IiBalms zoBomi - Umqu. 5: UDiane Exavier kwaye kuthetha ntoni ukukhathalela

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Kubonakala njani ukukhathalelana - {textend} ngokokuziphatha, ngentembeko, nangothando?

Uhambile umzuzu, kodwa sibuyele emva ngokutsiba!

Wamkelekile kwakhona kwii-Balms zoBomi, uthotho lodliwanondlebe kwizinto - {textend} ezibonakalayo nezingaphathekiyo - {textend} ezisinceda ukuba sidlule.

Kolu fakelo, ndithetha nembongi yaseBrooklyn-eyazalwa, isincoko, umlingisi, kunye notitshala, uDiane Exavier. Ndandiqala ukuqhelana noDiane ngomhlobo ohlangane kwaye kwangoko ndathatha ukufunda kwakhe iingcinga zakhe kwi-Twitter, ukusukela kumabali athandanayo okuthandana ngokuhlekisayo ukuya kwimibuzo ecingayo yokuba singangcono kanjani, kunye.

Kodwa kuxa ndandiqala ukufunxa ukonwaba kukhathalelo- {textend} ngakumbi, malunga nokuba kuthetha ntoni ukwenza inkathalo ngomsonto ochukumisa konke okwenziwa ngumntu ebomini babo - {textend} ukuba ndimqonde, kwaye , okokuqala.

KuDiane, ukhathalelo alunakuqhawulwa ngumtshato kwimikhwa esisiseko ejolise kubomi bakhe. Kwaye ke, ngokwendalo, ukhathalelo olungagungqiyo lwaba yinto ephambili.

Ikhonkco ekufuneka lisonjululwe.

Inkathalo imalunga nezinto zomhlaba: imizimba, umhlaba. -Umbhalo} UDiane Exavier

Ubomi bunzima.

Incwadi yakhe - {textend} i-anti-elegy "Teaching of Peaches" - {textend} ibhala nje loo nto, kulandela ukusweleka kwikati yakhe ngegama elifanayo. Kodwa ulwimi alusebenzisayo uDiane ukwenza intsingiselo yentlungu kunye nokhathalelo kunye nendawo yokwakha isimo luyenza ibe ntle ngaphandle kokunikezela.

Kwaye kule ncoko sibuyela kwiziseko kunye nomculi: Luyintoni ukhathalelo, ngokwenene? Kwaye yintoni le ithi, xa konke kusenziwa kwaye kwenziwe, ihlale apha, ibambene?

Amani Bin Shikhan: Unjani, boo? Uphila njani?

UDiane Exavier: Ndilungile! Kushushu kwi-BK, ke ubukhulu becala ukuzama ukuhlala uzolile ngelixa ubamba ngokwaneleyo eli langa. Unjani?

AB: Owu, ngokufanayo. Ubushushu obushushu abuyekanga eToronto nokuba, kodwa andikwazi ukukhalaza. Ngaphandle koko, ndi ... kulungile-kufutshane. Sekulixesha elincinci, andinakuxoka. Kodwa uwele ingqondo yam mva nje - {textend} amagama akho kukhathalelo, ngakumbi.

Ungaqala ngokundixelela ngomsebenzi wakho? Kwaye umbono wakho wokukhathalela?

I-DE: ILizwi. Into eqinisekile. Ndingumculi- {textend} umbhali, umenzi weqonga, kunye notitshala. Ngamanye amaxesha iilebheli ziziva ngathi kukuzilolonga kwii-semantics, kodwa ndenza nganye yezo zinto, ngamanye amaxesha kunye, ngamanye amaxesha ngokwahlukeneyo. Konke kuhlala kusenzelwa ukuququzelela ukuqokelela, okunokuvela ukusuka kusondele kakhulu kuluntu ngokubanzi.

Izimvo zam malunga nokhathalelo zii-ethos - {textend} umoya - {textend} apho lo msebenzi wenziwa khona. Ndicinga ukuba bendihlala ndisebenza ngononophelo engqondweni, kodwa ibiyiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo apho ndikwazile ukuchaza ukhathalelo njengegama kunye nento ethile endiyilandelayo kunye nomphathi.

AB: Uqale njani ukwenza umsebenzi owenzayo? Ingakanani eyandulela uhlobo lwendawo yokungena yobungcali?

I-DE: Intshayelelo yam ekwenzeni ubugcisa yeza kuqala ngokubonisa ubugcisa ndisengumntwana: ukuhamba isikolo ukuya kwiimyuziyam, ixesha lobugcisa ngexesha leeklasi. Kwisikolo samabanga emfundo, besineminyhadala yeKrisimesi neNtwasahlobo apho ibakala ngalinye belizakufunda kwaye liqhelisele iingoma ezintathu (iJackson 5, iBeach Boys, nditsho noMariah Carey!) Bayinto enkulu kangako.

Ndingumntwana oneentloni, kodwa le mikhosi ndandiyithatha ngokungathí sina. Ndiyithandile imbono yokuziqhelanisa, yokwenza, kunye nokwabelana. Kwaye ndicinga ukuba indinike ithuba lokuba ndisebenze ixesha elithile, ngaphandle kwayo ndingabuyela kuthule.

Ke, bendisoloko ndinomdla wokuyila. Kwaye emva koko nditsibela phambili ukuya kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ndajoyina iklabhu yomdaniso apho sasigxile kumdaniso wale mihla, kwaye utitshala wam wacebisa ukuba afundele umsebenzi kulutsha kwiMyuziyam yaseWhitney.

Eli yayilixesha lam lokuqala ukubona ubugcisa ngengqondo yobungcali eyayingaqhotyoshelwanga kwiphupha lokuba ngumculi. Kwakukho abantu kwiiofisi abasebenza kwiikhompyuter kwaye besenza iikopi kwaye besenza into ebonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi osebenzayo. Ndizinze kwisebe lezemfundo kwaye yayisengqiqweni kum into yokuba, kuba ndandibuthanda ubugcisa nokufunda, oku kunokuba ngumsebenzi onokubakho.

Ndihlala nditsaleleke ngakumbi kubuhle kunokuba ndinaso kwingxoxo ... ikwayinto yokulinganisa: yomfanekiso omkhulu ngokuchasene nomncinci. -Umbhalo} UDiane Exavier

Ke ukungena kwam kubugcisa njengomsebenzi wobugcisa kwakukufundo lobugcisa. Kulapho kugxilwe khona ukuququzelela: isikhokelo, ukugcwala, ukubamba abaphulaphuli.

Kwaye ukungathandi okwenyani kukuqaqamba okanye udumo.

Ndiziva ndingoyena mculi ungathandekiyo, ikakhulu ngenxa yokuba ndiyintombi yabantu baseHaiti abangazanga eBrooklyn ukuba umntwana wabo enze "ubugcisa." Okwangoku, umama ukhalaza ngokungabi yijaji okanye into evakala ngathi "ngumsebenzi."

(Akalokothi athethe igqwetha, endilifumana lixela kakhulu.)

AB: Kutheni ucinga ukuba isixelela ukuba umama wakho akathethi gqwetha?

I-DE: Andidibani nokudibana (Umhlaza, umntwana ophakathi ngokukhulisa, umntwana oziphethe kakuhle wabafuduki, umfazi weli hlabathi), kodwa ndiziva ndomelele kakhulu malunga nobulungisa kunye nokulingana kwezinto, ndazi kakuhle ukuba abantu abanamandla Andinamdla kubulungisa.

Kwaye mhlawumbi yiyo yonke iminyaka yokumamela ooSista benceba, kodwa bendisoloko nditsaleleke ngakumbi kubuhle kunakwimpikiswano ... ikwayinto yokulinganisa: yomfanekiso omkhulu ngokuchasene nomncinci.

AB: Ndilufumana unxibelelwano phakathi kononophelo nobulungisa. Ngaba ungathetha nam ngakumbi malunga noku - {textend} "umoya" wenkathalo, ukuzinikela kwakho kubulungisa?

I-DE: Ndingowona mfundi mbi kumdlalo weqonga (indawo yokufunda ndinazo zonke iidigri zam), kodwa enye yezinto zemidlalo yeqonga eye yazama ngokwembali ngumkhuba wovelwano.

Abantu banxibe la mabali ukuze babe sezicathulweni zabanye abantu. Kwaye likho ithemba lokuba emva kokuba umdlalo ugqityiwe, uyakubuyela ebomini bakho emzimbeni wakho, emva kokumiswa okwexeshana, utshintshe ngandlela thile.

Ayizizo zonke iithiyetha ezijolise ekwenzeni oku, kodwa okuninzi kuyenza. (Kwaye uninzi lwemidlalo yeqonga ayiphumeleli kule nto, kodwa yilencoko iyenye.)

Njengokuba ndikhulile kwaye nehlabathi liye lonakala, kuye kwafuneka ndicele umngeni kwimibono yam yovelwano: yintoni, isebenza njani, ukusetyenziswa kwayo. Kwaye into endiyifumeneyo emva kweencoko ezininzi eziphazamisayo kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo kunye nabasebenzisana kukuba kukho ukusilela okunzulu, okunzulu kovelwano kuba akonelanga.

Akwanelanga ukuya kwi-gymnastics yeengcamango ezimbini kunye nesiqingatha seyure zonke ukuba izibane zibuyele ekupheleni komboniso kwaye ndibuyele ekhaya ndonwabile kwaye andichaphazelekanga.

Kodwa njengoko ndiyiguqulile indlela yam, ubuhle bam, kunye nezinto endizithandayo zononophelo, ndiye ndafumanisa ukuba ifuna wonke umntu: abenzi, amagcisa, abaphulaphuli, nkqu nabavelisi.

Ngononophelo, ayisiyongqondo nje engacacanga "yobomi" okanye "amava" asemngciphekweni. Inkathalo imalunga nezinto zomhlaba: imizimba, umhlaba. Kukho iziphumo ezikhawulezileyo ngokwenyama. Ke ukuba ndibiza umzimba ukuba uqaphele, ifuna ntoni loo nto?

Ndiya ekhaya, kuqala nokuphambili. Kulapho ndafumana khona uhlobo lokhathalelo olwenze ukuba ndikwazi nokuthetha ngayo, ndithetha ngayo nantoni na. -Umbhalo} UDiane Exavier

Inkathalo ayiyongcamango. Yondla abantu, ibabonelele ngendawo yokuhlala. Kukuchukumisa. Yinto eyahlukileyo ukonwaba njengoko izama ukubonelela ngentuthuzelo.

Ukhathalelo lumalunga nokwandiswa kunye nokugcinwa.

Ayisiyongcinga (njengakwingqondo). Ndiyathetha, jonga apho "ukucinga" kusifumene khona. Aba bantu kunye ne-antics yabo yokuKhanya! Kusendle.

AB: Ke ngoku "ukwandiswa kunye nokuhoywa," ufumanisa njani ukuba useta iiparameter ezithile malunga nononophelo? Uyichaza njani imigaqo yokuziphatha yakho yokhathalelo, ukutsho njalo?

I-DE: Kulungile, ndonwabile ukuba ubuzile oku. Kuba le yeyona nto iphambili, iphambili kum: iprojekthi yokuphila kodwa nokubhala- {textend} oku kuzama ukuchaza indlela yokuziphatha kwam yokhathalelo.

Ndiya ekhaya, kuqala nokuphambili. Kulapho ndafumana khona uhlobo lokhathalelo olwenze ukuba ndikwazi nokuthetha ngayo, ndithetha ngayo nantoni na.

Kwaye ke, inkcazo yemikhwa yam yokhathalelo iqala ngokwenza ubudlelwane. Ewe! Ukuziphatha kokhathalelo kukukhangela ubudlelwane.

Ewe ndicinga nosapho lwam kuqala- {textend} abantu endibe nethamsanqa lokuba ndibenako ukujongana nokhathalelo lwam. Kodwa emva koko, abahlobo, abantu osebenza nabo, nkqu nabantu oqhelene nabo. Ungubani? Uvela phi? Wenzantoni apha? Le yimibuzo.

Njengoko iimpendulo zihambelana okanye ziphambuka, ndiyakwazi ukulinganisa inqanaba lobudlelwane.

Uyazi, ndihlala ndiziva ndikhathalelwe kakhulu xa kulinywa kunye nokukhula kudlalwa. -Umbhalo} UDiane Exavier

Ke unokuba lusapho lwam okanye awunakuba lusapho lwam. Ipholile. Kodwa ukuba siyiphendula phezulu le mibuzo, singavumelana ngobuntu bethu kwaye siyigcine ishukuma okanye sihlangana.

Kuya kufuneka ndibhalise umzimba wakho njengoluntu kunye noluntu. Ukuze nokuba sihlala singabasemzini, kuya kubakho ukhathalelo oluthile. Ukupha kuyadlala, nako. Kodwa ukuqonda.

AB: Mmmmm.

I-DE: Kukho eli binzana laseHaiti, Tout mounn se mounn, amadoda tout mounn pa menm. Ithatha ukuba "Bonke abantu ngabantu, kodwa ayingabo bonke abantu abafanayo." Ndivakalelwa kukuba esi sisaci sendlela yokhathalela.

Kodwa kufuneka ibuyiselwe umva kwindlela le mibuzo inye isetyenziswa ngayo emapoliseni.

AB: Uthetha ukuthini ngalo nto?

I-DE: "Ungubani? Uvela phi? Wenzantoni apha?" Le yimibuzo yam njengoko ivula ithuba lokunxibelelana nabantu.

Kodwa le mibuzo inye yenziwe ngabantu abazinikele kubumhlophe, ubukhosi, kunye nokugxothwa njengeendlela zokuvala iingcango kunye nokwenza imida. Ke loo ntshukumisa ivela kulwazi [lwangaphakathi koluntu] ijika ibe sisoyikiso [xa ishiya ibala].

AB: Uziva ukhathalelwe nini?

I-DE: Makhe ndingene kwiimvakalelo zam.

AB: Kakhulu ikaka yam.

I-DE: Uyazi, ndihlala ndiziva ndikhathalelwe kakhulu xa kulinywa kunye nokukhula kudlalwa.

Ke xa umntu endiphekela ukutya okanye esenza into encinci ukuyenzela lula okanye indithuthuzele, ihlala iyandothusa kuba ndingumntu okwaziyo ukuzimela. Kwaye andikuthandi ukucela uncedo. Kodwa xa ndincedwa ngaphandle kokufumana imbilini yokuyicela. Khathalela!

Kuba kuthetha ukuba umntu ujonge kwaye wandijonga.

Ndiza kubona kuphela [umama wam] anike kwaye anike, kwaye ndicinga ukuba iphembelele uninzi lwendlela endilubona ngayo ukhathalelo njengento engenzi mvumelwano kodwa into enemithetho yayo, nayo. - {isicatshulwa} uAmani Bin Shikhan

Kodwa kwakhona, ndicela uncedo- {textend} le yeyona nto ndizama ukuyisebenza!

Andifane ndibenomdla wokukhathalela kwam - {textend} ayisiyiyo ukuba andikufanelanga. Ndiyazi nje ukuba ndikhathalelwe ngokwaneleyo kwaye xa kukhathalelwa ngakumbi, kuyakufika kwaye ndiya kuba nombulelo omkhulu.

Kwaye ndiyafumana ngokwenene ndichulumancile xa ndibona inkathalo iphuma iya emhlabeni ngaphandle kwesiqinisekiso sentengiselwano ethe ngqo. Xa umntu esenza isenzo esincinci: ukubamba ucango, ukuswayipha iMetroCard, ukubamba iingxowa, ukubonelela ngomkhombandlela.

Akukho siqinisekiso kuloo nto, akunjalo? Awufumani nantoni na. Kwaye u! Kuvakala ngathi kukuziqhelanisa nethemba lokuba umntu angenza okufanayo nakuwe. Kwaye siyayifuna le mimangaliso ingabonakaliyo. Usebenza kanjalo umoya!

Mhlawumbi yiloo nto ndingakhe ndikhathazeke ngokubona ukhathalelo lwam. Ndiyazi nje ... {textend} ukuthembela - {textend} ukuba ndizokhathalelwa kuba ndizama ukukhathalela - {textend} ukutyekela kwi - {textend} izinto ezindijikelezileyo yonke imihla.

Kwaye kuba Ndibone abanye abantu abaninzi bekhathalela, ngokungabonakaliyo njengoko kunokwenzeka ngamanye amaxesha, bonke ubomi bam. Ndiyaqikelela ukuba lukholo olo.

AB: Kuyaphambana kuba le nto yokugqibela izandile ngokufana nomama. Ngokuchanekileyo. Kwaye iya kundenza ndiphambane kuba andinakuze ndibone umfanekiso omkhulu wokukhathalela kwakhe.

Ndiza kumbona enika kwaye anike, kwaye ndicinga ukuba iphembelele uninzi indlela endijonga ngayo ukhathalelo njengento engekho intengiselwano kodwa into enemithetho yayo, nayo - {textend} kwaye njengomntu odla ngokuziva "engakhathalelwanga" kuwo nawuphi na umthamo, ukwenza loo migca ilukhuni ijikeleze kunzima, kuba kuvakala ngathi ndilahlekelwa ngumfanekiso omkhulu wokulandela impumelelo encinci.

Kodwa emva koko, oko kuzisa imigaqo-nkqubo yokhathalelo, ukuziqhelanisa nokusebenza kwayo: Ngaba yinto nje ethandabuzekayo? Ngaba ukugcinwa? Yintoni? Emva koko ndizifumana ndibuyela kwisikwere sokuqala.

Ndinomdla woluhlobo lwakho lokuthatha ukhathalelo ngenxa yeso sizathu.

I-DE: Inzima kwaye ihlala ifana. Ndihleli apha ndiqengqa amehlo am kukuqonda kwam kokhathalelo njengoko ndibize njalo kuba ndiyazi ukuba iyinyani nangona ndingaziva.

Ihlala ingomama bethu, andithi?

AB: Njalo. Njalo, rhoqo, rhoqo.

I-DE: Incoko yokwenyani, ndingumntu onesizungu kakhulu. Ndihlala njalo. Njengomntwana, ndandihlala ndithule kangangeeyure. Ngamanye amaxesha kwakusiba luxolo. Kodwa ubukhulu becala, yayikukuba lilolo.

Ndihlala ndiziva ngathi kukho lo mngxunya ngaphakathi kum. Kwaye ndihlala nayo. Ndiye ndayiqhela. Iyakhawuleza ngamanye amaxesha kwaye ihlale ingenzi nto kwabanye.

Kwaye ungade uqalise ngokubukela umama wam ukhathalelo kunye nokhathalelo- {textend} nika kwaye unike kwaye unike, njengoko utshilo- {textend} kwaye ufumane ukubuyisa! Kodwa wayesoloko ephakama ukuze anikele kwakhona. Khandiqonde.

Kodwa ngokwenene ngumfanekiso omkhulu ... okanye enye indlela yokuqonda nokubona ixesha. Khange anike mpumelelo encinci. Ayiluloyiso lokwenyani.

Ndicinga ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo xa ujongene nomzimba ... ekufikeleleni komnye umntu, kukho ukungapheliyo okudalwe phakathi kwenyama.

Kwaye ndicinga ukuba lelona xesha wayejonge kulo, kulapho uloyiso luhlala khona.

Ke ayingomzuzu, iyure, iveki, iinyanga ezimbalwa, nokuba ngunyaka. Kuxhomekeke ekubeni ixesha lomntu lenziwe ngokulungileyo. Nantso eyona "arc ende" yomthetho okanye nantoni na engenamsebenzi ibinzana. Kodwa awunakufika apho ukuba awuhlali kwaye usebenza nzima okwangoku.

AB: Ingqondo yam iyacinga gummy ngokucinga ngale shit. Konke kuninzi kwaye akwanele kwaye ezinye izinto zingxamisekile. Kodwa ndiziva ngathi u-RE: umntwana onesizungu. Yinto enye, efanayo, efanayo. Kusenjalo.

Ndicinga nje ngala msonto ndawufunda ngenye imini. Itwitter ithe: "Ingathi ndihlala ndiziva ngathi ndisebenzisa umzimba wam, amagama am, ukujonga kwam njl.njl. Ngendlela endinethemba lokufikelela kwixesha elidlulileyo lomntu."

Iyandibetha ngalo lonke ixesha - {textend} Kunzima kangakanani ukukhathalela nokukhathalela ngendlela enefuthe kwaye ingeyiyo nje indlela esenza sizive ngathi senze ngokwaneleyo. Ukwazi ukuba ukhathalelo akonelanga kwaye wazi ukuba kufuneka utyhale ngaphezulu okanye nantoni na. Konke kunjalo ... kungabonakali.

Konke oku kukuthi, iingcinga zakho zinceda ukolula loo ntelekelelo kum yeyiphi inkathalo- {textend} ukuba yintoni ubungcwele kunye nokusetyenziswa kwayo.

I-DE: Inceba. Oko kuyinyani, yeyona mpumelelo yam inkulu kunye nempazamo yam enkulu.

Ndihlala ndizama ukubeka umzimba wam kwindlela yomntu ngethemba lokuba ixesha liza kuphuma kwaye ndinokufikelela kwixa elidlulileyo okanye banokufikelela kwilixa lam elidlulileyo nakweli langoku, bajonge kuloo mbali, baye kwikamva elithile.

Kukuthini ukusetyenziswa [kokhathalelo], ngokungathi kunjalo, ngendlela yokusebenzisa? Kunjalo, ke, kunzima.

AB: Inje kodwa andinako ukushukumisa impembelelo yokuba yinto elungileyo nje ... ibalulekile kum. Kwaye andithethi ngawe, kodwa uziva ngathi uziva ngokufanayo.

I-DE: Ewe! Bendibhala izolo kwaye ekuphela kwegama endinokucinga ngalo ukuchaza le ntshukumisa "ibalulekile"

AB: Ndiyabulela kakhulu ngale nto - {textend} ngexesha lakho, umbono wakho. Andikwazi kulinda abantu bafunde le.

I-DE: Enkosi kakhulu, kakhulu ngokufikelela kunye nokubhala nokuzama kunye nokukhathalela yonke imihla yomgwebo.

AB: Ntombazana! Nawe! Ndiyothuka kude, njalo.

IiBalms zoBomi zikaDiane:

1. Ukuhamba kunye namanzi: Awungekhe uqhagamshele emanzini, kodwa ndikhuphele ukungenisa kwam amanzi ngeepesenti ezingama-200 kweli hlobo kwaye ubuso buyavuya. Ndiyakuthanda kwaye kufuneka ndithathe uhambo. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ibhalsamu yobomi.
2. Ukhathalelo lolusu: Ndinesikhumba esinamafutha ashushu. Kudala ndisebenzisa umgca we-Balance ye-Ole Henriksen - {textend} isicoci sejel kunye nesixhobo sokucoca amanzi - {textend} unyaka onesiqingatha kwaye incedwa kakhulu ngokuqhekeka, iipoyinti ezivaliweyo, kunye nokugcina ioyile iphantsi kolawulo. I-sauna scrub evela kuloo mgca iyafudumala xa uyifaka ebusweni bakho kwaye ngathi, "ooh la la!" Umgca unexabiso eliphezulu, kodwa uhlala ixesha elide kwaye indawo ka-Ole Henriksen ithengisa ngalo lonke ixesha. Kananjalo banekhithi yesilingo efanelekileyo efikelelekayo eya kukuhlala malunga neenyanga ezintathu, inde ngokwaneleyo ukuba inokukunceda.
3. Iincwadi: Kutshanje, "Abazalwana Abafudukayo" nguPatrick Chamoiseau, "Ekuvukeni: kubumnyama kunye nokuba ngu" nguChristina Sharpe, kunye no "maria omnyama" nguAracelis Girmay.

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