Kuthetha ntoni ukuChonga njengeNgekhoyo?

Umxholo

• Ngaba kuya kufuneka udlulise umzimba ukuze uchonge njengezinto ezingezizo ezobugcisa?
• Ukuqonda isini njengomboniso
• Izazisi ezingezizo ezesini
• Ngaba okungafaniyo kuyafana nokwesini?
• Izimelabizo zoqobo
• Uqala njani ukusebenzisa ulwimi olungathathi cala kwezesini
• Isini-ukungathathi hlangothi
  
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni engekho ibhanari?

Igama elithi "nonbinary" linokuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo. Kwinqanaba layo, lisetyenziselwa ukuchaza umntu onobuni besini ongeyindoda okanye ibhinqa kuphela.

Ukuba umntu ukuxelela ukuba abenzi nto, kusoloko kubalulekile ukubuza ukuba ziyintoni na izinto ezingezizo ezobugcisa kubo. Abanye abantu abangazibandakanyiyo amava abo ngokwesini njengamadoda nabasetyhini, kwaye abanye banamava esini sabo njengamadoda nabasetyhini.

I-nonbinary inokusetyenziswa njengegama lesambrela, kubandakanya ubuninzi bezazisi ezingalinganiyo kwibhanari eyindoda nebhinqa.

Nangona i-nonbinary ihlala ithathwa njengengcamango entsha, i-identifier sele ikhona ixesha elide njengoko impucuko ikhona. Ngapha koko, isini esingabhaliswanga sabhalwa kude kudala ngo-400 BC ukuya ku-200 AD, xa uHijra - abantu baseIndiya abachonga njengabangaphaya kwendoda okanye umfazi - babhekiswa kwimibhalo yamandulo yamaHindu.

I-India lelinye lamazwe amaninzi kwihlabathi liphela ngolwimi kunye nenkcubeko yezentlalo evuma abo isini sabo singenakho ukwahlulwa ngokukodwa njengamadoda okanye ababhinqileyo.

Ngaba kuya kufuneka udlulise umzimba ukuze uchonge njengezinto ezingezizo ezobugcisa?

Isini esingaqhelekanga sinento yokwenza nomntu ozaziyo ukuba ungubani. Abanye abantu abangazibandakanyi i-transgender, ngelixa abanye bengenzi njalo.

Oku kunokuvakala kudidekile, kodwa xa kubekiwe, eneneni kulula kakhulu. Umntu ongahambelaniyo nomntu ongazichazanga isini esasabelwe ekuzalweni (trans) kwaye unesazisi sesini esingenakho ukwahlulwa njengamadoda kuphela okanye umntu obhinqileyo (nonbinary).

Umntu ongeyonyani ongachongi njengogqithayo unokuchonga ngokuyinxenye isini esabelwe ekuzalweni, kunye nokuba nesazisi sesini esingenakho ukwahlulwa njengowesilisa okanye owasetyhini ngokungqongqo.

Ukuqonda isini njengomboniso

Uluvo lokuba isini luphawu olubonakalayo lusekwe kwiinkolelo ezimbini ezamkelweyo ngokubanzi: ukubekwa phambili kwembali kunye nebhayoloji esisiseko.

Ukusuka eHijra e-India ukuya kwi-māhūs eHawaii, bekusoloko kukho abantu abalingana nesini sabo bengalinganiyo kwinto ethethwa kukuba yindoda okanye umfazi. Le mizekelo yesini esingafakwanga kunye nesingahambelaniyo kwimbali yehlabathi ibeke isiseko esibalulekileyo sendlela esibuqonda ngayo ubuni besini namhlanje.

Ngaphezu koko, isini asihlali sibabini - nokuba kukwinqanaba lebhayiloji. Umntu omnye kwabangama-2000 bazalwa benemeko ye-intersex. I-Intersex isetyenziselwa ukuchaza abantu abane-chromosomes, i-anatomy, okanye ezinye izinto zesini ezingenakho ukwahlulwa njengamadoda kuphela okanye ababhinqileyo.

Uluvo lokuba isini kunye nesini kukodwa - kunye nomntu wonke ofanelekileyo kwibhokisi eyindoda okanye yabasetyhini- yinto yokwakha ekuhlaleni. Le nkqubo ngaphambili yayisetyenziselwa ukwahlula phakathi kweempawu zebhayoloji kunye nesini kumadoda nabasetyhini.

Uluvo lokuba kukho indoda nebhinqa alixoki - aluphelelanga nje. Abantu abaninzi, i-intersex okanye hayi, banomxube weempawu zebhayiloji okanye amabinzana esini awela ngaphandle kwebhokisi yokujonga eyindoda okanye yabasetyhini.

Ngaba isazisi similiselwe kwindalo, ukukhulisa, okanye ukudityaniswa kwezi zimbini?

Nangona uphando oluthe kratya luyafuneka, icebisa ukuba kukho into ethile yebhayoloji ekuchazeni isini-hayi ngendlela onokuthi ucinge ngayo. Umzekelo, iinzame zokulungelelanisa isazisi somntu olala nabantu abathandana nabo besini esithile sangasese asiphumelelanga. Oku kuphakamisa ukuba iimpawu zesondo ozalwe nazo azinakuhlala zihambelana nobuni bakho besini.

Izazisi ezingezizo ezesini

Kukho inani lezazisi zesini eziwela phantsi kwesambulela esingenanto.

Oku kubandakanya izikhombi ezinje:

• isini
• iminyaka yobudala
• ulwelo lwesini
• yenyani
• boi
• bigender
• ezininzi

I-Demigender lelinye ixesha lesambulela lesazisi esingaqhelekanga. Kwiimeko ezininzi, i-demigender isetyenziswa xa umntu evakalelwa kukunxibelelana okungafaniyo nesini esithile.

Umzekelo:

• oyintombazana
• demiboy
• phungula

Nangona kukho iinkcazo ezikhoyo kulo naliphi na la magama, uninzi luyagqagqana okanye umahluko okhoyo. Intsingiselo inokwahluka kakhulu kwiinkcubeko nakwimimandla yejografi. Kungenxa yoko le nto kunyanzelekile ukuba ubuze umntu osebenzisa isazisi malunga nokuba kuthetha ntoni na kubo.

Ngaba okungafaniyo kuyafana nokwesini?

Igama elithi "queer" ekuqaleni laziswa ukucela umngeni kwimibono emiselweyo yesini kwaye kubandakanya abantu abatsala ngaphezulu kohlobo olunye lomntu. Eli gama libonisa umtsalane obandakanya bonke abo isini sabo singenako ukwahlulwa ngokukodwa njengowesilisa okanye owasetyhini.

Ukubeka "isini" phambi kwegama elithi "queer" kudlulisela umbono wokuba abo bangabesini esifanayo banezazisi ezininzi kunye neenkcazo. Oku kukwabizwa ngokuba sisazisi sesini okanye intetho.

Nangona amagama athi "ubungqingili" kunye "nonbinary" anokufana okuninzi, ayithethi ukuba ayatshintshana. Kuhlala kubalulekile ukubhenela kwisazisi somntu esikhethiweyo.

Izimelabizo zoqobo

Siphila kwihlabathi apho phantse naphi na apho umntu ahamba khona, banesini. Kuqheleke kakhulu ukuba amaqela abantu kubhekiswe kuwo “manene nani manenekazi” okanye “bafana neegali” xa umntu othethayo engenalo ulwazi lokwenene malunga nobuni besini kwabo babhekisa kubo.

Kubantu abaninzi abangabhalwanga, izimelabizo zimalunga nokungaphezulu kwendlela abafuna ukubhekiswa ngayo. Baye baba yindlela enamandla yokuqinisekisa umba wesini sabo ekungabonakaliyo okanye ukungalingani nabanye.

Ngenxa yoku, izimelabizo zinamandla okuqinisekisa okanye ukungasebenzi kobukho bomntu ongenguye owakho.

Abanye abantu abangasebenzisi iibhanari basebenzisa izimelabizo, ezifana nezi:

• yena / wakhe
• yena / yena / yakhe

Abanye basebenzisa izimelabizo ezingathathi cala ngokwesini, ezinje:

• zona / zona / zazo
• ze / hir / hirs
• ze / zir / zirs

Nangona ezi zezona zibizo zixhaphakileyo ngokwesini, kukho ezinye.

Izimelabizo umntu azisebenzisayo zinokutshintsha ekuhambeni kwexesha nakwiindawo zonke. Umzekelo, abanye abantu abangazibandakanyiyo banokusebenzisa izimelabizo ezingathathi cala ngokwesini kuphela kwiindawo apho baziva bekhuselekile. Banokuvumela abantu emsebenzini okanye esikolweni ukuba babhekise kubo besebenzisa izimelabizo zesintu endaweni yezimelabizo abazithandayo.

Kuya kufuneka usoloko usebenzisa izimelabizo umntu akuxelela ukuba ufanelekile ukuzisebenzisa. Ukuba awuqinisekanga okanye awunalo ulwazi malunga nendlela umntu afuna ukwenziwa ngayo, khetha ulwimi olungathathi cala kwezesini.

Uqala njani ukusebenzisa ulwimi olungathathi cala kwezesini

Ukubandakanya ulwimi olungathathi hlangothi ngokwesini kwincoko yemihla ngemihla yindlela elula yokucela umngeni kwiingcinga ezikhohlakeleyo zesini kwaye ubandakanye bonke abo bangafuni ukubhekiswa kusetyenziswa amagama athandanayo okanye izimelabizo.

Xa isimelabizo esichanekileyo okanye igama lesini lisetyenziselwa ukubhekisa emntwini, kubizwa ngokuba kukungaziphathi kakuhle. Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo, kwaye ukungamniki kakuhle umntu ngexesha elithile kunokuba yenye yazo.

Xa oku kusenzeka, kubalulekile ukuba uxolise kwaye wenze inzame zokusebenzisa ulwimi olufanelekileyo ukuya phambili.

Sebenzisa ulwimi olungathathi hlangothi ngokwesini yenye yeendlela zokuphepha ukungaziphathi kakuhle.

Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa umntu ngokusebenzisa amagama abawasebenzisayo ukuzichaza. Xa udibana nomntu okokuqala ngqa, buza ukuba bathanda ukuthunyelwa njani kubo okanye zeziphi izimelabizo abazisebenzisayo.

Ukuba uthetha neqela okanye awuqinisekanga ngesimelabizo somntu othile khetha ulwimi olungathathi cala ngokwesini, njengo "bona" ​​okanye "abantu."

Isini-ukungathathi hlangothi

• Endaweni yamakhwenkwe / amantombazana, indoda / umfazi, kunye namadoda / abafazi, sebenzisa umntu, abantu, okanye abantu.
• Endaweni yamanenekazi kunye manene, sebenzisa abantu.
• Endaweni yentombi okanye yonyana, sebenzisa umntwana.
• Endaweni kadade nomntakwethu, sebenzisa sibling.
• Endaweni yomtshana nomtshana, sebenzisa i-nibling.
• Endaweni kamama notata, sebenzisa umzali.
• Endaweni yendoda nomfazi, sebenzisa iqabane okanye iqabane.
• Endaweni kamakhulu okanye utatomkhulu, sebenzisa utatomkhulu.

Umgca wezantsi

Ngokwamkela nokuqinisekisa ubuni besini, senza indawo yokwahluka kwesini okukhoyo ngenene ukuvela. Sonke sinendima ekufuneka siyidlalile ekuqinisekiseni ukuba indalo ikhuselekile kwaye iyasixhasa.

Ezi zixhobo zibonelela ngeengcebiso apho ungaqala khona:

• Isincoko somntu wokuqala sichaza ukuba kunjani ukufumana ukuba awunantsingiselo.
• Esi sikhokelo sigubungela ubunini obungafaniyo ngokwesini ngokunzulu, ukuchukumisa amava abo, impilo yengqondo, kunye nokunye.
• Esi siqwenga sivela kwi-Teen Vogue simba ngokwahluka kwesini kwimbali yehlabathi. Banokuphazamiseka okukhulu ekusebenziseni izimelabizo ezingathathi cala ngokwesini.
• Le vidiyo ivela kwi-BBC yesithathu icacisa into ekufuneka uyenzile kwaye awufanele uyithethe kumntu ochonga njengonganyanzelekanga.
• Kwaye le vidiyo ivela kwi-Gender Spectrum ijolise kubazali babantwana abanganyanzelekanga ukuba bachukumise kokulindeleyo kunye nezinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe.

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