Kutheni kufuneka ujonge uMama wakho omtsha wabahlobo

Ngokuqinisekileyo, thumela ukuvuyisana kwakho kwimidiya yoluntu. Kodwa lixesha elidlulileyo lokuba sifunde ukwenza ngakumbi kubazali abatsha.

Ukuzala kwam intombi ngehlobo lika2013, ndandingqongwe ngabantu nothando.

Abahlobo abaninzi kunye namalungu osapho babelinde kwigumbi lokulinda, besitya i-pizza ebandayo kunye nokubukela iindaba zeeyure ezingama-24. Bangena baphuma egumbini lam - {textend} bendinika intuthuzelo, ubuqabane, kwaye (xa abongikazi bevumile) ukuhamba okufutshane kwiholo emile eluxande- {textend} kwaye emva kokubeleka, beza ecaleni kwebhedi yam, ukundanga kwaye ndibambe umntwana wam oyintombazana oleleyo.

Kodwa emva kweeyure ezingama-48, izinto zatshintsha. Ubomi bam (ngokungathandabuzekiyo) batshintsha, kwaye iifowuni zacima.

Imibhalo ethi “uziva njani” iyekile.

Ekuqaleni, ukuthula kwakulungile. Bendixakekile ndincancisa, ndilala, kwaye ndizama ukubamba usana lwam olunenkani kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba andikwazi ukugcina iithebhu kwikofu yam, ndingazigcina njani iithebhu kubahlobo bam? Ubomi bam babuhlala kwii-2 zeeyure ezongeziweyo ... ngomhla olungileyo.

Ndisebenze kwi-autopilot.

Andinalo ixesha lokwenza enye into ngaphandle kokuba "ndisinde."

Nangona kunjalo, emva kweeveki ezimbalwa, kwathi cwaka. Bendingazazi ukuba ndingubani- {textend} okanye ibiyintoni umhla.

Ndijikeleza kumajelo eendaba ngokungapheliyo. Ndabukela umabonwakude ngokungapheliyo, ndaza ndadandatheka ngokunzulu. Umzimba wam waba yinto yethu encinci, i-IKEA couch.

Ndi- {textend} kunjalo - {textend} ngewufikelele. Ngendibizele umama okanye ndafowunela umazala (ngoncedo, ingcebiso, okanye ukuwolwa). Ngendibhalele iintombi zam okanye umhlobo wam osenyongweni. Ndandinokuzityand 'igila kumyeni wam.

Kodwa bendingazi ukuba mandithini.

Ndandingumama omtsha. Umama # osikelelweyo. Ezi bekufanele ukuba zezona ntsuku zibalaseleyo ebomini bam.

Kwaye akukho namnye wabahlobo bam owayenabantwana. Ukukhalaza kwakubonakala kusisiyatha kwaye kungenantsingiselo. Abayi kuyifumana. Babenokuqonda njani? Ukungathethi ezininzi zeengcinga zam (kunye nezenzo) kubonakala ngathi zigeza.

Ndichithe iiyure ndizula kwizitrato zaseBrooklyn, ndibajongile bonke abanye oomama ababonakala ngathi bayifumene. Ngubani owadlala kunye (kunye nokuthanda) iintsana zabo ezisanda kuzalwa.

Ndinqwenela ukuba ndingagula - {textend} ndingaguli ndibulawa koko ndonele esibhedlele. Ndifuna ukubaleka ... ndibaleke. Bendidinga ikhefu. Kwaye andiqinisekanga ukuba ndosula ntoni ngaphezulu, impundu yentombi yam okanye amehlo am. Ndingayichaza njani loo nto? Ndingazichaza njani iingcinga zangaphakathi? Ukuzahlula? Uloyiko?

Intombi yam ilele ndabe ndihleli ndivukile. Ndimbukele ephefumla, ndimamela xa ephefumla, kwaye ndikhathazekile. Ngaba ndimgungqise ngokwaneleyo? Ngaba wayetye ngokwaneleyo? Ngaba ukukhwehlela okuncinci kwakuyingozi? Ngaba kufuneka ndibize ugqirha wakhe? Ngaba oku kunokuba luphawu lwesilumkiso kwangethuba lwe-SIDS? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukufumana umkhuhlane wehlobo?

Intombi yam yavuka ndathandaza ukuba izokulala. Bendidinga umzuzwana. Umzuzu. Bendirhalela ukuvala amehlo. Kodwa andizange ndiyenze. Lo mjikelo ukhohlakeleyo wawususa kwaye uphinde.

Kwaye ndathi ekugqibeleni ndalufumana uncedo - {textend} ngaxesha lithile phakathi kweveki yam ye-12 neye-16 ndophuka ndayeka umyeni wam noogqirha- {textend} ukuba nomntu omnye ebomini bam kungenza umahluko omkhulu.

Andiqondi ukuba kukho umntu onokuthi “andisindise” okanye andikhusele ekuphulukaneni nobuthongo okanye kumanyumnyezi koxinzelelo lwasemva kokubeleka, kodwa ndicinga ukuba isidlo esishushu sinokunceda.

Ngekulungile ukuba umntu - {textend} nabani na - {textend} ubuze ngam hayi usana lwam kuphela.

Nantsi ingcebiso yam kuye nakubani na nakuwo wonke umntu:

• Thumela umyalezo koomama abatsha ebomini bakho. Biza oomama abatsha ebomini bakho, kwaye wenze njalo rhoqo. Sukuba nexhala ngokumvusa. Ufuna unxibelelwano lwabantu abadala. Yena iimfuno unxibelelwano lwabantu abadala.
• Mbuze ukuba unganceda njani, kwaye umazise ukuba wonwabile ukubukela umntwana wakhe kangangemizuzu engama-30, iyure, okanye iiyure ezimbini ukuze alale okanye ahlambe. Awukho umsebenzi osisiyatha. Mxelele ukuba akakuchitheli ixesha.
• Ukuba ungaphaya, musa ukwenza oko kungenanto. Yiza nokutya. Yiza nekofu. Kwaye yenza ngaphandle kokucela. Izimbo zomzimba ezincinci zihamba a nde indlela.
• Ukuba awudluli, mthumele uhambiso olungalindelekanga - {textend} evela kubalingane, PostDash, Seamless, okanye Grubhub. Iintyatyambo zintle, kodwa icaffeine iklatshi.
• Kwaye xa uthetha naye, musa ukuba novelwano - {textend} uvelane. Mxelele izinto ezinje "zivakala ngathi zininzi" okanye "ezoyikeka / ziyakhathaza / zinzima."

Kuba nokuba unabantwana okanye awunabo, ndiyakuthembisa oku: Ungamnceda umhlobo wakho ongumama kwaye uyakudinga. Ngaphezulu kunokuba uyazi.

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