Thatha uTata omtsha: Ukwabelana ngesondo okokuqala emva koSana

Umxholo

• 1. Musa ukubeka phantsi kwikhalenda
• 2. Mkhumbuze ukuba mhle
• 3. Xa kuhamba ixesha, yiya nge-gingerly
• 4. Hlanganisa
• 5. Nxibelelana, thetha, nxibelelana

Ingcebiso yepro: Musa ukubhankisha kwimvume kagqirha kwiiveki ezi-6 zokukhanya okuluhlaza. Thetha nomntu osandula ukuzala.

Ngaphambi kokuba ndibe ngutata, ukulala ngesondo nomfazi wam kwakuhlala kwidokodo. Kodwa kamsinya nje akufika unyana wethu, ukusondelelana ngokukhawuleza kwawela ezantsi kuluhlu lwezinto esiza kuzenza. Sasibeka phambili utshintsho lwe-diaper yewotshi, ukuhlanganisa izixhobo zabantwana, kunye nokuthatha iifoto ezingapheliyo zomntwana wethu kuluhlu oluninzi olungenasiphelo lweeesies ezinomtsalane.

Ekuqaleni, bendingenalo ixesha okanye amandla okucinga ngokulalana. Kodwa. Ndingumntu kuphela, kwaye kungekudala umnqweno wabuya nempindezelo.

Kwakukho umbuzo omkhulu obunzima engqondweni yam: Ngaba umfazi wam wayekulungele, naye? Wayegxile emntwaneni wethu, ediniwe kukukhulisa, kwaye esiza nazo zonke iinguqu emzimbeni wakhe.

Andizange ndikwazi ukuba nini (okanye ukuba) kufanelekile ukuthi, "Masisebenzise ithuba lokulala komntwana ngokusebenza kwezinye thina ixesha. ” Bendingafuni ukubonakala ndityhala okanye ndingabi novelwano kwiimfuno zakhe ezinkulu, kodwa bendinyaniseka kum: bendifuna ukuqala ukulala ngesondo kwakhona.

Kwaye iindaba ezimnandi zabazali abatsha abangakhange babelane ngesondo kwiiveki: Kuyakwenzeka. Kodwa ukuphinda wenze ulwalamano olusenyongweni emva kokwamkela umntwana ebomini bakho kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nomonde. Uyakuthi wenze ezinye iimpazamo apha endleleni - kwaye kulungile.

Ngomzamo wokukusindisa ubuncinci kwezi mpazamo, ndabelana ngeengcebiso ezintlanu ezandincedayo kunye nenkosikazi yam ukubuyela kwigumbi lokulala (okanye isofa ukuba umntwana wakho ulele egumbini lakho).

1. Musa ukubeka phantsi kwikhalenda

Ingcebiso esemgangathweni evela kubanikezeli bezempilo kukulinda iiveki ezi-4 ukuya kwezi-6 ngaphambi kokuba uphinde ulale ngesondo. Kodwa ezo zizikhokelo nje ngokubanzi ezisekwe ekuphulukaneni nomzimba kweqabane lakho.

Nokuba iqabane lakho linikwe ukuqhubela phambili kugqirha walo, naye kufuneka akulungele ngokwasemphefumlweni. Ukuba umama akaziva ngesizathu esithile okanye esinye, sukuyityhala - ukubeka ukubala ixesha lokuqala emva kokuba usana longeze uxinzelelo ngakumbi kwimeko esele inexinzelelo.

2. Mkhumbuze ukuba mhle

Ndizibonele ngokwam ukuba oomama abatsha abaziva bhetele emva kokuba benomntwana. Izinto zahlukile nje kubo. Ukungathethi, ukungabikho kokulala kuthatha umthwalo wangempela. (Kwaye ootata, emva kobusuku bonke bokungalali, ukuthatha ukutya, kunye nohambo oluyekisiweyo ejimini, asiziva sisemandleni ethu.)

Kodwa into esifuna ukuba oomama abatsha bayiqonde kukuba ukumjonga abe ngumama kumntwana wakho yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo kwezakha zabonwa nguwe. Ke, mxelele ukuba uyathandeka.

Kuyinyani, kwaye ufanele ukuyiva.

3. Xa kuhamba ixesha, yiya nge-gingerly

Xa iqabane lakho liziva likulungele, kulungile, kodwa ungalindeli ukuba isondo leentsuku zangaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana. Izinto ziya kwahluka.

Ukuba uyancancisa, amabele akhe angadumba lubisi kwaye iingono zakhe azikaze zive iintlungu ezinjalo. Yiphathe ngenkathalo. Unokufuna ukuwuthintela loo mmandla ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ungafumani konke ukuxakeka ukuba lukhona ubisi oluvuzayo. Oko kuyindalo ngokupheleleyo. Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuyihleka nje.

Xa kufikwa kwilungu lobufazi, lumka kakhulu. Kuthatha ixesha ukuphilisa emva kokuba usana kunye neqabane lakho lendawo yelungu lobufazi lisenokuba sisishushu ngexesha nasemva kokuchacha. Ukongeza, uninzi lwabasetyhini luneengxaki zokoma emva kokubeleka, ezinokuthi zenze ukuba ukonwaba ngokwesini okanye kubuhlungu. Sebenzisa igrisi.

Ukuba izinto ziba nzima kakhulu okanye zibuhlungu nakwiqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uyimise iseshoni yakho yesini. Yiya kwindawo yokuhlambela ebandayo endaweni yoko. Okanye ufumane ubuchule ngala lube ingasetyenziswanga.

4. Hlanganisa

Ewe, usenokonwaba ebhedini, kodwa ngekhe ubenakho ukwenza kwangoko yonke into obukade uyenza. Qalisa kancinci kwaye ubuyele kwiziseko. Cinga ngezinye iindlela zokuvuselela ngaphambi kokuba ulale ngesondo.

Kuya kufuneka uzame izikhundla ezitsha ukuze ubone ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto intofontofo kwaye emnandi kwiqabane lakho. Ngoku lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba nincokole ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuvulekileyo malunga noko kulungele nina nobabini.

5. Nxibelelana, thetha, nxibelelana

Le ayisiyiyo nje incam yokuba neentlobano zesini kwakhona. Eli licebo lokuphila ngayo yonke into ngokuba ngumzali. Njengoko uqala ukuphinda uvelise umbono wokuba neentlobano zesini emva kokuba ngumzali, eyona nto iphambili kukunxibelelana neqabane lakho kangangoko kunokwenzeka.

Ibhola isenkundleni yakhe, kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kulinda ade alungele. Yenza loo mzamo ungaphezulu wokumenza azive emhle njengoko ebehlala enjalo. Yiya kancinci. Kwaye ungoyiki ukwenza utshintsho kwindlela yakho yokwabelana ngesondo ngaphambi komntwana. Ngaphambi kokuba uyazi, wena neqabane lakho niya kubuyela kwi-groove yakho, nayo.

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