Ukudakumba Ukudakumba: Into ekufuneka uyazi

Umxholo

• Zithini iimpawu zokudakumba?
• Uthintelo lokuzibulala
  
• Ngubani osemngciphekweni wokudandatheka?
• Ubomi obukhulu butshintsha
• Umgwebo
• Imidiya yokuncokola
• Okulindelweyo
• Lufunyaniswa njani uncumo?
• Zithini iindlela zokhetho zonyango?
• Incoko yobomi
• Impilo yengqondo yempilo kaHealthline
• Izixhobo zeNAMI
• Uyintoni umbono woxinzelelo?

Luyintoni uncumo?

Ngokwesiqhelo, ukudakumba kunxulunyaniswa nosizi, ukonqena, kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba - umntu ongenako ukukwenza ngaphandle kombhede. Nangona umntu odandathekileyo ngokungathandabuzekiyo unokuziva ezi zinto, indlela uxinzelelo oluziveza ngayo inokwahluka kumntu ngomntu.

"Ukudakumba koxinzelelo" ligama lomntu ophila noxinzelelo ngaphakathi ngelixa ebonakala onwabile okanye onomdla ngaphandle. Ubomi babo basesidlangalaleni buqhele ukuba bobunye "obudityanisiweyo," mhlawumbi kwanokuba abanye bangabiza ntoni eqhelekileyo okanye ugqibelele.

Ukudakumba kuncitshiswa njengemeko kwiDiagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) kodwa inokuthi ifunyanwe njengonxinzelelo olukhulu lokudakumba kunye neempawu ze-atypical.

Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga neempawu zokudakumba kunye nokuba ungafunda njani ukukuqonda komnye umntu.

Zithini iimpawu zokudakumba?

Umntu onengxaki yokudakumba uya kuthi-evela ngaphandle-abonakale onwabile okanye umxholo kwabanye. Ngaphakathi nangona kunjalo, baya kuba neempawu zoxinzelelo zoxinzelelo.

Uxinzelelo luchaphazela wonke umntu ngokwahlukileyo kwaye uneempawu ezahlukileyo, okona kubalulekileyo kukuba buhlungu, ukudakumba ixesha elide. Ezinye iimpawu zakudala zibandakanya:

• utshintsho kumdla wokutya, ubunzima, kunye nokulala
• ukudinwa okanye ukudinwa
• iimvakalelo zokuphelelwa lithemba, ukungazixabisi, nokuziva ungaxabisekanga
• Ukuphulukana nomdla okanye ukonwaba ngokwenza izinto ezazikade zonwatyelwa

Umntu onoxinzelelo oluncumayo unokufumana ezinye okanye zonke ezi zinto zingasentla, kodwa esidlangalaleni, ezi mpawu ziya kuba ikakhulu-ukuba azikho kwaphela-azikho kwaphela. Kumntu ojonge ngaphandle, umntu onomdandatheko onokubonakala ngathi:

• umntu osebenzayo, osebenzayo ophezulu
• umntu obambe umsebenzi ozinzileyo, onosapho olusempilweni kunye nobomi bentlalo
• Umntu obonakala onwabile, enethemba kwaye wonwabile

Ukuba ufumana uxinzelelo kodwa uqhubeke uncuma kwaye ubeke i-façade, unokuziva:

• njengokubonisa iimpawu zoxinzelelo ibiya kuba luphawu lobuthathaka
• njengawe ungamfaka umthwalo nabani na ngokuchaza iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani
• Awunalo tu uxinzelelo, kuba "ulungile"
• ukuba abanye banayo ngakumbi, ke kuya kufuneka ukhalaze ngantoni?
• ukuba ihlabathi lingangcono ngaphandle kwakho

Uphawu oluqhelekileyo lokudakumba lunamandla amade aphantsi kwaye kunzima ukuba ulukhuphe ebhedini kusasa. Ekudandathekeni koxinzelelo, amanqanaba amandla anokungachaphazeleka (ngaphandle kwaxa umntu eyedwa).

Ngenxa yoku, umngcipheko wokuzibulala unokuba phezulu. Abantu abanexinzelelo olukhulu ngamanye amaxesha baziva befuna ukuzibulala kodwa uninzi alunamandla okwenza ezi ngcinga. Kodwa umntu odandathekileyo unokufumana amandla kunye nenkuthazo yokulandela.

Uthintelo lokuzibulala

1. Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu usemngciphekweni wokuzenzakalisa okanye wenzakalise omnye umntu:
2. • Tsalela umnxeba ku-911 okanye inombolo yakho yongxamiseko yasekuhlaleni.
3. • Hlala naloo mntu de kufike uncedo.
4. • Susa nayiphi na imipu, iimela, amayeza, okanye ezinye izinto ezinokubangela ingozi.
5. • Mamela, kodwa musa ukugweba, ukuphikisa, ukugrogrisa, okanye ukukhwaza.
6. Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo ucinga ngokuzibulala, fumana uncedo kwingxaki okanye kumnxeba wokukhusela ukuzibulala. Zama iNqanaba lokuSebenza lokuThintela ukuzibulala ku-800-273-8255.

Ngubani osemngciphekweni wokudandatheka?

Ezinye izinto ezinobungozi zingabandakanya:

Ubomi obukhulu butshintsha

Njengazo zonke iintlobo zoxinzelelo, uncumo oluncumisayo lunokubangelwa yimeko- njengolwalamano olungaphumeleliyo okanye ukuphulukana nomsebenzi. Inokuba namava njengesiqhelo.

Umgwebo

Ngokwenkcubeko, abantu banokujongana namava oxinzelelo ngokwahlukileyo, kubandakanya ukuziva ngakumbi ngokomzimba (emzimbeni) kuneemvakalelo. Abaphandi bakholelwa ukuba lo mahluko unokuba unento yokwenza nokucinga okujongwa ngaphandle nangaphandle: ukuba ukucinga kwakho kujolise ngaphandle, ngekhe ujonge imeko yakho yangaphakathi kodwa endaweni yoko unokufumana iimpawu ezingaphezulu komzimba.

Kwezinye iinkcubeko okanye kwiintsapho, amanqanaba aphezulu okubekwa ibala nawo anganefuthe. Umzekelo, ukubonisa iimvakalelo kunokubonwa njengokucela "ingqalelo" okanye njengokubonisa ubuthathaka okanye ubuvila.

Ukuba umntu othile ukuxelela ukuba "Yigqithise" okanye "Awuzami ngokwaneleyo" ukuze uzive ungcono, akunakufane kwenzeke kwixesha elizayo ukuba uzive ezi mvakalelo.

Oku kunokuba yinyani ngakumbi kumadoda aphantsi koqwalaselo lobudoda babo - abanokuthi babe phantsi kokucinga okudala ngathi, "amadoda okwenyani" musa ukulila. Amadoda mancinci kakhulu kunabafazi ukuba bafune uncedo kwiingxaki zempilo yengqondo.

Umntu oziva eza kugwetywa ngenxa yeempawu zokudakumba uya kuba nakho ukubeka i-façade kwaye ayigcine kuye.

Imidiya yokuncokola

Kwiminyaka apho uninzi lweepesenti ezingama-69 zabantu base-U.S basebenzisa imithombo yeendaba zentlalo, singafakwa kwinyani engenye apho ubomi bomntu wonke buhamba khona kakuhle. Kodwa ngaba bayahamba nyani lonto kakuhle?

Abantu abaninzi banokungavumi okanye bangabinakho ukuthumela imifanekiso xa bekwimeko embi, endaweni yoko bakhetha ukwabelana ngamaxesha abo amnandi kuphela kwihlabathi. Oku kunokudala ukungabikho kwenyani okunika uxinzelelo oluncumayo kwigumbi lokukhula.

Okulindelweyo

Sonke ngamanye amaxesha sinolindelo olungeyonyani kuthi ngcono okanye yomelele. Sikwachaphazeleka nakulindelo lwangaphandle - kubantu esisebenza nabo, abazali, abantakwethu, abantwana, okanye abahlobo.

Nokuba unolindelo olungeyonyani kuwe okanye ulindelo oluvela kwabanye, unokufuna ukufihla iimvakalelo zakho ukuba kubonakala ngathi azifezi oko kulindelweyo. Umntu onomdla wokugqibelela unokuba semngciphekweni ngakumbi, ngenxa yemigangatho ephezulu ngokungenakwenzeka abazibambe kuyo.

Lufunyaniswa njani uncumo?

Ngokwamaphepha avela ku, uncumo oluncumisayo luza neempawu ezichaseneyo (ezingqubanayo) nezo zoxinzelelo lwakudala. Oku kunokuba nzima kwinkqubo yoxilongo.

Obunye ubunzima bokuchonga uxinzelelo oluncumo kukuba abantu abaninzi banokungazi nokuba badandathekile okanye abafuni ncedo.

Ukuba ucinga ukuba unoxinzelelo, kubalulekile ukuba ufune unyango ngokukhawuleza.

Ukuchongwa, kuya kufuneka undwendwele ugqirha. Ugqirha wakho uya kukubuza imibuzo malunga neempawu zakho kunye nolunye utshintsho olukhulu olwenzekileyo.

Banokukuthumela kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo, enje ngengqondo, ukuba ungazuza kumayeza, okanye kwisayikholojisti okanye kwenye ingcali yezempilo yengqondo eyenza unyango lwengqondo.

Ukuze ufumaneke unengxaki yokudakumba, kufuneka ukuba ube nesiqendu sokudakumba esihlala ixesha elide kuneeveki ezimbini, uninzi losuku, phantse yonke imihla. Ezi mpawu zichaphazela indlela oziva ngayo, ocinga ngayo, kwaye ophatha ngayo imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, njengokulala, ukutya kunye nokusebenza. Nantsi enye into ebandakanya ukuxilongwa.

Zithini iindlela zokhetho zonyango?

Ukunyanga olu hlobo loxinzelelo kuyafana nolunye unyango lwesiqhelo kwisifo sokudakumba, kubandakanya amayeza, unyango lwengqondo kunye notshintsho kwindlela yokuphila.

Elona nyathelo libalulekileyo ekufumaneni unyango lokudandatheka kukuvulela umntu okujikelezileyo. Oku kunokuba yingcali, umhlobo, okanye ilungu losapho.

Ukuthetha nengcali kunokuba luncedo ngokumangalisayo kwiimpawu zokudakumba, njengoko ingcali inokukunceda ukuba uze nezicwangciso ezizezakho zokujongana namaqhinga eenkqubo zokucinga ezingalunganga. Ukuba bakholelwa ukuba unokuxhamla kunyango okanye kunyango lweqela, banokukuthumela.

Kukho uninzi lwezixhobo ezikwi-Intanethi kunye neenketho ezinokukunceda ukuba uqalise.

Incoko yobomi

Ingxoxo ye-Lifeline, eziswe kuwe ngabantu abafanayo abaqhuba indlela yokuthintela ukuzibulala, babonelela ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo kunye neenkonzo ngencoko yewebhu. Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi ukuba ukuthetha kwifowuni kubangela uxinzelelo.

Impilo yengqondo yempilo kaHealthline

Indawo yethu kuFacebook idibanisa abantu abafumana imeko yezempilo yengqondo, ikunika ithuba lokufumana inkxaso kunye neengcebiso kulawulo lweemeko.

Izixhobo zeNAMI

Umbutho weSizwe weMpilo yeNgqondo (NAMI) unoluhlu olukhulu lwezixhobo ezinokukunceda ngezinto ezininzi, kubandakanya ukufumana unyango, ukuhlala unolwazi malunga neemeko ezithile kunye nophando, kunye nokufumana uncedo lwezemali.

Uyintoni umbono woxinzelelo?

Ukudakumba akunabuso okanye inkangeleko enye. Xa abantu eluntwini besifa ngokuzibulala, abantu abaninzi bashiyeka bethe nqa ngenxa yeemaski - okanye uncumo - ababelinxiba. Umzekelo, xa umdlali weqonga kunye nosomahlaya uRobin Williams wazibulala, abaninzi bothuka.

Uxinzelelo, nokuba luziveza njani, kunokuba nzima kwaye ludle imeko. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula, nokuba kwenzeka ntoni: Kukho ithemba. Ungalufumana uncedo.

Ukuba unengxaki yokudakumba, kuya kufuneka uqale uthethe nomnye umntu ngayo. Indawo ekhuselekileyo ekungayi kugwetywa ukuqala kuyo iya kuba yiofisi yengqondo, kodwa izixhobo ezikwi-intanethi ezichazwe apha ngasentla zingasebenza ngcono kuwe njengendawo oza kuqala kuyo.

Njengalo naluphi na olunye uhlobo lwesifo okanye imeko, kuya kufuneka ufune unyango. Musa ukuzityeshela iimvakalelo zakho.

Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba umntu omaziyo usenokuba noxolo ethe chuu unoxinzelelo, buza ukuba baqhuba njani. Kulungele ukuphulaphula. Ukuba ngekhe ubancede buqu ngemeko yabo, babalathise kwizixhobo ezinokunceda.