Umncede Njani Ukulwa uPaige VanZant Melana Nokuxhatshazwa kunye nohlaselo ngokwesondo

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Bambalwa kuphela abantu abanokuzibamba kwi-Octagon ngokufana nomlo we-MMA uPaige VanZant. Nangona kunjalo, i-badass eneminyaka engama-24 ubudala sonke siyayazi inexesha elidlulileyo uninzi olungalwaziyo: Wazabalaza ngokuzimisela ukuze aphumelele kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kwaye wayecinga nokuzibulala emva kokuxhatshazwa kanobom kwaye wadlwengulwa xa wayeneminyaka eli-14 kuphela ubudala.

"Ukuya kulo naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhaphaza nangaliphi na ixesha kunokuba yingozi kakhulu kwaye kuyanyamezeleka emphefumlweni," utshilo uVanZant Ubume. (Edibeneyo: Ubunzima Bakho Kokungcungcuthekisa) "Ndisajongana nezinye zeempembelelo ezishiyekileyo kubomi bam bemihla ngemihla. Ndifunde ukumelana nentlungu kwaye ndasebenza ngeendlela zokuqhubela phambili ngobomi bam."

UVanZant, okwangummeli weReebok, uchaze amava akhe ngokuxhatshazwa kwimemo yakhe entsha, Vuka. "Ndiyathemba ukuba incwadi yam inokuchaphazela abantu kwihlabathi liphela kwaye ibonise indlela ukuxhatshazwa okunokubuchaphazela ngayo ubomi bomntu," utshilo. "Ndiyathemba ukuba ndizakutshintsha abahlukumezi bangaphakathi ndibabonise amaxhoba ukuba ababodwa."

Ngelixa uVanZant ebenyanisile nabalandeli bakhe malunga nokuxhatshazwa, ukuthetha ngamava akhe okuhlaselwa ngokwesondo akuzange kube lula kuye. Kangangokuba akazange abelane ngamava akhe kwincwadi yakhe.

"Ndisebenza kwincwadi yam malunga neminyaka emibini, kwaye ngelo xesha, intshukumo ye #MeToo yavela," utsho. "Enkosi kubugorha babasetyhini abaninzi, andizange ndizive ndedwa kuhambo lwam kwaye ndizive ndiqinisekile ukuba ndingabelana ngokwenzekileyo. Ndithuthuzeleke kakhulu kukwazi ukuba kukho abanye abafana nam. Ndinebhongo ngazo zonke ezi zinto. abafazi beza ngaphambili kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba amazwi kunye namabali ethu atshintsha ikamva kwaye enze kube lula kubantu basetyhini ukuba bathethe."

Abafazi bentshukumo ye #MeToo banokuthi banike uVanZant amandla okwabelana ngebali lakhe, kodwa yayikukulwa okwamnceda kakhulu ukuba aphumelele kwezona ndawo zibuhlungu ebomini bakhe. Uthi: “Ukufumana umlo kwabusindisa ubomi bam. "Ndikwindawo emnyama emva koxinzelelo endidlule kulo. Kuthathe ixesha elide kakhulu kum ukuba ndizive ndikhululekile nakweyiphi na imeko apho ingqalelo ibikhona kum. Ndifuna ukudibanisa kangangoko ndinako. Nditsho xa ndandineminyaka eli-15 ubudala, ndandiza kuba noloyiko ngenxa yokuba ndandisoyika ukuya esikolweni ndedwa.” (Eyeleleneyo: Amabali okwenyani abasetyhini abaxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ngelixa bebesebenza)

Kwakungelo xesha ngeli xesha utata kaVanZant amkhuthazayo ukuba azame ukulwa-ngethemba lokuba iya kumnceda ngandlela thile. Kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha, yenze kanye loo nto. "Utata kwafuneka ajoyine i-MMA yokuzivocavoca inyanga kwaye aye kwiklasi nganye nam de ndizive ndikhululekile apho," utshilo uVanZant. "Ndiye ndaphinda ndafumana ukuzithemba kwam kwaye ndaphela kwinqanaba endikulo namhlanje. Kwathatha ixesha elide, kodwa ekugqibeleni ndaziva ndingcono kakhulu kwaye ngoku andinayo imithambo-luvo yokungena kwigumbi ndizibuza ukuba abantu bacinga ntoni ngam. " (Kukho isizathu sokuba i-supermodel uGisele Bündchen afunge nge-MMA ngomzimba oqinileyo kwaye uxinzelelo kuxinzelelo.)

Nokuba ujongene nantoni, uVanZant uziva ukuba ukufunda ukuzikhusela, nokuba ungakanani na, kunokuba ngumthombo omkhulu wokuxhobisa. "Ukungena kwindawo yokuzivocavoca okanye kwiklasi yokuzikhusela, nokuba ayikuko ukufunda ukulwa nabantu, kuya kukunika ukuzithemba okukhulu kwaye kukunike iqela elihle labantu ukuba libe kufutshane," uthi. (Nazi ezinye izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni kufuneka unike iMMA umfanekiso.)

Ngoku, uVanZant usebenzisa iqonga lakhe ukukhuthaza abantu basetyhini ukuba bafumane ukuzithemba kunye nokuzithemba, kwanawona maxesha amnyama. “Ndiyathemba ukuba abantu basetyhini, ingakumbi, bazakufunda incwadi yam bamamele ibali lam,” utshilo. "Abasetyhini bayasokola kakhulu ngokuzithemba nokuzithemba. Kwaye ukuba wongeza ukuxhaphaza kumxube, ubomi bungaba mnyama. Ndifuna nje abantu bazi ukuba ababodwa kwaye kukho iindlela zokusebenzela usizi."

Iinkqubo ezinkulu kuVanZant zokufumana isibindi sokwabelana ngebali lakhe kunye nokukhuthaza uninzi lwabasetyhini kwinkqubo.

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