Ngamanye amaxesha ukuzikhathalela kukuzingca-kwaye kulungile

Umxholo

• Ukuchaza kwakhona ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuzingca
• Ke, phinda emva kwam: andizukuzibetha ngokuba 'ndizingca'
• 1. Ufuna uncedo
• 2. Kufuneka uphumle
• 3. Ufuna ixesha wedwa nje
• 4. Lixesha lokuphelisa ubudlelwane, umsebenzi, okanye imeko yokuphila
• 5. Isipha sigqityiwe ngokuthathwa
• 6. Ukuphepha ukudinwa, emva komsebenzi okanye kubomi bakho
• Zikhathalele

Ukuzinakekela: Siyiva ngalo lonke ixesha ngoku - okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, yibone kwi-Instagram njengeemveliso zokhathalelo lolusu, iibhombu zebhizi fizzy, i-yoga poses, izitya ze-açai, kunye nokunye. Kodwa ukuzinakekela kungaphezulu kwezinto ezithengiswayo kwimithombo yethu yeendaba zosasazo.

Ukuzinakekela kwaqala njengendlela yokuzinakekela ngokwasemzimbeni. Yandula ke yaguqukela ekubeni kukukhathalela impilo yakho yeemvakalelo, ngakumbi nangakumbi ukunyanga kwabasetyhini, abantu bebala, kunye noluntu olungathathelwa ntweni.

Ke ngoku kutheni siziva ngathi ukuzinyamekela kukuzingca?

Mhlawumbi ukhe wamisa isidlo sangokuhlwa, wala isimemo apho i-ex yakho iya kuba khona, okanye uthe hayi kuyo nantoni na. Oku kunokukushiya uziva uzingca okanye unetyala.

Ayinamsebenzi ukuba unemvakalelo kwaye udinwe emzimbeni, okanye impilo yakho yengqondo iyahlupheka. Unokulala ungalali ebhedini, ucinga ngendlela obekufanele ukuba wenze ngayo into eyahlukileyo okanye obuyiyo ngcono ngenye indlela. Ukuthi hayi uziva ngathi usilele, ngokungathi awunakho ukusebenza okanye awunakulungelwa ukuphatha ubomi bemihla ngemihla.

Kodwa ukuba ukuhlala kukunceda ubeke phambili wena kunye namandla akho kunye nokuphilisa, ngaba ngokwenene uyazingca?

Ukuchaza kwakhona ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuzingca

Xa igama elithi "ukuzingca" liza engqondweni, lidla ngokubangela ukungathandwa ekuqaleni. Sicinga ngokuzingca, ukuzicingela, ukuzibandakanya. Kwaye kufanelekile ukuba siphephe ukucinga kuphela "mna nezinto zam," akunjalo? Endaweni yoko uzama ukuphilela ukulungelwa kwalo lonke uluntu, kuba ukupha kufundiswa njengokukhetha ukuthatha?

Nangona ichazwa njengokukhathalela ulonwabo lwakho kuphela kunye nenzuzo, kunye nokusilela ekuqwalaseleni abanye, sisacinga ukuzingca njengamaxesha apho sizibeka nje kuqala.

Kodwa asikwazi ukuyibona ngombala omnyama nomhlophe. Umzekelo, sixelelwe ukuba kufuneka silungise imaski yethu yeoksijini kuqala ngaphambi kokunceda abanye kwimeko engxamisekileyo yenqwelomoya. Okanye ukuqinisekisa ukuba indawo ikhuselekile yeyakho ngaphambi kokunceda nabani na owenzakeleyo. Akukho mntu unokusibiza ngokuzingca ngokulandela loo miyalelo.

Njengazo zonke izinto, kukho ukubonwa. Ngamanye amaxesha into elungileyo kukuba "ucinge". Kwaye ngenxa yokuba umntu echaza into oyenzileyo njengokuzingca (njengokukhetha ukuphuma kwiqela lakhe), oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uyichaze ngokwemiqathango yabo.

Ke, phinda emva kwam: andizukuzibetha ngokuba 'ndizingca'

Ngamanye amaxesha "ukuzingca" akuyona into embi. Kukho amaxesha apho ukuzingca kuyinto efanelekileyo ukuyenza kwimpilo yakho nakwintlalo-ntle yakho. La maxesha kukwanyanzelekile ukuba uzikhathalele.

Nanga amanye ala maxesha:

1. Ufuna uncedo

Wonke umntu uyalufuna uncedo amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi siyakuphepha ukulufuna. Nokuba siyalwamkela okanye hayi, ngamanye amaxesha ukucela uncedo kunokwenza uzive ungafanelekanga, ubuthathaka, okanye uswele-nokuba awuluceli uncedo kuthetha ukongeza uxinzelelo olungeyomfuneko.

Kodwa ukucela uncedo xa uludinga kubalulekile. Ukuba uxinzelelo lweprojekthi yomsebenzi luya kuwe, cela umntu osebenza naye akuncede okanye udlulisele imisebenzi. Ukuba ufuna iqabane, cela umhlobo wakho akuxhase. Ukuba ufuna ilizwi elingakhethi cala, khangela unyango.

2. Kufuneka uphumle

Xa uziva udiniwe - ayinamsebenzi nokuba yimvakalelo, ingqondo, okanye umzimba-lixesha lokuphumla. Ngamanye amaxesha, oko kwehla nje ukulala.

Zininzi iziphumo zokungalali ngokwaneleyo, kubandakanya ukugxila kwengxaki, amajoni omzimba abuthathaka kunye nemicimbi yememori. Ukutsiba ukulala kakhulu kunokuba nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane bakho. Kodwa sihlala siziva ngathi kufuneka siqhubeke. Ngamanye amaxesha ubuthongo abukho phezulu kwizinto eziphambili kuthi.

Kodwa inyani kukuba sifuna ukuphumla. Ukuba ubusebenza kade kwaye weqa ubuthongo, lixesha lokuba ufumane ibhalansi yomsebenzi-wobomi. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo xa ukhetha ukuya ekhaya uyokulala endaweni yokubamba iziselo kunye nabahlobo, kulungile. Ukuba oko kubizwa ngokuba kukuzingca, luhlobo ofuna ukuba lulo.

Ukuphumla akusoloko kuthetha ukulala, nokuba. Nokuba ubuchopho bakho buziva ulungelelwanisiwe okanye unempilo enkenenkene, yithathe njengosuku lokugula kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuphumla. Kwaye ungaziva unyanzelekile ukuhlamba iimpahla kuba usekhaya. Funda incwadi ebhedini, binge-bukela umboniso, okanye ulale.

Ukuba uziva udiniwe, udiniwe, okanye usentlungwini, lixesha lokuba uphumle kwaye ungaziva unetyala ngako. Ukuphumla kubalulekile kulo naluphi na uhlobo lokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo.

3. Ufuna ixesha wedwa nje

Abanye abantu banokungayifumani xa ukhetha ukuhlala ekhaya kunokuba uphume. Ukuba yile nto ukwimeko yokwenza, musa ukuziva uzingca ngokufuna ukuba wedwa.

Sonke sidinga ixesha lodwa ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye abanye abantu badinga ngaphezulu kunabanye. Unxibelelwano lwasentlalweni lunokudina kwabanye abantu. Akukho ntloni ngokuthatha ixesha lakho.

Ukuba kudala uyeka, Imood yakho iphelelwe lixesha, okanye kufuneka uphinde uphonononge ubudlelwane bakho, ngoku kunokuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokucwangcisa ixesha lakho wedwa.

Awudingi ukugcwalisa ikhalenda yakho ngeziganeko zentlalo ngaphandle kokuba ufuna njalo. Qhuba ibhafu, ukhuphe iplagi, kwaye ube naloo "xesha lam" ubulinqwenela.

4. Lixesha lokuphelisa ubudlelwane, umsebenzi, okanye imeko yokuphila

Akuzange kube lula ukwahlukana nenye ebalulekileyo, ukufudukela kwisixeko esitsha, okanye ukuyeka umsebenzi. Ukuba uziva ungalunganga xa unxibelelana nomntu okanye usoyika ukudibana nabo kwakhona, lixesha lokuba uphinde ucinge ngolwalamano lwakho.

Sihlala sihleli kubuhlobo okanye kubudlelwane kuba siyoyika ukukhathaza umntu. Kodwa xa kuziwa kubudlelwane obonakalisayo, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uzibeke kwindawo yokuqala.

Ayizondli ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane- okanye umsebenzi okanye nantoni na, ngakumbi nangayiphi na indlela yokuhlukumeza- engasenzi ukuba wonwabe. Ukuba kukho into echaphazela intlalontle yakho, isenokuba lixesha lokuthi ndlela-ntle.

5. Isipha sigqityiwe ngokuthathwa

Nangona inokutshintsha, naluphi na ulwalamano kufuneka lube nokulingana okuhle kokunika kunye nokuthatha. Kodwa xa izikali zincamathela ukuze yonke into oyenzayo inike kwaye konke abakwenzayo kuthatha, kunokuba lixesha lokwenza into.

Ibhalansi yokunika kwaye ibaluleke ngakumbi xa uhlala nomntu. Ngaba uzibona usenza yonke imisebenzi kunye nemisebenzi yasekhaya xa ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini ngelixa befika ekhaya kwaye bebeka iinyawo zabo phezulu? Kubalulekile ukuba ube nokulinganisela ukuphepha inzondo kunye nokudinwa.

Kuxhomekeka kwimeko, unokukhetha ukuthetha nabo, uthathe ikhefu elifutshane ukuze uzilolonge kwakhona, okanye usike ngokupheleleyo. Ayikokuzingca ukubeka phambili iimfuno zakho ngaphezulu kwabanye ukuba isenzo sokupha sikubangela ukuba wenzakale ngakumbi.

6. Ukuphepha ukudinwa, emva komsebenzi okanye kubomi bakho

Wonke umntu unomdla wokudinwa okanye ukudinwa emsebenzini. Imisebenzi ethile inokutsala ngokukhethekileyo. Xa ukudinwa kwenzeka, kunokubenzakalisa bobabini ubomi bakho bobungcali kunye nobuntu.

Olunye uphononongo luye lwabonisa ukuba kwiingcali zempilo yengqondo, kunokuba "yimfuneko yokuziphatha" ukuziqhelisa.

Ke xa ixesha lokuphuma ngaphandle lisiza, nyani ngaphandle. Cima izaziso zakho zomsebenzi, snooze imeyile yakho, kwaye ujongane nayo ngomso. Uninzi lwexesha, nokuba yintoni enokuphathwa kwangomso endaweni yokubakho esidlweni.

Nokuba wenza ntoni na, qiniseka ukuba unexesha lokwahlulahlula emsebenzini. Ukwenza ibhalansi yomsebenzi-wobomi kunokukunceda uphephe ukudinwa kwaye uzise ulonwabo ngakumbi kubomi bakho.

Zikhathalele

Musa ukuzityeshela kunye nempilo yakho ukunqanda ukuziva uzicingela wedwa. Ukuzingca akufuneki kube yinto embi. Kungakulunga ukuba nokuzingca okuncinci ukuze ukhathalele impilo yakho yeemvakalelo, yengqondo kunye neyasemzimbeni.

Uninzi lwabantu olujolise ngokupheleleyo ekunikeni, ekunikeni, ekugqityweni kokudinwa, ukudinwa, kunye noxinzelelo. Uxinzelelo olungapheliyo luye lwabakho kwimingcipheko emininzi yempilo, kubandakanya iimeko ezinje ngeswekile, umhlaza kunye nezifo zengqondo.

Ungalunciphisa uxinzelelo lwakho ngokuzingca kancinci ngamanye amaxesha kwaye uziqhelanise nokuzikhathalela.

• Zama ezinye iindlela zokuphumla zeyoga.
• Ziqhelise ukukhumbula.
• Phuma phandle.
• Hlamba.
• Yenza iti epholileyo.
• Lala ngcono.
• Ziqhelanise nomdlalo wokuzonwabisa, njengokulima igadi, ukuyila, okanye ukubhaka.

Nantoni na oyenzayo, khumbula ukuzikhathalela. Kwaye ungalibali, ayikokuzingca ukwenza njalo.

UJamie Elmer ngumhleli wekopi ovela eSouth California. Unothando lwamagama kunye nokwazisa ngempilo yengqondo kwaye uhlala efuna iindlela zokudibanisa ezi zimbini. Ukwayithanda kakhulu i-P's ezintathu: injana, imiqamelo kunye neetapile. Mfumane kwi-Instagram.