba shushu njengephupha. Abanye banokuba zizinto ofuna ukuzivavanya kubomi bokwenyani.

Ukuba uhlala uneminqweno yesini malunga nezinto ezingekho semthethweni kwaye ufuna ukuphonononga ezi zinto ziyinyani, cinga ukudibana nengcali yezesondo ukuze ukhuphe ezo zibongozo.

Ngaphandle koko, thatha umphefumlo kwaye uthethe neqabane lakho. Iziganeko kukuba baya kuba nefantasy yesini okanye ezimbini zabo ukuba bangathanda ukuzama kwi-IRL, nabo.

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