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• I-Spooning Sex Position Basics
• 1. Kupholile.
• 2. Ilungile ekuvuseleleni i-clitoral.
• 3. Ungadlala ngamandla.
• 4. Yindlela yokubetha iindawo zokuzonwabisa zangaphakathi.
• 5. Ivulelekile ekutolikweni.
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Isikhundla sesondo se-spooning senzelwe wonke umntu, ngokoqobo. Ayisiyonto ilungileyo kwi-hetero, abantu besini esifanayo, kunye nesini esingahambelaniyo nesibini, kodwa inokulungiswa kunye nokwahluka okungasikelwanga mda ngokusekwe kukhetho lwakho. Ukuvuselelwa kobuntu kufuneka ube kuwe? Akukho ngxaki. Njengokungenwa kwe-backdoor kancinane? Isikhundla sesondo sokukhahlela sikugubungele.

"Intuthuzelo kunye noqhagamshelwano lubeka esi sikhundla," kuchaza uMegan Fleming, Ph.D., i-sex therapist kunye nomfundisi. "Isikhundla sikubeka kanye ecaleni kweqabane lakho kwaye sinika inqanaba elipheleleyo lokunxibelelana nolusu. Ukuthambisa kukwenza kube lula ukwanga intamo, ukuthetha kunye nokusebeza."

Ikwayindawo eshiya izandla zomntu wonke zingashukumi. Ke, nokuba yeyiphi na imeko yecephe lakho, esi sikhundla siqinisekile ukukhulisa ukonwaba kwakho. Funda ukuze ufumanise ukuba kutheni indawo yokulala ngesondo kungafuneki ukuba ibe yenye yezona ndawo uzithandayo zesondo- kunye neendlela zokuyonwabisa ukonwaba ngakumbi, ngokweengcali.

I-Spooning Sex Position Basics

Eyona nto iphambili kuyo, indawo yokulala ngesinqe kulapho wena neqabane lakho nilala khona, nobabini nikwicala lenu kwaye nijonge kwicala elinye, neqabane elinye (ngasemva okanye icephe elikhulu) lixhonywe emva kwelinye, ucacisa uAlexandra Umhle, umseki kunye ne-CEO yeeMveliso zeDame.

"Ukuba ubelana ngesondo kwindawo yokucheba, ngesiqhelo umntu ongena ngaphakathi licephe elingasemva okanye icephe elikhulu, emva koko banokungena kwicephe elincinci ngaphambili," utsho uFine. Ukungena kungena kwilungu lobufazi okanye ngaphandle, ngeethoyi okanye ngaphandle, wongeza uAshley Cobb, utitshala wezinto zokudlala ngesondo kunye nengcali yeLovehoney. (Kwaye kuyafaneleka ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubungakanani bomzimba abunanto yakwenza nokuba ngubani osebenza njengecephe "elikhulu" okanye "elincinci".)

Nokuba yeyiphi indlela okhetha ukuzonwabisa ngayo, "esi sikhundla sibonelela ngokusondelelana kunye nethuba lokukhuthaza umzimba wonke," utshilo uFleming. Ivakala intle, akunjalo? Qhubeka ufunda ngezizathu ezininzi zokuthanda indawo yokulala ngesondo.

1. Kupholile.

Isikhundla sesondo se-spooning sisondelene kakhulu kwaye asifuni ukunyanzeliswa komzimba - ngoko kulungile kusasa okanye ngokuhlwa ngaphambi kokuba ulale, uchaza uFleming. (Ngokubalulekileyo, ngokuchaseneyo nezi zikhundla zesini ziphindwe kabini njengokuzilolonga.)

Andifuni ukuthi sesona sikhundla sobuvila kuba lolona hlobo lweyona nxalenye ilungileyo ngayo,” uyavuma uFine. "Njengoko kungekho mntu kufuneka abambe ubunzima bomzimba wakhe, ungakonwabela ulonwabo ngokulula ngakumbi. Nokuba ukwimilenze yomine, kwisitayile se-doggy, usebenzisa iingalo zakho kunye nemilenze yakho ukubamba umzimba wakho kwaye ndiyacinga. ukuba oko kunokuphazamisa kulonwabo. Awudingi ukujongana naloo nto kwindawo yecephe. ​​"

Ukucoca akufuni msebenzi omninzi kuwo nawuphi na umlingane kwaye yenye yeendawo ezimbalwa zesini ezibonelela ngonxibelelwano lomzimba opheleleyo (funda: konke ukuthinta okungokwasemzimbeni) ngaphandle kokuphambanisa kakhulu, ukuze usondele kakhulu kwiqabane lakho ngelixa uhlala ukhululekile kunye nokuziva wendalo.

2. Ilungile ekuvuseleleni i-clitoral.

Inyaniso eyonwabisayo (osele unethemba lokuba sele uyazi): Ababini kwabafazi abathathu abafezekisi kuvuthondaba ngokungena kuphela, utshilo uFleming. Oko kwenza le ndawo ingenazandla ibe lukhetho olukhulu kubantu abafuna uvuselelo lwe-clitoral ukuze bafezekise i-orgasm.

Nanini na xa ukwisikhundla apho kungena khona ngasemva, kwenza ukuba kube lula kakhulu kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho ukufikelela kwi-clitoris yakho, endicinga ukuba sesinye isizathu sokuba oku kube sisikhundla esihle kangaka, ucacisa uFine. "Ukuba uvula imilenze yakho encinci ungazichukumisa ngakumbi okanye iqabane lakho linokuchukumisa ngakumbi." (Kwakhona zama ezi zikhundla zesondo zilungele ukuvuselela i-clitoral.)

Kwaye ungasebenzisa i-vibrator ngokulula kwesi sikhundla, ngakumbi into enxitywe ngesandla okanye ekulula ukuyibamba, utshilo. Zama ukongeza i-vibrator yomnwe kumxube, njenge-Dame Fin (Yithenge, i-$ 85, i-dameproducts.com) okanye i-bullet vibe, njenge-Lelo Mia 2 (Yithenge, i-$ 85, lelo.com).

3. Ungadlala ngamandla.

Omabini la maqabane anokuhlengahlengisa ubunzulu bokungena kwindawo yokucheba ngesondo, oko kukuthi, naliphi na iqabane linokutshintsha amandla kwaye lithathe ulawulo nangawuphi na umzuzu- xa kuthelekiswa ne-cowgirl / umkhweli-phezulu okanye umthunywa wevangeli, umzekelo, apho iqabane eliphezulu inalo lonke ulawulo.

Ngokomzekelo, "umlenze omncinci ophezulu we-spoon kule ndawo ungasetyenziselwa ukubonelela ngokufanelekileyo ngokuwugubungela kwelinye iqabane," kuchaza uFleming. Oku kunokunika icephe elincinane ulawulo olungaphezulu lokuhamba. Okanye, "ukuba i-spoon encinci ihambisa umlenze wabo ophezulu yonke indlela evulekileyo ukuze ihambe yonke indlela emhlane wabo, iqabane labo lingakwazi ukubamba umlenze ophezulu, obanika amandla."

Ukuba ufuna ukuyigcina ipholile, icephe elincinci linokugoba amadolo abo esifubeni. "Ungabamba amadolo nobabini kwaye iqabane lakho lisongelwe kuwe," utsho uFine. Cinga ngolu hlobo njengokubamba ngaphezulu, ngelixa ukuphakamisa umlenze kunye nokusonga kunokwenza izinto zibe nomphunga ngakumbi. (Ingcebiso yePro: Ukuba unengxaki yokungena okanye ukuhlala kulo naluphi na utshintsho lwesi sikhundla, zama ukusebenzisa umqamelo obeka umzimba ukuphakamisa isinqe sakho - okanye iqabane lakho - njengoPillo, Thenga, $95, dameproducts.com.)

4. Yindlela yokubetha iindawo zokuzonwabisa zangaphakathi.

UFleming uthi, ukuba neentlobano zesini kakuhle kuyinxalenye ye-engile. Ukuba unelungu lobufazi kwaye ubandakanyeka kwisikhundla sokwabelana ngesondo njengecephe elincinci, kukho iindaba ezimnandi: Le engile yokungena ngokwendalo ithambekela i-pelvis ngendlela elungele ukubetha iindawo ezingaphakathi kwilungu lobufazi, utshilo uCobb.

Kungenxa yokuba, xa ulele kwindawo yokulala ngesondo kunye neetorsos zakho ezifanayo (cinga: ngendlela oya kulala ngayo), oko kunokubeka uxinzelelo oluninzi kudonga olungaphambili lwelungu lobufazi-apho kukho iitoni zentsimbi iziphelo, utsho uFine. Umzekelo, indawo eyi-G ziisentimitha ezimbalwa ngaphakathi komjelo welungu lobufazi ecaleni kodonga, kwaye indawo eyi-A inobunzulu.

Ukuba awukho kolo luvo-okanye ufuna nje ukudlala nge-engile-utshintsha umgama phakathi kweetoros zakho ngumtshintshi womdlalo kwisithuba sokucheba ngesondo. Umzekelo, zama ukuthembela kwisibilini sakho phambili ngoko ke kujonge ngakumbi kumzimba weqabane lakho (phantse njengesitayile senja esithe tyaba), utsho uFine. "Cinga ngomzimba wakho njengewotshi: Qala ngentsimbi yeshumi elinambini emva koko ungahamba uye kwiyure enye uzame ngekona nganye kwaye ufumane ukuba yeyiphi esebenzayo wena neqabane lakho."

5. Ivulelekile ekutolikweni.

Esi sikhundla asisebenzi kuphela kuzo zonke iintlobo zezibini, kodwa siboleka kubuchule bokudala. "Cinga ngazo zonke iindlela onokuthi ungene kwisipuni," utshilo uFleming. Indawo yokucheba ngesondo yindawo entle yokutshintsha uye kwi-cowgirl okanye isitayile senja ngokubamba iqabane lakho ngokuqinileyo kwaye uqengqele ecaleni kunye.

Indawo yokuhluza ayifuni ukubandakanya isondo elingena ngaphakathi. (Isikhumbuzi: Ukwabelana ngesondo akulingani ne-P-in-V! Inokuba konke malunga nomlomo, izinto zesandla, okanye kwanokuphulula amalungu esini ngokufanayo.) "Zininzi iindlela zokulala ngesondo ngaphandle kokungena," utsho uFine. Kwaye esi sisikhundla esihle saloo nto. "Imilenze yakho icinezelwe omnye komnye ukuze ube nokudibanisa imilenze yakho kwaye oko kunokuba yinto entle yokuxabana," utshilo. "Icephe elikhulu linokufikelela ezandleni zakho ngapha nangapha okanye ngaphantsi ukuze ungene ngaphakathi ngokwamanani ngelixa icephe elincinci linokucinezela umva kwaye lihlikihle iqabane labo. Ndicinga ukuba eyona nto intle malunga nokukhamba kukuba ukucheba nje yindawo esondeleyo ekhuselekileyo ukuqala kuyo."

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