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Umxholo

• Oku kufuneka kupheliswe.
• Ukutya okunempilo akukho malunga nokugweba-malunga nokulinganisela.
• Awazi ukuba abanye * badinga ntoni ngokwenene*.
• Qalisa ukutshintsha incoko.
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Ngaba wakha wazokucwina amazinyo akho kwisidlo esonelisayo xa umhlobo / umzali / iqabane lakho lenza amagqabantshintshi malunga nenani lokutya kwipleyiti yakho?Wow, yile burger enkulu.

Okanye mhlawumbi uthe nkqo utshintshe iodolo yakho kwasekuqaleni: Ngaba wakhe wakhetha into elula emva kokuba umhlobo enze intetho malunga nokutya kwakhe?

Okanye uyeke ukutya xa usalambile ngoba lomntu ubuhamba naye uthe bagcwele kwaye awufuni bacinge ukuba uyihagu. (Inxulumene: Nceda uyeke ukuziva unetyala ngento oyityayo)

Oku kufuneka kupheliswe.

Izimvo ezibonakala zingenabungozi zinokunamathela emntwini kwaye zikhokelele ekuziphatheni okungenampilo njengokutya okuthintelayo. Ndiyazi, kuba ndinceda abathengi ngale miba njengomqeqeshi wezempilo obhalisiweyo kunye nomqeqeshi wezempilo.

Nam ndikhe ndadibana nale nto ebomini bam. Kuyimfihlo evulekileyo ukuba uninzi lweengcali zokutya zifumene indlela yethu kule ntsimi ngenxa yokufuna ukuphilisa ubudlelwane bethu nokutya ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu, kwaye andikho njalo.

Njengomntwana, amaxesha esidlo nentsapho yakowethu ayeba nestres kuba umakhulu wayexhalabele ukutya nenkangeleko yakhe. Xa wayenomhlaza, ingxoxo yathatha ityala elitsha. Ndikhumbula uninzi lwemiyalezo exubekileyo malunga nento "eyayiphilile." Ngokuqinisekileyo akuzange kuncede ukuba ndibe phakathi kwi-fat-phobic '90s. Ndaziva ndonganyelwe, kwafika kwinqanaba apho ndaziva ndisoyika ukutya nantoni na.

Ngethamsanqa, ndandinabazali abaqaphela ukuba inkcubeko yethu yokutya iyandichaphazela, kwaye ndaqala ukubona ugqirha wezidlo wandifundisa ukubiza i-BS kwaye ndizinike imvume yokungahoyi incoko.

Le mfundo yokuqala yayixabisekile kwaye indisindisile kumdlalo weqonga omkhulu wokuya kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo nangaphaya. Umnqweno wam wokuphelisa ingxolo kunye nokumamela owam umzimba endaweni yazo zonke izinto ezimele ukukhuphisana zigcine indigxile. Isasebenza nangoku. (Idibeneyo: Imibuzo emi-3 eli Qela loMzimba-eliZibuzayo ngaphambi kokuthatha isigqibo sokuPhendula kwiiNgcaciso zeNtiyo)

Ukutya okunempilo akukho malunga nokugweba-malunga nokulinganisela.

Njengengcali yokutya-kwaye masibe yinyani, njengowesifazane-ndijamelene nokuhlolisiswa, nangona mhlawumbi kunzima kakhulu ngenxa yomsebenzi wam. Abantu baya kuhlala besithi, "Sukujonga into esesityeni sam!" kuba boyika ukuba ndiza kubagweba. Into kukuba, ayingomsebenzi womntu ukudlala amapolisa okutya-ubuncinci kuyo yonke eyam.

Kubathengi bam, ndigxile ekuza nesicwangciso esizinzileyo esihambelana nendlela yabo yokuphila kwaye sibandakanya igumbi lezinto abazithandayo ukuze bakhethe amaxesha abo kwaye bangaziva bevinjwa.

Ngeli xesha ebomini bam, ndikhululekile kakhulu ngokuhlonipha oko umzimba wam udinga, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ayindiqhubeli amantongomane xa ndiza kutya itshokolethi okanye ndinqumle kwi-steak kwaye umntu uyabuza, "Ungukuvunyelwe ukuyitya loo nto?" Ndiyayihleka, kodwa ngaphakathi ndiyacaphuka. Ndiyakholelwa ngokwenene ukuba ukutya okusempilweni kukonke kubandakanya indawo yokuziyolisa ngamaxesha athile.

Ndiyaqonda ukuba ngumgca olungileyo-ukutyeba ngowona mba uphambili wezempilo yoluntu, kwaye yinyani ukuba ubukhulu bezabelo ezinkulu kunye nokufumaneka okwandisiweyo kokutya okunencasa okucutshungulweyo okwenzelwe ukuba kungathinteki kunegalelo laloo ngxaki.

Omnye umcimbi omkhulu? Abantu baphulukana nokunxibelelana nendlala yabo yangaphakathi kunye nokuzaliseka, besekela ukhetho lwabo kwizinto zangaphandle kunye nexesha elinzima lokuzithemba kuba kukho ingxolo eninzi entloko. Kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba ukutya ngumxholo olayishiwe oza nawookuninzi yemithwalo yeemvakalelo phantse kuthi sonke, nokuba sinomcimbi osebenzayo ngokutya okanye ubunzima.

Asinakukwazi ukungahoyi ukutya izibalo zokuphazamiseka. Ubuncinci abantu abazizigidi ezingama-30 bayo yonke iminyaka kunye nabasetyhini e-US banengxaki yokutya, enokubulala. Kuqikelelwa ukuba rhoqo kwimizuzu engama-62, umntu uyafa njengesiphumo esithe ngqo sokuphazamiseka kwindlela otya ngayo.

Awazi ukuba abanye * badinga ntoni ngokwenene*.

Kunqabile ukuba sixelele umntu ukuba uhlangabezana nantoni, nokuba uvela phi, kwaye ujongene nantoni na.

Njengoko sityhubela amanqanaba obomi kwaye sifumana utshintsho kubunzima bethu okanye emizimbeni yethu ngenxa yemicimbi yezempilo okanye utshintsho ebomini, sisemngciphekweni wokufaka izimvo zabanye ngaphakathi kwaye sibavumele ukuba bajike indlela esiziphatha ngayo okanye bonakalise ukuzithemba kwethu.

Ngokomzekelo, iziganeko ezixinzelelekileyo, okanye amava afana nokukhulelwa kunye nesigaba sokubeleka, utyando, ukugula kunye nokuguga zizinto zonke ezinokubangela utshintsho kwindlela esitya ngayo kunye nokubonakala kwethu. Zishukumisa ukuzithemba kwethu.

Amagqabaza angenancedo aphinda adibanise unxibelelwano phakathi kwengqondo nomzimba kwaye zenza kube nzima ngabantu ukwenza ukhetho olulufanele ngokwenene. kubo. Ukuba umntu uyachacha kwingxaki yokutya, uku-odola isitya esityebileyo abanokoyika ekuphakameni kokugula kwabo kunokuthathwa njengenkqubela-phambili esempilweni yokumisela ukutya. Jonga ukuba ingxelo inokuba yingozi kangakanani?!

Qalisa ukutshintsha incoko.

Kwaye xa ukwisiphelo sokufumana "wtf yayiyiloo nto?" ukuphawula kunye nokuthandabuza malunga nokuba umntu uthetha ukuthini, kulungile ukucela ukucaca ukuze ungacingi kakhulu ukuya kwinqanaba lokuchitha usuku lwakho.

Kutshanje bendikwinkomfa yempilo-ntle apho bekuphakwa ukutya okwenziwe nge-buffet. Ndithe xa ndibeka imifuno egcadiweyo epleyitini yam ndeva ilizwi lomfo emva kwam lisithi: "Musa ukuyithatha yonke!"

Huh?

Ndijike ndamjonga ebusweni, kodwa bekungakwazi ukufunda ukuncwina kwakhe. Ngaba wayezimisele? Ukuqhula? Ukudlala ngothando? Ngaba ngokwenene ndandithatha kakhulu? Okokugqibela kwakubonakala kungenakulindeleka, nangona kunjalo - yayimalunga nendebe kuphela apho.

Ngokucacileyo bendicinga kakhulu, bendisazi, kodwaYintoni? Ndingathanda ukuthi ndiqhubeke ndiziphakela kwade kwabakho imali kwiplate yam endiyaziyo ukuba iyakonelisa, kodwa ndaxakwa kukuyilungisa le nto wayeyithetha ndade ndayeka. Ndathi xa ndijika ndifumana isihlalo sam ndaphoxeka kukuvumela izimvo zendoda malunga nokutya kwam kuchaphazele indlela endiziphethe ngayo.

Ndiye ndajija ndamnqanda. Ndidinga ukukubuza into, ndatsho. "Ubuthetha ukuthini ngala mazwi? Ndifuna nje ukwazi ukuze ndingazenzi izinto."

Wayekhangeleka othukile ekuqaleni, kodwa wazisola ngokunyanisekileyo, njengento ayithethileyo enokuchazwa njengayo nantoni na embi engazange ifike kuye. "Wow, ndiyavuya xa uthethile." Ucacisile ukuba ebesenza isiqhulo malunga nokutya okugqithisileyo kwaye malunga nokuba akunakwenzeka njani ukuba umntu athathe yonke imifuno egcadiweyo.

Ndacacisa ukuba, njengowasetyhini, ngakumbi kwishishini lam, bendisetyenziselwa ukujonga malunga nokutya kwam mhlawumbi bendilumkile, kodwa ukuba intetho yakhe indibhidile.

"Enkosi", utshilo. "Akukho mntu ukhe abuze izinto ezinje. Ndiyavuya ukuba wenzile."

Emva koko ndazazisa, wazazisa, emva kokuncokola eminye imizuzwana, saxhawula saya kwiitafile zethu.

Andinalwazi lokuba incoko yethu incamathele kuye okanye akunjalo, kodwa ngokucacileyo yanamathela kum. Uvelwano oluncinci luhamba indlela ende, kwaye kulungile ukucela ukucaca. Zombini zinokunceda ukugcina uxinzelelo kunye nomdlalo weqonga.

• NguJessica Cording, MS, RD, CDN
• NguJessica Cording, MS, RD, CDN

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