Ukunceda umntwana wakho aqonde isifo somhlaza

Ukufunda ukuba umntwana wakho unesifo somhlaza kunokuziva kunzima kwaye koyikisayo. Ufuna ukukhusela umntwana wakho, hayi kuphela kumhlaza, kodwa nakukoyika okuza nokuba unesifo esibi.

Ukuchaza ukuba kuthetha ukuthini ukuba nomhlaza akuyi kuba lula. Nazi izinto ekufuneka uzazi xa uthetha nomntwana malunga nokuba nomhlaza.

Kunokuhenda ukuba ungabaxeleli abantwana ngomhlaza. Ewe ufuna ukukhusela umntwana wakho kuloyiko. Kodwa bonke abantwana abanomhlaza kufuneka bazi ukuba banomhlaza. Uninzi lwabantwana luyakuqonda ukuba kukho into engalunganga kwaye bazenzele awabo amabali malunga nokuba iyintoni na. Abantwana banotyekelo lokuzibek 'ityala ngezinto ezimbi ezenzekayo. Ukunyaniseka kuthanda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo lomntwana, ukuziva enetyala, kunye nokudideka.

Kananjalo amagama ezonyango afana "nomhlaza" aya kusetyenziswa ngabanikezeli bonyango kunye nabanye. Abantwana kufuneka basiqonde isizathu sokuba bandwendwele kunye noogqirha kunye nokuvavanywa kunye namayeza. Inokunceda abantwana ukuba bachaze iimpawu zabo kwaye baxoxe ngeemvakalelo zabo. Iya kunceda ukwakha ukuthembana kusapho lwakho.

Kuxhomekeke kuwe ukuba uza kumxelela nini umntwana wakho ngomhlaza. Nangona kulinga ukuyibekela ecaleni, unokufumanisa ukuba kulula kakhulu ukuxelela umntwana wakho ngoko nangoko. Kungaba nzima njengoko ixesha lihamba. Kwaye kungcono ukuba umntwana wakho azi kwaye abe nexesha lokubuza imibuzo ngaphambi kokuqala unyango.

Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kuyizisa nini okanye njani, thetha nomboneleli womntwana wakho, onje ngengcali ngobomi bomntwana. Iqela lokhathalelo lwempilo lunokukunceda unike umntwana wakho iindaba malunga nokufunyaniswa kwesifo somhlaza kwaye kufuneka kwenziwe ntoni ngayo.

Nazi izinto onokuzigcina engqondweni xa uthetha ngomhlaza womntwana wakho:

• Gcina ubudala bomntwana wakho engqondweni. Ukwabelana kangakanani nomntwana wakho kuxhomekeke kubudala bomntwana wakho. Umzekelo, abantwana abancinci kakhulu banokufuna kuphela ulwazi olusisiseko, ngelixa umntu okwishumi elivisayo anokufuna ukwazi ngakumbi malunga nonyango kunye neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.
• Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba abuze imibuzo. Zama ukubaphendula ngokunyaniseka nangokuvulekileyo kangangoko. Ukuba awuyazi impendulo, kulungile ukuba uthethe njalo.
• Yazi ukuba umntwana wakho angoyika ukubuza imibuzo ethile. Zama ukuqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho unento engqondweni yakhe kodwa anokoyika ukubuza. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala ekhathazekile emva kokubona abanye abantu abaphulukene neenwele, thetha malunga neempawu anokuba nazo kunyango.
• Gcina ukhumbula ukuba umntwana wakho usenokuba weva izinto ngomhlaza kweminye imithombo, enje ngeTV, iimovie, okanye abanye abantwana. Ingumbono olungileyo ukubuza oko bakuvileyo, ukuze uqiniseke ukuba banolwazi oluchanekileyo.
• Cela uncedo. Ukuthetha ngomhlaza akukho lula nakubani na. Ukuba ufuna uncedo ngezihloko ezithile, cela umboneleli womntwana wakho okanye iqela lokhathalelo lomhlaza.

Kukho uloyiko oluqhelekileyo oluninzi lwabantwana xa befunda ngomhlaza. Umntwana wakho anganoloyiko lokukuxelela malunga noloyiko, ngoko ke licebo elihle ukubakhulisa ngokwakho.

• Umntwana wakho ubangele umhlaza. Kuqhelekile ukuba abantwana abancinci bacinge ukuba babangelwe ngumhlaza ngokwenza into embi. Kubalulekile ukuba wazise umntwana wakho ukuba akukho nto bayenzileyo ebangele umhlaza.
• Umhlaza uyosulela. Uninzi lwabantwana lucinga ukuba umhlaza unganwenwela usuka komnye umntu uye emntwini. Qiniseka ukuba wazise umntwana wakho ukuba awukwazi "ukuwubamba" umhlaza komnye umntu.
• Wonke umntu ubulawa ngumhlaza. Ungacacisa ukuba umhlaza sisifo esibi, kodwa izigidi zabantu zisinda kumhlaza ngonyango lwangoku. Ukuba umntwana wakho wazi umntu osweleke ngenxa yomhlaza, mxelele ukuba zininzi iintlobo zomhlaza kwaye wonke umntu umhlaza wahlukile.

Kuya kufuneka uphinde la manqaku amaxesha amaninzi kunyango lomntwana wakho.

Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokunceda umntwana wakho ajongane nonyango lomhlaza:

• Zama ukuhlala kwishedyuli eqhelekileyo. Iishedyuli ziyathuthuzela abantwana. Zama ukugcina ishedyuli yesiqhelo njengoko unakho.
• Nceda umntwana wakho ahlale enxibelelana nabantu afunda nabo kunye nabahlobo. Ezinye zeendlela zokwenza oku kubandakanya i-imeyile, amakhadi, ukuthumela imiyalezo, imidlalo yevidiyo, kunye nokufowuna.
• Gcina nomsebenzi ongaphoswa kuwo. Oku kunokunceda ukugcina umntwana wakho eqhagamshelwe esikolweni kwaye kunciphise naluphi na uxinzelelo malunga nokuwa ngasemva. Ikwavumela abantwana bazi ukuba kufanelekile ukuba balungiselele ikamva kuba banekamva.
• Fumana iindlela zokongeza uburharha kusuku lomntwana wakho. Bukela umboniso weTV ohlekisayo okanye imovie kunye, okanye uthengele umntwana wakho iincwadi ezihlekisayo.
• Ndwendwela nabanye abantwana abanomhlaza. Buza ugqirha wakho ukuba akunxibelelanise nezinye iintsapho eziye zahlangabezana ngempumelelo nomhlaza.
• Yazisa umntwana wakho ukuba KULUNGILE ukuziva unomsindo okanye ulusizi. Nceda umntwana wakho athethe ngezi mvakalelo nawe okanye nomnye umntu.
• Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uyonwaba yonke imihla. Kubantwana abancinci, oku kunokuthetha ukufaka imibala, ukubukela umboniso weTV owuthandayo, okanye ukwakha ngeebhloko. Abantwana abadala banokukhetha ukuthetha nabahlobo emnxebeni okanye badlale imidlalo yevidiyo.

Umbutho waseMelika woMhlaza. Ukufumana uncedo kunye nenkxaso xa umntwana wakho enomhlaza. www.cancer.org/content/cancer/en/treatment/children-and-cancer/when-your-child-has-cancer/during-treatment/help-and-support.html. Ukuhlaziywa kweSeptemba 18, 2017. Ifikeleleke ngo-Okthobha 7, 2020.

Umbutho waseMelika we-Clinical Oncology (ASCO) iwebhusayithi. Uwuqonda njani umntwana umhlaza. www.cancer.net/coping-with-cancer/talking-with-family-and-friends/indlela-child-understands-cancer. Ukuhlaziywa kukaSeptemba 2019. Ifikeleleke ngo-Okthobha 7, 2020.

Kwiwebhusayithi yeZiko loMhlaza weSizwe. Abantwana abanomhlaza: Isikhokelo sabazali. www.cancer.gov/publications/patient-education/bantwana-nomhlaza.pdf. Ukuhlaziywa kukaSeptemba 2015. Ifikeleleke ngo-Okthobha 7, 2020.

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