Izizathu ezi-5 zokuba ngokusobala ndithatha ukukhubazeka kwam

Umxholo

• 1. Ingqwalasela!
• 2. Ndifuna ukuphazamisa izicwangciso zobomi bam
• 3. Ndingumdwebi weengcali kunye nentlalontle
• 4. Ndicinga ukuba kupholile ukuba nesigulo esinqabileyo, esinqabileyo akukho mntu uve ngaso
• 5. Ndifuna nje ikhefu ebomini

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Ngokucacileyo, ndikhangele ingqalelo.

Ukufumanisa kunyaka ophelileyo ukuba ndinesifo esinganyangekiyo, isifo esihambelana nezicubu ezibangela ukusasazeka ngokudibeneyo kunye nentlungu engapheliyo liphupha lizaliseka.

Nazi izizathu eziphambili ukuba ndiqinisekile, ngokupheleleyo, ngokupheleleyo, iipesenti ezili-100 zenza ukugula okungapheliyo.

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1. Ingqwalasela!

Ndiyayonwabela ingqwalaselo yesi sifo ndimfumanayo. Ndathi ndakuphefumla kokhuseleko kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya kwisitulo esinamavili sokugqibela uMbulelo, ndomelezwa-ndondliwa nkqu! -ukubukeka okungcolileyo okuvela kubo bonke abahloniphekileyo, abaziphethe kakuhle, abomeleleyo abaphaphayo abalinde ithuba lakho limi emgceni.

Ndilonwabele ngakumbi ixesha laxa abasebenzi be-TSA bebuza imibuzo ngam emntwini wesithathu kumyeni wam ngelixa ndihleli apho ndingakhathalelwanga.

Kwakumnandi ngokwenyani xa iarhente ye-TSA izama "ukundinceda" ngokukrazula kabuhlungu igxalaba lam kwangoko emva kokuba ndimcelile ukuba angayichukumisi.

Xa ndashiywa esangweni lam, kwakumnandi ukukubona ukhefuzela njengoko mna, yabona, ndisebenzisa imilenze ukuma kwisitulo esinamavili, njenge faker.

Ndingaqala njani ukuboleka isitulo esinamavili kwi-United Airlines (isitulo abasibonelela abantu, abafana nam, abakwazi ukuma ixesha elide okanye bahambe kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya ngaphandle kwentlungu okanye ukwenzakala)?

Ukuqwalaselwa rhoqo kwesikhululo seenqwelomoya kwakusinxila. Izinwele entlokweni yam zakhula zakhazimla kwaye zomelela njengoko zazifunxa ukukhanya kwakho ngasemva ngelixa ndandizidla kwigumbi lokuhlambela.

Njengoko sonke sisazi, abantu abodwa abafuna izitulo ezinamavili zizipara- kunye neequadriplegics. Ukuba uyakwazi ukuhamba, unokuhamba ngalo lonke ixesha. Ndoda, ikhontrakthi yam iyaqubha!

2. Ndifuna ukuphazamisa izicwangciso zobomi bam

Ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale ukwenza ukukhubazeka kwam, ndandingumhlekisi kwaye umsebenzi wam wawusahamba kakuhle.

Ndasungula kunye, ndadibanisa, ndaza ndasingatha umboniso weqonga ohlekisayo wase-Oakland obizwa ngokuba yi "Man Haters." Umboniso lowo wawunabaphulaphuli abangaphezu kwe-100 ababekhona qho ngenyanga, kwaye bandinika ukubhukisha kwe-SF Sketchfest, amabhaso ama-3 e-East Bay Express aBalaseleyo, kunye nenqaku kuxwebhu oluhlekisayo eViceland.

Ukongeza kwimveliso, bendisebenza ubusuku obunye ngeveki, kwaye, emva kweminyaka nje embalwa, bendibhatala irenti yam kunye neebhili ezimbalwa ngomvuzo ohlekisayo. Ndade ndinearhente yetalente eyayindithumela rhoqo kuvavanyo eL.

Ndiyifumene indlela yam.

Kodwa njengokuba ndisazi ngoku, ingqwalaselo yabaphulaphuli ebusuku kunye namabhaso yindlela enjalo yozuko.

Ke, endaweni yoko, ndaye ndagula ndayeka ukuma, ndishiya ngempumelelo iphupha endandiliphupha ukusukela ebuntwaneni.

3. Ndingumdwebi weengcali kunye nentlalontle

Ukuyeka kwam ukudlala, ndagula ndaneentlungu.

Uninzi lwe-2018, ndichithe iintsuku zam ndilele. Ewe, akukho nto iyabetha ingqalelo umntu ayifumana kuyo hayi ukuba segumbini apho kwenzeka khona. Kwakulixesha lokuphumeza isicwangciso sam esiyintloko.

Ixesha lam elide laliqale ukubuyela umva kwi-2016, xa ndafumana i-IUD eyenza ukuba iintlungu zam zenyanga ziba buhlungu ngokukhawuleza zijike zibe ziintlungu zemihla ngemihla ezazisusa isibeleko sam ezantsi emilenzeni kwaye zahlala ezinyaweni zam, zisenza buhlungu ngayo yonke inyathelo endalithathayo. .

Ngelixa ndinyamezele le ntlungu intsha, ndafudukela kwindlu eyayizele ziimpuku, ooqongqothwane kunye neenundu. Mna, kakade, ndandingayazi le ngcombolo ibalulekileyo ngelo xesha, ngoko ke kangangeenyanga ezili-18 ndalunywa ndingayeki ngamangolwane endandingayiboni, ndaza ndaxelelwa ngugqirha oyindoda ukuba ndandineparasitosis ekhohlisayo.

Ngoku, konke oku kuvakala kuyinto embi, akunjalo? Ubuhlungu ngawo onke amanyathelo owathathayo iinyanga? Ukulunywa ziimpuku? Wahlala ubomi bokulala ebhedini?

Kodwa khumbula, ndiyenzile yonke.

Uyabona, kuyahlekisa kum ukuba nabantu bandisizele kwaye bandenze ngathi ndiyaphambana. Ndiyawavuyela amathuba alahlekileyo, umvuzo olahlekileyo, izihlobo ezilahlekileyo, ulonwabo olulahlekileyo-uyafumana!

Ndingumntu okhohlakeleyo kwezentlalo onobuqhetseba obenobuqaqawuli obunciphisa ubomi njengoko ndandisazi.

4. Ndicinga ukuba kupholile ukuba nesigulo esinqabileyo, esinqabileyo akukho mntu uve ngaso

Ngo-2017, ndandigula kwaye ndenzakala rhoqo, ndayeka ukuxelela nabantu endisondele kubo-yindlela endandineentloni ngayo bubucukubhede bam.

Kucacile ukuba yayiyimpazamo yam. Nditshayile amatyathanga. Bendingafane ndilale. Ndandinemisebenzi emihlanu kwaye ndisebenza iintsuku ezisixhenxe ngeveki.

Bendinamahla ndenyuka, iintlungu ezidibeneyo zemihla ngemihla ezingancediyo zokuphelisa iintlungu ekhawuntareni. Ndandiwa rhoqo. Bendinesiyezi ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye kwakude kudlule nokuhlamba. Ndandirhawuzelelwa. Khange ndikwazi ukulala. Ubomi babunzima.

Umzimba wam wawungeyiyo itempile yam, kodwa yayingumngxuma wam.

Kodwa nantoni na, akunjalo? Mhlawumbi bendisenza amadrama.

Kungenxa yoko le nto ndasungula i-hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (i-EDS), ingxaki yemfuza endizelwe nayo ebangela iintlungu, ukonzakala, imiba yokwetyisa, ukudinwa, njalo njalo!

Yikhadi lam lokuphuma ebomini. Ukuba i-EDS ibiyinyani, ngokuqinisekileyo ugqirha ebeya kundifumana njengomntu ofikisayo, ngenxa yeempawu zam zencwadi yesifundo, akunjalo?

5. Ndifuna nje ikhefu ebomini

Ukuba ngumntu omdala kunzima kwaye emva kweminyaka engama-30 nangaphezulu uyayenza? Andifuni kuphinda.

Ke ndenze esi sifo sinqabileyo semfuza ukucacisa ubuvila bam kunye nokusilela kobomi, kunye ta-da! Ngoku ndiza kwenza nantoni na endiyifunayo.

Ewe, hayi nantoni na endiyifunayo. Andisenamandla okwenza rhoqo. Ukuqhuba ngaphezulu kweyure okanye kwenzakalisa amadolo am, amaqatha, kunye nesinqe kakhulu.

Kwaye ndisenawo amatyala kunye namatyala kunye noxanduva, ke ndisasebenza, kodwa hay, ubuncinci andiphangeli kwiintsuku ezisi-7 ngeveki!

Kwaye ubuncinci ndenza imali encinci ngoku kwaye ndineqela lamatyala ezonyango ukusukela kunyaka ophelileyo! Kwaye ndinobomi ekuhlaleni obuncinci kakhulu kwaye ndisenentlungu engapheliyo, kwaye yonke imihla ndichitha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla ukwenza umzimba wam uzive uqhelekile kwaye wonwabile!

Ndiyayibulala!

Njengoko ubona, icebo lam elibi lisebenze kakuhle.

U-Ash Fisher ngumbhali kunye nomntu ohlekisayo ophila ne-hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome. Xa engenalo usuku lokuxhamla-usana-lwenyamakazi, uhambahamba kunye ne-corgi yakhe, iVincent. Uhlala e-Oakland. Funda ngakumbi ngaye iwebhusayithi.