UShawn Johnson Ufumene Ngokwenene 'Ngomama Onetyala' Emva Kokuthatha Isigqibo sokungancancisi

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Ukuba kukho nantoni na uShawn Johnson kunye nomyeni wakhe u-Andrew East, abaye bafunda kwiinyanga ezintathu ukususela oko bamkela umntwana wabo wokuqala emhlabeni, kukuba ukuguquguquka kubalulekile.

Kwiintsuku ezintathu emva kokuba abazali abatsha bezise intombi yabo uDrew, ekhaya besuka esibhedlele babedinwe kukukhala kwakhe okungapheliyo. Akazange abambe, intshukumo yena wayenayo ubuchule esibhedlele, kwaye wayesebenzisa iintambo zakhe zokuthetha ezincinci ukuqinisekisa ukuba wonke umntu osegumbini uyayazi. “Wayefana, Andisafuni ukuyenza le nto kwakhona,” utshilo uJohnson Ubume.

Esi sibini sasibekiwe ekuncanciseni, kodwa akukhathaleki ukuba zingaphi iindlela zokuzama ukuzama kunye nabacebisi ababezise ukuba bancede, uDrew wayengenayo. Kungekudala emva koko, babiza ukuqiniswa okuyimfuneko-impompo yebele kunye nebhotile. UJohnson uthi: “Ndikhumbula ndimpompoza okokuqala, ndimnika ibhotile, yaye wonwaba ngoko nangoko. "Ungatsho ukuba ilungile kuye."

Ukondla ngeebhotile kwakusebenza kakuhle de, kwiiveki ezimbini kamva, kwacaca ukuba uJohnson akavelisi ubisi lwebele olwaneleyo. Ngobunye ubusuku obunzima, obuzaliswe ziinyembezi, iMpuma ithi wangena kwimowudi epheleleyo kwaye waqala ukuphanda ezona ndlela zingcono zobisi lwebele. Ufike ku-Enfamil Enspire, kwaye esi sibini (ngoku sisithethi sophawu) ekugqibeleni bagqiba kwelokuba bancedise ubisi lwebele lukaJohnson ngefomyula.

Ayingabo kuphela abazali abatsha abenza olu khetho, nokuba. Ngaphandle kwesindululo seAmerican Academy of Pediatrics 'sokuncancisa ibele kuphela kwiinyanga ezintandathu zokuqala zobomi, ngaphantsi kwesiqingatha seentsana ezincanciswa kuphela kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala, kwaye elo nani lehla liye kutsho kuma-25 ekhulwini kumanqaku eenyanga ezintandathu, ngokutsho Amaziko oLawulo noThintelo lweZifo. Kwaye, njengoJohnson, abanye oomama banokukhetha ukongeza okanye ukondla kuphela ifomula ukuba abavelisi ubisi olwaneleyo, baneemeko ezithile zonyango, babuyela emsebenzini, okanye banomntwana ogulayo okanye ozelwe ngaphambi kwexesha. (ICYMI, uSerena Williams wayeka ukuncancisa ukulungiselela iWimbledon.)

KuJohnson, ukuphambuka kwingcinga yokuba “ibele lelona lilungileyo” ngokondla intombi yakhe zombini ubisi lwebele kunye nobisi olungumgubo lwebhotile yayisisigqibo esifanelekileyo, kodwa yayisamtyabeka enetyala. "Ndivakalelwa kukuba kukho ibala elinje phaya lokuba ukuba awuncancisi, ngandlela thile uza kufutshane nomntwana wakho," utshilo uJohnson. "Kukuziva kabuhlungu njengomama, uziva ngathi uza kufutshane, kwaye andicingi ukuba oomama kufuneka bazive njalo kuba abekho."

Olu xinzelelo lokuba ngumama "ogqibeleleyo" aluwa kuphela kwiimbasa zegolide zeOlimpiki. Isiqingatha soomama abatsha siba buhlungu, beneentloni, benetyala, okanye babe nomsindo (ubukhulu becala ngenxa yeengxaki ezingalindelekanga nokungafumani nkxaso), yaye abangaphezu kwama-70 ekhulwini baziva becinezelekile ukuba benze izinto ngendlela ethile, ngokutsho kohlolisiso olwenziwa koomama abangama-913. IXESHA. KuJohnson, oku kuza ngohlobo lwezimvo zemihla ngemihla ezivela ebantwini kumajelo onxibelelwano-okanye nabahlobo-bemxelela ukuba angaqhubeka nokuzama ukuncancisa okanye abuze ukuba ukhe wazama na ukubuyisela uDrew esifubeni sakhe ukuze abone ukuba uza kulanda. (Idibeneyo: Ukuvuma kukaMfazi okubuhlungu malunga nokuncancisa #SoReal)

Nangona uJohnson kunye neMpuma bafunda izigxeko ze-intanethi ngezigqibo zabo zobuzali, bafunde ukwamkela ulusu olutyebileyo. Bazama ukuzikhumbuza ukuba kufuneka babe kwindlela elungileyo ukuba intombi yabo yonwabe, isempilweni, kwaye ityisiwe-ingangxoli kwaye ingalili. EMpuma, ukusuka kwisicwangciso sabo sokondla sokuqala kuye kwenza nokuba umtshato wabo womelele: Ngokuthatha umthwalo ongaphezulu, uyakwazi ukubonisa uJohnson ukuba utyale imali kwaye uzimisele ukwenza nantoni na, utsho. Kwaye, iMpuma ngoku iyakwazi ukuba namaxesha okusondelelana kunye namathuba okudibana nentombi yakhe ebengenakuba nayo.

Kwaye koomama abaziva benyanzelekile ukuba bakhulise umntwana wabo ngendlela ethile okanye bagwetywe ngenxa yokuphambuka kwisikhundla esikhoyo, uJohnson unecebiso nje elinye: Bambelela kuwe nosana lwakho. "Ndicinga ukuba, njengabazali, aninakumamela abanye abantu," utshilo. "Bashumayela into ebasebenzeleyo, ke kunjalo bacinga ukuba ilungile. Kodwa kufuneka ufumanise ukuba yintoni efanelekileyo kuwe. Kuphela kwendlela oya kuphila ngayo. "

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