Masibe nobuhlobo obusondeleyo: Iingcebiso ezi-8 zokuba ukugula okungapheliyo kufumaneke ngendlela yobomi bakho besondo

Umxholo

• 1. Isenzo sobubele sihamba umgama omde
• 2. Yenza ukuba ‘bahleke
• 3. Thetha phandle
• 4. Ncuma omnye komnye
• 5. Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo
• 6. I-Netflix kunye ne-snuggles
• 7. Yiya kulonwabo
• 8. Phonononga omnye nomnye

Xa umntu esithi igama ukusondelelana, kuhlala kuyikhowudi kwigama lesini. Kodwa ukucinga ngoluhlobo kushiya iindlela onokuba nobuhlobo neqabane lakho ngaphandle "kokuhamba yonke indlela." Ngelishwa, ukunciphisa ukusondelelana kubudlelwane kuyinto eqhelekileyo kubantu abaphila nezifo ezingapheliyo. Kwaye ndithembe, njengomntu ozichazayo "umntu ophathekayo" ohlala nezigulo ezininzi ezinganyangekiyo, ndiyayazi indlela ekunokuba nzima ngayo oku.

Kumsebenzi wam ukuphonononga isini kunye nobudlelwane babantu abaphila nesifo esinganyangekiyo, ndifumanise ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba kubekho ukuphazamiseka ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kubudlelwane malunga nokusondelelana kunye nokwabelana ngesondo. Kodwa ngokwenene, ndinokujonga nje ubudlelwane bam ubungqina.

Ukuqala kwam ukudibana neqabane lam, umzekelo, sasisabelana ngesondo ngo-AKA rhoqo. Sasithandana ngokupheleleyo ngendlela enokuthi ibe ngabafundi beekholeji kuphela.Njengoko sikhula, izifo zam ezinganyangekiyo zanda kwaye zanda ngenani. Ndikhule ndine-asthma kunye ne-systemic juvenile idiopathic arthritis, kodwa ekugqibeleni ndafunyaniswa ndine-fibromyalgia, uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo. Inqanaba lomsebenzi womzimba esakha sanalo yayingeyonto esinokuyiphumeza ngokufanayo, naxa sasifuna. Kwakukho amaxesha apho ndandingakwazi ukubamba isandla somyeni wam ngenxa yentlungu, kuba into eyayingafanelanga ukuba yenzakalise, ibuhlungu.

Kwafuneka sifunde ukunxibelelana kwakhona ngenxa yayo. Yinto esisebenza kuyo kunye, imihla ngemihla nangaphandle. Akululanga, kodwa kufanelekile. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa esizithandayo zokugcina izinto zisondele xa isondo singafumaneki:

1. Isenzo sobubele sihamba umgama omde

Njengomntu ophila nesifo esinganyangekiyo, ndiyazisebenzela ekhaya kwaye ndiyazisebenzela. Andisoloko ndiphuma ndiyokwenza izinto endifuna ukuzenza. Ngamanye amaxesha andikwazi nje ukushiya ikhaya lethu. Enye yezinto ezintle ezenziwa ngumyeni wam amaxesha ngamaxesha kukuma kwaye athathe enye yeelekese endizithandayo okanye iisoda endizigodukayo. Sisikhumbuzo sokuba ucinga ngam kwaye uyazi ukuba into encinci inokundenza ndizive ngcono.

2. Yenza ukuba ‘bahleke

Ukufumana iindlela zokuhleka nokufumana uburharha ebomini kubalulekile ekujonganeni nesifo kunye neentlungu, kwaye kuyanceda ukusondeza kwiqabane lakho.

Elinye lamaxesha endiwathandayo kuxa silele ebhedini kwaye singakwazi ukulala kodwa sobabini siyinxila ngenxa yokuba sihleka kakhulu. Ukusondelelana okunjalo kuluncedo kakhulu kumntu ophila nesifo esinganyangekiyo. Umyeni wam uyinkosi yeepun, oko kuyanceda, nako.

3. Thetha phandle

Ukunxibelelana akusoloko kulula, kwaye oko kuyinyani ngakumbi xa ukugula, iintlungu, okanye ukukhubazeka kubandakanyeka. Okwangoku, unxibelelwano oluthembekileyo lubaluleke ngokumangalisayo ukugcina ulwalamano kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba unokufumana indlela yokuqonda intlungu yomnye nomnye, amanqanaba amandla, iminqweno, kunye nokunye.

Umyeni wam kunye nam kuye kwafuneka sisebenze kwizakhono zethu zonxibelelwano ukuze sihlale kunye kangangoko sinako. Kubalulekile kuwo wonke umntu, kodwa ngakumbi kuthi abo bajongene nokugula okanye iintlungu.

4. Ncuma omnye komnye

Hayi, nzulu. Ncuma kwiqabane lakho. Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba xa uncuma, ukubetha kwentliziyo yakho kuyehla, ukuphefumla kwakho kuyehla, kunye nomzimba uphumle. Ezi zinto kunye zinokukunceda ukunciphisa amanqanaba akho oxinzelelo. Ukuba iqabane lakho linokuqaqanjelwa sisifo esinganyangekiyo, khawufane ucinge ukuba iseshoni yokuncuma okukhawulezileyo inokubenzela ntoni.

5. Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo

Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo, engqondweni yam, kukuphakama kobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Singasondelelana nabantu, kodwa singadibani neemvakalelo. Xa unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo lubandakanyeka, nangona kunjalo, kuthatha ubudlelwane ukuya kwinqanaba eliphezulu. Inokwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nokunceda ukuphucula izakhono zonxibelelwano. Imidlalo enjengemibuzo engama-21, Ngaba uya kukhetha?, Kwaye andikaze ndibekho ziindlela ezilungileyo zokufunda ngakumbi malunga nomnye kwaye uqhagamshele kwinqanaba elinzulu, leemvakalelo.

6. I-Netflix kunye ne-snuggles

"INetflix kunye nokubanda" ayisiyiyo le nto sihlala siyifuna. Okwangoku, ukubambelela ngeengubo, imithwalo, kunye nokutya okuthandayo kunye nokubukela imovie kunye kunokuba yinto ethuthuzelayo, nokuba iqabane lakho lisilwa.

7. Yiya kulonwabo

Ii-Adventures kunye nohambo lunale ndlela intle yokufaka ukusondelelana, nokuba uhamba nabani. Ndiyakuthanda ukuhamba kwaye ndihlala ndisenza njalo ndedwa emsebenzini. Okwangoku, enye yezinto zam endizithandayo ukuhamba nomyeni wam. Isivumela sobabini ukuba siphonononge iindawo ezintsha, siziphicothe, kwaye sixhasane kolo hlolo.

8. Phonononga omnye nomnye

Ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni akusoloko kusenziwa ngokwesini kuphela. Ngamanye amaxesha amanye amaxesha osenyongweni abandakanya izinto ezinje ngokuthambisa, ukuphulula, ukudlala ngeenwele, ukwanga, kunye nokunye.

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