Lo mphembeleli wentlalontle uchaza ngokugqibeleleyo izibonelelo zempilo yengqondo zokubaleka

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Ukuba ukhe wacinga ukuba "ukuqhuba lunyango lwam," awuwedwa. Kukho into malunga nokubetha indawo egangathiweyo ebeka ingqondo yakho ngokukhululeka, ukuyenza ibe yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokukhathalela umzimba wakho kwaye impilo Yengqondo. Kungenxa yoko le nto xa sabona iposti yamva nje ngempembelelo yempilo entle uMaggie Van de Loo we @coffeeandcardio, yabetha kakhulu. Iakhawunti kaMaggie ineetoni zokutya okunempilo, ulwazi oluluncedo lokuzikhathalela, kunye nothando olunzulu lokugawula iimayile. Kutsha nje, wabelane ngokuthe ngqo malunga nokubaleka okumncedayo athomalalise uxinzelelo.

Ukuba uzijonga njengembaleki, iingcinga zakhe ziya kuba yinyaniso nakuwe. "Ukuzivocavoca kwaye ngokukodwa, ukuqhuba, lelinye lamaxesha apho ingqondo yam ithe cwaka," ubhale watsho kwi-caption yakhe. "Ndihlala ndinomjelo 'wento elandelayo'; izinto ekufuneka ndizenzile, yabona, ndigqibe, khumbula. Ixhala kunye neenjongo kunye namaphupha kunye neentlungu. Kwaye ezo zinto zinokulunga, zinokukhuthaza. Kwaye zinokuba nzima ," uthe. "Ukubaleka kuthoba ezo ngcinga. Kunciphisa into yam yokwenza uluhlu lwezinto ezimbini; 1. Ekhohlo, ekunene, ekhohlo, ekunene, ekhohlo, ekunene, ekhohlo ... 2. Ungalibali ukuphefumla." (Inqaku elisecaleni: Nazi izibonelelo ezili-13 zempilo yengqondo yokuzilolonga.)

Ukubaleka ayisiyiyo kuphela uxinzelelo kuxinzelelo. UMaggie ubonisa ukuba inokuba nezinye izibonelelo ongenakuze uzilindele. “Ukubaleka nomntu kunokomeleza ubudlelwane obungakholelwayo,” utshilo Ubume ngokukodwa. "Ukugijima kunye nabantu kwakha ibhondi ekhethekileyo kwaye kudala inethiwekhi yenkxaso eyahlukileyo endiye ndacinezeleka ukuba ndiyifumane naphi na. Ukusuka kwiiklabhu zokuqhuba, ukugijima isiqingatha semarathoni kunye nodade okhohlakeleyo, ukuya kumhlobo oqhuba imihla apho sisombulula khona zonke ihlabathi. iingxaki, akukho nto ifana nayo. " Uqinisekile ukuba ufuna umhlobo obalekayo okwangoku?

Kwaye ukuba konke oku kuvakala kunomtsalane kodwa ukholelwa ngokuqinileyo ukuba "awuyombaleki," uMaggie unokhuthazo oluncinci. "Into endiyithandayo malunga nokubaleka kukuba ukuba uyabaleka, ngoko *uyimbaleki. Akukhathaliseki nokuba ungakanani na, okanye ubaleka kangakanani na," utsho. Ngelixa evuma ukuba ukufika kwindawo onokuthi ubaleke kuyo (endaweni yokucinga ukuba "sekuphelile oku?") kuthatha umsebenzi omncinci, uthi usetyenziso olusebenzayo olumvumela ukuba alandele inkqubela yakhe yaba yinkuthazo kuye. . (Ukuphefumlelwa kancinci, jonga indlela u-Anna Victoria afunde ngayo ukuba yimbaleki.)

"Ukubaleka akunakuba yinto eyenza intliziyo yakho icule kwaye amaxhala akho awe, kwaye kulungile," utshilo. "Musa ukuzikhathaza ngokuzama ukuxinzelela uxinzelelo ngokuzilolonga ongakuthandiyo! Inxalenye yohambo lwam lokubaleka yayihamba yonke imisebenzi eyayilolonga umzimba kodwa ayindincedanga ukulawula uxinzelelo ngokunjalo, okanye ezo bekufanele ukuba zilungile 'ukufaka injongo yempilontle apha' kodwa eneneni ayizange idibane nam kwaphela. " Ekugqibeleni, uyakufumana into ecofa, kwaye ingqondo yakho * kunye * nomzimba uya kuba ngcono kuyo.

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