Amanyathelo ali-13 okufezekisa ukuzithanda okupheleleyo
Umxholo
- 1. Yeka ukuzithelekisa nabanye
- 2. Sukuba nexhala ngeembono zabanye
- 3. Vumela ukuba wenze iimpazamo
- 4. Khumbula ukuba ixabiso lakho alixhomekekanga kwindlela umzimba wakho okhangeleka ngayo
- 5. Musa ukoyika ukuyeka abantu abanetyhefu
- 6. Lungisa uloyiko lwakho
- 7. Zithembe ukuba uza kuzenzela izigqibo ezifanelekileyo
- Thatha onke amathuba obomi okanye wenze awakho
- 9. Zibeke kwindawo yokuqala
- 10. Yiva iintlungu novuyo ngokupheleleyo kangangoko unako
- 11. Yiba nesibindi esidlangalaleni
- 12. Bona ubuhle kwizinto ezilula
- 13. Yiba nobubele kuwe
- Yise kude
Kunyaka ophelileyo kwakunzima kum. Ndandinengxaki yempilo yam yengqondo kwaye ndinengxaki yoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Ukujonga abanye abafazi abahle, abaphumeleleyo, ndazibuza: Benza njani? Bakwazi njani ukuziva njalo Kulungile?
Ndifuna ukufumanisa, kwaye ndifuna ukwabelana nabanye abantu basetyhini, abafana nam, abafuna ukuziva bonwabile- befuna ukuziva kakuhle. Ukucofa amandla am okudala, ndazimisela ukuqokelela isixhobo esinokusetyenziswa nangubani na. Ndibuze abafazi endibaziyo: Zithini iimantras zakho kunye nemikhwa yokuzikhathalela?
Into bandixelele yona bobabini yinguqu kunye nokungabikho kwengqondo ngexesha elinye. Ukuba ndiyakwazi ukuziqhelanisa, ndiyazi ukuba nawe unakho. Nazi iindlela zokupheka ezili-13 zokuzithanda ezilula xa uziqhelanisa kwaye zininzi ngezibonelelo zazo.
1. Yeka ukuzithelekisa nabanye
Sihlangene ukuba sikhuphisane, ke ngoko ukuzithelekisa nabanye kungokwemvelo. Kodwa kunokuba yingozi. Akukho sizathu sokuzithelekisa nomnye umntu emhlabeni kuba kukho wena kuphela. Endaweni yoko, ziqwalasele ngokwakho kunye nohambo lwakho. Ukutshintsha kwamandla, wedwa, kuya kukunceda uzive ukhululekile.
2. Sukuba nexhala ngeembono zabanye
Kwangolo hlobo lunye, ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba uluntu lucinga ntoni okanye lulindele ntoni kuwe. Awungekhe wonwabise wonke umntu, ke oku yinkcitha xesha kwaye kuyakukucothisa kuhambo lwakho lokuba ngowona ungcono.
3. Vumela ukuba wenze iimpazamo
Sixelelwa kaninzi ukusuka kwiminyaka emincinci "akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, wonke umntu wenza iimpazamo." Kodwa okukhona uya ukhula, kokukhona uya uzive uxinezelekile. Zisike kancinci! Yenza iimpazamo ukuze ufunde kwaye ukhule kuzo. Yamkela eyakho idlulileyo. Uhlala utshintsha kwaye ukhula ukusuka kubani owawukade unguye kule nto uyiyo namhlanje kwaye uza kuba ngubani ngenye imini.
Ke, ulibale ngeli lizwi entlokweni yakho elithi kufuneka ugqibelele. Yenza iimpazamo-uninzi lwazo! Izifundo oza kuzifumana zixabiso.
4. Khumbula ukuba ixabiso lakho alixhomekekanga kwindlela umzimba wakho okhangeleka ngayo
Oku kubalulekile! Zininzi izinto emhlabeni ezifuna ukukuphazamisa kule nyaniso inamandla. Ngamanye amaxesha kwanokwabelana ngesondo kwakho ngaphakathi kuqinisekisa iingcinga zakho zokungoneliseki. Uxabisekile kuba unjalo wena, hayi ngenxa yomzimba wakho.
Ke, nxiba ezikwenza uzive ulungile. Ukuba kuninzi okanye ukuba kuncinci, nxiba oko kukwenza uzive uzithembile, ukhululekile kwaye wonwabile.
5. Musa ukoyika ukuyeka abantu abanetyhefu
Ayinguye wonke umntu othabatha uxanduva lwamandla abawabekayo emhlabeni. Ukuba kukho umntu ozisa ityhefu ebomini bakho kwaye akazukuthatha xanduva, oko kunokuthetha ukuba kufuneka umke kubo. Musa ukoyika ukwenza oku. Kukhulula kwaye kubalulekile, nangona kunokuba buhlungu.
Khumbula: Khusela amandla akho. Ayikrwada okanye iphosakele ukuzisusa kwiimeko okanye kwinkampani yabantu abakukhuphayo.
6. Lungisa uloyiko lwakho
Njengokwenza isiphoso, uloyiko luyindalo kwaye ngabantu. Musa ukwala uloyiko lwakho - luqonde. Lo mthambo usempilweni unokunceda ngokwenene kwimpilo yakho yengqondo. Ukubuza imibuzo kunye nokuvavanya uloyiko lwakho kunceda ukuba ufumane ukucaciswa kunye nokucacisa imiba ebomini bakho eyayibangela uxinzelelo. Oko kunokunceda ukunciphisa ezinye - ukuba ayizizo zonke - ixhala lakho.
7. Zithembe ukuba uza kuzenzela izigqibo ezifanelekileyo
Sisoloko sithandabuza thina kunye nokukwazi kwethu ukwenza into elungileyo, xa uninzi lwamaxesha sisazi ezintliziyweni zethu eyona ilungileyo. Khumbula ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zisemthethweni. Awuphulukani nokunxibelelana nenyani. Uzazi ngcono kunaye nawuphi na umntu, ke ngoko yiba ngoyena mmeli wakho ubalaseleyo.
Thatha onke amathuba obomi okanye wenze awakho
Ixesha alisoze lifezeke kwinyathelo elilandelayo elilandelayo ebomini bakho. Ukusekwa kungenakulungeleka, kodwa oko akufanele kukuthintele ekufikeleleni ukuhlangabezana neenjongo kunye namaphupha akho. Endaweni yoko, bamba umzuzu kuba ngekhe uphinde ubuye.
9. Zibeke kwindawo yokuqala
Musa ukuziva ungonwabanga ngokwenza oku. Abasetyhini, ngakumbi, banokuziqhelanisa nokubeka abanye phambili. Nangona kukho ixesha nendawo yale nto, akufuneki ibe ‘ngumkhwa ohlawula impilo-ntle yakho engqondweni okanye ngokweemvakalelo.
Fumana ixesha lokudodobala. Ngaphandle kokucinezela kunye nokutshaja kwakhona unokubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kuwe. Nokuba uchitha usuku ebhedini okanye ngaphandle kwindalo, khangela ukuba yintoni ekuncedayo ukuba ude unciphise kwaye uzinike ixesha loku.
10. Yiva iintlungu novuyo ngokupheleleyo kangangoko unako
Vumela ukuba uzive izinto ngokupheleleyo. Yoyama kwiintlungu, vuyisa uvuyo lwakho, kwaye ungabeki imida kwiimvakalelo zakho. Njengoloyiko, iintlungu kunye novuyo ziimvakalelo ezinokukunceda uziqonde kwaye ekugqibeleni uqaphele ukuba awuzizo iimvakalelo zakho.
11. Yiba nesibindi esidlangalaleni
Yiba nomkhwa wokuthetha ingqondo yakho. Ubukroti bufana nesihlunu - siyakhula kokukhona usisebenzisa. Musa ukulinda imvume yokuthatha isihlalo etafileni. Joyina incoko. Nikela ngeengcinga zakho. Thatha inyathelo, kwaye wazi ukuba ilizwi lakho libaluleke njengaye nabani na.
12. Bona ubuhle kwizinto ezilula
Zama ukuqaphela ubuncinci into entle, encinci ejikeleze wena yonke imihla. Yenze inqaku, kwaye ube nombulelo ngayo. Umbulelo awukuniki nje umbono, kubalulekile ukukunceda ufumane uvuyo.
13. Yiba nobubele kuwe
Ihlabathi ligcwele amagama arhabaxa kunye nokugxeka - ungongezi eyakho kumxube. Thetha kakuhle kuwe, kwaye ungazibizi ngokuba ukhohlakele. Zibhiyozele. Ufikile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kwaye ukhule kakhulu. Musa ukulibala ukuzibhiyozela, kwaye kungekuphela ngomhla wakho wokuzalwa!
Yise kude
Nokuba awuziva unamandla ngokukodwa, cinga ngendlela osele ufikile ngayo, nendlela osinde ngayo. Ulapha, ngoku, uyaphila kwaye unamandla ngaphaya kolwazi lwakho. Yiba nomonde nesiqu sakho. Ukuzithanda akunakwenzeka ngesiquphe. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, iya kuhlala ngokwakho entliziyweni yakho.
Ewe, ungasokola, kodwa uya kujonga emva ngala mathuba kwaye ubone ukuba banyathela njani amatye kuhambo lwakho lokuba lolona lubalaseleyo.
U-Alison Rachel Stewart ngumzobi kunye nomyili weeresiphi zokuzithanda, inyathelo lokusebenzisana elibhiyozela imikhwa, imikhwa kunye nokucamngca ngokuzikhathalela kunye nokuba sempilweni. Xa engazenzi izinto ezizezakhe kwivenkile yakhe ye-Etsy, unokufumana u-Alison ebhala iingoma kunye neqela lakhe, esenza imifanekiso, okanye esebenzisa amandla akhe okudala kwiprojekthi entsha. Mlandele kwi-Instagram.