Kutheni ndichitha uSuku loMama kwindawo yokugijima yodaka

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Usuku lukaMama selukufuphi, kwaye abathengisi kwilizwe liphela bazama ukubhenela kumyeni nakubantwana abanetyala netyala kuyo yonke indawo. Iintyatyambo, ubucwebe, i-perfume, izatifikethi zesipho se-spa, ii-brunches ezixabisa ngaphezulu kwexabiso, uyibiza. Kwaye unyaka nonyaka, thina mama siyazamkela izipho zethu, ukuphathwa kwethu ngasemva, ukuqonda kwethu. Siyazonwabela iiyure zethu ezingama-24 zokukhanya kwelanga-amabala okutshica, izitya ezimdaka, kunye neebhulukhwe ezimdaka ezinikwe omnye umntu ngolo suku.

I-poll ye-Babble.com yamva nje ifumene ukuba eyona nto ifunwa ngumama ayizizo zipho zifanelekileyo, kodwa lusuku lokungabi ngumzali okanye ubuthongo obufunekayo. Kodwa ngelixa usela ibhotile yewayini, ukuzinkcinkca ngokubukela umboniso owuthandayo, kunye nendlu ecocekileyo (bonke ababalekayo kulo vavanyo lwe-Babble.com) zonke zivakala zilungile nakum, nditsala ibhulukhwe endala yespandex kunye neeteki ezinukayo, zilayisha evenini. nabahlobo bam abahlanu, emva koko ndiqhuba iyure (ngaphandle kwabantwana bam) ukuya kudaka lokubaleka eMudderella, ukungakhuphisani, iikhilomitha ezisixhenxe, ikhosi yesithintelo esinodaka kubafazi nje izandi zendlela ebhetele.

Jonga kum, umqolo awukho ngoMhla woMama. Kuyo yonke indima yam endizibekele yona yokuba ngumama. Emva kokukhulelwa umntwana wam wokuqala, ndaziva ndibanjiswe ngumzimba ngokuzala nokuba ngumntwana (ukukhulelwa, ukuncancisa, ukukhulelwa kwakhona, ukuncancisa kwakhona, kunye nazo zonke ezinye izinto zabazali ezikubambayo, ziqale, into yokuba Nguwe kuphela obonakala ekwazi ukusika iinzwane zabantwana). Ndine c-candelo kunye ne-VBAC [ukuzalwa kwelungu lobufazi emva kwec-c], zombini ezishiye umzimba wam ongezantsi ungaziwa (andizukungena nakuluphi uhlobo lokonga abantwana ababini abakwenze kwi-perky boobs yam). Ukutshintshela ekubeni ngumama ngenene kwaphazamisana nobuntu bam bomzimba nengqondo: Xa ndandikhulelwe abantwana bam bobabini, ndandidla ngokuphupha ngokusefa nokunyuka amatye—imidlalo emibini endingazange ndiyenze ebomini bam. Ndicinga ukuba kwakungenxa yokuba ndandiwufuna ngamandla umzimba wam ubuye; ukuze ndizive ndomelele, ndikwazi kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ibe yeyam.

Ke, emva kokuzalwa kwam okwesibini, ndawela kwisimo sengqondo esingaqhelekanga sokufela ukholo kukamama: ndihlala ndizibeka ekugqibeleni kwaye ndicaphukela abantwana bam nomyeni ngenxa yoko. Ndandingazi ukuba ndibajike njani bonke aba bantwana nezinto abazifunayo kunye neemfuno zabo, ngoko ndaba njengenja kaPavlov; Ndiza kuphendula nje nokuba kwenzeka ntoni. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, iimfuno zam kunye nezinto endizifunayo, nokuba kukuya kwindawo yokuzivocavoca okanye ukuhlala ndijonge efestileni, ndibunile.

Kodwa kulo nyaka, ndikunye nomncinci wam phantse amabini, ndagqiba ekubeni ndizitsale ngeentambo zam zebra kwaye ndithi, "Kwanele." Ndibuyisele i-butt yam kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, ndaqala ukutyibilika kwakhona, ndathatha i-yoga. Ndaqala ndaziva ndomelele kwaye ndizimele kwakhona. Kwaye nazo zonke ezo mvakalelo zilungileyo, ndakwazi ekugqibeleni ukubona indima yam njengomama ingeyiyo yengcinezelo, kodwa njengoyena unamandla kwaye womelele. Esihogweni, ndathwala olo sana esiswini sam kangangeenyanga ezili-18 (kwaye emva koko kwiBjorn nakwi-Ergo). Kwaye ndiyaqhubeka nokubathwala, ngamanye amaxesha ibe nye phantsi kwengalo nganye, ngamanye amaxesha ngelixa bekhala kwaye bekhaba. Kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ndibathwala-kunye nosapho lwam lonke-kule khosi yomqobo ingapheliyo ebizwa ngokuba bubomi. Kwaye oko kuthatha amandla ebendingazi ukuba ndinawo.

Ke olu suku lukaMama, andifuni ukusela ibhotile yewayini ukuze ndiziphazamise kuxinzelelo. Kwaye andifuni kuhlala kwi-spa, ndizama ukuphumla ngelixa uluhlu lwam olungapheliyo lokukwenza luhamba kwi-loop entlokweni yam.Kwaye ndiqinisekile njengokuba isihogo asifuni ukuthatha amarhamncwa am amancinci, um, munchkins, kwindawo yokutyela.

Hayi, ndifuna ukushiya ubomi bam emva kweeyure ezimbalwa. Ndifuna ukubaleka ndidlale eludakeni nabahlobo bam, ndingacingi nokuba ngumntwana wam. Ndifuna ukubhiyozela indlela omelele ngayo umzimba wam kunye nonyamezelo lwengqondo-zombini ngelixa uthatha umceli mngeni weMudderella. Ndifuna ukufezekisa oku kuba nzulu, ndinamathandabuzo malunga nokuba ndingakwazi na kwaye xa ndigqibile, ndifuna ukuziva ndinelunda ngam kwaye ndabelana ngalo mvakalelo kunye nabahlobo bam. Ndikulungele ukuba "ngumnini wam owomeleleyo" (leyo ngumgca wethegi kaMudderella), ukunyuka ngeentambo, ukukhasa kwiitonela, kunye neendonga zokuqhula. Le mini yeyam. Hayi njengomama, kodwa njengomfazi oxhotyisiweyo. Kwaye xa seyithethiwe yonke into kwaye nodaka lukhutshiwe, iiteki zam zilahlwe emgqomeni, nezihlunu zam ziqaqamba, ndithathe la bhotile yewayini ndiyisele, hayi ukuzozinyanga, kodwa kubuqu. -wazisa. (Ngokuqinisekileyo oku kufanele ukuba lelinye lamathuba ali-11 afanele umsesane oqaqambileyo.)

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