Ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo - ukuthintela

Ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo naluphi na uhlobo lomsebenzi wesondo okanye unxibelelwano olwenzeka ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Oku kubandakanya ukudlwengulwa (ukungena ngenkani) kunye nokuthinta okungafunekiyo ngokwesondo.

Ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo kuhlala kuyimpazamo yomenzi wobubi (umntu owenza uhlaselo). Ayikokuphela kwabasetyhini ukuthintela ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. Ukuthintela ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo luxanduva lwabo bonke abantu eluntwini.

Unokuthatha amanyathelo okuhlala ukhuselekile, ngelixa wonwabela ubomi obusebenzayo kunye noluntu. Isitshixo kukufunda ngakumbi malunga nomba kwaye ulandele iingcebiso ezifanelekileyo zokuzikhusela wena nabahlobo bakho.

Ngokwengcali zempilo, sonke sinendima ekufuneka siyidlalile ekuncedeni ukuthintela ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. Wonke umntu kufuneka athathe amanyathelo okulwa ubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo eluntwini.

Thetha uviwe. Ukuba umva umntu etyhola ngobundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo okanye ebuxhasa, thetha. Ukuba ubona umntu ehlukunyezwa okanye ehlaselwa, tsalela amapolisa ngoko nangoko.

Nceda wenze indawo yokusebenzela ekhuselekileyo okanye imeko yesikolo. Buza malunga nendawo yokusebenzela okanye iinkqubo zesikolo ezijongana ne-Sexual Harassment okanye uhlaselo. Yazi apho uya khona ukuxela ukuhlukunyezwa okanye ubundlobongela kuwe okanye kwabanye.

Nika inkxaso. Ukuba umazi umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho elithandana gadalala, nikela inkxaso yakho. Bafake kunxibelelwano nemibutho yasekuhlaleni enokunceda.

Fundisa abantwana bakho. Xelela abantwana ukuba bathathe isigqibo sokuba ngoobani abanokubaphatha kwaye phi-namalungu osapho. Bazise ukuba banokuhlala beza kuwe ukuba umntu othile ubaphatha ngokungafanelekanga. Fundisa abantwana ukuhlonipha abanye nokuphatha abanye abantu ngendlela abafuna ukuphathwa ngayo.

Fundisa ulutsha malunga nemvume. Qinisekisa ukuba ulutsha luyaqonda ukuba nakuphi na ukunxibelelana ngokwesondo okanye isenzo kufuneka kuvunyelwene ngabo bobabini abantu ngokukhululekileyo, ngokuzithandela nangokucacileyo. Yenza oku ngaphambi kokuba baqale ukuthandana.

OKO UNOKUKWENZA UKUNCEDA BAHLOBO BAKHUSELE

Ungenelelo olumeleyo luyangena ngokukhuselekileyo kwaye luthathe amanyathelo xa ubona umntu osemngciphekweni wokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo. I-RAINN (Ukudlwengulwa, ukuxhatshazwa, kunye neNest National Network) inala manyathelo ma-4 endlela yokunceda umntu osemngciphekweni, ngelixa ukhusela ukhuseleko lwakho.

Yenza ukuphazamiseka. Oku kunokuba lula njengokuphazamisa incoko okanye ukunika ukutya okanye iziselo kwitheko.

Buza ngqo. Buza ukuba umntu osemngciphekweni ukuba usengxakini kwaye ufuna uncedo.

Jonga kwigunya. Kungakhuseleka kakhulu ukuthetha nomntu onegunya onokukunceda. Cela uncedo kunogada, ibhar bouncer, umqeshwa, okanye iRA. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, tsalela umnxeba ku-911 okanye inombolo yakho yongxamiseko yasekuhlaleni.

Faka abanye abantu. Akunyanzelekanga kwaye mhlawumbi akufuneki uthathe inyathelo wedwa. Yiba nomhlobo oza nawe eze kubuza umntu ukuba bayaphila na. Okanye cela omnye umntu angenelele ukuba ucinga ukuba angakwenza oko ngokukhuselekileyo. Sondela kubahlobo bomntu osemngciphekweni ukuze ubone ukuba banganceda na.

OKO UNOKUKWENZA UKUZE UNCEDE ZIGCINE UKHUSELEKILE

Akunakwenzeka ukukhusela ngokupheleleyo ekuhlaselweni ngokwesondo. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo onokuwathatha ukuze uzigcine ukhuselekile.

Xa uwedwa:

• Zithembe iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba kukho into engaziva ilungile, zama ukuzisusa kule meko. Kulungile ukuxoka okanye ukuzithethelela ukuba kuya kukunceda ubaleke.
• Kuphephe ukuba wedwa nabantu ongabaziyo okanye ongabathembiyo.
• Qaphela ukuba uphi kwaye kukujikeleze. Xa uphumile, musa ukuzigquma zombini iindlebe zakho ngee-headphone zomculo.
• Gcina ifowuni yakho ihlawulisiwe kunye nawe. Ukuba kukho imfuneko, qiniseka ukuba unemali okanye amakhadi etyala xa usiya ekhaya ngeekhareji.
• Hlala kude neendawo ezingenabantu.
• Zama ukubonakala womelele, uzithembile, unolwazi kwaye ukhuselekile kwindawo ekungqongileyo.

Kumatheko okanye kwezinye iimeko zentlalo, nanga amanyathelo aqhelekileyo okuthatha:

• Yiya neqela labahlobo, ukuba kunokwenzeka, okanye uhlale unxibelelana nomntu omaziyo ngexesha lepati. Gcina iliso omnye komnye, kwaye ungashiyi nabani na wedwa ethekweni.
• Kuphephe ukusela kakhulu. Yazi imida yakho kwaye ugcine umkhondo wokuba usela kangakanani. Vula iziselo zakho. Musa ukwamkela iziselo kumntu ongamaziyo kwaye ugcine isiselo sakho okanye isiselo sisondele kuwe. Umntu unokusebenzisa isiselo sakho, kwaye ngekhe ukwazi ukuxelela kuba awunakuva okanye ungcamle iziselo zokudlwengulwa.
• Ukuba ucinga ukuba unesiyobisi, xelela umhlobo wakho kwaye ushiye ipati okanye imeko kwaye ufumane uncedo kwangoko.
• Sukuya wedwa kwindawo ethile okanye ushiye ipati nomntu ongamaziyo okanye oziva ungakhululekanga naye.
• Mazi kakuhle umntu ngaphambi kokuchitha ixesha kunye. Chitha imihla yokuqala embalwa kwiindawo zikawonke-wonke.
• Ukuba ukunye nomntu omaziyo kwaye iimvakalelo zakho zikuxelela ukuba kukho into engalunganga, zithemba iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ubaleke emntwini.

Ukuba uzifumana ukwimeko apho unyanzelwa ukuba wenze izinto zesondo ongazifuniyo, izinto onokuzenza zibandakanya:

• Yichaze ngokucacileyo into ongafuni kuyenza. Khumbula, awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze into ongakhululekanga ukuyenza.
• Hlala uqaphela indawo ekungqongileyo kunye nendlela onokuhamba ngayo xa kufuneka.
• Yenza igama lekhowudi elikhethekileyo okanye isivakalisi onokusisebenzisa nomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho. Ungabatsalela umnxeba kwaye utsho xa unyanzelwa ukuba wabelane ngesondo ngokungafunekiyo.
• Ukuba ufuna njalo, yenza isizathu sokuba kutheni kufuneka uhambe.

Unokufuna ukuqaphela ukuthatha iklasi yokuzikhusela. Oku kunokukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye kubonelele ngezakhono eziluncedo kunye nezicwangciso kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo.

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Ukudlwengulwa, ukuxhatshazwa kunye neNtsholongwane kaRhulumente yeNethiwekhi- www.rainn.org.

IWomensHealth.gov: www.womenshealth.gov/relationship-and-safety

Ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo - ukuthintela; Ukudlwengula - ukuthintela; Umhla wokudlwengulwa - ukuthintela

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