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Ukwehla kobunzima yayiyinto yokugqibela engqondweni kaCassie Young xa umfana athandana naye oneminyaka esithoba emcela ukuba atshate naye. Kodwa kamsinya nje emva kokubhengeza ukubandakanyeka kwakhe, umlawuli wedijithali oneminyaka engama-31 ubudala kwi-Bert Show wasondela kumqeqeshi kwi-Twitter owanikezela ukumnceda "ukubumba," ngosuku lwakhe olukhulu.

Ekuqaleni, uCassie wala ngembeko, kodwa le ndoda yaqhubeka nokunyanzela iinkonzo zayo kuye. Ekugqibeleni kwafikelela kwinqanaba apho uCassie waziva ethotyiwe kwaye wagqiba kwelokuba abelane ngonxibelelwano kuFacebook ukutsala ingqalelo kwihlazo lomzimba. (Idibeneyo: Abantu baThatha kwi-Twitter ukuba babelane ngeXesha lokuqala ababenamahloni ngalo mzimba)

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“Sivuyisana nawe ngokuzibandakanya kwakho,” yabhala le ndoda, noCassie wakhetha ukungafihli. Uqhubeke ngokudwelisa iziqinisekiso zakhe kwaye wacela uCassie ukuba amqeshe ukuba anciphise ubunzima bomtshato wakhe.

Engacingi kwanto, uCassie uphendule wathi: "Ndimile! Ndiyabulela kakhulu ngesi sipho, nangona."

Inokuba yindawo entle leyo yokuphelisa incoko, kodwa le ndoda yafikelela kuye kwakhona, imcinezela ukuba anciphise umzimba. (Idibeneyo: UJulianne Hough akanamdla wokutya ngaphambi komtshato wakhe)

“Ndiyazi ukuba ufuna ukubonakala umhle ngosuku lwakho lomtshato,” wabhala. "Ukuba awundiqeshi, qesha umntu. Lezo mifanekiso zidlulileyo kwiinkulungwane. Abantwana babantwana bakho baya kuhlala benayo loo mifanekiso."

Wothuswa yimpendulo, uCassie wagqiba kwelokuba azimele kwaye uxelele le ndoda ngemizabalazo yobuqu enomzimba, ngethemba lokuba izakumshiya yedwa. "Ndiyazi ukuba mhlawumbi kunzima ukuba uyiqonde le nto, kodwa kundithathe ixesha elide ukuba ndiwuthande umzimba wam," ubhale watsho. "Ndihlala ndihlazekile okanye ndikhunjuzwa ukuba ndinzima kwaye ndifanele ndihlazeke-okanye abantu bahlazeke ngenxa yam-okanye bavele bahlazeke, bandibize ngokuthi 'ndizonyanyekayo.' Ndizamile ukuyidlula yonke loo nto kwaye ndiyazithanda kunye nendlela endijongeka ngayo. "

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Indoda yakhawuleza yaphendula isithi: "Ungayamkela indlela okhangeleka ngayo kodwa awungekhe wonwabe ngendlela okhangeleka ngayo. Awunakuzixokisa ... Ndinqwenela ukuba wonke umntu owamkelekileyo emzimbeni angayamkela inyani kukuba abonwabanga yimizimba yabo. " (Eyeleleneyo: Inqununu yesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo ibanjiwe ixelela abafundi ukuba mabangazinxibi iiLeggings ngaphandle kokuba zinobukhulu 0 okanye 2)

UCassie wanele. “Ndibuhlungu ngawe kuba ukuzixabisa kwakho kuxhomekeke kwinkangeleko yakho,” utshilo. "Ubeka ngokucacileyo isitokhwe esininzi kwinkangeleko kodwa usilele ukuqonda ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu ofuna ukubotshelelwa kuloo nto yokungazithembi."

Wongeze ngelithi, enyanisweni, wayeyinxalenye yengxaki kwaye wala ukuba nenxaxheba kumdlalo wakhe. "Ndiyayigatya imbono yakho yokusebenza ngokuphezulu kunye nokujonga, kwaye ndiyazamkela iinjongo zam zempilo yangaphakathi."

UCassie unethemba lokuba ngokwabelana ngale ncoko angakwazi ukunceda umntu othe wabanjwa ngenxa yokungakhuseleki kwakhe. "Ixabiso lakho langaphakathi kunye nokuzixabisa kwakho kuvela kuwe, hayi ngendlela okhangeleka ngayo," ubhale ecaleni kweposti. "Ngubani onika i-f**k ukuba uneeponti ezimbalwa ezongezelelweyo. Okanye ishumi. Okanye amashumi amabini. Amashumi amathathu. Nokuba yintoni na. Ukuba wonwabile kwaye usempilweni, YONKE loo nto ibalulekileyo."

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