Ukuhlala kubusuku bangoLwesihlanu kusemthethweni iMikhwa eNtsha yeQela

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Ukuzinakekela kukwi-radar yomntu wonke, eziziindaba ezimnandi kubuchwephesha bethu obugqithisileyo, kubuchwephesha bobuchwephesha. I-Celebs efana noJennifer Aniston, uLucy Hale, kunye no-Ayesha Curry bathethile malunga nendlela ukuzinakekela okubanceda baphumeze iinjongo zabo ngelixa behleli bengazi nto. (Iintloko eziphezulu: Ifowuni-yobomi ibhalansi yinto, kwaye mhlawumbi awunayo.)

Inxalenye enkulu yokuzinakekela kukwazi imida yakho kunye nokuqonda xa ilixesha lokuhlala ngaphandle kwezicwangciso zentlalo endaweni yokuhlala. Ubusuku kwiklabhu, ethi ithumele incwadana yeendaba yazo zonke izinto eziphambili zokwenza, ukufunda, kunye nokubona ukuba uhlala nini na. Baququzelela iiklabhu zeencwadi ze-IRL zamalungu kwizixeko ezili-10 kwihlabathi liphela. Iqela okwangoku linamalungu ayi-100,000 phakathi kwababhalisi beeleta zabo kunye nabalandeli beendaba zosasazo. (Ngaphezu kwesiqingatha sabafazi benkulungwane yeminyaka bazenzela ukuzikhathalela kwisigqibo sabo soNyaka oMtsha ngo-2018.)

"Ndiqale ubusuku bamantombazana kuba ndathi xa ndingena kwiminyaka yam engama-20, ndaye ndazibona sendiphuma kancinci ndimema abahlobo bam ukuba beze kusihlwa esisondele kakhulu, nokuba kungenxa yeziselo kunye nomdlalo bhanyabhanya, okanye nje ukuzihlalela ndincokole utshilo umsunguli we-GNI u-Alisha Ramos.

Kwasekuqaleni, wayefuna ukuba iklabhu ibonelele ngento eyahlukileyo eyahlukileyo kwiindlela zokuzinyamekela. "Kuninzi kugxilwe kwicala lempahla yokuzikhathalela (njengeebhombu zebhafu, ukhathalelo lolusu, njl. impilo yengqondo kufuneka ibale kanye njengokuba sempilweni ngokwasemzimbeni. " Ngamanye amagama, i-GNI imalunga nazo zonke izinto ocinga ngazo xa ucinga ngokuzikhathalela kunye nokudibanisa ukuhlakulela ukuqonda okunentsingiselo ekuhlaleni.

Iingcali zempilo yengqondo zikho: "Ukuhlala ngaphakathi kunokunika uncedo olukhulu kunyango," utshilo uDayna M. Kurtz, unontlalontle onelayisensi kunye nomlawuli weAna Keefe Women's Centre kwiZiko loQeqesho lweMpilo yeNgqondo.

"Ukukhetha ukuhlala wedwa kungakunika ithuba lokujikisa ingqalelo yakho ngaphakathi, ukuvuseleleka ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ufumane ulonwabo olukhulu nolwaneliseko xa uphuma kwakhona," utshilo uKurtz. "Ndikhuthaza abasetyhini ukuba bathintele ubuncinci iintsuku ezimbalwa zeempelaveki okanye ngokuhlwa ngenyanga ukuze 'bazenzele umhla,' njengenxalenye yenkqubo yesiqhelo yokugcina impilo."

Izibonelelo ziyinyani: "Ixesha lodwa libalulekile kum; yindlela endihlaziya ngayo kwaye ndifumana amandla kwakhona," utshilo uKhalilah, 35, ingcali yezonyango eseNew Jersey. "Emva koko, ndiziva ndihlaziyekile kwaye ndingacaphuki, ndinako ukusombulula iingxaki ngcono, kwaye kumnandi ukuba phakathi."

"Njengokuba ndikhulile, ndiye ndabona ukuba uloyiko lokuphoswa alubalulekanga ebomini bam njengokuba kwakukade kunjalo," utshilo uDontaira, 32, umcebisi wezonxibelelwano ozinze eFlorida. "Okubalulekileyo kum kukuhlaziya kwakhona kunye nokubala kwakhona. Oku kubandakanya ukuba sekhaya ukuze ndonwabe ngezinto ezilula, ezinje ngokubukela utywala endikuthandayo ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka, ukuthatha ibhafu yokuphumla, okanye ukuba nencoko eluhlaza, eyinyani yefowuni egcwele ukuhleka nayo abahlobo endingakhange ndithethe nabo."

"Ndabandezeleka ngenxa yeFOMO de ndabona ukuba ukuphuma ubusuku bonke akulunganga kwimpilo yam emzimbeni nasengqondweni," utshilo uBrianna, 23, ingcali yemidiya yoluntu eseColorado. "Ngoku, ndiziva ngathi ndingomnye wabahlali basezidolophini abathanda ukuhlala ubusuku obuninzi ngaphezulu kokuthatha inxaxheba ekurhubuluzeni kwebar. Endaweni yokuleqa isiselo esilandelayo, ndibaleka ukugqiba iinkqubo zeNetflix, ukupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa, ukwenza iyoga, kunye ngamanye amaxesha uzama imaski yobuso entsha." Ngelixa ekhetha ukuphuma ngamanye amaxesha, uziva indlela yakhe yokuphila ingcono kakhulu ngoku. "Xa ndiqala ukukhetha 'mna' endaweni yokuba 'thina,' ndafumana ukuphumla kwaye ndaqonda ukuba ndifuna ukuphila ubomi bam ngokwam, endaweni yokulawulwa yi-FOMO."

Kwaye ngelixa uninzi lwabasetyhini olukhethayo "ubusuku" lubandakanya ukuchitha ixesha yedwa, uRamos ukhetha ukugcina ukuzikhathalela kwakhe ngokwasentlalweni, ebonisa ukuba ngokwenene unako ube neyona nto intle kuwo omabini amazwe. "Eyona ndlela ndiyithandayo yokuchitha ubusuku kukwenza ukutya okuphekwe ekhaya, ukumema abahlobo, kwaye babukele into kwiNetflix kunye ngecocktails. Ndikhetha ukuhlala ebusuku xa ndisazi ukuba ndifuna ixesha lokuphinda ndivuselele ndixakeke okanye iveki exakekileyo. Akukho nto igqitha ukunxiba ibhulukhwe nokusela irozi ngobusuku bangoLwesihlanu."

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