Iindlela ezi-5 zokuQhawula uMama (okanye uTata) uMdumisi

Umxholo

• Yahlulahlula imisebenzi
• Shiya
• Yenza ixesha elikhethekileyo libe yinto ephambili
• Yandisa ixesha losapho
• Bathande ke phofu

Indawo yesibini ivakala ngathi iphumelele… ide ibhekise kubuzali. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana bakhethe omnye umzali kwaye baneentloni kude komnye. Ngamanye amaxesha, bade bazigwebe izithende zabo kwaye abavumi ukuvumela omnye umzali ukuba abaleke, atyhale isitrato, okanye ancedise ngomsebenzi wesikolo.

Abantwana bakha izincamathelisi ezomeleleyo kubanakekeli babo abaphambili, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi, oko kuthetha ukuba uMama ufumana yonke ingqalelo, ngelixa uTata evakala njengevili lesithathu. Phumla lula ukuba nguwe ongaphandle ujonge ngaphakathi - ezi zinto ziqhotyoshelweyo ziyatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha - kwaye kukho amanyathelo onokuwathatha ukwakha isincamathiselo.

Isilumkiso: Uthando olungenamiqathango kunye nomonde uyafuneka.

Ungawaphula njani umama (okanye utata):

Yahlulahlula imisebenzi

Umyeni wam uhamba kakhulu. Ukungabikho kwakhe, ndenza yonke into ukugcina aba bantwana besempilweni kwaye bonwabile kwaye ndigcina indlu iqhuba. Bacinga ukuba ndinamandla amakhulu - ndiyibiza ngokuba yikofu. Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, uMama ulawula i-24/7 iinyanga ngexesha.

Ukuthetha okuncinci, uncamathiselo lwabo kum lomelele. Kodwa xa umyeni wam ebuya ekhaya, sahlulahlulahlula imisebenzi yobuzali kangangoko. Ufumana ixesha lokuhlambela xa esekhaya, kwaye ufundela umntwana wethu oneminyaka esi-7 ubudala xa enakho. Ubasa epakini nakwezinye iindawo ezahlukeneyo zokuzonwabisa.

Nokuba umama-mthandi wakho omncinci uyamelana ekuqaleni, kubalulekile ukuba unikezele eminye yemisebenzi yokuba ngumzali kuTata xa kunokwenzeka, ngakumbi ezo ziyathuthuzelayo ezinceda ukwakha ukunamathela okuqinileyo. Kuhle ukuba nenxaxheba ekuqeqesheni nasekumiseleni imida, ngokunjalo, xa inqanaba elinemvukelo lihlasela, omnye umzali akasoloko eyindoda embi.

Kuyanceda ukwenza ishedyuli. Utata wenza ibhafu kunye nexesha lokulala ebusuku, kwaye uMama ukhokela obunye ubusuku. Rhoqo, abantwana bayamchasa omnye umzali kuba besoyika ukuba abayi kuba namava athobileyo alangazelelayo. Xa omnye umzali ethatha indawo kwaye azisa ngemibono emitsha, emnandi, inokunciphisa olo loyiko kwaye incede umntwana wakho ahlengahlengise.

Utata "ophambeneyo" uyathandwa kakhulu kule ndlu, inene.

Shiya

Kunzima ukuba omnye umzali athathe kwaye afumane isitshixo sokwenza izinto zisebenze xa umzali okhethwayo ehlala emi apho. Phuma endlini! Baleka! Lithuba lakho lokuthatha ikhefu elilifaneleyo ngelixa utata (okanye umama) ebala izinto.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kubakho iinyembezi ekuqaleni, kwaye mhlawumbi noqhankqalazo olunamandla, kodwa xa uTata onguSilly Chef ethatha ikhitshi kwaye esenza isidlo sakusasa isidlo sangokuhlwa, iinyembezi zinokubuyela ekuhlekeni. Makube njalo. Uyakwazi ukuyiphatha.

Yenza ixesha elikhethekileyo libe yinto ephambili

Umzali ngamnye kufuneka abeke umhla weveki nomntwana ngamnye. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ushiye indlu okanye ucwangcise i-adventure enkulu. Into efunwa ngumntwana wakho lixesha leveki (eliza kuqikelelwa) nomzali ngamnye apho ekhetha khona umsebenzi kwaye onwabele ixesha elingenakuphazanyiswa nomzali ngamnye.

Bazali, vala ezo zikrini kwaye uyifihle ifowuni yakho kwidrowa. Ixesha elikhethekileyo lithetha ukuvumela ilizwe liphela liphele ngelixa unika i-100% yengqwalaselo yakho emntwaneni wakho kangangeyure.

Yandisa ixesha losapho

Siphila kwihlabathi elixakekileyo elinembopheleleko ezininzi. Kunokuba nzima ukulungela ixesha eliqhelekileyo losapho xa iimfuno zomsebenzi, zesikolo, kunye nemisebenzi emininzi yabantwana abaninzi ithatha indawo.

Yenze. Yenza ubusuku bomdlalo wosapho lube yinto ephambili ngeempelaveki. Vumela umntwana ngamnye akhethe umdlalo. Fumana ixesha lokutya isidlo sosapho esinye ngosuku, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba nonke nikhona, kokubini ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. (Icebiso: Akufuneki ukuba isidlo sangokuhlwa.)

Ixesha elingakumbi losapho umntwana wakho alonwabelayo, kokukhona usapho lwakho luqala ukusebenza kakuhle njengeyunithi.

Bathande ke phofu

Ukugatywa komntwana kunokuba yinto ehlabayo. Mthande lo mntwana phofu. Thela iihagi kunye nokwanga kunye nokubhengezwa kothando, kunye nomjelo wonk 'umonde onokuba nawo.

Xa sibathanda abantwana bethu ngaphandle kwemiqathango, sibabonisa ukuba sikhona ngokubanceda nokuba iimeko zithini na.

Okukhona bewufaka ngaphakathi umyalezo wokuba uMama noTata bahlala bekhona, kokukhona baya bezomelela iziqhotyoshelwano abazenzayo nomzali ngamnye.