Undincedile njani amajelo eendaba ezentlalo kuhambo lwam lomhlaza

Yedwa. Yodwa. Ukoyiswa. Ezi ziimvakalelo zokuba nabani na ofumene isifo somhlaza unokufumana. Ezi mvakalelo zikwangunobangela wokufuna okwenyani, unxibelelwano lomntu kunye nabanye abayiqondayo imeko abatyhubela kuyo.

Sele sazi kwi Ingxelo yeMeko yoMhlaza ukuba uninzi olukhulu kakhulu - {textend} iipesenti ezingama-89- {textend} jika kwi-intanethi emva kokufumanisa ukuba unomhlaza. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba umntu ophakathi echitha ngaphezulu kweminyaka emihlanu yobomi babo kwimidiya yoluntu, kufanelekile ukucinga ukuba aba bantu bajikela kwi-Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, kunye ne-YouTube ngengcebiso, inkxaso kunye nenkuthazo.

Imithombo yeendaba zentlalo inokuba likrele elintlangothi-mbini, kwaye uninzi lufumanisa ukuba ukungena ngemvume kunokuba yingozi kunokuba luncedo emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu.

Ewe kunjalo, ukuba nobomi bentlalo akuphelelanga kwimidiya yoluntu kuphela. Ukuya kwiqela lengxoxo yesigulana somhlaza, ukuzama iklasi entsha yeyoga kwindawo ohlala kuyo, okanye ubambe ikofu kunye nomhlobo onenkathalo yokwenene zizo zonke iindlela zokuba noluntu kunye nokufumana ithemba kunye nenkuthazo nokuba ujongene nantoni. Ekugqibeleni, imalunga nokwenza unxibelelwano- {textend} Nokuba bakwi-intanethi okanye ngabantu.

Kwaba bantu bane balandelayo, ukuxilongwa ngumhlaza kuthetha ukujikela kumajelo eendaba ezentlalo kunokuba kude nabo. Funda amabali abo akhuthazayo ngezantsi.

Ukufumana inkxaso kwimidiya yoluntu kwakungaphepheki kuStephanie Seban xa wayefunyaniswa ukuba uneminyaka engaphezu kwemithandathu eyadlulayo.

"UGoogle kunye ne-intanethi ngokubanzi zibonakalise ukuba zoyike kakhulu," utshilo. "Ukuba ndafunyaniswa ndinomhlaza webele we-metastatic webele, naluphi na uphando luya kuthi lubonise amabali amabi kunye nathembisayo kunye neenyani eziphathelele amathuba am okusinda."

UFacebook no-Instagram beziindawo ezimbini anokuthi aye kuzo ukuya kunxibelelana nabanye abantu basetyhini abebekoluhambo wayekulo. Yayiyindlela yokuba azive engenabani.

“Ukuba nabahlali kungaphilisa kakhulu. Ndidibene nabantu abakhohlakeleyo endinokuthi ngoku ndibabize abahlobo kumnatha wonxibelelwano, utshilo.

Kodwa bekukho ukubuyela umva kusesho lukaSeban kwezentlalo: Ufumene kunzima ukufumana inkxaso kubafazi abancinci abanesifo somhlaza wenqanaba 4. "Ababaninzi abantu abathetha ngesigaba se-4 sesifo se-metastatic, singasathethi ke ngeposi ngaso," utshilo.

Esi yayisisizathu sakhe esiphambili sokuqala iwebhusayithi yakhe.Umsebenzi wakhe waba kukufunda yonke into anokuyenza malunga nokuthintela kunye nokunyanga umhlaza, kunye nokubonelela ngezixhobo eziluncedo kubantu abadala abancinci abajongana nezifo ze-metastatic.

"Iimeko zam kunye nokuxilongwa kwahlukile. Oku kundenze ndenza ubomi bam injongo yokwazisa ngezigulana ze-MBC kunye nokwazisa abantu ukuba umhlaza wamabele awusosifo esinye 'esilingana nesifo sonke'. Kuthathe ixesha ukufumana ibali lam phaya kuba andibonakali ‘ndigula,’ utshilo.

Funda ngakumbi ngoSeban kuFacebook naku-Instagram, kunye nebhlog yakhe.

UDickinson wenza utyando lokuqala lomhlaza ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe kwe-19. Ayisiyonto inqwenelwa nangubani na okwishumi elivisayo, kodwa yayiyinto uDickinson kwafuneka ajongane nayo phantse kwangoko emva kokufumana isifo somhlaza kwiintsuku nje ezintathu ezidlulileyo.

Endaweni yokujika angene ngaphakathi kwaye abucala malunga nokuxilongwa kwakhe, wajika kwisiteshi sakhe esasidumile se-YouTube ukuthumela iividiyo ngohambo lwakhe.

"Ndifuna wonke umntu ondilandelayo ukuba azi ukuba kutheni kungabikho vidiyo yokomelela komzimba kunye nempilo kwisitishi somzimba kunye nesezempilo," utshilo. "Bendifuna ukuba ngumzekelo kwaye ndinike abantu ukuqonda okwenzekayo ukuba banomhlaza ofanayo nowam okanye bafumana unyango olufanayo nam."

Ukuvuleleka malunga nomhlaza wamatyhalarha kwakuyindlela ekhaliphileyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kuphela li-1 kwabesilisa abangama-263 abaya kuphuhlisa olu hlobo lomhlaza ngexesha lokudla kwabo ubomi. Kwaye kuphela iipesenti ezisixhenxe zabo bafunyanisiweyo ngabantwana okanye abakwishumi elivisayo.

UDickinson ufumene imidiya yoluntu ukuba ibe luncedo ekwenzeni ulwazi ngakumbi ngesi sifo, kunye nokugcina usapho lwakhe - {textend} ngakumbi ootatomkhulu noomakhulu bakhe - {textend} bahlaziyiwe. Into ebengayilindelanga linani labasemzini abaphalaze iintliziyo zabo bebonisa ukumxhasa.

"Umntu omnye ebendithumelela iikowuti zenkuthazo phantse yonke imihla ngelixa bendijongene nomhlaza iinyanga ezi-6," utshilo uDickinson.

Ngaphezulu koku, i-YouTuber ayithandayo kunye nefuthe lokuqina komzimba liqhube ngaphezulu kweeyure ezimbini ezinesiqingatha ukudibana noDickinson kusasa ngeyeza lakhe lekhemotherapy.

Njengomntu osindileyo kumhlaza, uDickinson ngoku ugxile kwisiteshi sakhe seYouTube somelele kwaye ubulela nabo bamncedileyo kuloo nyaka unzima. Uya kumfumana kwi-Instagram.

Ku-Cheyann Shaw, kwathatha iiyure ezingama-24 kuphela emva kokufunyaniswa kwesifo somhlaza kwi-ovari ukuba ajonge imidiya yoluntu ngoncedo.

"Besele ndinomzimba omncinci wokulandela kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo, kodwa bendisazi ukuba ndinomlo nohambo ekufuneka lubhaliwe," utshilo.

Wafota ilog yevidiyo yakhe ebhala ngesifo somhlaza kwaye wayithumela kwisitishi sakhe seYouTube. Ukusukela oko kwividiyo yokuqala ngaphezulu konyaka ophelileyo, uShaw uqhubekile nokuthumela uhlaziyo kunyango lwe-chemotherapy kunye nezinye iividiyo ezikhuthazayo ezinje ngeengcebiso zokuhlala unethemba, indlela yokujongana nemizabalazo, kunye neendlela zokomelela komzimba.

"Isizathu sokuba ndiguquke kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo nditshintshe amajelo eendaba ezentlalo ndenza amajelo abonisa uhambo lwam kungenxa yokuba ndifuna ukuba lilizwi," utshilo.

Ukongeza kwiYouTube, uShaw wasebenzisa i-Instagram kunye neFacebook ukunxibelelana nabanye ababelwa nomhlaza. Wayengasoloko enethamsanqa kula majelo, nangona kunjalo.

“Ndijonge ku-Instagram ubukhulu becala ukuze ndifikelele kwabo balwa nomhlaza kwaye ndibone ukuba baneengcebiso okanye iingcebiso, kodwa xa ndaya ku-Instagram, khange ndikwazi ukufumana abantu abafuna ukuthetha ngomlo wabo kunye nemizabalazo yabo, " uthe.

Okwangoku, khange ayivumele lento imhlise ezantsi. Uye waqonda ukuba indawo ayakhayo yayanele ukumgcina eqhubeka.

"Ukuzigcina womelele ngokwengqondo kubalulekile kanye njengokuba umzimba wakho ulwa nomhlaza emzimbeni," utshilo. "Ingqondo 'yoluntu' yandinceda kuhambo lwam nomhlaza kuba andizange ndizive ndedwa. Bendisazi ukuba uhlala ekhona umntu endinokuphethukela kuye onamava afanayo naka wam kwaye akwazi ukundinika iingcebiso. ”

Funda ngakumbi ngamava kaShaw kwi-Instagram, kwaye ujonge ividiyo yakhe kwilog yakhe ye-YouTube.

Kuthathe ngaphezulu kweminyaka emibini ngaphambi kokuba uJessica DeCrisofaro afunyaniswe enesifo se-4B Hodgkin's lymphoma. Oogqirha abaninzi babeziqonde gwenxa iimpawu zakhe, kwaye bade bayilahla into awayejamelana nayo njenge-allergies nje okanye i-acid reflux. Ukufumana kwakhe isifo, waya kwi-Intanethi ukufumana iimpendulo.

"Ekuqaleni kokuxilongwa kwam, ndajika kwaGoogle ndafumana iimpendulo malunga nokuba ubomi bam buza kuba njani kwaye ndingenza njani xa ndinokujamelana noko kwakubonakala ngathi yintlekele endakha ndajongana nayo," utshilo. Kwakungakhange kubonakale kufanelekile, kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba akukho ncwadi yokwenene enika umhlaza. ”

Ufumene uninzi lwamaqela e-Facebook, kodwa uninzi lwawo lwalubi kakhulu, kwaye kwakunzima kuye ukuba afunde izithuba malunga nokungazenzi okanye ukungakholelwa kunyango. Esi yayisisiqalo sento eya kuba luhambo lwakhe olutsha: Ukunceda kunye nokukhuthaza abanye abaguli abanomhlaza ngebhlog yakhe kunye neakhawunti ye-Instagram.

"Ndingumlandeli omkhulu we-Instagram, kuba unokujonga i-hash tag yomhlaza wakho othile, kwaye ufumane 'abahlobo bomhlaza," utshilo. “Ndiyamangaliswa kukuba ndidibene nabahlobo bam abasenyongweni ku-Instagram. Sonke siye saxilongwa saza sanyangwa kunye. ”

Waye waqonda kuyo yonke le nto ukuba abantu abanomhlaza bayayifumana, wagqiba kwelokuba abhale eyakhe incwadi, "Thetha ngomhlaza kum," abanye betyhubela kule nto wayejamelana nayo.

"Njengokuba usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho befuna ukukunceda, abayiqondi ukuba injani ngaphandle kokuba basezihlangwini zakho, utshilo. "Umphakathi woluntu ufumene konke oku, iintlungu, isicaphucaphu, ukulahleka kweenwele, ukujonga esipilini kwaye ungazazi, unxunguphalo, uxinzelelo, iPTSD ... yonke into."

Funda ngakumbi ngohambo lukaDeCristofaro kwibhlog yakhe nakwi-Instagram.