Ukubukela unyana wakhe ephantse ukutshayiswa yimoto kwaphefumlela lo mfazi ukuba alahlekelwe ziiponti ezili-140.

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Ubunzima bam yinto ebendisokola ngayo ubomi bam bonke. Ndandi "chunky" ndisengumntwana kwaye ndibiza igama elithi "intombazana enkulu" esikolweni-isiphumo sobudlelwane bam obunetyhefu kunye nokutya okwaqala xa ndandineminyaka emi-5 kuphela ubudala.

Uyabona, kulapho ndaqala ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo.

Ndahlukunyezwa lilungu losapho kwaye kwaqhubeka ixesha elide. Uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo kwandikhokelela ekubeni ndiqale ukutya kakhulu. Ndiza kuphuma ebhedini ndisoyikeka ebusuku ndize ndibuyele ekutyeni ukuze ndonwabe ukuze ndincede ndiphinde ndilale.

Njengokuba okwakwenzeka ekhaya kwakungekho nzima ngokwaneleyo, ndaye ndahlukunyezwa yinkwenkwe endala ebumelwaneni bethu xa ndandineminyaka eyi-6 kwaye kamva ndadlwengulwa yinkwenkwe kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. (Eyeleleneyo: I-Ballet yandinceda ukuba ndiphinde ndiqhagamshelane nomzimba wam emva kokudlwengulwa-ngoku ndinceda abanye benze okufanayo)

Nangona kwakungekho mntu waziyo ukuba ndihamba njani, ngandlel’ ithile, ndandifana namantombazana amaninzi kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Bendihlala ndizama ukufumana "ubhityile" kwaye ndizame lonke iqhinga lokunciphisa ubunzima. Kodwa ekupheleni kosuku, andinakuze ndilawule umlutha wam kukutya kwaye ndiqhubeke ndisitya ngasese-ndichitha isibonelelo sam sonke kukutya okungenamsoco kwaye ndikufihle.

Ngenxa yobukhulu bam, ndaxhatshazwa kakhulu ndaza ndaqhubeka ndibhenela ekutyeni ukuze ndithuthuzeleke. Ukutyhubela iminyaka yam yeshumi elivisayo, ndandisoloko ndixinezelekile ngokweemvakalelo. Xa ndiziva ndixhalabile kwaye ndinxunguphele, ndandizinkcinkca, emva koko ndizilambise iintsuku ezine ukuze "ndizohlwaye". (Idibeneyo: Kutheni kufuneka unikezele ngokutya okunesithintelo kube kanye)

Zidibeneyo, zonke ezi zinto zindishiyile ndizithembile okanye ndazixabisa. Ndandiziva ndonakele yaye ngokufuthi ndandizithulela—ndisoyika ukuba abanye abantwana baya kufumanisa ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kum, nto leyo eyayinokwenza ukungcungcuthekiswa kwam kubi nangakumbi.

Ukuthembela kwam ngokutya nokungawuhloneli umzimba wam kwaqhubeka kwanasemva kokuba nditshatile ndaza ndanonyana wam. Xa wayeneminyaka emalunga ne-3 ubudala, wayedlala epakini ezantsi kwesitalato ukusuka kwindlu yethu. Sasidlala ithegi, kwaye wayendileqa, kodwa ndathi ndisaleqa, wagqiba kwelokuba ajike waqalisa ukubetheka esangweni. Khange ndikwazi ukumbamba ngenxa yobukhulu bam, wabaleka waphuma ngegeyithi wangena endleleni, apho imoto yakhwaza khona yema, yamisa kwiisentimitha ezimbalwa kuye. (Related: Indlela yokuba nentombi ebutshintshe njani ubudlelwane bam noKutya ngonaphakade)

Akazange abethwe kwaye akalimalanga, kodwa intliziyo yam yawela phantsi. Ukuziva ndinetyala kundenze ndaziva ndingoyena mama ungoyena mntu. Ukuza kuthi ga namhlanje, ndisalukhumbula ngokucacileyo uloyiko nonxunguphalo endandinalo ndisazi ukuba ndandingenakukwazi ukuqhubeka nomntwana wam—kangangokuba ubomi bakhe babubekwe esichengeni. Okwalo mzuzu, bendisazi ukuba andifuni ukuba imikhwa yam imchaphazele kakubi, kwaye ndifuna ukumfundisa indlela yokuphila esempilweni. Ekuphela kwendlela yokwenza oko yayikukukhokela ngomzekelo.

Ke, ndiqeshe umqeqeshi ukuba andincede andigcine ndiphendula kwaye ndisendleleni, nto leyo endingazange ndiyenze ngaphambili. Ndabhala amanqaku ancangathileyo endlwini yam yonke ukukhumbuza ukuba ndihlale ndigxile, kunye neziqinisekiso ezilungileyo ezandikhuthazayo kwaye zandikhuthaza ukuba ndigcine kwisicwangciso sam sokutya. Ndiza kubhala kwakhona kwaye ndifunde iincwadi ezikhuthazayo zokuphucula. Ndahlala ndicinga ngaloo mini xa ndaphantse ndafelwa ngunyana wam, kunye nokwenzakala ngokwesini endandityhubela kuko. Kwathatha ixesha, kodwa ekugqibeleni, kunokuba ndisebenzise la mava njengesingxengxezo sokutshisa imikhwa yam emibi, ndaqalisa ukuwasebenzisa njengesibaso sokutyhala kunye nokuzixhobisa. (Izinto eziNxulumeneyo: Izizathu ezi-5 ezisemthethweni zokuqesha umqeqeshi wobuqu)

Umsebenzi wam ukwayinto eyandinceda kakhulu. Ndibe ngumfoti oqeqeshiweyo kangangeminyaka esithoba. Enye yeendlela endandihlala ngayo ndikhuthazekile yayikukudubula iimbaleki nokuva amabali abo. Ukufunda kweminye yemiqobo abaye bayoyisa ukuya kufika apho baphefumlelwe khona ngenene kundikhuthaze ukuba ndityhalele nzima kwaye ndilwele impilo yam.

Namhlanje, ndiqeqesha iintsuku ezintlanu ngeveki, nto leyo edla ngokulandelwa yimizuzu engama-30 ye-cardio. Ndikwasifundisa iiklasi zokujikeleza kunye neeklasi ze-cardio kumdlalo wam wokuzilolonga, kwaye ndiqhuba iintsuku ezintathu ngeveki njengenxalenye yoqeqesho kwisiqingatha sokuqala semarathon. Ngokuphathelele ukutya kwam, ndithathe indlela yokutya yonke kwaye ndikunqumle ngokupheleleyo ukutya okungenamsoco kunye nayo nayiphi na into epakishweyo okanye esetyenzisiweyo. Nangona kwakungekho lula ukuqeqesha ingqondo yam ukuba icinge ngokutya ngendlela eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo, kule minyaka mibini idlulileyo, ndizifundise ukujonga ukutya njengendlela yokondla umzimba wam, kunokuba ibe yindlela yokuphazamisa. ukusuka kuxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. (Idibeneyo: Uxelela njani ukuba uyadla ngokweemvakalelo)

Oko ndaqala uhambo lwam lokunciphisa ubunzima kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo, ndilahlekelwe yi-140 pounds kwaye ndiziva ndimangalisa ngenkqubela phambili yam, ngakumbi xa ndijonga emva apho ndaqala khona. Ndinebhongo kakhulu kuba ndingumntu owahluke ngokupheleleyo ngokwasemoyeni-ndingumntu endandisoloko ndisazi ukuba ndiphantsi.

Ngoku, ndikhetha ukuzithanda yonke imihla. Ukutshintsha indlela endicinga ngayo kundincede ndabona ukuba ukubaluleka kwam akunamathele kumava am adlulileyo. Ndikhuthaza nabani na ongomnye kwezihlangu zam ukuba abuze ngoba bafuna ukwenza utshintsho kwindlela abaphila ngayo nakwimpilo yabo. "Kutheni" yakho izakukugcina ukhuthazeka kwezi ntsuku uziva unqwenela ukuncama ngazo. Kum, yayingumyeni wam nonyana wam, kodwa nam. Ndandifuna ukubuyisela amandla am angaphakathi kwaye ndibe yeyona nguqulelo ilungileyo kum ukuze emva koko ndincede abanye. (Idibeneyo: Uyenza njani kwakhona into yokuKhuthaza ukuNcipha kokuNcipha xa ufuna nje ukuphola nokutya iichips)

Kumava am, ukulahleka kwesisindo kunye nokutshintsha kwendlela yokuphila kungama-90 ekhulwini ngengqondo. Kuya kufuneka ukhululeke xa ungonwabanga. Olu hambo luza kukucela umngeni ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo nezingalindelekanga- kunye neentsuku ezithile (kulungile, masibeyinyani, a okuninzi weentsuku) uya kuziva ufuna ukuyeka. Khawukhumbule nje ukuba ukungenzi nto kunye nokuhlala apho ukhoyo kuthatha amandla, kwaye kunzima ukuhlala "unamathele" ukuguqula iivili zakho. Ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu lwendlela yokuphila kuthatha umlinganiselo ofanayo wamandla kwaye kunzima, kwakhona. Ke kuya kufuneka ukhethe ubunzima bakho. Yiloo nto eza kukutyhala ukuba wenze utshintsho oluhlala luhleli ozingcayo ngalo. Ndibubungqina obuphilayo.

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