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• Ubuxoki: Ukuphinda Ubuyele Kwixesha Elidluleyo Kuya Kukwenza Kube nzima
• Intsomi: Ukulila Akuncedi Nganto
• Intsomi: Ukwabelana ngesondo okuphindaphindayo kukunceda ukuba uqhubele phambili
• Intsomi: Ukungamlandeli kuzo zonke iiSocial Networks kuyakwenza kube lula
• Intsomi: Ukuncama yonke into oyenzileyo njengesibini kuya kukhathaza kancinane
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Emva koqhawulo-mtshato olonakeleyo, ungaze uphinde uthethe ngokwahlukana kunokubonakala njengeyona ndlela ilula yokushiya iintlungu zakho kwilixa elidlulileyo- kodwa isifundo esitsha sipapashwe kwiphephancwadi. IzeNzululwazi ngezeNtlalo nezeNzululwazi icebisa ngenye indlela. Ukuba unengxaki yokwahlukana kwaye ufuna ukwenza inkqubo yokubuyisela ingabi buhlungu kangangoko, thintela le mikhwa mihlanu yokwahlukana kwaye uya kuziva ungcono ngexesha. (Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni kunganceda! Jonga ukuba "Yintoni engahambanga kakuhle?" Ukuthandana ngeDilemmas, kuchaziwe.)

Ubuxoki: Ukuphinda Ubuyele Kwixesha Elidluleyo Kuya Kukwenza Kube nzima

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Isifundo kwi IzeNzululwazi ngezeNtlalo nezeNzululwazi Ndifumanise ukuba abantu ababesoloko bebonakalisa ubudlelwane babo obungaphumeleliyo bafumana ingcaciso kwaye babonisa iimpawu zokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunabo babengenakuyicinga loo nto. Kodwa ngokukhumbuza abathathi-nxaxheba ngokulahlekelwa kwabo, kwanyanzeleka ukuba bagxininise kumfanekiso omkhulu-i.e. ngoobani ngaphandle kweqabane labo-kwaye ngokwenene bancede ukuchacha ngokukhawuleza. Oko kuthetha ukuba inkqubo yakho yenkxaso emva koqhawulo-mtshato kufuneka ibe ngumhlobo oya kumamela. “Abasetyhini bathanda ukusebenzisana, ngoko ke umhlobo ogxeka kakhulu ngeqabane lakho akasayi kukwenza uzive ngcono,” utshilo umbhali-mbhali uGrace Larson weYunivesithi yaseNorthwestern. Umyalezo wokugoduka apha ayikokuzintywilisela nje kwiimvakalelo kunye nokugabha, uyacacisa, kodwa ujonge imeko ngembono entsha.

Intsomi: Ukulila Akuncedi Nganto

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Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukujonga iglasi engenanto akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uzinike ixesha lokuba uzive ulilusy emva kokwahlukana, utshilo uKaren Sherman, Ph.D., ubudlelwane bezengqondo kunye nombhali Umtshato womlingo! Yifumane, Yigcine, kwaye uyenze ukuba ibeYokugqibela. Kuthatha abantu malunga neeveki ezili-11 emva kokwahlukana ukuba baqale ukujonga imeko yabo entsha ngendlela eyakhayo, ngokutsho kophando Ijenali yePositive Psychology. Ukulila-nokuba oko kuthetha ukuba ukhala ngokulungileyo kwi-rom-com okanye ukuya edolophini kuBen & Jerry kunye nentombi-iya kunceda inkqubo yokubuyisela, utsho uSherman. (Tsiba ityala xa uzikhupha: IMBONO yeeBhaso zeBlogger eziBalaseleyo: Iibhloko ze-20 zokutya okunempilo ezisenza sihambe Mmmmm ...)

Intsomi: Ukwabelana ngesondo okuphindaphindayo kukunceda ukuba uqhubele phambili

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"Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokuphindaphindiweyo kukuNcedo ngakumbi kunendlela yokulungisa," utshilo uSherman. Isenokungakonzakalisi kwakhona, kodwa ayizukunceda kangako. Ngapha koko, abantu abalandela amaqabane amatsha ezesondo emva koqhawulo-mtshato kwisifundo esivela kwiDyunivesithi yaseMissouri khange babonakalise kuncipha, umsindo, okanye ukuzithemba okuphezulu emva koko. Oko bekutshiwo, ezinye izifundo zibonisa ukuba ubudlelwane obuphindaphindeneyo bunokunceda ekunciphiseni ukutshisa emva koqhawulo-mtshato. Ukuthandana ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuncinci kunokwabelana ngesondo kwaye kunokuba luncedo kuba kusebenza njengesiphazamiso esilula, utshilo uSherman. Ubudlelwane obuphindiweyo ngokucacileyo akufuneki bube nzulu kakhulu, kuba udinga ixesha lokujonga iimvakalelo zakho. Kodwa ukudibana nabantu abatsha kunokukunceda uqonde ukuba kuninzi okuninzi apha ngaphandle onokuthi ujonge kuko, utshilo.

Intsomi: Ukungamlandeli kuzo zonke iiSocial Networks kuyakwenza kube lula

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Abantu abahlala abahlobo Facebook kunye ex zabo emva kokwahlukana kutshanje okunene baziva iimvakalelo ngaphantsi negative ngokubhekiselele kuqhekeko, kunye nomnqweno ongaphantsi ngokwesondo kunye nokulangazelela ex zabo, ngokutsho isifundo British. Nangona kunjalo, ukusebenzisa olo fikelelo ekubambeni imisebenzi yakhe kuyichasile yonke le miphumo mihle-kwaye yabangela uxinzelelo ngakumbi malunga nokwahlukana. (Ayisiyiyo nje eyokulandelela engenampilo: Zimbi kangakanani i-Facebook, i-Twitter, kunye ne-Instagram yeMpilo yeNgqondo?) "Yonke le nto ibila ngamandla akho," utshilo uSherman. De-friending idangatye yakutshanje okunene kunokukwenza ukuba ucinge ngakumbi ngabo kuba uyazi ukuba awukwazi ukubona into eyenzekayo ebomini babo. Ukubeka iliso kwindlela oziphethe ngayo kwiveki yokuqala okanye ezimbini yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwazi ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndlela ikulungeleyo, wongeza.

Intsomi: Ukuncama yonke into oyenzileyo njengesibini kuya kukhathaza kancinane

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Ukulahla zonke izinto zabo zobuqu kuyimfuneko, utshilo uSherman. Kodwa ngokoqobo ukuphelisa yonke into ekukhumbuza ngaye-i.e. uhlobo oluthile lomculo okanye uhlobo oluthile lokutya-akukho ngqiqweni. Kunokuba ungaphinde uye kwikaraoke kwakhona kuba bubusuku obuthandayo, vele uhambe nabantu abatsha ukwenza abahlobo abalungileyo kulo msebenzi. Imibutho emitsha okanye ekhethekileyo idla ngokuba yeyona inamandla kwiinkumbulo zethu, ngokutsho kophononongo oluvela kwiYunivesithi yaseLondon yaseLondon, ke ekuhambeni kwexesha iinkumbulo ezintsha ziya kuthatha indawo endala, uchaza uSherman. (Unokwenza ukuba iinkumbulo zibe zezilungileyo: Zama enye yeendlela ezi-5 eziPhezulu zokuFumana amaNtombazana aPhilileyo.)

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