Izifundo zokuba ngumntwana osafunda endizifundayo Ngala Maxesha oMdaka

Umxholo

• Asifuni izinto zokudlala ezininzi njengoko sicinga
• Ezo zinto zenziwa ngabantwana abancinci ze-DIY ayisiyonto yam, kwaye senza kakuhle
• Ukuphuma ngaphandle yonke imihla akunakuthethathethana
• Ndikulungele ukuyiphumuza imithetho yam, kodwa hayi ngokubayeka bawe ecaleni kwendlela ngokupheleleyo
• Ukuxhoma kunye nomntwana wam omncinci kunenzuzo efihliweyo
• Kuya kufuneka ndiyigqibe le nto, ukuze ndizame kangangoko ndinako

Ukusinda kwii-odolo zokuhlala ekhaya nosana oluncinci kube lula kunokuba bendicinga.

Ngaphandle kweentsuku zokuqala ezisandul 'ukuzalwa xa ndandisaphila ngokuzalwa, andizange ndihlale imini yonke ekhaya kunye nonyana wam oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala uEli. Umbono wokuhlala ngaphakathi nosana okanye usana oluneeyure ezingama-24 ngqo wandenza ndanexhala kwaye ndoyike noko.

Kwaye okwangoku, silapha, ngaphezulu kwenyanga kwixesha le-COVID-19, apho ekuphela kwendlela esinokukhetha ukuhlala kuyo. Yonke. Ongatshatanga. Usuku.

Xa uqikelelo lweodolo yokuhlala ekhaya luqala ukujikeleza, ndothuka malunga nokuba siza kuphila njani nomntwana omncinci. Imifanekiso ka-Eli ejikeleza indlu, ekhwina, esenza isiphithiphithi-ngelixa ndihleli ndibeke izandla zam-zithathe ubuchopho bam.

Kodwa nantsi into. Ngelixa iiveki ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo bezinzima ngeendlela ezininzi, ukujongana no-Eli khange kube ngumceli mngeni omkhulu bendinexhala lokuba bekuya kuba njalo. Ngapha koko, ndiyathanda ukucinga ukuba ndizuze ubulumko bobuzali obungenakuthelekiswa nanto obunokuthatha iminyaka ukuyifunda (ukuba ikho).

Nantsi into endiyifumeneyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.

Asifuni izinto zokudlala ezininzi njengoko sicinga

Ngaba ukhawulezile ukugcwalisa inqwelo yakho yeAmazon ngezinto ezintsha zokudlala okwesibini waqonda ukuba uya kuhlala ekhaya ngokungapheliyo? Ndiyenzile, nangona ndiloluhlobo lomntu othi ugcina iithoyi ubuncinci kwaye ugxininise kumava ngaphezulu kwezinto.

Ngaphezu kwenyanga kamva, ezinye zezinto endizithengileyo kusafuneka zityhilwe.

Njengoko kuye kwavela, uEli wonwabile ngokuqhubeka nokudlala ngezinto zokudlala ezifanayo ezilula, ezivulekileyo ngokuphindaphindiweyo- iimoto zakhe, ikhitshi lakhe lokudlala kunye nokudlala ukutya, kunye neempawu zezilwanyana.

Isitshixo sibonakala njengokujikeleza nje izinto rhoqo. Ke zonke iintsuku ezimbalwa ndiza kucima iimoto ezimbalwa ezahlukeneyo okanye nditshintshe izinto ekhitshini lakhe lokudlala.

Ngaphezulu, izinto zasekhaya zemihla ngemihla zibonakala zibambe isibheno. U-Eli unomdla kwi-blender, ke ndiyikhuphile, ndithatha i-blade, kwaye myeke enze ngathi yi-smoothies. Uyayithanda nesaladi spinner- ndiphose iibhola zeping pong ezimbalwa ngaphakathi, kwaye uyathanda ukuzibukela zijikeleza.

Ezo zinto zenziwa ngabantwana abancinci ze-DIY ayisiyonto yam, kwaye senza kakuhle

I-Intanethi izele yimisebenzi yokuhamba encinci ebandakanya izinto ezinje ngeepompo, i-shaving cream, kunye nephepha lokwakha elinemibala emininzi lisikwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo.

Ndiqinisekile ukuba ezo ntlobo zezinto zezona zixhobo zibalulekileyo zabanye abazali. Kodwa andinguye umntu onamaqhinga. Kwaye into yokugqibela endiyifunayo kukuziva ngathi kufanele ukuba ndichitha ixesha lam lamahhala xa u-Eli elele esenza i-fort efanelekileyo ye-Pinterest.

Kwaye ngaphezulu, amaxesha ambalwa ndizamile ukuseta enye yezo zinto, uphulukana nomdla emva kwemizuzu emi-5. Kithina, ayifanele.

Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba sonwabile ngokuqhubeka nezinto ezifuna umzamo omncinci kum. Senza amaqela eeti kunye nezilwanyana ezifakiweyo. Sitshintsha iibhedi kwiiparashute. Sibeka umgqomo wamanzi anesepha kwaye sanika izilwanyana zokudlala ibhafu. Sihleli kwibhentshi lethu langaphambili safunda iincwadi. Sinyuka sisehla phezu kwesingqengqelo ngaphezulu nangaphezulu (okanye ngokuchanekileyo, uyakwenza oko, kwaye ndigade ukuqinisekisa ukuba akukho mntu wenzakalayo).

Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, sikholelwa ekubeni…

Ukuphuma ngaphandle yonke imihla akunakuthethathethana

Ukuhlala esixekweni apho amabala okudlala avaliwe, silinganiselwe ekuhambeni ngokwenyama sijikeleza ibhloko okanye ukuya kwenye yeepaki ezimbalwa ezinkulu nezingenamntu ngokwaneleyo ukuze sihlale sikude nabanye.

Sekunjalo, ukuba kunelanga kwaye kushushu, siyaphuma phandle. Ukuba kuyabanda kwaye kunamafu, siya ngaphandle. Nokuba kuyanetha imini yonke, siyaphumela phandle xa kunkcenkceshela nje.

Uhambo olufutshane lwangaphandle luqhekeza iintsuku kwaye ziphinde zisete iimood zethu xa siziva sine-antsy. Okubaluleke ngakumbi, zizinto eziphambili zokunceda uEli atshise amandla ukuze aqhubeke nokulala kwaye alale kakuhle, kwaye ndinokuba nexesha lokuphumla elifunekayo.

Ndikulungele ukuyiphumuza imithetho yam, kodwa hayi ngokubayeka bawe ecaleni kwendlela ngokupheleleyo

Okwangoku kubonakala ngathi sikule meko kukuhamba ixesha elide. Nokuba imithetho yokuphambuka emzimbeni iyathamba kwiiveki okanye kwiinyanga ezizayo, ubomi abubuyeli kwindlela obabuyiyo kangangexesha elithile.

Ke ngelixa kusenokuvakala kulungile ukwenza ixesha lesikrini elingenamda okanye ukutya okulula kwiiveki zokuqala kumzamo wokufumana nje, okwangoku, ndinexhala malunga neziphumo zexesha elide zokunciphisa imida yethu kakhulu.

Ngamanye amazwi? Ukuba le yinto eqhelekileyo yesiqhelo, siya kufuna imigaqo emitsha eqhelekileyo. Indlela loo mithetho ebukeka ngayo iya kwahluka kusapho ngalunye, ngokucacileyo, ke kuya kufuneka ucinge ngento enokuyenza kuwe.

Kum, oko kuthetha ukuba sinokwenza ukuya kuthi ga kwiyure okanye ngaphezulu komgangatho weTV (njengeSesame Street) ngosuku, kodwa ikakhulu njengendawo yokugqibela.

Kuthetha ukuba sibhaka amaqebengwana okutya okulula ngeentsuku apho singenakho ukuchitha ixesha elininzi ngaphandle, kodwa hayi yonke imihla yeveki.

Oko kuthetha ukuba ndiza kuthatha isiqingatha seyure ukuleqa uEli apha endlini ngenxa yoko ediniwe ngokwaneleyo ukuba angalala ngexesha lakhe lokulala eliqhelekileyo… nokuba ndingathanda ukuchitha loo mizuzu engama-30 ndilele esofeni ngelixa abukele i-YouTube ifowuni yam.

Ukuxhoma kunye nomntwana wam omncinci kunenzuzo efihliweyo

Ndikhe ndizibuze ukuba buza kuba njani ubomi bam xa ndihamba kule meko ndingenamntwana. Akuyi kubakho mntu uzokuhlala ngaphandle kwam.

Mna nomyeni wam besinokupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa iiyure ezi-2 kunye ubusuku bonke kwaye sijongane nayo yonke iprojekthi yasekhaya esakha saphupha ngayo. Andizukulala ebusuku ndixhalabile ngento eza kwenzeka ku-Eli ukuba ndibambe i-COVID-19 ndize ndibe neengxaki ezinzima.

Abazali beentsana, iintsana, kunye nabantwana abancinci banobunzima ngakumbi ngeli xesha lobhubhane. Kodwa sikwafumana into abangenayo oogxa bethu abangenabantwana: isiphazamiso esakhelwe ngaphakathi sokususa iingqondo zethu kubutyhakala obusenzeka emhlabeni ngoku.

Sukundenza impazamo- nditsho noEli, ingqondo yam isenalo ixesha elininzi lokujikeleza kwiimbombo ezimnyama. Kodwa ndifumana ikhefu kuloo nto xa ndibandakanyeke ngokupheleleyo kwaye ndidlala naye.

Xa senza itheko okanye sidlala iimoto okanye sifunda iincwadi zethala leencwadi ebekufanele ukuba zibuyisiwe kwinyanga ephelileyo, lithuba lokulibala okwexeshana ngayo yonke enye into. Kwaye intle kakhulu.

Kuya kufuneka ndiyigqibe le nto, ukuze ndizame kangangoko ndinako

Ngamanye amaxesha ndiziva ngathi andinakukwazi ukuphatha olunye usuku lwale nto.

Kubekho amaxesha amaninzi apho ndiphantse ndalahleka khona, njengaxa uEli endilwela ngokuhlamba izandla ngalo lonke ixesha singena ngokudlala ngaphandle. Okanye nangaliphi na ixesha ndicinga ukuba amagosa ethu anyuliweyo abonakala ngathi akanaso isicwangciso sokwenyani sokusinceda sibuyele nokuba kufutshane kubomi obuqhelekileyo.

Andinakuhlala ndimisa ezi moods ekubeni zingcono kum. Kodwa ndiqaphele ukuba xa ndiphendula uEli ngomsindo okanye ukukhathazeka, ulwa kuphela kwakhona. Kwaye uyacaphuka, nto leyo endenza ndizive ndinetyala kakhulu.

Ngaba ukuhlala ndizolile kusoloko kulula kum? Ewe akunjalo, kwaye ukugcina ukuphola kwam akusoloko kumyekisa ekuphoseni ukulunga. Kodwa ke yenza kubonakala ngathi kusinceda sobabini ukuba silulame ngokukhawuleza kwaye siqhubeke ngokulula, ke ilifu elinemvakalelo alixhomekeki kulo lonke usuku lwethu.

Xa iimvakalelo zam ziqala ukwanda, ndizama ukuzikhumbuza ukuba andinakukhetha ngokubambelela ekhaya kunye nomntwana wam ngoku kwaye imeko yam ayikho mbi kunaye nabani na.

Ngokwenyani wonke umzali omncinci okwilizwe-kwihlabathi, nkqu! -ukujongana nento enye njengam, okanye bajongene nemizabalazo emikhulu njengokuzama ukufikelela ekutyeni okanye emsebenzini ngaphandle kwezixhobo ezifanelekileyo zokukhusela.

Olona khetho ndilukuphela kwalo yenza ndinendlela endijongana ngayo nesandla esingenakuthethathethana endisinikiweyo.

UMarygrace Taylor ngumbhali wezempilo kunye nokuba ngumzali, owayesakuba ngumhleli wephephancwadi le-KIWI, kunye nomama ku-Eli. Undwendwele apha zekhabaylor.com.