Zinjani iiTherapists ezinqwenela ukuba wazi malunga nezo baZibizayo

Umxholo

• Xa unyango lungafikeleleki
• Umbono wegqirha
• Ukuhlalutya iindleko zokwenyani zonyango
• Ingxaki ngeinshurensi
• Xa imali igcina abantu kunyango
• Iingcali zonyango zizama ukunceda

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Akukho mntu uba yingcali ngethemba lokuba uza kwenza ubutyebi. ”

Phantse kwiminyaka engama-20 eyadlulayo ndaye ndadandatheka ngokunzulu. Kwakukudala isakha, kodwa xa ndandinento endisayibiza ngokuba “kukuwohloka,” kubonakala ngathi yenzeke ngaxeshanye.

Bendinikwe iveki emsebenzini wam ngeeholide. Kodwa endaweni yokusebenzisa eloxesha ukuba kunye nabathandekayo okanye ukuqala iiholide, ndazivalela kwindlu yam ndaza andavuma ukuhamba.

Kwiveki ephelileyo, ndonakala ngokukhawuleza. Khange ndilale, ndikhethe ukuhlala ndihlale iintsuku iintsuku ndibukele nantoni na eyenzeka kwikhebula.

Khange ndiyishiye isingqengqelo sam. Khange ndihlambe. Ndivale iimfama kwaye andizange ndikhanyise izibane, ndiphila ngokukhanya kwelo bhanyabhanya. Kwaye ekuphela kokutya endikutyileyo, kangangeentsuku ezisi-7 ngqo, yayiyi-Thin Wheins edikiwe nge-cream cream, ihlala igcinwe ngaphakathi kwengalo kumgangatho wam.

Ngethuba "ukuhlala kwam" kuphelile, andinakubuyela emsebenzini. Andikwazanga ukushiya indlu yam. Kwa umbono wokuba ndenze nokuba intliziyo yam ibaleke kwaye intloko yam iyajikeleza.

Ngutata owafika emnyango wam waqonda ukuba andiphilanga. Undifunele amadinga nosapho lwam kunye nonyango kwangoko.

Emva phaya izinto zazihlukile. Umnxeba omnye oya emsebenzini kwaye ndafakwa kwikhefu lokungabikho emsebenzini, elinikezwe inyanga yonke ukuze ndibuyele endaweni esempilweni.

Ndandinayo i-inshurensi elungileyo eyayigubungela ukuqeshwa kwam, ngoko ke ndandikwazi ukubanakho ukutyelela yonke imihla ngelixa sasilinde iimeds endandimiselwe ukuba ndingene kuzo. Akuzange nanini na ukuba ndizikhathaze ngendlela endiza kuyihlawula ngayo . Kwafuneka ndigxile ekuphiliseni.

Ukuba bendinokwaphuka ngendlela efanayo namhlanje, akuyi kuba yinyani oko.

Xa unyango lungafikeleleki

Njengawo wonke umntu kweli lizwe, ndinamava okuncipha kokufikelela kukhathalelo lwempilo olufikelelekayo, ngakumbi ukhathalelo lwempilo yengqondo olufikelelekayo, kule minyaka ingama-2 idlulileyo.

Namhlanje, i-inshurensi yam ibonelela ngenani eliqingqiweyo lotyelelo lonyango. Kodwa iza ne-12, 000 yeedola ngonyaka, okuthetha ukuba ukuya kunyango kuhlala kukhokelela ekubeni ndihlawule ngokupheleleyo epokothweni.

Into endisayenzayo ubuncinci amaxesha ambalwa ngonyaka, ukuba ndinokungena kwaye ndibuyisele kwakhona iingcinga zam.

Inyani yile, ndingumntu oya kuhlala engcono ngokuqeshwa ngonyango rhoqo. Kodwa kwiimeko zam zangoku, njengomama ongatshatanga oqhuba ishishini lam, andisoloko ndinazo izixhobo zokwenza oko kwenzeke.

Kwaye ngelishwa, amaxesha ngamaxesha xa ndifuna unyango kakhulu apho ndinokukufikelela okuncinci.

Umzabalazo ndiyazi ukuba andindedwa ekujonganeni.

Siphila kuluntu oluthandayo ukukhomba umnwe ekuguleni ngengqondo njenge-scapegoat yayo yonke into ukusuka ekungabinamakhaya ukuya kudutyulo oluninzi, kodwa ekubekeni ityala elo ngandlel 'ithile sisasilele ukubeka phambili abantu uncedo abalifunayo.

Yinkqubo enesiphako engamiseli nabani na ukuba aphumelele. Kodwa ayisiyiyo kuphela abo bafuna ukhathalelo lwempilo yengqondo abasokolayo ezandleni zenkqubo leyo.

Ikwanyangi ngokwabo.

Umbono wegqirha

"Akukho mntu uba yingcali ngethemba lokuba uza kwenza ubutyebi," utshilo u-John Mopper kwi-Healthline.

Uthi: "Ukukwazi ukwenza into endiyenzayo ukuze ndiphile yeyona nto imangalisayo emhlabeni." "Inyaniso yokuba ngalo naluphi na usuku, ndinokuhlala ukusuka kwisithandathu ukuya kwisibhozo kulutsha kwaye ndinokuthetha iiyure ezi-6 ukuya kwezi-8, ngethemba lokuchaphazela usuku lomntu ngendlela elungileyo, kwaye ndihlawulelwe? Yinyani le indivukayo ntsasa nganye. ”

Kodwa kukuba ukuhlawulwa yinxalenye enokuthi ngamanye amaxesha ibeke isampula emsebenzini uninzi lwabanyangi abazama ukuwenza.

UMopper ungumnini we-Blueprint Mental Health eSomerville, eNew Jersey. Iqela liquka yena kunye nenkosikazi yakhe, uMichele Levin, kunye neetherapisti ezintlanu ezibasebenzelayo.

Uyacacisa: "Asinanto kwaphela kwi-intanethi." "Abanyangi abangathathi i-inshurensi bathanda ukufumana i-rap embi kwabanye abantu, kodwa inyani kukuba ukuba iinkampani zeinshurensi zingabhatala umyinge ofanelekileyo, singavumeleka ngakumbi ukuba singene kwinethiwekhi."

Ke ngoku, ngokuchanekileyo, ingaba "inqanaba elifanelekileyo" libukeka njani?

Ukuhlalutya iindleko zokwenyani zonyango

UCarolyn Ball ngumcebisi oqeqeshiweyo kunye nomnini we-Elevate Counselling + Wellness e-Hinsdale, e-Illinois. Uxelela uHealthline ukuba zininzi izinto eziya kuseta ireyithi yonyango.

"Njengomnini wabucala, ndijonga kwimfundo yam kunye namava kunye nemarike, iindleko zerenti kwindawo yam, iindleko zokubonelela iofisi, indleko zentengiso, imfundo eqhubekayo, iifizi zobungcali, i-inshurensi, kwaye ekugqibeleni , iindleko zokuphila, utshilo.

Ngelixa iiseshoni zonyango zihlala ziqhuba abaguli naphi na ukusuka kwi- $ 100 ukuya kwi- $ 300 ngeyure, zonke ezi ndleko zichazwe apha ngasentla ziphuma kuloo ntlawulo. Kwaye abanyangi baneentsapho zabo ekufuneka bezikhathalele, amatyala abo bawahlawule.

Ingxaki ngeinshurensi

Ukuziqhelanisa neBhola yenye into engathathi i-inshurensi, ngakumbi ngenxa yenqanaba eliphantsi leenkampani zeinshurensi yokuhlawula.

"Enye into ndicinga ukuba abantu abayiqondi indlela eyahlukileyo ngayo iyure yonyango evela kwezinye izibonelelo zonyango," kuchaza uBall. “Ugqirha okanye ugqirha wamazinyo unokubona kwizigulana ezisibhozo ngeyure. Ugqirha ubona enye kuphela. ”

Oku kuthetha ukuba ngelixa ugqirha enokubona, kwaye ahlawule, uninzi lwezigulana ezingama-48 ngosuku, iingcali zonyango zithintelwe malunga neeyure ezi-6 ezinokuhlawulwa.

"Lowo ngumahluko omkhulu kwingeniso!" Ibhola ithi. "Ndiyakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba abanyangi abasebenza kubaluleke kakhulu njengalo msebenzi wenziwa zezinye iingcali zonyango, kodwa umvuzo uphantsi kakhulu."

Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuhlawula nge-inshurensi kuhlala kuza neendleko ezongeziweyo, ngokutsho kwesazi ngengqondo sonyango uGqirha Carla Manly.

“Ngenxa yohlobo lwentlawulo ye-inshurensi, uninzi lweetheraphisti kufuneka zenze isivumelwano nenkonzo yokuhlawula. Oku kungakhathaza kwaye kubize, ”utshilo, echaza ukuba umphumo ugqirha usoloko efumana ngaphantsi kwesiqingatha sento ebihlawulwe kuqala.

Xa imali igcina abantu kunyango

Iingcali zonyango ziyazi ukuba iirhafu zeseshoni zazo zinokuthintela ukufuna unyango.

"Ngokubuhlungu, ndicinga ukuba oku kuqhelekile," utshilo uManly. "Abantu abaninzi endisebenza nabo banabahlobo kunye nosapho abafuna unyango kodwa bengahambi ngezizathu ezibini eziphambili: indleko kunye nebala."

Uthi uncede abantu abavela kwilizwe liphela bafumana ukuhanjiswa kweendleko eziphantsi kunyango xa kufuneka njalo. "Ndiyenzele lo mntu eFlorida," uyachaza. "Kwaye iinkonzo 'zexabiso eliphantsi" zaziphakathi kwe- $ 60 kunye ne- $ 75 ngeseshoni, iyimali enkulu leyo kubantu abaninzi! "

Akukho mntu uphikisayo ukuba abacebisi kufuneka benze imali, kwaye umntu ngamnye oqeqeshiweyo uHealthline wathetha naye ubeke iirhafu zabo enesidingo engqondweni.

Kodwa bonke basengabantu abangenele umsebenzi wokunceda kuba bafuna ukunceda abantu. Ke, xa bejamelene nabathengi, okanye abathengi abanokubakho, abaludinga ngokwenyani uncedo kodwa abanako ukulufumana, bazifumana befuna iindlela zokunceda.

"Le yinto enzima kum," u-Ball ucacisa. “Ukuya kunyango kungatshintsha ngokuqinisekileyo ikhondo lobomi bomntu. Intlalo-ntle yakho yeemvakalelo ibalulekile ekunandiseni ubudlelwane obusemgangathweni, ukuhlakulela intsingiselo, kunye nokwakha ukuzithemba okuzinzileyo. ”

Ufuna wonke umntu abe nolo fikelelo, kodwa uqhuba ishishini. "Ndizabalaza ukulungelelanisa umnqweno wam wokunceda wonke umntu onesidingo sokufumana imali," utshilo.

Iingcali zonyango zizama ukunceda

Ibhola ligcina inani lamabala okushenxisa ishedyuli yakhe veki nganye kubaxumi abafuna uncedo kodwa abakwazi ukufikelela kumrhumo opheleleyo. Ukuziqhelanisa neMopper kwenza into efanayo, ukubekela bucala iveki nganye engqinelwanga ngokungqongqo kubathengi abazinzileyo abavakalise loo mfuno.

"Ukunikezela ngeenkonzo ezithile ngaphandle kwentlawulo kubaxhasi abangenazo iindlela eneneni kubotshelelwe kwizikhokelo zethu zokuziphatha," ucacisa uMopper.

Indoda izalisekisa umnqweno wayo wokunceda abo banesidingo ngezinye iindlela, ngokuzithandela ngeveki kwiziko lendawo lokuvuselela iziyobisi kunye notywala, ukubamba iqela lenkxaso yexabiso eliphantsi ngeveki, kunye nokuvolontiya namagqala.

Bobathathu abakhankanyiweyo benceda abantu ukuba bafumane iinkonzo ezifikelelekayo xa kungenakwenzeka nje ukuba babonwe eofisini yabo. Ezinye zeengcebiso zabo zibandakanya:

• iiklinikhi zoluntu
• Iikholeji zekholeji (ngamanye amaxesha ezinabafundi abanesidanga sokucetyiswa ngamaxabiso ancitshisiweyo)
• Iinkonzo zokucebisa oontanga
• Iinkonzo ezinjengeVulekile yokuHlanganisa iNdlela, engenzi nzuzo enceda abantu ukuba bafumane iinkonzo zonyango oluye lwancitshiswa ekuhlaleni
• Unyango kwi-Intanethi, ukubonelela ngeenkonzo ngevidiyo okanye ngencoko ngexabiso elincitshisiweyo

Kukho iindlela ezikhoyo kwabo bangenayo imali, kodwa uManly uyavuma, "Ukufumana izixhobo, ezihlala 'zilula' kunyangi okanye kwenye ingcali, kunokuba nzima okanye koyike umntu ophethwe kukudakumba okanye uxinzelelo. Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba sikwazi ukunceda ukuhambisa abanye abantu. ”

Ke, ukuba ufuna uncedo, sukuvumela imali ukuba ibe yeyona nto ikugcina ungayifumani.

Fikelela kunyango lwasekhaya kwindawo yakho, kwaye ufumane ukuba banokubonelela ntoni na. Nokuba awukwazi ukufikelela kubo, banokuba nakho ukukunceda ufumane umntu onokumbona.

ULeah Campbell ngumbhali kunye nomhleli ohlala eAnchorage, eAlaska. Ungumama ongatshatanga ngokuzikhethela emva kothotho lweziganeko ezikhokelela ekufumaneni intombi yakhe. U-Leah ukwangumbhali wencwadi ethi "Umntu ongatshatanga ongafumani bhinqa" kwaye ubhale kakhulu ngezihloko zokungachumi, ukukhulisa umntwana nokuba ngumzali. Unokunxibelelana noLeah ngeFacebook, iwebhusayithi yakhe, nakwiTwitter.