Ukunyamekela-ukuthatha umntu wakho omthandayo ugqirha

Inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokhathalelo kukuzisa umntu wakho omthandayo kwiindawo zokubonisana nabanonopheli bezempilo. Ukufumana olona tyelelo, kubalulekile kuwe nakwisithandwa sakho ukuba nicwangcise kwangaphambili utyelelo. Ngokucwangcisela utyelelo kunye, unokuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini nifumana okona kuninzi kulonyulo.

Qala ngokuthetha nomntu wakho omthandayo ngotyelelo oluzayo.

• Xoxa ngemiba oza kuthetha ngayo kwaye ngubani oza kuyinyusa. Umzekelo, ukuba kukho imiba ethe-ethe efana nokungakwazi ukuzibamba, xoxa ngendlela onokuthi uthethe ngayo nomboneleli.
• Thetha nomntu omthandayo malunga neenkxalabo zabo kwaye wabelane ngezakho ngokunjalo.
• Xoxa malunga nokuba uza kubandakanyeka njani na kulomhlangano. Ngaba uya kuba segumbini lonke ixesha, okanye ekuqaleni nje? Thetha malunga nokuba nobabini unokufuna ixesha lokuba wedwa kunye nomboneleli.
• Unokuba luncedo njani? Xoxa malunga nokuba kuya kufuneka uthethe kakhulu ngexesha lokuqeshwa okanye ubekhona nje ukuxhasa umntu omthandayo. Kubalulekile ukuxhasa ukuzimela komntu omthandayo kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ngelixa uqinisekisa ukuba imiba ebalulekileyo iyalungiswa.
• Ukuba umntu omthandayo akakwazi ukuzithethela ngokucacileyo ngenxa yesifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo okanye ezinye iingxaki zempilo, kuya kufuneka ukhokele ngexesha lokuqeshwa.

Ukuthatha izigqibo kwezi zinto ngaphambi kwexesha kuya kuqinisekisa ukuba niyavumelana ngento eniyifunayo nobabini kulonyulo.

Ngelixa usekwi-aphoyintimenti, kuluncedo ukuhlala ujonge:

• Xelela umboneleli ngazo naziphi na iimpawu ezitsha.
• Xoxa ngalo naluphi na utshintsho kumdla wokutya, ubunzima, ukulala, okanye inqanaba lamandla.
• Yiza nawo onke amayeza okanye uluhlu olupheleleyo lwawo onke amayeza owathandayo, kubandakanya amayeza kunye neepilisi.
• Yabelana ngolwazi malunga nayiphi na imiphumo emibi yeyeza okanye iimpendulo ezimbi.
• Xelela ugqirha malunga nolunye ugqirha okanye indawo yokutyelela kwigumbi likaxakeka.
• Yabelana ngalo naluphi na utshintsho ebomini okanye uxinzelelo, njengokufa komntu omthandayo.
• Xoxa ngayo nayiphi na imibuzo okanye iinkxalabo malunga notyando oluzayo okanye inkqubo.

Ukulisebenzisa kakuhle ixesha lakho nogqirha:

• Izinto zokuqala ezixhalabisayo mazibekwe kwindawo yokuqala. Yiza noluhlu olubhaliweyo kwaye wabelane ngalo nogqirha ekuqaleni kwedinga. Ngale ndlela uya kuqiniseka ukuba uya kugubungela ezona zinto zibalulekileyo.
• Yiza nesixhobo sokurekhoda okanye incwadi yokubhala kunye nepeni ukuze ukwazi ukwenza inqaku lolwazi ekubonelelwa ngugqirha. Qiniseka ukuba uxelela ugqirha ukuba ugcina ingxelo yengxoxo.
• Nyaniseka. Khuthaza umntu omthandayo ukuba abelane ngokuxhalaba ngokunyanisekileyo, nokuba kuyintloni.
• Buza imibuzo. Qiniseka ukuba wena kunye nomntu omthandayo niyayiqonda yonke into ethethwe ngugqirha ngaphambi kokuba nimke.
• Thetha xa ufuna ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke imiba ebalulekileyo iyaxoxwa.

Thetha ngendlela uhambo oluye ngayo kunye nomntu omthandayo. Ngaba iintlanganiso zihambe kakuhle, okanye ngaba zikhona izinto kuni obungathanda ukuzitshintsha kwixesha elizayo?

Yiya kuyo nayiphi na imiyalelo evela kugqirha, kwaye ubone ukuba ngaba unayo nayiphi na imibuzo. Ukuba kunjalo, tsalela iofisi kagqirha ngemibuzo yakho.

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