Kutheni le nto umntu omnye esoloko enxila kakhulu kwi-Ofisi yeHolide Party?

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Uchitha unyaka wonke uhlakulela umfanekiso wakho ekufikeni komsebenzi ngexesha elifanelekileyo, ulungiselela iintlanganiso, uzolile. Ke, yonke loo migudu ayenziwanga emva kokusela iiglasi ezimbini ze-champagne, xa ngempazamo uxelele umphathi wakho ukuba uyamthanda loo mfana kwi-IT. Uninzi lwabantu abafumene umrholo bane-anecdote malunga nomntu osebenza naye oye kude kakhulu eholideyini yeofisi. Ke yintoni eyenza le fête ibe ngumgubo?

Ewe, utywala buthoba imiqobo yakho. Kodwa ngaba iyayitshintsha eyona nto uyiyo, okanye ivele nje oyena mntu uyiyo? UGeorge Koob, Ph.D, umlawuli we-National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, uchithe ixesha lakhe lomsebenzi ephanda ngendlela ezinokuzichaphazela ngayo iinkqubo zethu zoxinzelelo-kwaye unokukhanya okucacileyo ukuba kutheni omnye umncedisi wezolawulo engowokuqala ukudanisa Itafile iza ngoDisemba. (Kwaye lo mfanekiso ubonisa iiMpembelelo eziTshintsha uMzimba kuTywala.)

Utywala bangela ukungasebenzi, yiyo loo nto abantu beyithanda kumatheko e-cocktail, utshilo uKoob. "Kukhulula ulwimi, kunciphisa uxinzelelo lwasentlalweni. Njengokuba uqhubeka usela, olo thintelo luya lukhulu kwaye lukhulu." Leyo yinxalenye emnandi yokusela ujikeleze abantu osebenza nabo: Ngequbuliso unento oza kuyithetha kulowo mfazi uphakathi kwi-accounting.

Kwangelo xesha, iofisi yakho yeyona ndawo ebomini bakho apho kufuneka ugcine iimvakalelo zakho ngokungqongqo. Ke yongeza ishoti enye ye-tequila, kwaye imida yakho iqala ukunyibilika. "Unoxanduva ngokweemvakalelo, siyibiza njalo," utshilo uKoob. Nje ukuba udlulise ukusela okuphakathi ngokuphakathi kunye nokuzinkcinkca ngotywala-ke, malunga neziselo ezimbini ngeyure kumfazi- "awusenako ukulawula iinkqubo zakho zeemvakalelo."

Ukungabikho kwesihluzo seemvakalelo, jonga. Kwaye xa sele ukwindawo yokuzinkcinkca ngotywala, ukungxamiseka kwakho kuyachaphazeleka nako. Ke mhlawumbi enye into obusoloko uziva ngamandla ngayo iwela emlonyeni wakho, ngokungathi ukhalaza malunga nomsindo womphathi wakho xa sele ephuma egumbini. Yhoo!

Unokuyityhola etywaleni, à la Jamie Foxx ingoma malunga no-2009, kodwa usenokuzibuza ukuba utywala butyhila ntoni na ukuba intlebendwane ithetha ukuthini amantombazana osebenza nabo ngokwenene. Xa kuziwa ekuqondeni ukuba kutheni ulinxila elikhohlakeleyo xa kuthelekiswa nelinye elinobubhanxa, "akukho zinzululwazi zininzi ngeenxa zonke," uvuma uKoob. (Kodwa ungafuna ukuxubha kwiindidi ezine zobuntu obunxilileyo, ngokweNzululwazi.) Umntu obonakala elungile othi ngequbuliso abekhohlakala xa esela usenokuba uwufihla loo msindo nobukrakra ngaphantsi komhlaba. Iisiphu ezimbalwa zotywala kwimeko engaqhelekanga-efana nomatshini wokukhuphela-zinokwanela ukuba zingagqabhuka zivule elo cala lomntu.

Kakade ke, inyanga kaDisemba idla ngokuba yinxalenye yengxaki. "Iiholide ngokubanzi zixesha leemvakalelo," utshilo uKoob. "Uninzi lwabantu luyazonwabela, kodwa luzisa iinkumbulo zakudala. Abantu bayasela ukucima ezo nkumbulo zibuhlungu."

Ngoko unokufuna ukuxolela osebenza nabo (okanye, ukukhohlela, amalungu osapho) ukuba bafumana i-snippy encinci malunga nesitya se-punch. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukunqanda ukuphulukana nolawulo lweenkqubo zakho zeemvakalelo, landela imigaqo oyifundileyo kwiklasi yezempilo yasekholejini, njengokusela iglasi yamanzi kunye nayo yonke ivenkile kunye nokutya ngokwaneleyo. Ngale ndlela, uyakonwabela ipati-ngaphandle kokuba ibe nguwe wonke umntu ohlebelayo kulo nyaka mtsha.

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